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advise on secure but discrete way to watch over/monitor my disabled fathers daily activities

25 October 17, 2017 at 02:24 AM
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I am hoping someone with tech know-how will be kind enough to share their knowledge with me. I am responsible for my 87 year father that is very limited in mobility and has (in my opinion) an oversized home for his daily activities but I am concerned about his safety.
First response is going to be a home security system I know, but my responsibility for being primary caretaker is temporary until my sister returns from her trip and she would not be okay with me monitoring her and what she is doing when she returns. She is tech savvy which is why my request to be discreate.
I would like to know what is going on within my fathers home. My father is okay with it and I feel obligated to make sure that he is safe and is not being treated badly by those around him.
I have looked for products that could help me, but I have no such luck being fairly limited with income. I lack the technical knowledge that is required to figure out how I can make this work.

Thank you in advance to any and all who are kind enough to share their hard earned knowledge with me.

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Go with the camera in the smoke detector
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Your working with quite a bit against you here. Limited time frame, Limited Budget, your tech savyness to setup something accessible from outside the home, and Small and inconspicuous, etc.

Assuming your father has internet and wifi I would look at some type of Nanny cam. False book, etc. Remember any electronic is going to need electricity. A motion activated game camera might work too but you would need to hide it and it's not something that you monitor via the internet
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hello,


I am hoping someone with tech know-how will be kind enough to share their knowledge with me. I am responsible for my 87 year father that is very limited in mobility and has (in my opinion) an oversized home for his daily activities but I am concerned about his safety.
First response is going to be a home security system I know, but my responsibility for being primary caretaker is temporary until my sister returns from her trip and she would not be okay with me monitoring her and what she is doing when she returns. She is tech savvy which is why my request to be discreate.
I would like to know what is going on within my fathers home. My father is okay with it and I feel obligated to make sure that he is safe and is not being treated badly by those around him.
I have looked for products that could help me, but I have no such luck being fairly limited with income. I lack the technical knowledge that is required to figure out how I can make this work.

Thank you in advance to any and all who are kind enough to share their hard earned knowledge with me.
First a "security system" means different things to different people. To me a security system is generally an alarm system that notifies a monitoring station when it's armed and a door is opened or motion is detected. I categorize camera systems as surveillance systems.

There are medical alert devices that can be worn around the neck or like a watch that allow the wearer to push a button and get help if they need it. This can often be added to a traditional alarm system as well. To do this, you're looking at either $100-300+ in initial costs and potentially as little as $10/month for monitoring or lower setup costs and high monthly cost, as high as $50+/mo.

For passive monitoring of his well being you could use things like a motion sensor in the bathroom, a sensor on the water meter, microwave, and refrigerator doors. If too much time elapses without certain events you know something is wrong. This would be done with home automation equipment. If you were fairly tech savvy, you could do this for $200-300.

You mention your income is limited but give no idea how much you'd be willing to spend.

What sort of health issues does your father have? Is it his house or your sisters? Who else cares for him?

I don't think trying to covertly record video of your sister is the smartest choice. Home health aides, fine just not in the bathroom. If you seriously think there's a case of elder abuse involving your own sister, that's a more complicated situation

The simplest way to visually check in that won't ruffle any feathers would be a video call using skype, facetime, google duo, or some other service. Something like an Amazon Fire HD tablet is probably the cheapest decent option if he doesn't already have something like this.
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I gave this subject some thought for my grandma and was trying to convince my relatives my grandma needed some similar things. She fell and broke her pelvis while somebody was with her and wasn't able to return to living at her house.
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As noted already, the system where the person can push a button usually hung on a necklace around their neck and tied into the home phone\security system is the best means of health\emergency monitoring imo for this sort of thing. Cameras are not going to alert anyone unless they are watching 24x7x365 and spot checking, while better than nothing, is not really a good line of defense for a health emergency imo.

That said, you really have to separate it into 2 categories, the first being emergency care and response, which the aforementioned button on a necklace covers and the second being review of care\service. The latter can be handled with cameras setup throughout the home which record to an NVR or PC via Blue Iris or other monitoring software that would allow someone to review the recordings periodically to see what happened\what kind of care was provided at a specific time\over a period of time. They are not difficult to setup and access remotely if you know what you are doing but if third parties are involved on site, securing them to be tamper proof\off site\hidden is another matter.
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OP, I believe you also need to be aware of laws (in your state) regarding video/audio recording, so that's something to research also.
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