So My Wife Moved In With Her Boyfriend... (Update #211)

[stealth]

Well you can call her Strike Three cuz she is outta here!

The U-Haul came this morning. Since he doesn't want to tell his friends about me (she was told to lie and say she's been divorced for a couple of years), it was only him, her and me to load up the truck. I had all the boxes and furniture in the garage. Only the pictures and breakable stuff were in the house. I helped him load up the U-Haul (and we packed it full) without so much as a Thank You. :rolleyes: She has a real winner there.

For those that don't know... LINK (http://forums.slickdeals.net/showthread.php?t=552528)

[GoneForNow]

Um...why did you help them? I would've left her crap in the garage or on the front lawn.

[SlickChik]

You helped her move out :omg:

I wouldn't let that guy anywhere near my house.

I can't decide if you are crazy or just very secure :lol:

[Autumn]

I would have dropped every box and said "Oooooppps...*snicker*"

You're a nice guy :hug:

[hawaiiandawn]

Stealth, you are a decent human being. I just don't know that I could have been as big as you have been about this. If my husband decided to date, there would be a scorch mark on the front lawn and some twisted metal left from his harley and clothes when he got back from his first night out.

What about her kids? Did they move in with them too?

[Landers]

You're much nicer than I would have been. Her shit would have been on the front lawn, out of boxes.

[Dr. kNOw]

Um...why did you help them? I would've left her crap in the garage or on the front lawn.
:iagree:

[hawaiiandawn]

:doh: Good grief!

What a terrible last thread to read before I go to bed. :evillaf: Now I am plotting the demise of your wife...well, if not her then her possessions.

I hope I don't have freaky cheating/cheater dreams tonight. Or even worse, wicked evil first wife dreams(of my hubby). I swear that woman was the spawn of satan

[~Kimber~]

Um...why did you help them? I would've left her crap in the garage or on the front lawn.

Well, I believe there are kids involved.Maybe he just wanted to be as quick and quiet as possible.

[Mobius One]

I would not have helped her move her stuff or let him in my house at all :( I know thats kinda mean, but who cares

[stealth]

Well, I believe there are kids involved.Maybe he just wanted to be as quick and quiet as possible.

:nod: I have my daughter's room all set up for when she returns tomorrow. My son wanted to stay where he is in the basement. I'm going to have a work-out room, an office, and a spare bedroom. :highfive:

[Landers]

:nod: I have my daughter's room all set up for when she returns tomorrow. My son wanted to stay where he is in the basement. I'm going to have a work-out room, an office, and a spare bedroom. :highfive:
Man-Cave FTW!

[Autumn]

:nod: I have my daughter's room all set up for when she returns tomorrow. My son wanted to stay where he is in the basement. I'm going to have a work-out room, an office, and a spare bedroom. :highfive:

Lose a farktard wife...gain extra room. It's a win/win :rock:

How are you doing with all this?

[stealth]

I would not have helped her move her stuff or let him in my house at all :( I know thats kinda mean, but who cares

Yeah, I've said that he's not welcome here. Only on moving day in the garage.

As far as I'm concerned, he's a homewrecker just like girls can be. He knew she was married and I have no respect for the guy. :cool:

[SlickJew]

If I had a spare room...wow...*imagination runs wild*

[Autumn]

Now he can deal with her being pissy when she doesn't get the exact Valentine's day gift she wants.

[stealth]

What about her kids? Did they move in with them too?

Yes. It will be him, her, and her 3 kids. Right now they're at their dad's. (So they can christen the new apartment well, I'm sure). :eek: School starts next week!

Now he can deal with her being pissy when she doesn't get the exact Valentine's day gift she wants.

:rofl2: Exactly! I told him "Good luck!" :D

[hawaiiandawn]

Yes. It will be him, her, and her 3 kids. Right now they're at their dad's. (So they can christen the new apartment well, I'm sure). :eek: School starts next week!



:rofl2: Exactly! I told him "Good luck!" :D

:comfort: :hug: for you, my friend.

[mzmir]

:jawdrop: i MISSED this!

shouldn't have helped :nono1: (if no kids involved)

i can't believe that!!! :omg: :ranting:

:comfort:

[Intrepid.]

Why is everyone telling him he shouldn't have helped? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

[hawaiiandawn]

Why is everyone telling him he shouldn't have helped? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Kinda like she did, huh?

[mzmir]

Why is everyone telling him he shouldn't have helped? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

because if it's the other way around, she would have thrown his stuff out the window (i know i would!!!)
edit: i would also be screaming at the top of my lungs to get the fark out of my house!!

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
she did unto him something mean, so he should have been mean?

[WoodyWoodPecker]

Well at least she's his problem now ! Good luck and enjoy the extra room ! :nod:

[stealth]

Well at least she's his problem now ! Good luck and enjoy the extra room ! :nod:

Thanks! :hug: That's exactly how I see it.

[Dr. kNOw]

If I had a spare room...wow...*imagination runs wild*
Two words.

Grow
Room

[redjen910]

Please tell me that you've changed the locks in case he decides to try to return her.

[mzmir]

Please tell me that you've changed the locks in case he decides to try to return her.

:omg: i FORGOT about that!!!!

:thumbup:

i remember when i moved into this house, the previous renter kept trying to get in! we talked to the owners & he finally stopped. (thank goodness!)

he's gone now (out of state) so *whew!

[Mobius One]

Why is everyone telling him he shouldn't have helped? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Because she helped herself into the bed of another man so why can't he help her into some stress by not helping, but in any case the bitch is gone :yahoo: time to party

Please tell me that you've changed the locks in case he decides to try to return her.

:iagree: that would be a good idea

[mzmir]

Because she helped herself into the bed of another man so why can't he help her into some stress by not helping, but in any case the bitch is gone :yahoo: time to party



:nod:

:woot: :woot2:

[WoodyWoodPecker]

Please tell me that you've changed the locks in case he decides to try to return her.

:rofl2: No deposit, No return

[mzmir]

well, time to start anew!! :yahoo:

SDer will be your therapists :nod:

[redjen910]

:rofl2: No deposit, No return

I mean clearly she's defective.

[viking7779]

Please tell me that you've changed the locks in case he decides to try to return her.

:iagree:


:hug: stealth :hug:

[WoodyWoodPecker]

I mean clearly she's defective.

I'm sure he told her she came AS IS with no warranty ! :lol:

[D1337]

When he/she comes back to the house commencing operation sprinkler... R-kelly style or the actual sprinklers would be fine too.

[ElectroWolf]

:rofl2: No deposit, No return
I believe there will certainly be a deposit from the new guy.

:hide:

[SlickJew]

Two words.

Grow
Room

That's probably the first thing that came to my mind.

[SDDuck]

I hear you Stealth. But I always say there are two sides to every story. So in a nutshell, "no comment"

[Landers]

I hear you Stealth. But I always say there are two sides to every story. So in a nutshell, "no comment"
Ha... two sides to this story? Check out his thread on this day.

[Kristin]

Wow. I can't believe you helped her and him move her crap out. This thread needs a poll - most people wouldn't have. :shake:

Good riddance, either way. :highfive:

Please tell me that you've changed the locks in case he decides to try to return her.

:crylol:

[bean]

what a stupid bitch
and the guys a little mincey faggot ball.

[Schooby]

I have so much respect for you due to the way you have handled yourself through all of this. I hope that your future repays you 10 fold in happiness. :hug:

[Royal2000H]

Please tell me that you've changed the locks in case he decides to try to return her.

:lmao:


reminds me of a joke i've heard:


A man in his 40's bought a new BMW and was out on the interstate for a nice evening drive. The top was down, the breeze was blowing through what was left of his hair and he decided to open her up.

As the needle jumped up to 80 mph, he suddenly saw flashing red and blue lights behind him.

"There's no way they can catch a BMW," he thought to himself and opened her up further. The needle hit 90, 100.... Then the reality of the situation hit him. "What the hell am I doing?" he thought and pulled over.

The cop came up to him, took his license without a word and examined it and the car.

"It's been a long day, this is the end of my shift and it's Friday the 13th. I don't feel like more paperwork, so if you can give me an excuse for your driving that I haven't heard before, you can go."

The guy thinks for a second and says, "Last week my wife ran off with a cop. I was afraid you were trying to give her back."

"Have a nice weekend," said the officer.

[abeo]

Hey OP, it only gets better from here forward. Trust me, I know. :hug2: Also, I'm don't know where you live, so I don't know if it is the same for you ..... BUT in NC, if a spouse cheats and leaves the marriage for another person, the injured party (you) can get sole custody of the kids, child support payments from the ex (until the kids graduate from college) and ALIMONY for as long as the injured party (you) remains unmarried. SO, you need to check with a GOOD divorce attorney in your state ASAP!!!!! Divorce hurts, but court ordered revenge is SWEET!!!!! AND you can sue HIM for damages!!!!!!! Which is even SWEETER!!!!!!
:yahoo: :yahoo: :yahoo: :yahoo: :yahoo: :yahoo: :yahoo:


Also, after everything is settled from divorce court .... get a personalized license plate for your car ..... "XGOTZERO" ...... it will really piss your ex and her boyfriend off. :D

[riverjack]

Gotta Love the spare rooms!
Your a gentleman, My ex Would have appreciated it if I would have acted that kind! to him and his girlfriend.:lmao:

[StarNova]

You're a good guy, OP. She's a twit and always will be. She's looking for greener pastures and eventually she'll take another lover and dump the guy she's with now. She's never be happy with what she has.

