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151 21 February 19, 2013 at 07:25 PM in Chat (2)
It has been a while since I've been in a relationship with someone, like four years. I met a girl online via online dating site and really thought I hit it off. She's attractive and has an interesting personality. I got her number last night and we've been communicating since then. Two questions:
I asked if she wanted to meet, response: "Maybe Smilie"
How am I supposed to take that? Good/bad?

Also, earlier when we first met, she mentioned she's not the best at asking questions (ain't that the truth). So, I've been asking her some questions and been getting one word answers in return. Is this good/bad/neutral?

I don't want to screw this relationship up. Advice please?
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tennisplayer888
02-20-2013 at 02:01 PM.
02-20-2013 at 02:01 PM.
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Fixed for the sake of brevity. Wink
I thought trolling was making people mad and such. My threads just asked questions, with picture posting.
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02-20-2013 at 02:04 PM.
02-20-2013 at 02:04 PM.
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I thought trolling was making people mad and such. My threads just asked questions, with picture posting.
No, trolling is posting for the sole purpose of stirring up reactions. You know, like lying when you post a thread.

You're a troll, dude. laugh out loud
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02-20-2013 at 02:07 PM.
02-20-2013 at 02:07 PM.
OT to the max?
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02-20-2013 at 02:09 PM.
02-20-2013 at 02:09 PM.
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OT to the max?
It's the lounge. You're lucky it didn't go OT 12 posts in. laugh out loud
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02-20-2013 at 02:15 PM.
02-20-2013 at 02:15 PM.
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I feel like this whole thread is either some troll, someone who is just genuinely completely clues, or just some joke...
maybe you 2 can go try to pick up women together?

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Maybe I should ask her for a pic to prove its her....
look at what that got teo
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02-20-2013 at 02:25 PM.
02-20-2013 at 02:25 PM.
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No, trolling is posting for the sole purpose of stirring up reactions. You know, like lying when you post a thread.

You're a troll, dude. laugh out loud
Oh ok, huh that is new to me. Well I guess I am what I am then...

I offer sound advice at times too, so it helps.

The only problem I run into now is when I actually need to ask something seriously, I wont know if it will be taken as a joke or as something serious.

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maybe you 2 can go try to pick up women together?


look at what that got teo
I can already pick up girls though... I dont need the internet for that.
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02-20-2013 at 02:27 PM.
02-20-2013 at 02:27 PM.
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OT to the max?
You're never gonna get OT at the rate you're going.
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02-20-2013 at 02:28 PM.
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I can already pick up girls though... I dont need the internet for that.
well help him out then!
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02-20-2013 at 02:34 PM.
02-20-2013 at 02:34 PM.
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well help him out then!
I really dont get it though, what makes it so hard for someone to just approach a girl, in real-life, and start talking? I know everyone is different, but still... I do have to say that the internet and technology has definitely shaped it though. In the past when you did not have these things people would actually go out, socialize and meet and play with friends. Now a days people could spend their whole life online.

I wont lie, I do it sometimes too, you spend 30 mins on the computer and before you know it, it has been 2-3 hours (alright, in my case I was playing some game online). You can say and in a way do whatever you want on there and most the time people do not know who you are, so it is instant freedom. Anyway, the point is you still need to hang on to reality as well, and that is going out and meeting new people.

To the OP, I am assuming you are in college bc you I think you said so, so get out and meet new people, this time of your life and the place is the best for it. Especially if you are a freshman, and everyone if new, you can talk to any girl and practically they just hand you their number(s)...
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02-20-2013 at 02:38 PM.
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I really dont get it though, what makes it so hard for someone to just approach a girl, in real-life, and start talking? I know everyone is different, but still... I do have to say that the internet and technology has definitely shaped it though. In the past when you did not have these things people would actually go out, socialize and meet and play with friends. Now a days people could spend their whole life online.

I wont lie, I do it sometimes too, you spend 30 mins on the computer and before you know it, it has been 2-3 hours (alright, in my case I was playing some game online). You can say and in a way do whatever you want on there and most the time people do not know who you are, so it is instant freedom. Anyway, the point is you still need to hang on to reality as well, and that is going out and meeting new people.

To the OP, I am assuming you are in college bc you I think you said so, so get out and meet new people, this time of your life and the place is the best for it. Especially if you are a freshman, and everyone if new, you can talk to any girl and practically they just hand you their number(s)...
I don't get why college kids would use online dating either. I guess everyone is different but if you're not out of your shell by college you gotta push yourself to get out.
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02-20-2013 at 03:37 PM.
02-20-2013 at 03:37 PM.
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It has been a while since I've been in a relationship with someone, like four years. I met a girl online via online dating site and really thought I hit it off. She's attractive and has an interesting personality. I got her number last night and we've been communicating since then. Two questions:
I asked if she wanted to meet, response: "Maybe Smilie"
How am I supposed to take that? Good/bad?

Also, earlier when we first met, she mentioned she's not the best at asking questions (ain't that the truth). So, I've been asking her some questions and been getting one word answers in return. Is this good/bad/neutral?

I don't want to screw this relationship up. Advice please?
OMG, first of all RELAX.. you are putting way too much pressure on yourself.
Next time you are on chat .. say this.. "So, we're meeting this friday night, right?"
See what her response is to that. If she has an excuse, ask her when a better time would be.
In general, women like to be pursued, but they also like a guy that will take charge.
Be assertive.

Heck, she might be a bored married woman, just looking for company online. Or a dude faking being a woman.. Or countless other BS.. Be assertive and find out one way or another if she's willing to meet you or not.. Better to find out now, than to waste months of time chatting with false hope.
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02-20-2013 at 03:48 PM.
02-20-2013 at 03:48 PM.
Quote from jj.12321 :
OMG, first of all RELAX.. you are putting way too much pressure on yourself.
Next time you are on chat .. say this.. "So, we're meeting this friday night, right?"
See what her response is to that. If she has an excuse, ask her when a better time would be.
In general, women like to be pursued, but they also like a guy that will take charge.
Be assertive.

Heck, she might be a bored married woman, just looking for company online. Or a dude faking being a woman.. Or countless other BS.. Be assertive and find out one way or another if she's willing to meet you or not.. Better to find out now, than to waste months of time chatting with false hope.
I don't plan to wait months to find out. I asked her to video chat tonight to figure it out for sure.
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02-20-2013 at 04:22 PM.
02-20-2013 at 04:22 PM.
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I don't plan to wait months to find out. I asked her to video chat tonight to figure it out for sure.
I find that so funny... LOL, I have never video chatted before, so I am finding it a bit amusing. No offense, I am not making fun or you or anything, but I guess we can relate in a way, although you took your method with the internet, my issues were always in real-life/reality. I have used facetime before, dont know if that counts but it was with my parents.
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02-20-2013 at 04:31 PM.
02-20-2013 at 04:31 PM.
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I find that so funny... LOL, I have never video chatted before, so I am finding it a bit amusing. No offense, I am not making fun or you or anything, but I guess we can relate in a way, although you took your method with the internet, my issues were always in real-life/reality. I have used facetime before, dont know if that counts but it was with my parents.
I find both quite awkward. I mean, once I know the person, it's fine, but before, they're total strangers - and usually stay that way.
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