Is it OK to call an annoying kid annoying?

Hi all, haven't been on here much but I have a question and I know that I will get some pretty creative answers on here so here goes...

A little brat (seven years old) at my daughter's school is so annoying. I am only around her when we are in a school group setting and I am helping or brownies.According to her she is the most popular, prettiest, best dancer, etc. It bothers my daughter on a daily basis (she is shy so won't say anything). She is an only child (so is min, actually) so her mother just laughs and thinks she is adorable and eggs it on. I actually think they are both annoying.

Is it OK as a parent to tell a kid that they are being "annoying"? I won't say it in a mean way, of course but it just really bothers me. Any idea what I can say to either the kid or the adult?

You should be able to say that. I wouldn't be surprised if you get sued by the child's parents afterwords though.

Don't go there. If she's in your face then tell her to please back off and give us some room.

Quote from qqq1 : You should be able to say that. I wouldn't be surprised if you get sued by the child's parents afterwords though.

I know, right?

Something tells me it won't have any positive effect if you do so.

Not in the lounge. It'll get you warned

I guess I am looking for some creative ways to say something that will go over the kids head and kinda give a dig to the mom.

I wouldn't say it to anyone that knows them also. Maybe later in the car.

You don't want to provoke bullying onto your child either...

I guess I am just in a pissy mood. I hate highschool crap..in grade school

Tell her she is adopted.

Quote from jillyq : I guess I am just in a pissy mood. I hate highschool crap..in grade school

Then you can't participate in it. All you can do is teach your kid to respond with something like "Bragging isn't pretty" or "Can we talk about something else?" or just teach her to ignore the kid. When she doesn't get a response she'll quit.

if there is any point where you're put in authority over her (you're in charge of play time or whatever), you can call the child on it if it seems to be affecting another child negatively. can't do it while the parent is standing there, though.

you could train your child to respond with some biting comment, but that's pretty manipulative.

I don't think that it would be appropriate to just call her "annoying" since that is just name calling. However, I do think it is appropriate to correct her if she says something that affects your daughter directly. For example, if she brags about something when talking to your daughter when you are around, you could tell her that it is not nice to brag because she can hurt others feelings. This will make your daughter feel better if she sees you "back her up" in public. You could then coach her to do the same for herself when you are not around.

If the Mom has a problem with you correcting her child then you need to tell her that if she is being mean to your kid, you need to step in if she won't.

We had a similar situation with our son and he still talks about the day that he stood up to one particular boy in public. They ended up being friends and I think that was a big day in both of their personal growths.