I agree with the other posters....Did you change your locks? And make sure to change beneficiaries on all your insurance (life, car, medical) and retirement accounts once your lawyer gives the all clear. Last thing you want is her getting $ that should go to your kids.

Make sure her name is off of everything. And you'd be surprised how much there is to have removed. Go thru everything. And have the lawyer double check.

And get yourself an attorney whose half pitbull that will look out for your interests. Your soon to be ex will hurt you in a minute if she can (well she allready has)

:hug:

[sullen-girl]

Why is everyone telling him he shouldn't have helped? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

So basically it would be ok for him to date while married, screw around, and then expect her to help him move? NO WAY!

I'm glad she's gone, for your sake. When are you filing divorce papers? They would have already been served if I had that happen.

[zmarko]

Please tell me that you've changed the locks in case he decides to try to return her.
:rofl2:


Also, I'm don't know where you live, so I don't know if it is the same for you ..... BUT in NC, if a spouse cheats and leaves the marriage for another person, the injured party (you) can get sole custody of the kids, child support payments from the ex (until the kids graduate from college) and ALIMONY for as long as the injured party (you) remains unmarried. SO, you need to check with a GOOD divorce attorney in your state ASAP!!!!! Divorce hurts, but court ordered revenge is SWEET!!!!! [B]AND you can sue HIM for damages!!!!!!! Which is even SWEETER!!!!!!

They call it alienation of affection, I believe.




PS---I'm glad she's out of your life Stealth. Time to start anew!

[AggieMom]

It takes a strong person to not make a scene during a messy move-out. Well done, sir.

When I broke up with my ex (boyfriend, not husband - and no cheating was involved) he sat on the lawn in a chair and drank beer while watching the grad students I'd conned into helping me move load the truck. Real classy guy, that one.:rolleyes:

[caveat depascor]

Good luck to you and your children, Stealth. Keeping a positive attitude will go a long way toward coming out of this whole.

[Pig]

Here's wishing you the best Stealth :hug:

[MrTvguy]

Your better off single without that witch. Keep the spare room and have some fun.

Lifes too short to waste on a mental case

[stealth]

Thanks everybody. :peace:

I'm rearranging the house now. This is lots of work! But at least I'll have the place like I want it.

:dance13:

[dstam015]

Hang in there stealth! Hope things only get better from here on out for ya.

PS In the future if she ever tries coming crawling back to you. SHUT THE DOOR ON HER!

[JazzyMac]

I'm sorry, I read the beginning of the other thread when op first started the poll, and stopped reading it because I knew he wasn't telling the entire story. Some people always try to make themselves look so great on the internet.

Or they both suffer from immaturity. Shrug.

[~Kimber~]

Stealth, the way you handled this situation is amazing. You are a true class act. I hope when the time comes and you are ready again, you find someone that can truly love and appreciate you. :hug:

[serra]

stealth, based on your posts, you have done an amazing job keeping composure in all of this. i applaud you. good luck :hug:

[punkie]

CONGRATS :dance14:
wow I can't believe shes already moving in with him :eek: is their relationship just moving fast or was something going on for a long time :nono:

[SlickChik]

I'm sorry, I read the beginning of the other thread when op first started the poll, and stopped reading it because I knew he wasn't telling the entire story. Some people always try to make themselves look so great on the internet.

Or they both suffer from immaturity. Shrug.

You don't know the whole story either. Why call someone immature when you have no idea what happened?

You COULD just leave it at "no comment" and cut the drama


:popcorn:

[Agent420]

I can't decide if you are crazy or just very secure :lol:


That's funny $hit right there...I've actually heard someone say this about me before. Made me sit back and think...:nod:

There's no way in hell I would have helped her and "the new guy" move out, unless she was just such a complete loss to begin with that you were excited to see her go...

I love reading you guys' posts in the lounge...cracks me up...

[Gray.]

I have so much respect for you due to the way you have handled yourself through all of this. I hope that your future repays you 10 fold in happiness. :hug:
:iagree: completely!!!

:hug:

[JazzyMac]

You don't know the whole story either. Why call someone immature when you have no idea what happened?

You COULD just leave it at "no comment" and cut the drama


:popcorn:

Um, because he comes on a forum to complain about his wife going on a date with someone. Me? I wouldn't be looking to internet addicts (no offense) for advise when my husband starts cheating on me. Then he sounds so whiney and so self-righteous.

"I'm doing everything in my power to be good..."

YEAH RIGHT.

WAY more to the story, and if you guys don't believe that, than you are n.a.i.v.e. :shake:

[SlickChik]

Um, because he comes on a forum to complain about his wife going on a date with someone. Me? I wouldn't be looking to internet addicts (no offense) for advise when my husband starts cheating on me. Then he sounds so whiney and so self-righteous.

"I'm doing everything in my power to be good..."

YEAH RIGHT.

WAY more to the story, and if you guys don't believe that, than you are n.a.i.v.e. :shake:

Wow.

You are pretty harsh.

Why are you here exactly, with us "internet addicts?"

[Gray.]

Um, because he comes on a forum to complain about his wife going on a date with someone. Me? I wouldn't be looking to internet addicts (no offense) for advise when my husband starts cheating on me. Then he sounds so whiney and so self-righteous.

"I'm doing everything in my power to be good..."

YEAH RIGHT.

WAY more to the story, and if you guys don't believe that, than you are n.a.i.v.e. :shake:

Do me a favor and go away.

We all know that there is "more to the story." I'm sure they've had their fights... relationship issues are often because both parties were at fault in some way or another.

But you know what? STEALTH IS OUR FRIEND. We are going to stick up for him regardless.

And he could come here trash-talking and being mean, but he's not. And regardless of why their relationship ended, it speaks volumes of his character.

[JazzyMac]

Wow.

You are pretty harsh.

Why are you here exactly, with us "internet addicts?"

I accept myself for what I am...not a someone who is perfect, knows all, etc. I posted something about an incident with someone, but did I come off as "I did nothing--poor innocent me" (????)

[Gray.]

Wow.

You are pretty harsh.

Why are you here exactly, with us "internet addicts?"

:iagree:

I'd rather be an internet addict because I like the relationships with other internet addicts than an internet addict who gets online to create drama and be rude. :nod:

[JazzyMac]

Do me a favor and go away.

We all know that there is "more to the story." I'm sure they've had their fights... relationship issues are often because both parties were at fault in some way or another.

But you know what? STEALTH IS OUR FRIEND. We are going to stick up for him regardless.

And he could come here trash-talking and being mean, but he's not. And regardless of why their relationship ended, it speaks volumes of his character.

Hey, then you should make a Lounge entitled "Only for people who are clique-y and friends with STEALTH". Nobody who disagrees should post.

Then I wouldn't post. But you didn't, so I did. :cool:

[caveat depascor]

Um, because he comes on a forum to complain about his wife going on a date with someone. Me? I wouldn't be looking to internet addicts (no offense) for advise when my husband starts cheating on me. Then he sounds so whiney and so self-righteous.

"I'm doing everything in my power to be good..."

YEAH RIGHT.

WAY more to the story, and if you guys don't believe that, than you are n.a.i.v.e. :shake:

I completely agree that there is more to the story. However, we internet addicts here in the lounge often hear one sided stories and are still able to offer support, condolences, congratulations, or advice as the situation dictates. As a matter of fact, this is what people do in real life as well. A person seeking counsel among friends in a situation like this is not likely to receive a response like "I'll get back to you after I talk to your wife and her boyfriend."

[Gatorbears]

I accept myself for what I am...not a someone who is perfect, knows all, etc. I posted something about an incident with someone, but did I come off as "I did nothing--poor innocent me" (????)

Yes.
.

[JazzyMac]

:iagree:

I'd rather be an internet addict because I like the relationships with other internet addicts than an internet addict who gets online to create drama and be rude. :nod:

I know, I know...just because I disagree with someone who insinuates he's completely innocent of any wrongdoing in the relationship makes me dramatic and rude...

Sorry.

STEALTH, you're perfect guy. You did nothing to deserve this. :hug:

[SlickChik]

I completely agree that there is more to the story. However, we internet addicts here in the lounge often hear one sided stories and are still able to offer support, condolences, congratulations, or advise as the situation dictates. As a matter of fact, this is what people do in real life as well. A person seeking counsel among friends in a situation like this is not likely to receive a response like "I'll get back to you after I talk to your wife and her boyfriend."

:worthy:

[JazzyMac]

Yes.
.

did not. :mad:

:look:

[SlickChik]

I know, I know...just because I disagree with someone who insinuates he's completely innocent of any wrongdoing in the relationship makes me dramatic and rude...

Sorry.

STEALTH, you're perfect guy. You did nothing to deserve this. :hug:

It is okay to disagree, you just don't have to act like jerk while you do it.

