Pregnancy and Miscarriage

[Vegasrocks]

Just a few questions for those who may know.
We suffered a loss 5 months ago in September. It was our first time getting pregnant (after 2 years of trying) and we were both super excited. Our due date was 12/26/09, so we were hoping for a Christmas baby, and when we found out it was a boy, I was even more psyched (as a guy), but tragically, it was not meant to be.

Now we just found out we are pregnant again :woot:, and we are ecstatic about it, but scared as well. We were given a due date of 10/15/10, but went for a check up yesterday, and now it got pushed back to 10/24/10, (I think she may have given them the wrong LMP date.)

The thing is, I feel pretty nervous as does my wife, but I tell her everything will be ok (even though I'm fearful myself). Do you think its normal to feel this way? Should we be more worried because of what happened last time? We are both 30, so I don't think age is an issue yet...idk, just nervous you know. <sorry for the long winded explanation, and tia for your advice/comments>

[Me]

hope for the best. take good care of the wifey

[Dizzy Devil]

It's absolutely normal to feel that way. I miscarried, after we had told everyone we knew. Then when we got pregnant a few months later, we waited until 12 weeks to tell anyone, even our families.

Think positively and keep reassuring your wife, she'll need it. Congrats!

[Vegasrocks]

hope for the best. take good care of the wifey

Thanks, and I will..her well being is my main concern right now.

[Thrifteh]

If you're the praying type :pray:

Good thoughts and prayers your way! :hug2:

[Vegasrocks]

It's absolutely normal to feel that way. I miscarried, after we had told everyone we knew. Then when we got pregnant a few months later, we waited until 12 weeks to tell anyone, even our families.

Think positively and keep reassuring your wife, she'll need it. Congrats!

Thank you. We are considering doing the same in waiting to let our families know (even though we both told our employers) due to all the upcoming appointments, and since I always go with her.

If you're the praying type :pray:

Good thoughts and prayers your way! :hug2:

We weren't, but we started going to church/praying last week...figured it couldn't hurt, and thank you very much for the thoughts/prayers. Much Appreciated :hug:

[ayenbe]

www.silentgrief.com is an EXCELLENT reseource.

http://silentgrief.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=pam is specifically for pregnancy after loss.

I am a proud mother of three... one heavenly angel and two earthly ones.

[MyFeetHurt]

Congrats. I hope everything goes great and you have a healthy bundle of joy.

[finzz2dlft]

It's absolutley normal to be worried and nervous :hug: Suffering the loss of a much wanted baby leaves you feeling shattered and cautious about the the future, and my condolences on the loss of your baby boy.

That being said, I am very happy for you and your wife regarding this pregnancy, and I am sure that once you have been in to see the Doctor some of your fears may settle down a bit and you can go on to enjoy a safe, happy and healthy nine months!

Age is certainly not a factor of worry at this point; it is usually not until age 35, or until a couple has been TTC for 12 months without success, OR after multiple miscarriages that a Doctor might suggest seeeing an RE or going for testing.

[pictureframes]

awwww congrats to you and your wife. try not to spend all this happy time worrying. :hug: enjoy it!

[jillianbee]

Congrats on the new pregnancy and I am very sorry for your loss. It is very normal to be scared. I had a m/c at around 12 weeks (was due 11/12/09). I am now 20 weeks pregnant. It has been a terrifying experience, but so far all has been well. Don't be afraid to talk about your fears with each other and support each other as necessary! I have been told so many times that many first pregnancies end in m/c and this does not have an adverse effect on next pregnancies.

Take care!

[fbskiracer]

I'm pretty sure I remember from OB that a single miscarriage before the third trimester doesn't increase the odds of another. Its not before 3 first or second trimester miscarriages that the odds increase. Its a natural process after all and many miscarry before they even know they were pregnant.

Cheer up and get her some flowers. Worry and anxiety should be moved to other things like planning world peace.

[utl768]

Alot of people miscarry then carry babies fully to term it's perfectly normal

[Bethlyn184]

:hug: Congrats to you and your wife! It is absolutely normal to have fear right up to birth for some people. Take each day at a time and give the Mrs. a nice big hug. If you knew the pregnancy was a boy then the miscarriage was further along than most miscarriages that happen within the first 12-14 weeks or a blighted ovum. Did the doctor look into what caused it or was it unknown? The reason why I said that as sometimes that can bring comfort or add to the anxiety. I found some help on my miscarriages at http://www.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com/mycommunity/. In the forums there are people that are pregnant now after miscarriage that help each other cause they have been there. I hope you will let us know how your family is and give us updates.

