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151 21 February 19, 2013 at 07:25 PM
It has been a while since I've been in a relationship with someone, like four years. I met a girl online via online dating site and really thought I hit it off. She's attractive and has an interesting personality. I got her number last night and we've been communicating since then. Two questions:
I asked if she wanted to meet, response: "Maybe Smilie"
How am I supposed to take that? Good/bad?

Also, earlier when we first met, she mentioned she's not the best at asking questions (ain't that the truth). So, I've been asking her some questions and been getting one word answers in return. Is this good/bad/neutral?

I don't want to screw this relationship up. Advice please?
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beanqueen
02-19-2013 at 07:27 PM.
02-19-2013 at 07:27 PM.
Quote from Squilly :
It has been a while since I've been in a relationship with someone, like four years. I met a girl online via online dating site and really thought I hit it off. She's attractive and has an interesting personality. I got her number last night and we've been communicating since then. Two questions:
I asked if she wanted to meet, response: "Maybe Smilie"
How am I supposed to take that? Good/bad?

Also, earlier when we first met, she mentioned she's not the best at asking questions (ain't that the truth). So, I've been asking her some questions and been getting one word answers in return. Is this good/bad/neutral?

I don't want to screw this relationship up. Advice please?
QPLR...

Um...idk...do you really wanna be with someone who doesn't have much to say?
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user2049276
02-19-2013 at 07:29 PM.
02-19-2013 at 07:29 PM.
Quote from beanqueen :
QPLR...

Um...idk...do you really wanna be with someone who doesn't have much to say?
QPLR?

I have asked quite a few questions, just don't know what would spark a good, ongoing conversation.
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GiGo101010
02-19-2013 at 07:30 PM.
02-19-2013 at 07:30 PM.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catfish:_The_TV_Show
Internet is a good guise to be someone you aren't and/or hide traits you otherwise wouldn't want to be noticed.
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02-19-2013 at 07:32 PM.
02-19-2013 at 07:32 PM.
Quote from GiGo101010 :
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catfish:_The_TV_Show
Internet is a good guise to be someone you aren't.
Was referred to this show before. She seems completely legit. I searched her pictures on Google, zero matches. Granted, haven't met her though.
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Thrifteh
02-19-2013 at 07:33 PM.
02-19-2013 at 07:33 PM.
Don't force it for the sake of being in a relationship. Let things progress naturally. Think with your head, the one on top of your shoulders Wink5
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GiGo101010
02-19-2013 at 07:34 PM.
02-19-2013 at 07:34 PM.
Typically if you want a chat with a girl, they like talking about themselves.
Ask things about her and try not to talk about yourself too much as that comes off narcissistic and self-indulged.
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02-19-2013 at 07:37 PM.
02-19-2013 at 07:37 PM.
The more I think about it, the more inaccurate the conversation sounds. I haven't called her yet, but I feel like it's too early to do so.
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beanqueen
02-19-2013 at 07:43 PM.
02-19-2013 at 07:43 PM.
Quote from Squilly :
QPLR?

I have asked quite a few questions, just don't know what would spark a good, ongoing conversation.
"Quoted Per Lounge Rules"

Couldn't you guys play 20 questions or something like that where you alternate back and forth?
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vaultaddict
02-19-2013 at 07:45 PM.
02-19-2013 at 07:45 PM.
It's not a relationship yet.

Take it easy.
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02-19-2013 at 07:46 PM.
02-19-2013 at 07:46 PM.
Quote from beanqueen :
"Quoted Per Lounge Rules"

Couldn't you guys play 20 questions or something like that where you alternate back and forth?
I feel like that wouldn't solve anything. Still one word texts.
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Beartrkkr
02-19-2013 at 07:53 PM.
02-19-2013 at 07:53 PM.
Manti, is that you?
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PaintTheSkyGrey
02-19-2013 at 07:54 PM.
02-19-2013 at 07:54 PM.
Send her pictures of your penis.

This should seal any potential deal that is to be made.
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beanqueen
02-19-2013 at 08:04 PM.
02-19-2013 at 08:04 PM.
Quote from Squilly :
I feel like that wouldn't solve anything. Still one word texts.
Um...you could try actually calling one another or perhaps Skyping?
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tukwok
02-19-2013 at 08:29 PM.
02-19-2013 at 08:29 PM.
Discuss open-ended questions. i.e.. What was one of your favorite childhood memories? What was one of your favorite vacations? What talents and hobbies do you have? Ask why and to elaborate if she still give short answers.
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