[Gray.]

Hey, then you should make a Lounge entitled "Only for people who are clique-y and friends with STEALTH". Nobody who disagrees should post.

Then I wouldn't post. But you didn't, so I did. :cool:

I didn't say that you weren't allowed to post.

And that's fine... you can be offensive and rude and that is quite alright. I prefer to be kind to people and hope that they return the favor. But then, I guess that's how normal friendships are built.

[JazzyMac]

It is okay to disagree, you just don't have to act like jerk while you do it.

I'm only acting like a jerk because (you don't know me) I'm disagreeing with the entire thread. If one of you "friends" had disagreed, it wouldn't be a big deal.

[Jex]

You should have just sat her crap on the lawn and said fetch.

[Gray.]

I completely agree that there is more to the story. However, we internet addicts here in the lounge often hear one sided stories and are still able to offer support, condolences, congratulations, or advice as the situation dictates. As a matter of fact, this is what people do in real life as well. A person seeking counsel among friends in a situation like this is not likely to receive a response like "I'll get back to you after I talk to your wife and her boyfriend."

I completely agree. This is exactly what I was trying to say. :)

[SlickChik]

I'm only acting like a jerk because (you don't know me) I'm disagreeing with the entire thread. If one of you "friends" had disagreed, it wouldn't be a big deal.

:rofl2:

I'm done.

[Gray.]

I know, I know...just because I disagree with someone who insinuates he's completely innocent of any wrongdoing in the relationship makes me dramatic and rude...

Sorry.

STEALTH, you're perfect guy. You did nothing to deserve this. :hug:

Also, if you fully read the other thread, you would notice that Stealth made comments that does not make him guilty of what I bolded.

But that would make you have to read about the subject before you have to come to any conclusions... and I don't know WHY anyone would educate themselves on a subject before making those judgments.... </sarcasm>

[JazzyMac]

I completely agree that there is more to the story. However, we internet addicts here in the lounge often hear one sided stories and are still able to offer support, condolences, congratulations, or advice as the situation dictates. As a matter of fact, this is what people do in real life as well. A person seeking counsel among friends in a situation like this is not likely to receive a response like "I'll get back to you after I talk to your wife and her boyfriend."

Oh...but usually irl they know the things that happened and can still side. Somehting along these lines:

"She still hasn't forgiven you for sleeping with her best friend last year??!!!! That bitch! You've apologized over and over, she should get over it!"

Not these lines:

"She moved out of the house with another guy...for no reason? Man, that bites."

[JazzyMac]

Also, if you fully read the other thread, you would notice that Stealth made comments that does not make him guilty of what I bolded.

But that would make you have to read about the subject before you have to come to any conclusions... and I don't know WHY anyone would educate themselves on a subject before making those judgments....

I read the first 3-5 pages (extended posts), with him not admitting to anything...and then came back to 15 pages. No, I'm not going to sift through a whole bunch of "that bitch should die" to find out what he said. :lol:

[whit]

Did you even read the previous post?? When she was dating the other guy???

[Melmo]

you are a strong man. I couldn't help my husband move out if he had cheated on me.

[TigerStar]

I read the first 3-5 pages (extended posts), with him not admitting to anything...and then came back to 15 pages. No, I'm not going to sift through a whole bunch of "that bitch should die" to find out what he said. :lol:

So you would rather ASSUME that he said he was in no way responsible?

[JazzyMac]

So you would rather ASSUME that he said he was in no way responsible?

Why wait until hundreds of posts to explain, "oh by the way, I may have contributed by _____"?

But now I know I was right. And if he has admitted to some wrongdoing, why are you guys harping on me and not him?

So you would rather ASSUME that he said he was in no way responsible?

Rather than sift through a whole bunch of "that bitch should die" posts to get through to what he did?

I understand you didn't see my other post, so I repeated myself. :rolleyes:

[ElectroWolf]

I accept myself for what I am...not a someone who is perfect, knows all, etc. I posted something about an incident with someone, but did I come off as "I did nothing--poor innocent me" (????)
Um, lets see...here's your post on that thread:

I did a search to see if a thread was made about this. I'm a female, and through a series of posts, I'll explain a [sarc]friendly/sarc] im chat with this chick who (obviously) doesn't like me. I am 28 years old, don't care about any of this and am absolutely amazed that someone is insecure enough to want to start a fight.

Now, I've been told that I'm much more mature than my peers--whatever that may be. Most of my girlfriends don't just want to start fights either, and neither do most normal people!

So, after falling into this momentary trap, I've deduced that she is upset or jealous because of some "wrong" I've obviously did to her. But, why are females soooooo...damn catty?

:cool:

Now, after reading that, yes, you did come across as quite the "I'm innocent and perfect with regards to this situation" person. I'm not saying your post was wrong in that thread by any means. By all means, you could be completely innocent and just had some random girl all of a sudden hate you and want to fight with you, when you yourself did nothing to provoke it.

But, by the same sense as your post in this thread, there could be PLENTY more to the story that you never told us - such as, you calling this person a Bitch while at Walmart shopping for videogames, and they took the last copy of Super Mario Brothers.

The point is, we don't know the other side of the story. But, just as Stealth comes across as the innocent party in this thread, so did you in your thread. There is NO justifyable reason to call him out in this thread. As someone stated, we KNOW he's not perfect. A divorce is always a 2-party deal. We're sure they have had their arguments, setbacks, etc. But what we also KNOW is that she cheated on him, and he didn't create this thread to say "poor me, I want to die, lets all kill Stealth". He came across as "For all of you [my friends], here's what's going on in my life, and here's a status update for you.

That is ALL. No need to call him out on something that you are assuming could be the case.

[caveat depascor]

Oh...but usually irl they know the things that happened and can still side. Somehting along these lines:

"She still hasn't forgiven you for sleeping with her best friend last year??!!!! That bitch! You've apologized over and over, she should get over it!"

Not these lines:

"She moved out of the house with another guy...for no reason? Man, that bites."

IRL and on the internet, we are very rarely presented with a full and unbiased story. We are left to make conclusions based on the credibility of the source. If presenting a full, unslanted story was requiste, there would be no point to conversing, IRL or virtually.

[Saxidani]

you are a strong man. I couldn't help my husband move out if he had cheated on me.


He must be very strong. If my boyfriend cheated on me.... I'd help him move.. I'd throw his crap out the second story window onto the lawn.

[TigerStar]

Why wait until hundreds of posts to explain, "oh by the way, I may have contributed by _____"?

But now I know I was right. And if he has admitted to some wrongdoing, why are you guys harping on me and not him?



Hmm, let's see, maybe because his wife was just caught cheating on him. I'm betting the first thing on his mind wasn't "Gee, maybe my past behavior caused her to let some guy stick his dick in her."


Rather than sift through a whole bunch of "that bitch should die" posts to get through to what he did?

I understand you didn't see my other post, so I repeated myself. :rolleyes:

Hmm, let's see, maybe because his wife was just caught cheating on him. I'm betting the first thing on his mind wasn't "Gee, maybe my past behavior caused her to let some guy stick his dick in her."

[Gatorbears]

For anyone posting here, not interested in doing any research beforehand.
You are right. There are two sides to every story (well, 3 including the lover). And, the kids have their perspectives, too!

Here's what she told me. I'm not supportive of her, and I don't spend enough time with her. I push her away. It's my fault she did this. :eek:

I know I wasn't the perfect husband, and I regret that. I'm not going to be getting into any more serious relationships anytime soon.
I guess I still have some feelings for her, and want her to be happy. I have to shoulder some of the responsibility for not creating an atmosphere where she was happy in our marriage. I also talked to the kids about it. They are handling it very well. They already knew. We all agree that it will be a time of mixed emotions. And I let them know that they can talk to me about anything they're feeling. :nod:
We had both been cheated on in our previous marriages.

We met long after being divorced on both sides.

[TigerStar]

I know this is going to sound crazy, but maybe reading the whole thread before you mouth off would help. :dontknow:

Isn't it amazing what actually reading will do?

[JazzyMac]

Um, lets see...here's your post on that thread:



Now, after reading that, yes, you did come across as quite the "I'm innocent and perfect with regards to this situation" person. I'm not saying your post was wrong in that thread by any means. By all means, you could be completely innocent and just had some random girl all of a sudden hate you and want to fight with you, when you yourself did nothing to provoke it.

But, by the same sense as your post in this thread, there could be PLENTY more to the story that you never told us - such as, you calling this person a Bitch while at Walmart shopping for videogames, and they took the last copy of Super Mario Brothers.

The point is, we don't know the other side of the story. But, just as Stealth comes across as the innocent party in this thread, so did you in your thread. There is NO justifyable reason to call him out in this thread. As someone stated, we KNOW he's not perfect. A divorce is always a 2-party deal. We're sure they have had their arguments, setbacks, etc. But what we also KNOW is that she cheated on him, and he didn't create this thread to say "poor me, I want to die, lets all kill Stealth". He came across as "For all of you [my friends], here's what's going on in my life, and here's a status update for you.

That is ALL. No need to call him out on something that you are assuming could be the case.

