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28,148 544 May 23, 2007 at 09:32 AM in Finance (12)
My Method: after date numero uno: wait no less than 3 days before calling. [i]I went out monday last week, called her sunday. Always make first conversation after first date brief (2-3 minutes TOPS). I said had great time wednesday, how about yourself, quick small talk, and ended with a nice "hope we can get together again sometime soon if ya interested". she ends with a most definitely and said I would call her in a few days. NEVER call back less than AT LEAST a week, typically if they dont call by then, they arent/werent interested. Basically putting the ball somewhat in their court if they really want to get together SOONER rather than LATER. She called back today and said, "hey you never said when you want to get together again." Date 2 saturday nod

HOOK and FKIN SINKERED!

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05-23-2007 at 01:47 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:47 PM.
Quote from BostonGirl :
Ok throwing my 2cents in here...lol

1. I think people might be seeing it as a game cuz you ended your post with "HOOK and FKIN SINKERED!"...so it's like you won something, kinda like fishing which is considered a game.

2.FYI to ALL men....WOMEN don't sit by the phone waiting for you to call, some of us actually have better things to do in those 3-7 days that you debate when it is or is not "too soon" to call us.

3. If I like a guy I'm going to call him weither he calls me or not, and if he didnt give me his number then he's not worth my time.

4. If there needs to be a RULE then nothing in the relationship will ever last or be real. Men just need to be themselves and cutout the BS. And if the women is so stuck on herself that if bothers her what day you call then she probally is not worth the trouble to begin with.

AND lastly your "dating method" is not really a dating method, more of your idea on how men think they need to pick up a chick. And also if this "Method" works so well and you've used it many of times, then why are you still single and looking for a date using the same "method"?? In other words maybe someone needs to post a dating "How to KEEP a women "method""LMAO LMAO

(nothing to do with you being married before, sometimes shit dont work out. I was referring to other then that ex)
I was married/involved for 4 years and recently divorced that is why i am CURRENTLY single. as far as the rest goes, i have only been dumped TWO TIMES in my life. once when I was a junior in HS, the other some bimbo for college. all the other times it was mutual its not going anywhere, or i tossed her ass to the curb. So as far as your point of things not working for me and why am I single. My shorter answer would have to be

"because I choose to be" ?

at no point have I thought during this that a woman is sitting on the other end in a chair waiting for her phone to ring, never crossed my mind in the slightest. and men can cut out the BS/games we play when women cut the BS/games they play. its not a one way street kiddo.
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05-23-2007 at 01:50 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:50 PM.
You guys are harshin on Cav too much... he just came in here swingin his thang around cuz he's all syched he's got a date after getting out of a shitty relationship/divorce. And really... I've seen far worse "games" out there in the dating world.
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BostonGirl
05-23-2007 at 01:51 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:51 PM.
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1. Maybe.... but not really.
2. I understand that, but it's still in the back of your mind, and that's what i meant when I said that.
3. I agree
4. I agree 100%

comments after that: I see where he's coming from, and I don't agree with you. It's not a way to get in the sack with her, it's a way to get a 2nd date (in his mind).
1.IDK..just saying why some might call it a game, maybe people have diff ideas of what a game is.
2. NO, some "women" really are too busy...LMAO
3. yes
4.and yes

Now the comments after that no way meant he was trying to get anyone in the sack. Just saying long term wise dating. BUT if it's only to get a second date then I agree it is fairly harmless and best of luck with it.nod
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05-23-2007 at 01:53 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:53 PM.
Quote from IVIax :
1. Maybe.... but not really.
2. I understand that, but it's still in the back of your mind, and that's what i meant when I said that.
3. I agree
4. I agree 100%

comments after that: I see where he's coming from, and I don't agree with you. It's not a way to get in the sack with her, it's a way to get a 2nd date (in his mind).
correct. this is in no shape/form/fashion of trying to get her into bed. it is just as you have pointed out, lining up a 2nd date. if above mentioned happens, i will say it, i wont turn it down as I am a guy. BUT, that is not my end goal in this instance at all what so ever. Thats why 1 night stands exist.....