[infesttragedy]

:hug: Sorry for your loss and Congrats on the new pregnancy! I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy, and have had two successful full term pregnancies since then. With my daughter (third pregnancy) according to LMP the due date should have been July 11th but an ultrasound done at what was supposed to 15 weeks, showed 13 weeks. Turns out I ovulated late. I had gotten an extremely faint positive on a pregnancy test 3 days after my missed period, so I basically found out I was pregnant not long after implantation occurred. She was born healthy, happy and weighing 9 pounds on July 20th.

Its normal to feel worried and paranoid after suffering a loss. Hopefully things work out for you guys!:)

[Vegasrocks]

Thanks to everyone for all the kind words of encouragement. It helps to hear that (unfortunately) we are not alone in this situation, and its very comforting to hear the success stories after the tragedies. I think that other than the obvious fear of the future because of what happened last time, the worst thing for us was that there was no explanation. The doctor "thinks" it could have been a blood clot because when we held him it did look like a tiny red bump on his belly button, but he is not sure, and we decided not to do an autopsy. When we found out about this pregnancy, the doctor recommended to take a baby aspirin daily to thin out her blood just in case, so we'll see.

[Claudia365]

Congrats and I'm sorry about your M/C. It's hard to lose a baby regardless of the situation. My niece was expecting her first baby and she had a m/c at 4 months and it scares the sh!t outta me seeing so much blood. She fainted and we had to rush her to the ER so they can clean her out. I :pray: that everything goes well with your wife's pregnancy and just try to keep her on bed rest until her uterus is strong enough..:comfort:

[Vegasrocks]

:hug: Congrats to you and your wife! It is absolutely normal to have fear right up to birth for some people. Take each day at a time and give the Mrs. a nice big hug. If you knew the pregnancy was a boy then the miscarriage was further along than most miscarriages that happen within the first 12-14 weeks or a blighted ovum. Did the doctor look into what caused it or was it unknown? The reason why I said that as sometimes that can bring comfort or add to the anxiety. I found some help on my miscarriages at http://www.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com/mycommunity/. In the forums there are people that are pregnant now after miscarriage that help each other cause they have been there. I hope you will let us know how your family is and give us updates.

We were 27 weeks, so pretty far along from what I know. Thanks for the link, will check it out.

[Dr. J]

Wow 27 weeks. That is SUPER far along. The usual "1st trimester" guideline is there because most m/c happen within the first 3 months, although you are not "out of the woods" after that time.

I won't say this is what happened in your particular case but the incidence of m/c with first pregnancies is very high - like 50-90%. The trouble is that most may go unreported or even unnoticed.

[Vegasrocks]

:hug: Sorry for your loss and Congrats on the new pregnancy! I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy, and have had two successful full term pregnancies since then. With my daughter (third pregnancy) according to LMP the due date should have been July 11th but an ultrasound done at what was supposed to 15 weeks, showed 13 weeks. Turns out I ovulated late. I had gotten an extremely faint positive on a pregnancy test 3 days after my missed period, so I basically found out I was pregnant not long after implantation occurred. She was born healthy, happy and weighing 9 pounds on July 20th.

Its normal to feel worried and paranoid after suffering a loss. Hopefully things work out for you guys!:)

Thanks for this, I will pass it along to my wife. This actually sounds just like our current experience, she took 3 test, all 3 were very faint, we went to the doctor, they did a test and confirmed pregnancy, and gave us a due date from the LMP. They then scheduled us to see a specialist and they did an internal ultrasound at which we thought was 6.5 weeks, but it turns out the doctor says it looks like we are closer to 4 to 4 1/2 since the sac has not developed yet (I think that what she said). I know (now) that people don't typically do ultrasounds that early but her OB wanted to make sure all was going well so she recommended it.

[Vegasrocks]

Congrats and I'm sorry about your M/C. It's hard to lose a baby regardless of the situation. My niece was expecting her first baby and she had a m/c at 4 months and it scares the sh!t outta me seeing so much blood. She fainted and we had to rush her to the ER so they can clean her out. I :pray: that everything goes well with your wife's pregnancy and just try to keep her on bed rest until her uterus is strong enough..:comfort:

We found out at the doctors office, we went in for a regular check up, and the doc delivered the horrible news. She had to deliver him since apparently its necessary due to risk of infection.