Okay, in that first post, you can assume that. About five posts later I told the entire story and even said, "it gets worse because I got into a deeper hole with this one"--basically saying we got into a "bad conversation". I also said that "we" never spoke and "we" never interacted. Not, "I was strolling through the park one day..."

With stealth, he literally went about 3 pages talking about his wife going out on a date with someone and "should he divorce her" and they promised not to cheat, etc., etc. If he finally told the entire story 10 pages into the thread, that ain't my fault.

[TigerStar]

Okay, in that first post, you can assume that. About five posts later I told the entire story and even said, "it gets worse because I got into a deeper hole with this one"--basically saying we got into a "bad conversation". I also said that "we" never spoke and "we" never interacted. Not, "I was strolling through the park one day..."

With stealth, he literally went about 3 pages talking about his wife going out on a date with someone and "should he divorce her" and they promised not to cheat, etc., etc. If he finally told the entire story 10 pages into the thread, that ain't my fault.

Sorry, we didn't read that far into it.

[JazzyMac]

Hey Kiwi,

I read those quotes, and that's what guys say to get sympathy. Notice the :eek: after she told him her reasons.

[Gatorbears]

Isn't it amazing what actually reading will do?

You caught me! I had decided I wanted to take a little nicer tone.. :lol:

eh, fark it.

[ElectroWolf]

if he finally told the entire story 10 pages into the thread, that ain't my fault.

Your goddamn right it's your fault! You made assumptions based on an unknowing of the issue at hand. Rather than educate yourself, you made quick assumptions and acted as such.

You know what? Titanic was a good movie. But, if I would have left after the first hour and said "This movie sucks. It's waaaaaay too slow, and was a horrible, horrible movie," then I would have been 100% at fault in my assumption, because I didn't watch the whole thing. So, I would have to take the credit for being wrong in my assumption. But, had I watched the whole movie, I would have seen the rest of it, and the exciting parts, and would have liked the movie!

So, you can't make these accusations without reading the whole issue given at hand, and then claim innocent and that it's not your fault that you're too lazy to educate yourself!

[JazzyMac]

Sorry, we didn't read that far into it.

five posts, not five pages.

Okay, final say: STEALTH, you're obviously a great guy who just got a bad rap. You've got a bunch of great friends irl, and on the internet who will stand by you--no matter what.

Party on. :cool:

[Gatorbears]

Hey Kiwi,

I read those quotes, and that's what guys say to get sympathy. Notice the :eek: after she told him her reasons.

Hey Jazzy,

Notice the :mad: you gave me after I answered your question a few posts back?

I think if you are going to voice displeasure over others here disagreeing with you... well people in glass houses, that whole thing.

[JazzyMac]

Your goddamn right it's your fault! You made assumptions based on an unknowing of the issue at hand. Rather than educate yourself, you made quick assumptions and acted as such.

I read the quotes that Kiwi posted (in the original thread) and to me, that wasn't accepting responsibility for anything.

I didn't say I didn't read the entire thread. I just got tired of the "dumb bitch" posts.

[TigerStar]

five posts, not five pages.

Okay, final say: STEALTH, you're obviously a great guy who just got a bad rap. You've got a bunch of great friends irl, and on the internet who will stand by you--no matter what.

Party on. :cool:

You gotta stop reading somewhere. You chose to stop after a page or so. We chose to stop after a post or so. Is there a mandated number before we can form an opinion?

[ElectroWolf]

Hey Jazzy,

Notice the :mad: you gave me after I answered your question a few posts back?

I think if you are going to voice displeasure over others here disagreeing with you... well people in glass houses, that whole thing.
Ugly/old people in glass houses shouldn't ever get naked.

[Gatorbears]

I read the quotes that Kiwi posted and to me, that's not accepting responsibility for anything.

I didn't say I didn't read the entire thread. I just got tired of the "dumb bitch" posts.

What's interesting is that I also chose not to read Stealth's entire thread, much for the same reason. But I my tendancy is to presume innocence. I am not so cyncial as to think that a person has to have done something wrong to have deserved something wrong be done to them. Some of us naturally think in more dimensions, seeing the his wife's exit as either a gift from previous 'rights' he has done, or a misfortune to be made up for in spades in the future.

[JazzyMac]

What's interesting is that I also chose not to read Stealth's entire thread, much for the same reason. But I my tendancy is to presume innocence. I am not so cyncial as to think that a person has to have done something wrong to have deserved something wrong be done to them. Some of us naturally think in more dimensions, seeing the his wife's exit as either a gift from previous 'rights' he has done, or a misfortune to be made up for in spades in the future.

Okay, and that's acceptable and I can respect that. I'm just opposite.

[hawaiiandawn]

I just don't think guilt or innocence really has anything to do with this. He|| being a man makes him guilty of something in the marriage, in my book. (J/K, Cav.) :lol: But gracious, does that mean his dirty ex should run out and start cheating. He|| no! If she had any sort of maturity about her, she should have realized introducing C into an A and B relationship is a great way of avoiding the problems in your interpersonal relationships. At some point all you end up with is a string of broken relationships and possibly some very confused kids who will soon be on their third father figure. NO ONE is perfect. Not Cav, not his wife and certainly not the other man. But Cav's actions throughout this whole mess have been stellar. And that is something the cheaters can't claim. I could only hope to aspire to his level of maturity.

Furthermore, alot of that thread disappeared because of some jacka$$ named SideCar Sally just being a complete troll in that thread. So everything that was posted originally isn't there. Hmmm...:scratchh: Maybe you know Sally??

Last, Cav that thread is what got me hooked on the Lounge. So thanks for that, my friend. :)

[serra]

annnnnnnywaaaaaaayyyyys.......

stealth.....:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: :grouphug:

[punkie]

Last, Cav that thread is what got me hooked on the Lounge. So thanks for that, my friend. :)
don't you mean stealth :confused:

[hawaiiandawn]

don't you mean stealth :confused:

LOL. Umm yeah. Thanks. Guess I have Cav on the mind.
Sorry Stealth.

[punkie]

LOL. Umm yeah. Thanks. Guess I have Cav on the mind.
Sorry Stealth.

:teehee:

[James Bond 007]

Okay, and that's acceptable and I can respect that. I'm just opposite.

You should really remove the 007 from under your user name. That's what's bothering me. Say whatever you like, I've barely read this thread, but as a bona fide 00 agent, I can't let just anyone use my number without exercising my license to kill. :cool:

Now. Martinis for everyone!!!!!!!

[Agent420]

annnnnnnywaaaaaaayyyyys.......

stealth.....:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: :grouphug:

really...lol

I seriously think I now need therapy after reading through all 7 pages of this $hit...

and I kept reading...that's what's funny to me.

:)

[JazzyMac]

You should really remove the 007 from under your user name. That's what's bothering me. Say whatever you like, I've barely read this thread, but as a bona fide 00 agent, I can't let just anyone use my number without exercising my license to kill. :cool:


Hogwash!

Only five more months...:lol:

[Ram|bunc|tious]

Please tell me that you've changed the locks in case he decides to try to return her.

:lol2:



You're a good man. :nod:

[stealth]

Wow! I leave this thread for a day and look at it! :)

Thanks to everyone who defended me. :hug: I know I'm not perfect, but I'll be damned if I'm going to take responsibility for her actions. :nono: While there are two sides to every story, and only one is usually told, I can assure you that there's nothing I did to excuse her behavior.

Was it my actions in the marriage that caused her to cheat? I can see where that could be argued if you didn't know all the facts. But, maybe it's innate in her character and was inevitible regardless of anything I could have possibly done? Maybe it's because she likes to switch jobs, houses, cars, shoes, and men like changing the TV channel? :dontknow:

Several people are familiar with my history from previous posts I've made, at least what I've shared. And they've already formed an opinion of her, and each situation just helps solidify that opinion.

All I know is, I'm looking forward to happier times. I wish her and her kids the best, although I know she will most likely continue in the same pattern of behavior. My focus now is on taking care of my kids, and learning what I can from the experience and moving on.

Like I've said before, many of us read a story like this and associate it with our own personal experiences, which helps shape our opinion. So, JazzyMac, maybe you were in a similar situation but there was more to that story than was being told? I think you're letting your own experiences affect how you perceive what's going on here.

Determining who's "right" or "wrong" is a futile effort with futile results.

In any case, taking responsibility for your own actions is a deep-rooted value that I try to live by. If I were at fault, I would own up to it. I may not have been the perfect husband, but that doesn't give her the right to go screw around. The proper thing would have been for her to split up first, and then date this guy. He knew she was married as well. So you see, even though we can determine that they are both "wrong", it doesn't really matter. What's done is done. And I'll end up being happier for it, regardless of what anyone else thinks. :cool:

[QueenAngie]

Wow! I leave this thread for a day and look at it! :)

Thanks to everyone who defended me. :hug: I know I'm not perfect, but I'll be damned if I'm going to take responsibility for her actions. :nono: While there are two sides to every story, and only one is usually told, I can assure you that there's nothing I did to excuse her behavior.

