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I'm so pissed at DBF anyone care to give insight as to a man's thinking?

2,257 1,117 December 16, 2009 at 07:18 AM
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In March,before we were officially dating,I found naked pictures of this girl on his phone. I got incredibly pissed and confronted him about them. He said we weren't officially dating although we were exclusive so I couldn't get mad at him bc I didn't know what I wanted to do. Fast forward until now, he's been still talking to her and texting her,I've known it all along and I've expressed to him how much I don't like him talking to her etc. He always brings back the part that we weren't "dating" when she sent the pics,and since we've been dating she hasn't sent him any racy pics. I've been trying to be patient and understanding about it but I'm really insecure about this whole situation and I've told him how I feel,but it still does no good. Am I acting irrationally? Do I have a reason to be upset about him still talking to her etc? She's on his facebook and they chit chat alot,but yet he asked me to remove my ex because he didn't like it,and I did because I didn't want him to feel threatened or insecure about it. It gets to the point that when I see her posting in response to him that I clinch my fists because it makes me so mad.
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emelvee
12-16-2009 at 07:21 AM.
12-16-2009 at 07:21 AM.
I assume you have a foot with which you can kick him out of your life.
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12-16-2009 at 07:24 AM.
12-16-2009 at 07:24 AM.
Before I do that I need to find out if my feelings are justified... I do love him and I would like to either work this out,or come to see his POV and get over it. I'm trying to understand this from his side but sadly I just don't get it. To me the fact that we weren't "officially dating" is a moot point. He still got naked pictures from a girl and still continues to talk to her.
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emelvee
12-16-2009 at 07:25 AM.
12-16-2009 at 07:25 AM.
Sounds like he doesn't care how you feel. Wouldn't take much more for me. Dontknow
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Pinstripes
12-16-2009 at 07:25 AM.
12-16-2009 at 07:25 AM.
If you ditched your ex he should ditch this trickster... Can I Facebook her?
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emelvee
12-16-2009 at 07:26 AM.
12-16-2009 at 07:26 AM.
and ibt "we'll need to see the pics to give any sound advice"
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12-16-2009 at 07:26 AM.
12-16-2009 at 07:26 AM.
Sigh, I'm just conflicted about this. Is it any different that him still talking to an ex? He's seen her naked,yet they would be friends. I'm still friends with 1 of my ex's,although we do have a child together....

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If you ditched your ex he should ditch this trickster... Can I Facebook her?
I don't find her attractive at all. She looks like a horse to me.
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emelvee
12-16-2009 at 07:27 AM.
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How does he explain his request to remove your ex, while he won't do the same?
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hammondc
12-16-2009 at 07:27 AM.
12-16-2009 at 07:27 AM.
1. Agree with the 'you we not dating when the pics were sent part'
2. How often is he talking / txting her?
3. I think it is BS that he demands you remove your ex, but he gets to keep his.
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Pinstripes
12-16-2009 at 07:27 AM.
12-16-2009 at 07:27 AM.
I lost a good friend because she was Miss New York and I had to cut ties with her because my wife didn't want her invited to our wedding and upstage her. Sad considering I knew her longer than my wife at the time 6 years to 3 years...

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Sigh, I'm just conflicted about this. Is it any different that him still talking to an ex? He's seen her naked,yet they would be friends. I'm still friends with 1 of my ex's,although we do have a child together....



I don't find her attractive at all. She looks like a horse to me.
Do you think she wants your BF's carrot?
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12-16-2009 at 07:29 AM.
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I am still 'friends' with my exes, but we very rarely talk.
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12-16-2009 at 07:29 AM.
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Sounds like he doesn't care how you feel. Wouldn't take much more for me. Dontknow
This is why I'm conflicted. In other areas of our lives he really does care how I feel. We both listen to each other and try to be the best for the other person. I'm not sure why he's being so stubborn (in my eyes) by still talking to this girl. We are having a difference of opinion and views with this matter. Guess I'm just trying to see it from his POV since my POV isn't getting us anywhere.
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12-16-2009 at 07:31 AM.
12-16-2009 at 07:31 AM.
we need to see the pics too so we can help you better Stick Out Tongue
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12-16-2009 at 07:32 AM.
12-16-2009 at 07:32 AM.
we'll need to see the pics to give any sound advice



OP -- he's obviously keeping her around just in case for a fark buddy. there is no other reason for a guy to keep a piece of ass on the side who keeps sending him naked pictures.
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12-16-2009 at 07:35 AM.
12-16-2009 at 07:35 AM.
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Sigh, I'm just conflicted about this. Is it any different that him still talking to an ex? He's seen her naked,yet they would be friends. I'm still friends with 1 of my ex's,although we do have a child together....
I think it's different than talking to someone you had sex with, personally.
This sounds like it may be more of a trust issue. Are you worried he's going to cheat on you with her?
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