Wow 27 weeks. That is SUPER far along. The usual "1st trimester" guideline is there because most m/c happen within the first 3 months, although you are not "out of the woods" after that time.

I won't say this is what happened in your particular case but the incidence of m/c with first pregnancies is very high - like 50-90%. The trouble is that most may go unreported or even unnoticed.

Yea, I guess it is. Since our families are out of state we had just done the baby shower the weekend prior also, so the nursery was/is all set up, which didn't help at all.

[kel_be]

Sorry for your loss. A friend of mine lost her IVF baby at 25 weeks, my heart broke for them. DH & I are due to expect our first any day. This is out 6th pregnancy with our first child. We had all of our losses before 6 weeks. Regardless, it still hurt us both.

Best of luck to you both. Let me know if you ever want to talk.

[Dr. J]

Thanks for this, I will pass it along to my wife. This actually sounds just like our current experience, she took 3 test, all 3 were very faint, we went to the doctor, they did a test and confirmed pregnancy, and gave us a due date from the LMP. They then scheduled us to see a specialist and they did an internal ultrasound at which we thought was 6.5 weeks, but it turns out the doctor says it looks like we are closer to 4 to 4 1/2 since the sac has not developed yet (I think that what she said). I know (now) that people don't typically do ultrasounds that early but her OB wanted to make sure all was going well so she recommended it.

Take the EDD with a HUGE grain of salt. That estimate is based on a bunch of data for average gestational ages and is extrapolated, etc etc. If they "predict" a EDD via U/S that's within 2 weeks (+/-) of the LMP EDD, the EDD doesn't change. Basically when the baby is ready it will come out. Our 1st was due on July 4th and she had to be dragged out (C/S) on the 15th.

[Vegasrocks]

Sorry for your loss. A friend of mine lost her IVF baby at 25 weeks, my heart broke for them. DH & I are due to expect our first any day. This is out 6th pregnancy with our first child. We had all of our losses before 6 weeks. Regardless, it still hurt us both.

Best of luck to you both. Let me know if you ever want to talk.

Thanks for that, and I commend you both for going trough this 6 times...I can't even begin to imagine. Wish you the best :hug:

[Vegasrocks]

Take the EDD with a HUGE grain of salt. That estimate is based on a bunch of data for average gestational ages and is extrapolated, etc etc. If they "predict" a EDD via U/S that's within 2 weeks (+/-) of the LMP EDD, the EDD doesn't change. Basically when the baby is ready it will come out. Our 1st was due on July 4th and she had to be dragged out (C/S) on the 15th.

I wish i had read this before we went to the doctor, this would have eased our concerns. We are both somewhat ignorant when it comes to this stuff since its all new to us, and since everyone has their theories and what not. For instance, the first pregnancy she had terrible morning sickness and this one she has had none whatsoever, so I have read that it usually means the sex of the baby would be different than the last time...idk about that, I have also read that it depends if you carry him/her high/low you might know the sex...At this point, I just hope for healthy baby/mommy = Very happy daddy:woot:

[Dr. J]

I wish i had read this before we went to the doctor, this would have eased our concerns. We are both somewhat ignorant when it comes to this stuff since its all new to us, and since everyone has their theories and what not. For instance, the first pregnancy she had terrible morning sickness and this one she has had none whatsoever, so I have read that it usually means the sex of the baby would be different than the last time...idk about that, I have also read that it depends if you carry him/her high/low you might know the sex...At this point, I just hope for healthy baby/mommy = Very happy daddy:woot:

You'll hear a lot of stuff, which is mostly bunk (esp wrt sex of the child). The thing about pregnancy is that just about anything is "normal" except for a few specifics (such as bleeding). My wife had very little morning sickness and generally felt great the entire 9 months except for some moderate ankle swelling towards the end, but we have a friend that has debilitating morning sickness right now in her 2nd trimester!