Was it my actions in the marriage that caused her to cheat? I can see where that could be argued if you didn't know all the facts. But, maybe it's innate in her character and was inevitible regardless of anything I could have possibly done? Maybe it's because she likes to switch jobs, houses, cars, shoes, and men like changing the TV channel? :dontknow:

Several people are familiar with my history from previous posts I've made, at least what I've shared. And they've already formed an opinion of her, and each situation just helps solidify that opinion.

All I know is, I'm looking forward to happier times. I wish her and her kids the best, although I know she will most likely continue in the same pattern of behavior. My focus now is on taking care of my kids, and learning what I can from the experience and moving on.

Like I've said before, many of us read a story like this and associate it with our own personal experiences, which helps shape our opinion. So, JazzyMac, maybe you were in a similar situation but there was more to that story than was being told? I think you're letting your own experiences affect how you perceive what's going on here.

Determining who's "right" or "wrong" is a futile effort with futile results.

In any case, taking responsibility for your own actions is a deep-rooted value that I try to live by. If I were at fault, I would own up to it. I may not have been the perfect husband, but that doesn't give her the right to go screw around. The proper thing would have been for her to split up first, and then date this guy. He knew she was married as well. So you see, even though we can determine that they are both "wrong", it doesn't really matter. What's done is done. And I'll end up being happier for it, regardless of what anyone else thinks. :cool:
Any time a marriage ends, there is sadness.
I am very sorry.
On some level it has to hurt.
But, it is good to see you are looking ahead for a good future with your two children.

I don't really 'know' all the particulars, except she cheated.
Have you considered getting some tests done for any possible
STDs she may have shared w/ you?
I think you should for your health.
Public Health or your own doctor should be able to help you.

Sending you good luck for everything to come out healthy!

[JazzyMac]

Stealth,

It's fine whatever the reasons are. What I find (not based on personal experiences) that everyone calls this wife of yours a "blank" and "blankity blank" and you're just sucking it all in.

One person comes in to disagree and check out the attack! :shake:

Whatever works.

[redjen910]

Anyone checking out that new ignore feature? It's really cool. I highly recommend it.

[SlickChik]

Anyone checking out that new ignore feature? It's really cool. I highly recommend it.

I might have to look into that :scratch:

[Waffleguy]

I would have done something 'not nice' to them both.

I think you were just being an AFC.

[punkie]

One person comes in to disagree and check out the attack! :shake:


we defend our own :nod:

[Jex]

http://www.realisticdrawing.com/loyalist/art_supplies/kleenex.jpg

[JazzyMac]

we defend our own :nod:

Bombshell!

No, really? Hadn't noticed. :rolleyes:

Honestly, I'm done with the "I don't agree with Stealth" kick. But I will defend myself. So please keep on...makes for interest...no real deals anyway.

[tsuperwanker]

http://www.studiovoltaire.org/images/What%20A%20Bitch.jpg

[punkie]

http://www.studiovoltaire.org/images/What%20A%20Bitch.jpg

:highfive: I :heart: you

[serra]

:lmao: way funny!

[Zeriab]

I am sorry to hear about all of the crap you are having to go thru. As much as everyone jokes and talks trash it still sucks to have to go thru such a big change because of someone elses choices. I would have helped them move also.

On the flip side, .... If I where you I would drive to their neighborhood and make a big scene. Stand outside of their place and scream insane stuff at the top of your lungs. "Please don't leave me. I don't want you to move out. I love you. I don't want a divorce. I can't believe you left me for another guy. Why can't we go to counseling?" They deserve it.

[Gray.]

For anyone posting here, not interested in doing any research beforehand.

Thank you for posting that. I figured the troll wasn't going to listen to me either way, so I didn't bother, but you did the hard work for all of us! :hug:

You :rock:

Sorry, we didn't read that far into it.

:rofl2: I guess it is a different story when the same judgments are passed on her, eh? :lol:

[Gray.]

Wow! I leave this thread for a day and look at it! :)

Thanks to everyone who defended me. :hug: I know I'm not perfect, but I'll be damned if I'm going to take responsibility for her actions. :nono: While there are two sides to every story, and only one is usually told, I can assure you that there's nothing I did to excuse her behavior.

Was it my actions in the marriage that caused her to cheat? I can see where that could be argued if you didn't know all the facts. But, maybe it's innate in her character and was inevitible regardless of anything I could have possibly done? Maybe it's because she likes to switch jobs, houses, cars, shoes, and men like changing the TV channel? :dontknow:

Several people are familiar with my history from previous posts I've made, at least what I've shared. And they've already formed an opinion of her, and each situation just helps solidify that opinion.

All I know is, I'm looking forward to happier times. I wish her and her kids the best, although I know she will most likely continue in the same pattern of behavior. My focus now is on taking care of my kids, and learning what I can from the experience and moving on.

Like I've said before, many of us read a story like this and associate it with our own personal experiences, which helps shape our opinion. So, JazzyMac, maybe you were in a similar situation but there was more to that story than was being told? I think you're letting your own experiences affect how you perceive what's going on here.

Determining who's "right" or "wrong" is a futile effort with futile results.

In any case, taking responsibility for your own actions is a deep-rooted value that I try to live by. If I were at fault, I would own up to it. I may not have been the perfect husband, but that doesn't give her the right to go screw around. The proper thing would have been for her to split up first, and then date this guy. He knew she was married as well. So you see, even though we can determine that they are both "wrong", it doesn't really matter. What's done is done. And I'll end up being happier for it, regardless of what anyone else thinks. :cool:

:hug: I agree with you completely. No matter what happens, the other party should always be faithful.

It's not because of any actions that you may have done in your marriage that might've been right or wrong that matters to me (because we all know that no one is perfect in a marriage), it's how well you talk about everything you are going through and the maturity that you display here that makes me respect you and think of you as a great person.

You haven't taken any cheap shots at anyone and have been much more mature than I probably would've been! :lol:

[JazzyMac]

Thank you for posting that. I figured the troll wasn't going to listen to me either way, so I didn't bother, but you did the hard work for all of us! :hug:


Just because I disagree I'm a troll? :confused: I'll remember that PassionateGray. I know that everything everyone posts here in the lounge you totally agree with.

It's called a different point of view. Whatever. We really don't need to resort to namecalling because I've had enough of that this weekend.

[Ram|bunc|tious]

A different point of view is one thing, coming across with the holier-than-though attitude and not expecting to be called out for it is just ignant!


btw Troll: "An Internet troll, or simply troll in Internet slang, is someone who intentionally posts messages about sensitive topics constructed to cause controversy in an online community such as an online discussion forum in order to bait users into responding"

[cajungirl]

good riddance to her. best of luck to you stealth

[JazzyMac]

A different point of view is one thing, coming across with the holier-than-though attitude and not expecting to be called out for it is just ignant!


btw Troll: "An Internet troll, or simply troll in Internet slang, is someone who intentionally posts messages about sensitive topics constructed to cause controversy in an online community such as an online discussion forum in order to bait users into responding"

Meh...this topic was dead for a bit until someone kept coming back...and not posting on the topic, but pulling me out (check the times).

Ram: Please don't lie about me having a holier than thou attitude...that's just plain wrong--as a matter of fact, that's been my entire point!

Since the mods deleted me calling you a ______, but didn't delete you calling me a name: So by your definition, that would kind of make op a troll?

[veritableqndry]

Good on ya Stealth. There's more to being a man than watching sports and scratching yourself. I hope you can be as proud of your actions as I am of you.

So, when are we hitting the strip clubs? :woot2:

[wildtama]

Stealth, I hope that do get an STD exam. You only know about this one guy she was fooling around with :eek: So that was great advice!

And I don't care if you were drinking every night and leaving the tp roll empty, it does not give her the right to cheat on you. If she was unhappy, she could have filed for divorce and then gone on to another man. I don't get ppl who cheat in a marriage. Do the vows mean that little to them? :crazy:

And you are right, she will continue with her irresponsible ways until she gets some counseling or something. I feel sorry for the kids because it sounds like she is not setting a very good example of how a woman should behave.

I wish you peace in the coming months. I hope that you will come through this with some clarity and stronger than you were. :hug:

[Gray.]

Just because I disagree I'm a troll? :confused: I'll remember that PassionateGray. I know that everything everyone posts here in the lounge you totally agree with.

It's called a different point of view. Whatever. We really don't need to resort to namecalling because I've had enough of that this weekend.

Dear, someone else called you a troll first. I was just agreeing with them.

[junbug178]

Ladies please relax.... :whee:

[Just Peachy]

Good for you, Stealth! You handled this as a true gentleman from the prospective you've given us, and I think men and women everywhere can learn from this experience. You gave us insight into yourself and showed what you're made of. It would have been easy enough to come in whining and ranting, and stooped to low-balling her, but you didn't. You stayed on the high road and for that alone you've gotten my respect. :hug: and :comfort: to you and the kids.

[Monkfish]

The power of Zen is strong in Stealth. What class!

[junbug178]

She should get slapped...but I guess you did ok...

[JazzyMac]

Dear, someone else called you a troll first. I was just agreeing with them.

