please answer as genuinely as u can.

where do u draw the line between being a "gentleman" and being "too nice/nice guy"

what are some things that are distinctively gentlemanly?

what are some things that are distinctively "too nice/nice guy?

and where do u draw the lines?

The only time someone can be "too nice" is if they let people take advantage of them. And that goes for both men and women.

As long as you aren't a door mat for people and you stick up for yourself, you can't really be "too nice." There's nothing wrong with being a nice guy, despite the rampant assumptions and stereotypes.

The only time someone can be "too nice" is if they let people take advantage of them. And that goes for both men and women.

As long as you aren't a door mat for people and you stick up for yourself, you can't really be "too nice." There's nothing wrong with being a nice guy, despite the rampant assumptions and stereotypes.Well I think it also depends (to me anyway) if they are being nice or if they are really being a bother.

Nice - Hey do you need any help when you're painting your house?
Too nice - Hey I know you said no but are you sure you don't need help painting? (ten minutes later) Seriously it's no bother, I can be over there bright and early. (ten minutes later) I've got my own paintbrush and roller. I can help, are you sure you don't want help? (the next day) Hey I'm here to help paint!

So I guess for me, besides not being a doormat (and I agree that is a turn off, guy or girl) the distinction is also if you're weirdly pushy trying to help.

Well I think it also depends (to me anyway) if they are being nice or if they are really being a bother.

Nice - Hey do you need any help when you're painting your house?
Too nice - Hey I know you said no but are you sure you don't need help painting? (ten minutes later) Seriously it's no bother, I can be over there bright and early. (ten minutes later) I've got my own paintbrush and roller. I can help, are you sure you don't want help? (the next day) Hey I'm here to help paint!

So I guess for me, besides not being a doormat (and I agree that is a turn off, guy or girl) the distinction is also if you're weirdly pushy trying to help.

I don't think I would classify an attribute like that under "nice." For me, that would fall under the annoying, pushy or overly clingy category. :lol:

But yeah, that is a weird behavior that I've never quite understood, and is definitely not recommended, no matter how much you think you're "helping."

Rhett Butler, in Gone With The Wind, was a scamp at times, but he was a real gentleman. (Yes, I know he's not "real"::D) He was gracious, polite, caring, and he remembered the little things that endeared him to the ladies, young and old. I think that's another key - no age boundaries. All women are treated with the same, with no regard to age, beauty, wealth or station. My husband is a true gentleman, I feel beautiful, safe, honored, and much loved when I am near him. He has a wonderfully pleasant demeanor, but he can become very, shall we say, 'masculine' very quickly, if the need arises, defending anyone whom he believes needs defending.

Basically, be who you are. Make sure that your manners are impeccable and if a woman doesn't appreciate you, move on. Don't change who you are.

The question is whether or not you can have one without the other and can the opposite conditions exist at the same time? If you were to walk from California to Maine, you might understand the extent of my vanity (hence me automatically making this about me). However, whether a man or woman, if you ever are in need of something, I'm right there. It really doesn't matter what it is. A gentleman doesn't distinguish between being a man or a woman and neither does a nice guy; so I don't think there's a difference. However....you can still be an asshole and be both a gentleman and a nice guy. DW will attest to this if she ever signs on to SD again. A nice guy/gentleman says, "Hey can I help you paint your house." And then the asshole part of him (me) says, "You're doing that wrong. Let me show you a better way."

See how I answered that question without making any sense or using any logic whatsoever? I do what I can to add to the conversation.

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loving pinktacos makes you neither... just saying lol

A gentleman has better manners?

Chivalry.



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A gentleman has better manners?


Mmmm, no just that manners are a hallmark of a gentleman. You can be a complete scumbag and still have nice manners. Look at Eddie Haskel. He was a douche, but he had very nice manners.

Mmmm, no just that manners are a hallmark of a gentleman. You can be a complete scumbag and still have nice manners. Look at Eddie Haskel. He was a douche, but he had very nice manners.


I meant beside being a nice guy.

A nice guy would get on my nerves. A gentleman wouldn't!

nice guys = ghey

they willinly bend over & pick up the soap

A nice guy gives you money but a gentleman takes you to the bank to get your own.

A gentleman can tell you to go to Hell in such a way that you enjoy the ride.

which category does helping ur potential mother-in-law wash the dishes fall under?

which category does carrying a drunk girl u like across 8 city blocks to the parking lot, and knows u like her, but doesn't like u back after she's wasted fall under?