Like you, before we had our first my wife had a m/c, so we were very.... anal wrt to dates and timing and u/s when she was in her 2nd pregnancy. Every time we got a u/s (well she...), the software would calculate a new EDD (based on the size of the fetus). Generally they go with the LMP EDD first, as that's more of a reliable number (even though the whole 40 weeks of pregnancy being average really has a wide spread), but if someone doesn't know their LMP then the best they can go with is the u/s. Our daughter came out at 9 lb 3 oz so throughout the entire pregnancy the dr's kept asking us if her LMP was correct because the u/s constantly gave them "sooner" EDD's [that is, the u/s was mistaking the baby's naturally large size for being older than it really was]

Here's a wiki excerpt:

The expected date of delivery (EDD) is 40 weeks counting from the last menstrual period (LMP), and birth usually occurs between 37 and 42 weeks.[11] The actual pregnancy duration is typically 38 weeks after conception. Though pregnancy begins at conception, it is more convenient to date from the first day of a woman's last menstrual period, or from the date of conception if known. Starting from one of these dates, the expected date of delivery can be calculated. Forty weeks is 9 months and 6 days, which forms the basis of Naegele's rule for estimating date of delivery. More accurate and sophisticated algorithms take into account other variables, such as whether this is the first or subsequent child (i.e., pregnant woman is a primip or a multip, respectively), ethnicity, parental age, length of menstrual cycle, and menstrual regularity.
Pregnancy is considered "at term" when gestation attains 37 complete weeks but is less than 42 (between 259 and 294 days since LMP). Events before completion of 37 weeks (259 days) are considered preterm; from week 42 (294 days) events are considered postterm.[12] When a pregnancy exceeds 42 weeks (294 days), the risk of complications for woman and fetus increases significantly.[11][13] As such, obstetricians usually prefer to induce labour, in an uncomplicated pregnancy, at some stage between 41 and 42 weeks.[14][15]
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So if you think about it, they're saying that an "average" or normal pregnancy is between 37 and 42 weeks. Normalizing this, that's 39.5 weeks +/- 2.5 weeks. Or, a 12% spread for a pregnancy being "normal" or "average". That's pretty large.

Ultimately what dictates the birth date is the GE (gestational age) which is the date of conception. Unfortunately, that date is very uncertain, since there are no outward signs of conception (usually). so what is done is that usually the GE is 38 weeks and if we assume that a woman has an "average" menstrual cycle of 28 days, ovulation occurs around day 14 (2 weeks in) and so we add the 2 and whammo - that's where 40 weeks comes from. Menstrual cycles can be considered "normal" anywhere between 14 and 42 days (2 to 6 weeks!) so you can see if we assume ovulation happens 2 weeks in, that could be anywhere from 1 week late to 3 weeks early!

Sorry for the detail but I am an engineer and numbers freak so when my wife and I were going through this I knew all the dates and etc.

[clownfishboy]

We found out at the doctors office, we went in for a regular check up, and the doc delivered the horrible news. She had to deliver him since apparently its necessary due to risk of infection.



Yea, I guess it is. Since our families are out of state we had just done the baby shower the weekend prior also, so the nursery was/is all set up, which didn't help at all.

That is rough. Sorry for your loss. I had a friend go through this late last year. I think they chose to deliver the baby since the alternative is not so nice. They had already picked out a name and everything. After they had the baby they had him cremated and had a form of funeral for him. Very tragic stuff. They were able to perform tests on the embryotic fluid that gave them good reasons as to why this happened to them (done without performing an autopsy). I wish you could have had that option because even though having a still birth at 27 weeks is not rare at all it is not your normal run of the mill (for lack of better terms) miscarriage.

Also I would like to add that I have witnessed so many couples go through miscarriages and later have a couple of kids. Everything will be fine.

[Vegasrocks]

You'll hear a lot of stuff, which is mostly bunk (esp wrt sex of the child). The thing about pregnancy is that just about anything is "normal" except for a few specifics (such as bleeding). My wife had very little morning sickness and generally felt great the entire 9 months except for some moderate ankle swelling towards the end, but we have a friend that has debilitating morning sickness right now in her 2nd trimester!