Thanks for clarifying, sweetheart. :shake:

[SlicKitty]

Good for you, Stealth. You are the better man.
I know that was painful for you. You behaved like a gentleman, and because you did not have an outburst, you will forever be remembered by both your children, and by her, as a wonderful person...and by her, as the one she gave up...what she can never get back.
Trust me. I think that's how my mother always felt about my father. I love my mother, but the bane of her existence is having given up my father, whom I remember as gracious, kind, and the bigger man. He went on to have wonderful relationships. My mother can't have a working relationship with even a halfway decent man, because she feels completely unworthy of anyone worthwhile, because of what she did to my father. (At least, that's the way I read it. They've never told me anything about what actually happened. I have no idea why they really got divorced. I can only guess, based on their behavior.)

[Dizzy Devil]

Stealth :hug: :hug: :hug:

I'm proud of you for being the bigger man...that whole situation could have gone VERY differently, and I'm glad for your sake that it didn't.

Oh, and your OT's are on the way :evil: probably arrive by Thursday. :kiss:

[TigerStar]

Meh...this topic was dead for a bit until someone kept coming back...and not posting on the topic, but pulling me out (check the times). Please don't lie about me having a holier than thou attitude...that's just plain wrong--as a matter of fact, that's been my entire point!


Cause I am an asshat, I did check the times.

01:12 zeriab posts
02:43 PG (1 hr 21 minutes later)
02:48 PG ( 5 minutes later)
06:59 JazzyMac (4hrs 11 minutes later)

Exactly who keeps this thread going?

[ftpit]

If only more people could handle themselves like you did...:thumbsup:

[Ram|bunc|tious]

Ram: Please don't lie about me having a holier than thou attitude...that's just plain wrong--as a matter of fact, that's been my entire point!

It's called having an opinion. ;)

Since the mods deleted me calling you a ______, but didn't delete you calling me a name: So by your definition, that would kind of make op a troll?

You're asking the wrong person to compare what the mods have deleted ... :lol:



... and I wasn't trying to pick a fight. Well, not a real one. I'm certainly never to be confused as a troll or someone who instigates and/or inflames others :nono2:

[Ram|bunc|tious]

Cause I am an asshat, I did check the times.

01:12 zeriab posts
02:43 PG (1 hr 21 minutes later)
02:48 PG ( 5 minutes later)
06:59 JazzyMac (4hrs 11 minutes later)

Exactly who keeps this thread going?

pwned!


Thanks for watching my back TS :highfive:

[JackHandey]

Oh, and your OT's are on the way :evil: probably arrive by Thursday. :kiss:

:lol: I would love to know how you are shipping those.

[Dizzy Devil]

:lol: I would love to know how you are shipping those.

On Delta, first class. Just kidding. :wink5: very carefully.

Mr. Parker: Fra-gee-lay. That must be Italian.
Mrs. Parker: Uh, I think that says FRAGILE, dear.
Mr. Parker: Oh, yeah.

[n19htmare]

Do you wanna get back at your wife?

Post her intimate photos here.

[rybal]

I just love the titles on the two threads :lmao:

[stealth]

Stealth :hug: :hug: :hug:

I'm proud of you for being the bigger man...that whole situation could have gone VERY differently, and I'm glad for your sake that it didn't.

Oh, and your OT's are on the way :evil: probably arrive by Thursday. :kiss:

:woot2: I'm looking forward to your OT's! :eek: From what I hear, they're to die for! :evil:

[Schly]

I hope you got a label maker and marked all her boxes with "Cheating Whore".

[JazzyMac]

Cause I am an asshat, I did check the times.

01:12 zeriab posts
02:43 PG (1 hr 21 minutes later)
02:48 PG ( 5 minutes later)
06:59 JazzyMac (4hrs 11 minutes later) YES, IN DEFENSE TO A COMMENT STATED...HMMM, OR MAYBE I MADE IT UP??? :CONFUSED: (YES, THIS INTERNET ADDICT ACTUALLY SLEEPS..AND WORKS. THIS CAN CONTINUE

Exactly who keeps this thread going?

It can continue on the topic at hand or it can continue with JazzyMac...I've always wondered what a false sense of validation felt like. :cool:

[Gray.]

pwned!


Thanks for watching my back TS :highfive:

:iagree: Thanks TS! You :rock:

:D

[JazzyMac]

pwned!


Thanks for watching my back TS :highfive:

I love fake "pwns". Maybe something is lacking elsewhere? Shrug. :lol:

Wow, I still can't believe you guys are so ticked off I disagreed with "your own".

When you guys disagreed with my thread "I must be jealous, etc.", did I post pictures of trolls and shit? (oops, didn't mean to say shit...meant to say shit...damn, did it again!)

[Dizzy Devil]

:woot2: I'm looking forward to your OT's! :eek: From what I hear, they're to die for! :evil:

:nod: :kiss:

[TigerStar]

It can continue on the topic at hand or it can continue with JazzyMac...I've always wondered what a false sense of validation felt like. :cool:

You totally miss the point. You bitched about the thread continuing, yet it is you that was continuing it. You didn't have to reply, just as PG didn't have to. You say she is continuing the thread but all she did is do the same thing you do (although yes she diod it first, that still doesn't mean you HAVE too also)

[Gray.]

You totally miss the point. You bitched about the thread continuing, yet it is you that was continuing it. You didn't have to reply, just as PG didn't have to. You say she is continuing the thread but all she did is do the same thing you do (although yes she diod it first, that still doesn't mean you HAVE too also)

I'll admit it.... I'm the queen of having to have the last word. Sometimes I just need to learn to let go.... I'm trying hard with this thread. :)

[Jex]

It can continue on the topic at hand or it can continue with JazzyMac...I've always wondered what a false sense of validation felt like. :cool:

You said someone else kept bringing it up and it was dead till you bumped it. :shake:

[JazzyMac]

I'll admit it.... I'm the queen of having to have the last word. Sometimes I just need to learn to let go.... I'm trying hard with this thread. :)

At least you're trying. :shake:

[Jex]

At least you're trying. :shake:

Unlike some people.

[n19htmare]

Anyone to post after this post is a farktard.

[JazzyMac]

What's a farktard?

Damn. :(

[jenni.]

Let me be a farktard....

I don't give a good fark what he did to her in the past, he didn't deserve to be cheated on, or treated the way he was.

That being said, I think you're an awesome guy, Stealth, and I admire the way you handle youself. :hug:

[Ram|bunc|tious]

I just love the titles on the two threads :lmao:

It's sooooo begging for a Rammy spoof :whistlin:

[Ram|bunc|tious]

I love fake "pwns". Maybe something is lacking elsewhere? Shrug. :lol:

Wow, I still can't believe you guys are so ticked off I disagreed with "your own".

When you guys disagreed with my thread "I must be jealous, etc.", did I post pictures of trolls and shit? (oops, didn't mean to say shit...meant to say shit...damn, did it again!)

Can we say shit? Cool! Shit, shit, shit! :yahoo: :hide:



... excuse me but one of the few names I haven't been called is naive. You're continuing to come across with this holier than thou attitude. Sure, I, we, they, him, are defending "one of our own" - that's what friends do, even in an online forum. Doesn't take a troll ;) to realize that we're a mixed bunch and welcome just about anyone here. Wanna take the gloves off and play nice?

I'll admit it.... I'm the queen of having to have the last word. Sometimes I just need to learn to let go.... I'm trying hard with this thread. :)

That's not true! Iconian is!

[JazzyMac]

Can we say shit? Cool! Shit, shit, shit! :yahoo: :hide:



... excuse me but one of the few names I haven't been called is naive. You're continuing to come across with this holier than thou attitude. Sure, I, we, they, him, are defending "one of our own" - that's what friends do, even in an online forum. Doesn't take a troll ;) to realize that we're a mixed bunch and welcome just about anyone here. Wanna take the gloves off and play nice?



That's not true! Iconian is!

Quit calling me troll, asswipe and we'll play fine. ;)

[caveat depascor]

Hi JazzyMac! :wave:

[random.]

Quit calling me troll, asswipe and we'll play fine. ;)
Quit being a troll and no one will call you a troll. Duh.

[Ram|bunc|tious]

Quit calling me troll, asswipe and we'll play fine. ;)

Deal :)

Now get me a damn sandwich woman! :evillaf:

[caveat depascor]

Hi Rambunctious! :wave:

[Ram|bunc|tious]

Hi Rambunctious! :wave:

:wave2: Hiya CD, alls well here :)


... oh wait, are you doing the "last word post game" here? ;)

[TigerStar]

:wave: Hi CD!

[caveat depascor]

Hi TigerStar! :wave:

[hathor]

Good riddance!

Perhaps he helped them move to get rid of her faster!

[SlicKitty]

Hey Stealth, are you willing to help JazzyMac move to another board? I don't know how much stuff she has, but since you're a nice guy, I thought you might help her load the truck.

[tsuperwanker]

Hey Stealth, are you willing to help JazzyMac move to another board? I don't know how much stuff she has, but since you're a nice guy, I thought you might help her load the truck.
:lol2:

[JazzyMac]

Hey Stealth, are you willing to help JazzyMac move to another board? I don't know how much stuff she has, but since you're a nice guy, I thought you might help her load the truck.