Quote from BostonGirl :
Now the comments after that no way meant he was trying to get anyone in the sack. Just saying long term wise dating. BUT if it's only to get a second date then I agree it is fairly harmless and best of luck with it.nod
it is only for a 2nd date, it is not done repeatively, it is a "time frame" i give her between just the first and second date to really think about if theres ANYTHING there. then by the end of date numero dos, both parties can typically tell how things are going to workout and therefore this action isnt repeated where i wait 3-4 days again before calling to see how she thinks it went how i felt, etc. it is only following date #1.
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ahnil8er
05-23-2007 at 01:56 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:56 PM.
Cav, dont listen to these retards here.

Do your own thing. Be an asshole. Put it in someones butt. Whatever works for you.

The girls on this forum forget that they all liked guys who were assholes. The girls who say they didnt like asshole guys are just kidding themselves.

and, its been a while, but i do remember commenting that Cav's ex-wife was too hot for him, so take it with a grain of salt Wink
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Fallacy
05-23-2007 at 01:57 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:57 PM.
Quote from Drio :
You guys are harshin on Cav too much... he just came in here swingin his thang around cuz he's all syched he's got a date after getting out of a shitty relationship/divorce. And really... I've seen far worse "games" out there in the dating world.
I don't think MOST of us are bashing on cav, I think most of us are giving him our opinions.

And I've said before, and I'll say it again. Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and they all stink.
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05-23-2007 at 01:58 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:58 PM.
this advice would be great if you are 20. Luckily, I've been monogamous for the past decade and dont need to deal with dating games. If you want to get better at picking up women, practice is the way to go. Learn how to make women laugh, show self confidence, ect. Once you've approached enough women, you start to see yourself on another level. Even the most beautiful women get less and less intimidating.
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05-23-2007 at 01:58 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:58 PM.
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I was married/involved for 4 years and recently divorced that is why i am CURRENTLY single. as far as the rest goes, i have only been dumped TWO TIMES in my life. once when I was a junior in HS, the other some bimbo for college. all the other times it was mutual its not going anywhere, or i tossed her ass to the curb. So as far as your point of things not working for me and why am I single. My shorter answer would have to be

"because I choose to be" ?

at no point have I thought during this that a woman is sitting on the other end in a chair waiting for her phone to ring, never crossed my mind in the slightest. and men can cut out the BS/games we play when women cut the BS/games they play. its not a one way street kiddo.
Oh please hun, dont get me wrong you dont have to explain your life to me. I am no one to talk about your past which I don't know and I'm sure you've had your share of crap from women.

And as far as choosing to be. I don't blame you..Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)

Also I do agree but also dissagree to your last sentance. Because WOMEN are worse then men...lol...I wouldn't want to be a guy trying to get a date in this world today. Forget it, there are some nasty, nasty women out there(attitude wise) And it's those women that make guys think they need a plan or method or whatever. But the good ones really dont give a shit how you go about it, just that you do call period.

Now in my above post I didnt realize this was just about getting a second date, after reading this whole thread I think that point got lost. SO sorry if I offended you.

I wish you the best of luck with this one or another one, with or without methods..ect..hug
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05-23-2007 at 01:59 PM.
05-23-2007 at 01:59 PM.
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I don't think MOST of us are bashing on cav, I think most of us are giving him our opinions.

And I've said before, and I'll say it again. Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and they all stink.
whatever, mine smells like roses and chocolate
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05-23-2007 at 02:00 PM.
05-23-2007 at 02:00 PM.
By the way, ppl have to realize that the real foundation or basis for these "dating rules for the cool man" is really insecurity and fear. And note, part of loving another person is letting go of those insecurities and fears and putting the other person above yourself. If you're not ready for that, then you're not ready to love or be in a relationship.
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05-23-2007 at 02:02 PM.
05-23-2007 at 02:02 PM.
Quote from BostonGirl :
Oh please hun, dont get me wrong you dont have to explain your life to me. I am no one to talk about your past which I don't know and I'm sure you've had your share of crap from women.