Like you, before we had our first my wife had a m/c, so we were very.... anal wrt to dates and timing and u/s when she was in her 2nd pregnancy. Every time we got a u/s (well she...), the software would calculate a new EDD (based on the size of the fetus). Generally they go with the LMP EDD first, as that's more of a reliable number (even though the whole 40 weeks of pregnancy being average really has a wide spread), but if someone doesn't know their LMP then the best they can go with is the u/s. Our daughter came out at 9 lb 3 oz so throughout the entire pregnancy the dr's kept asking us if her LMP was correct because the u/s constantly gave them "sooner" EDD's [that is, the u/s was mistaking the baby's naturally large size for being older than it really was]

Here's a wiki excerpt:

The expected date of delivery (EDD) is 40 weeks counting from the last menstrual period (LMP), and birth usually occurs between 37 and 42 weeks.[11] The actual pregnancy duration is typically 38 weeks after conception. Though pregnancy begins at conception, it is more convenient to date from the first day of a woman's last menstrual period, or from the date of conception if known. Starting from one of these dates, the expected date of delivery can be calculated. Forty weeks is 9 months and 6 days, which forms the basis of Naegele's rule for estimating date of delivery. More accurate and sophisticated algorithms take into account other variables, such as whether this is the first or subsequent child (i.e., pregnant woman is a primip or a multip, respectively), ethnicity, parental age, length of menstrual cycle, and menstrual regularity.
Pregnancy is considered "at term" when gestation attains 37 complete weeks but is less than 42 (between 259 and 294 days since LMP). Events before completion of 37 weeks (259 days) are considered preterm; from week 42 (294 days) events are considered postterm.[12] When a pregnancy exceeds 42 weeks (294 days), the risk of complications for woman and fetus increases significantly.[11][13] As such, obstetricians usually prefer to induce labour, in an uncomplicated pregnancy, at some stage between 41 and 42 weeks.[14][15]
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So if you think about it, they're saying that an "average" or normal pregnancy is between 37 and 42 weeks. Normalizing this, that's 39.5 weeks +/- 2.5 weeks. Or, a 12% spread for a pregnancy being "normal" or "average". That's pretty large.

Ultimately what dictates the birth date is the GE (gestational age) which is the date of conception. Unfortunately, that date is very uncertain, since there are no outward signs of conception (usually). so what is done is that usually the GE is 38 weeks and if we assume that a woman has an "average" menstrual cycle of 28 days, ovulation occurs around day 14 (2 weeks in) and so we add the 2 and whammo - that's where 40 weeks comes from. Menstrual cycles can be considered "normal" anywhere between 14 and 42 days (2 to 6 weeks!) so you can see if we assume ovulation happens 2 weeks in, that could be anywhere from 1 week late to 3 weeks early!

Sorry for the detail but I am an engineer and numbers freak so when my wife and I were going through this I knew all the dates and etc.


Thanks for the informative post. Its great to hear that these dates are not set in stone and that it "normal" to be off on the EDD.

Now here's a new one for you, about an hour ago I get a phone call from the doctor (asking for my wife) regarding the latest blood work test results for HCG levels. Since we put down that they can give me the information as well, they told me that on our last visit on Thursday of last week her results were 3130 (approx) and that 2 days later they are supposed to double, but were only 4720 (approx) so that its possible that this might end up as a MC.....I don't know what to do, I searched online and found that its not always true for them to double in 48hrs, or that some women have very low levels throughout but wind up having perfectly healthy babies, so its somewhat of a relief, but I just don't think I should tell my wife because I think all that will accomplish is to stress her out even more, right??
Ugh, this is making my stomach turn....



Also I would like to add that I have witnessed so many couples go through miscarriages and later have a couple of kids. Everything will be fine.

Thank you, we are both very hopeful that we will have that experience as well.

[McGintysPub]

Sonographer with specialty in OB here. What's the update?

[setsail]

Just a few questions for those who may know.
We suffered a loss 5 months ago in September. It was our first time getting pregnant (after 2 years of trying) and we were both super excited. Our due date was 12/26/09, so we were hoping for a Christmas baby, and when we found out it was a boy, I was even more psyched (as a guy), but tragically, it was not meant to be.

Now we just found out we are pregnant again :woot:, and we are ecstatic about it, but scared as well. We were given a due date of 10/15/10, but went for a check up yesterday, and now it got pushed back to 10/24/10, (I think she may have given them the wrong LMP date.)

The thing is, I feel pretty nervous as does my wife, but I tell her everything will be ok (even though I'm fearful myself). Do you think its normal to feel this way? Should we be more worried because of what happened last time? We are both 30, so I don't think age is an issue yet...idk, just nervous you know. <sorry for the long winded explanation, and tia for your advice/comments>

Huge congrats! I'm sorry for your loss.:hug:
It's normal to be scared, and it's also common to have the due date adjusted in the very beginning after an ultrasound.
Another resource I found to be very helpful and supportive after pregnancy loss was

www.missfoundation.org

[Vegasrocks]

Sonographer with specialty in OB here. What's the update?

