Do long distance relationships even stand a chance?

I can't believe I'm considering one again, seeing as how I got so effed over last time. Bottom line, I live in southern California, he's in northern California. And I don't know what to do. I feel like long distance relationships don't stand a chance in hell. But should my fear get in the way? I don't want to miss out on the chance of being with a great guy. But then let's be realistic: I don't have the means to move, and won't for awhile (still in school, etc). And since we're not even together yet, why am I thinking about moving in the first place?

My friends give me the typical, "oh, well if you want it to work out, it can work". My past proves that isn't true. So I figured I'd see what the lounge's take is. Anybody have any successful long distance relationships to tell about? And by successful, I suppose I mean it didn't end by someone cheating or someone losing patience and just saying "this isn't working"... basically either it ran its course or one of you moved to be with the other.

No!!!!

If you're boobs aren't within a one hour drive, you're more screwed than you'll ever know. It's a fact. End it.

They can work out, but at some point someone would probably need to make the move to the other person.

Most are probably doomed to failure.

I dont think so if they start out as a long distance relationship.

Normal relationship to temporary long distance can work.

But why would you? Why not find fish in your sea?

Edit: I started dating my GF when we were in HS, she is one year older. She went to a college states away to play lacrosse. A year later she transferred to a better school for lacrosse closer to me. We are still together, 3 years out of college.

Yes, if it's for a short amount of time. If it's a permanent situation, then no! If it's like temporary because of school or temp job, then it can certainly work.

They work great until he finds someone local.

My husband and I survived a year and a half of distance. Though we'd been dating for a year and a half already. He left to start his training and preparation for his unit's deployment to Iraq. They were there I think about five months, and then got a week-long leave at Christmas before being deployed. That's when he proposed. Then he left, and spent a year in Iraq.

We made it work. But our circumstances were different than yours. Personally, I thought it was easy to wait. But my husband told me of a couple guys who found out their wives were cheating on them back in the states. And he told me of another one where she said she wanted to get divorced because "she couldn't handle it." So I think a lot of factors go into it other than just the distance.

And you guys live in the same state. I'm guessing you'll at least be able to visit each other regularly. But if you're not even together yet, I'm wondering why you're considering this?

At least you won't have to pay long distance charges if you use your cell phone to call him. He doesn't have an 800 number, does he?

are you really that hard up?

Quote from chewspam : No!!!! If you're boobs aren't within a one hour drive, you're more screwed than you'll ever know. It's a fact. End it.

your.

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I did that for Mal.

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And yet... other people still correct you, because you look like an idiot.

Quote from IVIal : And yet... other people still correct you, because you look like an idiot.

They work...until he gets mono...or worse...