Sniff. :mad:

[Jex]

Hey Stealth, are you willing to help JazzyMac move to another board? I don't know how much stuff she has, but since you're a nice guy, I thought you might help her load the truck.

:lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao:

[jenni.]

Hey Stealth, are you willing to help JazzyMac move to another board? I don't know how much stuff she has, but since you're a nice guy, I thought you might help her load the truck.

:lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao:

[Gforce]

So I go looking for the post to buy the movie "The Jerk" and I stumble upon this thread. Dude you have to be kidding me!? You seem like a nice guy with a level head, but if it was me I would do things a little different. I would have sold all of her shit on Ebay. Even post pictures of her nude to help sell her panties to some perv. Whats the tramp going to do, take you to court? Yeah good luck with that. I'm sorry I know this is rash, but damn that is so wrong! Good luck to you and hope that you find love with a kind hearted woman who will treat you right.

[Geeke19]

don't help her move a damn thing. just leave her shit on the front lawn no good cheating b****!

[junbug178]

So what's the status Gladis? Is she completely out?

[Striker]

So, did anyone get banned due to this thread? The King heard there was some bannings and was interested in the details. PMs are acceptable.


Sincerely,
http://towleroad.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/burger_king_babes_2.jpg

[junbug178]

So, did anyone get banned due to this thread? The King heard there was some bannings and was interested in the details. PMs are acceptable.


Sincerely,
http://towleroad.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/burger_king_babes_2.jpg

Nope, I'm still here :sadwalk: but please pm any gossip that you might get regarding the bannings...

[~Kimber~]

Hey Stealth, are you willing to help JazzyMac move to another board? I don't know how much stuff she has, but since you're a nice guy, I thought you might help her load the truck.

:lol:

[Drio]

Holy crap.... what a royal cat. (sorry just catching up now.. and it's probably best that I missed it)

PS Given the choice... I'd rather live with stealth's wife.

[Dr.Murdoc]

Um...why did you help them? I would've left her crap in the garage or on the front lawn.

:iagree:

[NorWiggles]

You are a very nice guy and she is a bi*** and I am sorry you had to go through all of this bullsh**! I can't believe you helped her move!

[Vino24]

That dude isn't a homewrecker, the wife is.

The guy was just a single guy who found someone he liked. The chick was the dumbass who is married with kids who decided that f'ing around was a "good idea".

You sound like you've handled the situation very well though.
Now use that spare room and lift like a mad man and score some delicious tail while getting into the best shape of your life. That will crush the ex :)

[Dr.Murdoc]

This happened to a friend.
He took her rights away to see the kids.
She fought it but lost.

[saint.]

did he get his balls back?

[Autumn]

I'll admit it.... I'm the queen of having to have the last word. Sometimes I just need to learn to let go.... I'm trying hard with this thread. :)

:lmao: I know what you mean...I feel if the other person has the last word and I don't reply then it'll look like I can't come up with anything to say and they "won"...we should start a self help group :lol:
Can we say shit? Cool! Shit, shit, shit! :yahoo:

... excuse me but one of the few names I haven't been called is naive. You're continuing to come across with this holier than thou attitude.



Hey shitface...I beg to differ. Remember that time 3 months and 12 days ago when I promised you OTs and you really thought I'd give it to you? :harhar:

[TigerStar]

:crylol:

[WildIrishRose]

Now he can deal with her being pissy when she doesn't get the exact Valentine's day gift she wants.

I would love any gift. my hubby no buy me any.

[n19htmare]

Some of you people need to look up the definition of a "troll". Just because Jazzymac does not agree with the majority and doesn't side with stealth, it does not make him a troll, just a person with different opinions then yours.

[waterlily]

Wow! I just spent an hour reading this and the other thread. Stealth is a class act plain and simple.

As humans, our first response to being hurt is to hurt back.

It takes a strong, determined, SANE person to resist a natural instinct.

My mom cheated on my dad. He had no idea it was going on. Married 16 years, stay at home mom, 4 kids aged 13 to 3. My older brother and I were the ones who clued my dad in.

He wound up with custody of all 4 of us, poor guy lol! He somehow managed to keep it together, and now years later, he says when he felt like he wanted to do something violent or at the very least illegal to her/her "boyfriend", he always thought about what he would be teaching his children by doing that.

I'm the only daughter out of the 4 of us kids who all have trust issues. I only wish I could meet someone with as much dignity as Stealth has shown through all of this.

I was very careful about who I ended up marrying (dated 3 years, both of us said we were committed to each other and no others. Married 2001, found out last year that he had been having several affairs all over the country as he travels for business. Some of the women knew he was married, some he told he was either single or divorced. Doesn't matter as he is dead to me.

I coordinated the movers coming for his things to be put in storage. The entire time I had fantasies of setting his things on fire or worse. But like Stealth, I pretty much just wanted him and everything related to him out of the house (which we sold, split the proceeds, and now I live alone in a new place -- couldn't stand the thought of going through the courts to get my pound of flesh, even though my friends think I'm crazy coz I could've made out like a bandit $-wise.)

Life is too short. No amount of anger or vengeance would have made me feel better about what happened. I'm thankful we didn't have kids, but even without little ones, my only thought was to get as far away from him and his lies and get on with my life. Helping him move was the first step to staying in touch with my dignity. If I had gone BSC (even though all my friends said it was my right), I would have felt less about myself.

Anyways, long story long, Stealth...you can look at yourself in the mirror every day with your head up because you didn't give into the natural impulse to hurt her back. The guy she's with will be her next victim, and for you (as I feel for me) the BEST REVENGE IS LIVING RIGHT.

You will be happy again!

[stealth]

Wow! I just spent an hour reading this and the other thread. Stealth is a class act plain and simple.

As humans, our first response to being hurt is to hurt back.

It takes a strong, determined, SANE person to resist a natural instinct.

My mom cheated on my dad. He had no idea it was going on. Married 16 years, stay at home mom, 4 kids aged 13 to 3. My older brother and I were the ones who clued my dad in.

He wound up with custody of all 4 of us, poor guy lol! He somehow managed to keep it together, and now years later, he says when he felt like he wanted to do something violent or at the very least illegal to her/her "boyfriend", he always thought about what he would be teaching his children by doing that.

I'm the only daughter out of the 4 of us kids who all have trust issues. I only wish I could meet someone with as much dignity as Stealth has shown through all of this.

I was very careful about who I ended up marrying (dated 3 years, both of us said we were committed to each other and no others. Married 2001, found out last year that he had been having several affairs all over the country as he travels for business. Some of the women knew he was married, some he told he was either single or divorced. Doesn't matter as he is dead to me.

I coordinated the movers coming for his things to be put in storage. The entire time I had fantasies of setting his things on fire or worse. But like Stealth, I pretty much just wanted him and everything related to him out of the house (which we sold, split the proceeds, and now I live alone in a new place -- couldn't stand the thought of going through the courts to get my pound of flesh, even though my friends think I'm crazy coz I could've made out like a bandit $-wise.)

Life is too short. No amount of anger or vengeance would have made me feel better about what happened. I'm thankful we didn't have kids, but even without little ones, my only thought was to get as far away from him and his lies and get on with my life. Helping him move was the first step to staying in touch with my dignity. If I had gone BSC (even though all my friends said it was my right), I would have felt less about myself.

Anyways, long story long, Stealth...you can look at yourself in the mirror every day with your head up because you didn't give into the natural impulse to hurt her back. The guy she's with will be her next victim, and for you (as I feel for me) the BEST REVENGE IS LIVING RIGHT.

You will be happy again!

:hug:

[JazzyMac]

Some of you people need to look up the definition of a "troll". Just because Jazzymac does not agree with the majority and doesn't side with stealth, it does not make him a troll, just a person with different opinions then yours.

Wow...where were you last week when this mess was going on. Repped in spirit! :heart:

Your girl,

JazzyMac

[hawaiiandawn]

:bounce2: We need an update Stealth!

[Hot Sauce]

lol so why does this thread have a "Sport" icon?

[saint.]

pimpin's a sport

[hawaiiandawn]

Come on Stealth! Dish! Boyfriend kick her out yet? Did he call you crying and asking for pointers?

[smiley333]

He did mention about a week or so ago, that he had a girlfriend now, and that it was going well. :)

[hawaiiandawn]

I missed it. Dayum. Where'd he go?

[saint.]

on a date? :dontknow:

[smiley333]

I missed it. Dayum. Where'd he go?

Hopefully busy with new GF! :)

[hawaiiandawn]

He was just in Mr Ginny's thread. :mad:

[smiley333]

He was just in Mr Ginny's thread. :mad:

Hmmmm... :scratch: Hope everything is okay.

[hawaiiandawn]

Somebody needs to dish tonight.

[afusinatto]

Somebody needs to dish tonight.
:iagree:

[stealth]

Hey everybody! :woot:

Yeah, there's a girl I like, and she likes me. But, we're just keeping things simple. You know, sex only. That's the way she prefers it. :highfive: And she's a hottie! :drool:

Oh, the big D is official, as of 2 weeks ago. :applause:

I've been redecorating. Since I kept the house, I moved the sofa and TV into the living room :tvhappy: and put a pool table and dart board in the family room. :thumbup: Plus, I have a workout room, :weight: and a reading room, that the kids also use for homework.