Ok, we went in 2 weeks ago to the perinatal center and we saw our little bean and heard the heartbeat :woot: 147 via a transvaginal ultrasound, we were so relieved and happy.
This past Thursday (3/18/10) we went to see her OB and he checked her ovaries and did a pap, but did not do an ultrasound because he said its still to early (at 8 weeks) to hear the heartbeat....I'm sure because he doesn't have that internal ultrasound machine. But all is healthy and normal (Thank God) so now we just have to be patient and careful....On a side note, I read that heartbeat of 147 is usually indicative of a girl...but who knows, we just want a healthy baby and mommy.

[Bareborn]

Ok, we went in 2 weeks ago to the perinatal center and we saw our little bean and heard the heartbeat :woot: 147 via a transvaginal ultrasound, we were so relieved and happy.
This past Thursday (3/18/10) we went to see her OB and he checked her ovaries and did a pap, but did not do an ultrasound because he said its still to early (at 8 weeks) to hear the heartbeat....I'm sure because he doesn't have that internal ultrasound machine. But all is healthy and normal (Thank God) so now we just have to be patient and careful....On a side note, I read that heartbeat of 147 is usually indicative of a girl...but who knows, we just want a healthy baby and mommy.

My heart still beats around 147 >.< i knew there was something wrong with me...time to pop more hormone pills

[McGintysPub]

Ok, we went in 2 weeks ago to the perinatal center and we saw our little bean and heard the heartbeat :woot: 147 via a transvaginal ultrasound, we were so relieved and happy.
This past Thursday (3/18/10) we went to see her OB and he checked her ovaries and did a pap, but did not do an ultrasound because he said its still to early (at 8 weeks) to hear the heartbeat....I'm sure because he doesn't have that internal ultrasound machine. But all is healthy and normal (Thank God) so now we just have to be patient and careful....On a side note, I read that heartbeat of 147 is usually indicative of a girl...but who knows, we just want a healthy baby and mommy.

Good to hear. Typically hear the heartbeat between 6-8 weeks. Never seen a study correlating heart rate with gender. FYI: Earliest I've seen gender is 16 weeks but usually 18-22 weeks.

Congratulations. Keep us posted.

[CowgirlMechanic]

:hug: :hug: :hug: For your family. And a wee bit of Congrats to the Daddy (and Mommy) to Be!!!

Keeping your family in my thoughts.... please keep us updated!!

And just to give you some encouragement.... my friend who had several losses due to blood clotting issues, RE figured it out and put her on blood thinners for her latest pregnancy, and she just delivered their first child a few weeks ago!!! If that is the issue, I bet this pregnancy will end up the same way for you!!!

[Vegasrocks]

Good to hear. Typically hear the heartbeat between 6-8 weeks. Never seen a study correlating heart rate with gender. FYI: Earliest I've seen gender is 16 weeks but usually 18-22 weeks.

Congratulations. Keep us posted.

Thanks, and I will keep up the updates. As for the gender, I was all about it being a boy the first time (maybe its a guy thing??) but this time, I really just want everything to be ok, so it doesn't matter really. My wife says that if its a girl I am going to spoil her like crazy, but i don't know.....Well, she's probably right.;)

[Vegasrocks]

:hug: :hug: :hug: For your family. And a wee bit of Congrats to the Daddy (and Mommy) to Be!!!

Keeping your family in my thoughts.... please keep us updated!!

And just to give you some encouragement.... my friend who had several losses due to blood clotting issues, RE figured it out and put her on blood thinners for her latest pregnancy, and she just delivered their first child a few weeks ago!!! If that is the issue, I bet this pregnancy will end up the same way for you!!!

Thank you..and congrats to your friend. The doctors "think" it might have been a blood clotting issue, but were not sure, (we didn't do an autopsy) so they did prescribe her to take a baby aspirin daily to maybe help, but we'll just wait and see.

[Vegasrocks]

Didn't realize it had been this long since I updated this thread, but here goes:

In late April, my wife woke me up around 2 am because she was bleeding profusely, and we were so scared/worried because that's one of the signs of another possible m/c so we went to the ER and thank god everything turned out to be fine. Apparently you can still get your cycle while pregnant, but needless to say given our history it was one of the worst days ever for us.