And as far as choosing to be. I don't blame you..Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)

Also I do agree but also dissagree to your last sentance. Because WOMEN are worse then men...lol...I wouldn't want to be a guy trying to get a date in this world today. Forget it, there are some nasty, nasty women out there(attitude wise) And it's those women that make guys think they need a plan or method or whatever. But the good ones really dont give a shit how you go about it, just that you do call period.

Now in my above post I didnt realize this was just about getting a second date, after reading this whole thread I think that point got lost. SO sorry if I offended you.

I wish you the best of luck with this one or another one, with or without methods..ect..hug
This thread should turn into people sharing their war wounds, who wants to go first? laugh out loud

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whatever, mine smells like roses and chocolate
So you eat roses and chocolate before you poop? Or do you wipe your ass with roses and chocolate? Confused
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05-23-2007 at 02:04 PM.
05-23-2007 at 02:04 PM.
Quote from ahnil8er :
The girls on this forum forget that they all liked guys who were assholes. The girls who say they didnt like asshole guys are just kidding themselves.
The women will never admit it, but if they think real hard about the last guy who they were insanely attracted to, I guarantee he wasn't calling them on the phone the day after their dates. More than likely he barely gave them the time of day, and they hated it. But they were insanely attracted to the guy...
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05-23-2007 at 02:05 PM.
05-23-2007 at 02:05 PM.
Quote from IVIax :
This thread should turn into people sharing their war wounds, who wants to go first? laugh out loud
Well considering I'm a women who doesn't date OTHER women. I think that keeps me out of that part of this convo.

And to whoever said us women dated aholes before, yes we did and where did it get us???

nod nod

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The women will never admit it, but if they think real hard about the last guy who they were insanely attracted to, I guarantee he wasn't calling them on the phone the day after their dates. More than likely he barely gave them the time of day, and they hated it. But they were insanely attracted to the guy...
Not true in my case, but maybe others. The last guy I was insanely attracted too, I have been with for the last 6 years and been engaged to for over 2 years. And no he wasnt calling me cuz I DIDNT give him my number, I got his.
So I guess I was just always the type who wasnt going to bother with a guy who couldn't give me his number (too many married, liars ect...) But I do have/had a lot of guy friends who got burned by some nasty chicks, so I know how it can be.
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05-23-2007 at 02:08 PM.
05-23-2007 at 02:08 PM.
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The women will never admit it, but if they think real hard about the last guy who they were insanely attracted to, I guarantee he wasn't calling them on the phone the day after their dates. More than likely he barely gave them the time of day, and they hated it. But they were insanely attracted to the guy...
You're comparing 2 extreme's.

We never told Cav to be ass kisser and call her 10 minutes after the date, and smoother her. (he's the one that said that's what he DIDN'T want to do). We told Cav to be honest and straight out, and call her if he liked her, not play games with her.

And yes, I agree some women do like ass holes, but where did it get them? It's a nice play toy, but then they get married to the nice guys.
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05-23-2007 at 02:09 PM.
05-23-2007 at 02:09 PM.
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so with your ignorant and nonsense theory. planning to pickup the dinner tab after a first date is considered a "game" because you have a preconceived plan to pick that tab up and pay for it all out of your pocket. your theory is flawed in so many ways....
No.....picking the tab on the first date is proper etiquette when you're the man. That's not a game, it's common courtesy and politeness. If my theory is flawed, please tell me why I am happily married. And, please tell me why so many ppl I know who practice "the game" are still single and lonely?

And, how is it that my theory is ignorant and nonsensical? Compared to the "man-laws", it's actually a mature way of thinking versus a childish game. Also, please note that I'm NOT making a commentary on your strategy...but rather, on the whole "game" as a whole. Of course, I''m well-versed on its points!Smilie However, I don't practice it since I've grown up!

Furthermore, in stating that the ploy has worked at times and not at other times, don't you think it may be due to the mere fact that the other person didn't like you (or your friend)? Also, don't you think that the girl is well aware of the "man-laws on dating". So, it only looks like you're immature and an amateur if you're abiding by it faithfully. For example, my sister and her friends were teasing her fiancee when talk of their first dates came up and my sister told everyone how her fiancee followed the "3-day rule". To women, it's a silly joke and they ridicule guys who abide by it....just to let you know!

So, don't think I'm attacking you because I'm not.
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