The ex still emails me. She's a little uncertain about getting into another relationship so fast. I'm glad I don't have that problem. It feels good to have control of my life again. :)

:bye:

[Jex]

Hey everybody! :woot:

Yeah, there's a girl I like, and she likes me. But, we're just keeping things simple. You know, sex only. That's the way she prefers it. :highfive: And she's a hottie! :drool:

Oh, the big D is official, as of 2 weeks ago. :applause:

I've been redecorating. Since I kept the house, I moved the sofa and TV into the living room :tvhappy: and put a pool table and dart board in the family room. :thumbup: Plus, I have a workout room, :weight: and a reading room, that the kids also use for homework.

The ex still emails me. She's a little uncertain about getting into another relationship so fast. I'm glad I don't have that problem. It feels good to have control of my life again. :)

:bye:

Lol probably dosen't help that you found someone else and she is probably realizing that the grass wasn't so greener. Btw with the new one. Keep it light and have some fun.

[hawaiiandawn]

Hey everybody!
Oh, the big D is official, as of 2 weeks ago. :applause:

I've been redecorating. Since I kept the house, I moved the sofa and TV into the living room :tvhappy: and put a pool table and dart board in the family room. :thumbup: Plus, I have a workout room, :weight: and a reading room, that the kids also use for homework.

The ex still emails me. She's a little uncertain about getting into another relationship so fast. I'm glad I don't have that problem. It feels good to have control of my life again. :)

:bye:

:whee: :whee: Sounds like she's testing the waters with you. Make sure she realizes they are ice cold. :evillaf: I am happy for you Stealth. You deserve happiness. Congrats on the sport f%$&ing partner too. :wink5:

[BrownEyedGirl]

Hey everybody! :woot:

Yeah, there's a girl I like, and she likes me. But, we're just keeping things simple. You know, sex only. That's the way she prefers it. :highfive: And she's a hottie! :drool:

Oh, the big D is official, as of 2 weeks ago. :applause:

I've been redecorating. Since I kept the house, I moved the sofa and TV into the living room :tvhappy: and put a pool table and dart board in the family room. :thumbup: Plus, I have a workout room, :weight: and a reading room, that the kids also use for homework.

The ex still emails me. She's a little uncertain about getting into another relationship so fast. I'm glad I don't have that problem. It feels good to have control of my life again. :)

:bye:

:hug: Good for you!

[Landers]

Glad to hear it stealth! Hope things work out for the best for ya.

[Monkfish]

Hey everybody! :woot:



That's awesome Stealth! Congrats...it really sounds like things are working out nicely.
:highfive:

[Pig]

That's awesome Stealth! Congrats...it really sounds like things are working out nicely.
:highfive:
:iagree:

:woot:

[serra]

Hey everybody! :woot:

Yeah, there's a girl I like, and she likes me. But, we're just keeping things simple. You know, sex only. That's the way she prefers it. :highfive: And she's a hottie! :drool:

Oh, the big D is official, as of 2 weeks ago. :applause:

I've been redecorating. Since I kept the house, I moved the sofa and TV into the living room :tvhappy: and put a pool table and dart board in the family room. :thumbup: Plus, I have a workout room, :weight: and a reading room, that the kids also use for homework.

The ex still emails me. She's a little uncertain about getting into another relationship so fast. I'm glad I don't have that problem. It feels good to have control of my life again. :)

:bye:
that's wonderful to hear that you've moved forward in the most positive way ever! :woot:

[Zoe Moon]

I'm so glad to hear things are going well for you. You are a great guy and your ex is a fool for letting you go. :hug:

[dinsomnia]

http://ec1.images-amazon.com/images/I/414PHT8BWiL._SS500_.jpg

[zmarko]

Update

Awesome Stealth! Like someone else said, seems like your ex-wife is trying to keep the lanes of communication open with you 'just in case'. But you seem like a person who isn't going to fall for anything she tries.

That's a quick divorce! :eek: Took me a whole year to get mine finalized. :lol:

[Ram|bunc|tious]

:whee: :whee: Sounds like she's testing the waters with you. Make sure she realizes they are ice cold. :evillaf: I am happy for you Stealth. You deserve happiness. Congrats on the sport f%$&ing partner too. :wink5:

:iagree: Graas is always greener isn't it sweetheart?

[Autumn]

I'm happy for you, Stealth :hug:

[Drio]

That's awesome man. Glad to hear you're enjoying single life a bit.

[Dizzy Devil]

Hey everybody! :woot:


:hug: congrats babe. You deserve every happiness, and the f*ck-buddy bonus is perfect. :thumbup:

[Schooby]

That's great news. You deserve ot have someone nice in your life and help you enjoy things. :thumbup:

[stealth]

Thanks everybody. :hug:

More news: My ex found out today she was laid off. I want to say something about karma, but I feel bad for her. :dontknow:

[kel_be]

Thanks everybody. :hug:

More news: My ex found out today she was laid off. I want to say something about karma, but I feel bad for her. :dontknow:

It's human to feel bad to an extent.

[Drio]

Thanks everybody. :hug:

More news: My ex found out today she was laid off. I want to say something about karma, but I feel bad for her. :dontknow:

Since you're busy being a better person that she is... I'll laugh FOR you. MWahahahahahh!!!! :lol:

[XXnarg]

On and then off. ;)

[The Raddish]

That's Schweet. [/cartman]

[saint.]

Congrats! we need pics of the hottie :thumbsup:

[hawaiiandawn]

Since you're busy being a better person that she is... I'll laugh FOR you. MWahahahahahh!!!! :lol:

:iagree: Who thinks she is gonna start whining and crying for sympathy?? Anybody besides me?

[wuzzy]

cool dude!

[Zoe Moon]

Thanks everybody. :hug:

More news: My ex found out today she was laid off. I want to say something about karma, but I feel bad for her. :dontknow: I would buy her the DVD box set of My Name Is Earl. :lol:

[zmarko]

:iagree: Who thinks she is gonna start whining and crying for sympathy?? Anybody besides me?
*raises hand*

[burninator]

*raises hand*
:wave:

[Zoe Moon]

:wave2:

[Dr.Murdoc]

My Ex acts like we are still dating. I am trying to be her friend but it is driving me nuts. She gets mad if I don't call her at night and a whole bunch of other junk that is not worth typing.

[djsapphire]

My Ex acts like we are still dating. I am trying to be her friend but it is driving me nuts. She gets mad if I don't call her at night and a whole bunch of other junk that is not worth typing.
I say, RUN!!! :lol:


That's great news Stealth that things are going well for you. Good to hear you have a hottie friend as well. :wink5:

[SDRebel]

Hey everybody! :woot:

Yeah, there's a girl I like, and she likes me. But, we're just keeping things simple. You know, sex only. That's the way she prefers it. :highfive: And she's a hottie! :drool:

Oh, the big D is official, as of 2 weeks ago. :applause:

I've been redecorating. Since I kept the house, I moved the sofa and TV into the living room :tvhappy: and put a pool table and dart board in the family room. :thumbup: Plus, I have a workout room, :weight: and a reading room, that the kids also use for homework.

The ex still emails me. She's a little uncertain about getting into another relationship so fast. I'm glad I don't have that problem. It feels good to have control of my life again. :)

:bye:


the situation sounds perfect to me, enjoy it :whee:

[SDRebel]

is there any other update?

[hawaiiandawn]

is there any other update?

:nod: Wifey wants Stealthipoo back.

[jenni.]

:nod: Wifey wants Stealthipoo back.

And she can't have him. :mad: He's too good for her.

[cpnqn]

Oh, wow...

Man, all I can say- is you're better then I am! lol.

I've busted many an ex... and, I didn't wait to see if they wanted to move out, or even ask if they loved me... I packed for them, and moved it out to the front yard for them! lol.

I've heard my way is pretty cold, usually when they are bitter and hurt I left so easily- but, the foundation of my relationship is TRUST, and- when that is lost, I'm over it. Ready or not, I'll leave. I've left without anything, I've moved them out, I've called them over at girls homes & told them to hand my house keys to the delivery driver coming over! lol.

Good for you for moving on, keep life simple- it's just too short to be mad. I try not to get that upset!

[SDRebel]

And she can't have him. :mad: He's too good for her.

but I hda read both things before, that's not new, where is he? probably having fun :)

[Ram|bunc|tious]

:nod: Wifey wants Stealthipoo back.

I think the 30 year old weightlifter kicked out the ex- cuz she was sleeping around on him too! :eek:

[XXnarg]

I think the 30 year old weightlifter kicked out the ex- cuz she was sleeping around on him too! :eek:30 was like 20?

[stealth]

:whee: Crazy times. :cool:

It's not as stable as when I was married, but damn is variety underrated. :look:

[TigerStar]

:whee: Crazy times. :cool:

It's not as stable as when I was married, but damn is variety underrated. :look:

:lol: good for you.