This whole pregnancy has been very different than the first one, like the way she is carrying, the foods she's eating, weight she is gaining, etc. so I was certain that we were going to have a girl as did all our family/friends and I was really looking forward to it and making her my little girl, but this past Thursday we found out we are having a boy!! I was shocked and a little sad, but so excited.

Tomorrow we will be 21 weeks, and she has been feeling our little guy move quite a bit, so that's awesome. She also writes down the times on a post it and gives it to me everyday, and I love it. It is my way of sort of bonding with him (for now) since I can't feel him yet, and since I never got the opportunity the last time around.

It goes without saying, but I just hope and pray that both mommy and baby are safe/healthy throughout this pregnancy. I am so proud of my wife, and feel so lucky to have her in my life. I know that she will make the best mommy ever, and know that our little boy will always have his little angel brother looking after him.

[damsel.]

Aww I hope everything continues to go smoothly. :)

[Majide]

It goes without saying, but I just hope and pray that both mommy and baby are safe/healthy throughout this pregnancy. I am so proud of my wife, and feel so lucky to have her in my life. I know that she will make the best mommy ever, and know that our little boy will always have his little angel brother looking after him.

:) This nearly made me cry.


Best of luck to all three of you! Stay positive :)

[CowgirlMechanic]

Awwwwwwwww!!!! :hug: :hug: :hug: Glad to hear things are progressing well!!! Tell wifey we are thinking of her!!! :hug: :hug: :hug:

[Vegasrocks]

:) This nearly made me cry.


Best of luck to all three of you! Stay positive :)

Thank you, and will do. :)

Awwwwwwwww!!!! :hug: :hug: :hug: Glad to hear things are progressing well!!! Tell wifey we are thinking of her!!! :hug: :hug: :hug:

Will do thanks. Its actually really heartwarming to know that people actually care. :hug:

[MsGal]

Congrats on having a little boy. Boys are wonderful ... and easy. Nothing against little girls, but we were so happy when we learned we were having boys.

[Me]

Congrats! :whee:

[.teri.]

OP your story has touched me. Congrats, and hoping all goes well :hug:

[cpnqn]

First off congrads & best of luck to you in this venture!

Normally (coming from an experienced baby machine) they tell you NOT to get your hopes up until AFTER at least the 3rd month.

My pregnancies were difficult to say the least, marred with painful doctors inspections of regions NOBODY ever toured before, and more painful things than words can describe... Basically, me pregnant makes for 9 months of silence as I endured pain beyond belief. Probably didn't help I was barely 100 lbs & the first one was nearly 10 lbs of that coming OUT! Owee...

I've also suffered multiple miscarriages... Typically they came because of stress I'd say, though I have a host of other problems, it seemed that I miscarried more often when I had a load of things on my plate. Most memorably, I was working full time, hubby went south for school, I was in college full time- I'm sitting down studying after baby #1 went to bed, and suddenly- I miscarried... No rhyme or reason, I was not stressed THEN- perhaps it was a carry over from daily stress.

My last one was actually in the past year- while I feel loss, I also feel some sense of gratitude since we're in our upper 30's have a teen and one almost in middle school, we're NOT prepared to start over again. They had told me carrying would not be an option again for me due to my problems... Yet, bam- there it was again... I only found out because I had gone to the doc multiple times and they did bloodwork again. 3rd time is a charm- it showed up in my blood work.

Womens bodies are very complicated and there are a million reasons they can miscarry- none of them fun ones... I have a weaker than average heart, problems with my baby machine, blood problems... I'm lucky to have had the two I have, and would adore any others- but, also thankful not to start over...

[Nikayla]

I'm so glad everything turned out to be fine. The whole pragnancy thing is pretty scary, especially if you worry to much about all the things that can go wrong.

I remember after having my son, that fist night when I finally fell asleep the nurse came in to check on me and ask me if I realized I was sleeping with a huge grin on my face. I told her I just couldn't stop smiling becase I was so happy that it was all over with, that the baby and I were both doing great, he was here, and he was healthy.

Keep taking good care of your wife and baby. I know you'll love having a son. Who knows there might be a little sister for big brother in the future someday.

[Vegasrocks]

First off congrads & best of luck to you in this venture!

Normally (coming from an experienced baby machine) they tell you NOT to get your hopes up until AFTER at least the 3rd month.

My pregnancies were difficult to say the least, marred with painful doctors inspections of regions NOBODY ever toured before, and more painful things than words can describe... Basically, me pregnant makes for 9 months of silence as I endured pain beyond belief. Probably didn't help I was barely 100 lbs & the first one was nearly 10 lbs of that coming OUT! Owee...

I've also suffered multiple miscarriages... Typically they came because of stress I'd say, though I have a host of other problems, it seemed that I miscarried more often when I had a load of things on my plate. Most memorably, I was working full time, hubby went south for school, I was in college full time- I'm sitting down studying after baby #1 went to bed, and suddenly- I miscarried... No rhyme or reason, I was not stressed THEN- perhaps it was a carry over from daily stress.

My last one was actually in the past year- while I feel loss, I also feel some sense of gratitude since we're in our upper 30's have a teen and one almost in middle school, we're NOT prepared to start over again. They had told me carrying would not be an option again for me due to my problems... Yet, bam- there it was again... I only found out because I had gone to the doc multiple times and they did bloodwork again. 3rd time is a charm- it showed up in my blood work.

Womens bodies are very complicated and there are a million reasons they can miscarry- none of them fun ones... I have a weaker than average heart, problems with my baby machine, blood problems... I'm lucky to have had the two I have, and would adore any others- but, also thankful not to start over...

Thank you for sharing your story. I am beginning to realize how common a m/c actually is. The problem for us was that since no one ever talks about it, you just feel all alone and start to question everyone including yourself.
Like I said before, I am very proud of my wife, and couldn't ask for a better partner. She is my heart. I also appreciate women even more for all that they endure before/during and after a pregnancy. Props to all you moms out there.

[Vegasrocks]

I'm so glad everything turned out to be fine. The whole pragnancy thing is pretty scary, especially if you worry to much about all the things that can go wrong.

I remember after having my son, that fist night when I finally fell asleep the nurse came in to check on me and ask me if I realized I was sleeping with a huge grin on my face. I told her I just couldn't stop smiling becase I was so happy that it was all over with, that the baby and I were both doing great, he was here, and he was healthy.

Keep taking good care of your wife and baby. I know you'll love having a son. Who knows there might be a little sister for big brother in the future someday.


I couldn't agree more with that statement, and I can't wait to experience it myself.
We would love to add a little sister to the family as well, but one step at a time for now.

[jenni.]

:hug:

[happygal99]

When our daughter was born almost 8 years ago after we had gone though a m/c at 12 weeks, I think I hit my husband 50 times and said oh my god, there she is.
I look at my daughter and think if I would not have had that m/c I wouldn't have her and I would not trade her for the world. So I take the pain of everything that happened to have my sweet (well sometimes:) ) girl.
Good luck to you. I have 2 boys as well and they are a hoot. :cool:

[notintended]

Congrats and I hope all goes well :hug:

[Vegasrocks]

Thanks again to everyone for the kind words/wishes....you guys rock:cool:

[Vegasrocks]

26 weeks in, and everything is going great. :bounce:
Mommie is getting really big and is more beautiful than ever.
Yesterday was such an amazing day for us because I finally felt our little boy kick.:woot:
He kicked 5 times in a row and I was so overwhelmed that it made me tear up a bit.

[Me]

26 weeks in, and everything is going great. :bounce:
Mommie is getting really big and is more beautiful than ever.
Yesterday was such an amazing day for us because I finally felt our little boy kick.:woot:
He kicked 5 times in a row and I was so overwhelmed that it made me tear up a bit.

oh great, he'll be a soccer player or place kicker. either way, he'll be ridiculed in school.

[setsail]

That is wonderful news! Congrats to you and mommy.:bounce:

[TigerStar]

Best of luck and continued positive thoughts.

[Nikayla]

Awe! Great news! I've wonderd how things were going. It is so cool when the dads get to feel the movements too. Keep us updated, hopefully you will post some new baby pics. Enjoy the ride, it's a crazy & overwhelming and so worth it.

[zmarko]

oh great, he'll be a soccer player or place kicker. either way, he'll be ridiculed in school.
Laces out, Dan! :P


And congrats to you, vegas! :whee:

[Vegasrocks]

Thanks guys. Will post pics when the time comes.

[Vegasrocks]

Laces out, Dan! :P


And congrats to you, vegas! :whee:

lol, thanks...That brought back painful memories of my Bills/Giants Superbowl and Scott Norwood.

[Dark_Saber]

Congrats! :whee: