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10,159 December 15, 2011 at 03:00 PM
So, I've been making a lot of homemade pastas lately. My wife has an issue with it. Now, in our household, I do most of the cooking and meal planning. She does the cleaning. In the past few weeks, I've been making homemade pastas (different varieties though each time) about 3-4 days a week for our dinners.

For some reason, it bugs her. When I make the pasta (which only takes 30 minutes max from start to finish) on our day off while the kids are having their lunch, she nags me about why I don't do it while they're napping so I can spend time with them. When I then do it while they're napping, she complains I'm making too much noise. When I do it the night before after we have put the kids to sleep already, she complains I'm making a mess. Note, there's really no mess since it's just a little bit of flour and I clean up after myself.

What is up here?!?!? I just don't understand. Note, she LOVES pasta. But, she keeps telling me why I don't just buy dry pasta instead? I tell her since I like doing it, I think it tastes better, it's relatively cheap, and it can be done very quickly, there's no reason why she should be so annoyed by it. It's not like I'm forcing her to do it. And, it's not like it's taking away from my other "duties".

Women are just too complicated!Confused
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12-15-2011 at 03:07 PM.
12-15-2011 at 03:07 PM.
Tell that bitch to be cool. Say "Bitch, be cool!"
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12-15-2011 at 03:11 PM.
12-15-2011 at 03:11 PM.
You let her out of the kitchen? Confused

/rammy

I have learned that there is usually an underlying issue...that you are neglecting something else by doing that pasta...she's just deflecting what it really is by saying its the kids. IMO
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12-15-2011 at 03:12 PM.
12-15-2011 at 03:12 PM.
Quote from DBC :
Tell that bitch to be cool. Say "Bitch, be cool!"
LOL!!!!

Do I call her honey bunny too?
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12-15-2011 at 03:12 PM.
12-15-2011 at 03:12 PM.
Perhaps she she just trying to say she would like to spend more time with you, in general.
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12-15-2011 at 03:13 PM.
12-15-2011 at 03:13 PM.
The reason she's acting the way she is, is simple...

Bitches be crazy Whee
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z2g
12-15-2011 at 03:18 PM.
12-15-2011 at 03:18 PM.
Quote from .DC. :
You let her out of the kitchen? Confused

/rammy

I have learned that there is usually an underlying issue...that you are neglecting something else by doing that pasta...she's just deflecting what it really is by saying its the kids. IMO
Yeah, I figured that. But, I just can't think of what it can be. I'm a "modern" man. I totally help out with the kids. I get my son ready for school, feed him, bathe him, etc. I also cook our meals. And, I still do the usual husband household work around the house. So, I can't think of anything I'm neglecting.

Like a while back when I was resanding and refinishing the kitchen cabinets on my days off and evenings after work, she would get on my case for not spending time with the kids. DUDE.....you're the one who got all the cabinets water damaged when you used to bathe the babies in the kitchen sink and got them all wet everyday. Now, you're bitchin' at me for trying to fix the mess you caused!?!?! I can't do the crap when they're sleeping cuz you'd nag me about the noise! WTF?!?!?
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12-15-2011 at 03:19 PM.
12-15-2011 at 03:19 PM.
Quote from idkMyBFFist :
The reason she's acting the way she is, is simple...

Bitches be crazy Whee
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12-15-2011 at 03:20 PM.
12-15-2011 at 03:20 PM.
Quote from idkMyBFFist :
The reason she's acting the way she is, is simple...

Bitches be crazy Whee
So true!LMAO
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12-15-2011 at 03:20 PM.
12-15-2011 at 03:20 PM.
Women nag, it's what we do. laugh out loud
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12-15-2011 at 03:23 PM.
12-15-2011 at 03:23 PM.
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Women nag, it's what we do. laugh out loud
From what I've said, can the ladies on here tell me if I'm doing something wrong? I just don't see it and I don't know if it's cuz I'm thinking like a "practical" man.
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12-15-2011 at 03:23 PM.
12-15-2011 at 03:23 PM.
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Yeah, I figured that. But, I just can't think of what it can be. I'm a "modern" man. I totally help out with the kids. I get my son ready for school, feed him, bathe him, etc. I also cook our meals. And, I still do the usual husband household work around the house. So, I can't think of anything I'm neglecting.
Your bedroom performance is either too infrequent or not satisfying.

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Like a while back when I was resanding and refinishing the kitchen cabinets on my days off and evenings after work, she would get on my case for not spending time with the kids. DUDE.....you're the one who got all the cabinets water damaged when you used to bathe the babies in the kitchen sink and got them all wet everyday. Now, you're bitchin' at me for trying to fix the mess you caused!?!?! I can't do the crap when they're sleeping cuz you'd nag me about the noise! WTF?!?!?
Sounds like you both whine a lot Whee
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12-15-2011 at 03:25 PM.
12-15-2011 at 03:25 PM.
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Your bedroom performance is either too infrequent or not satisfying.



Sounds like you both whine a lot Whee
Can't be the sex!Wink
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12-15-2011 at 03:30 PM.
12-15-2011 at 03:30 PM.
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Can't be the sex!Wink
Sex? I said performance. I do sock puppet shows. With three socks. I find women like puppet shows, they often call their friends right in the middle of them...I assume to tell them how great it is.
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12-15-2011 at 03:32 PM.
12-15-2011 at 03:32 PM.
The only thing I can think of is that maybe she doesn't like the fact that I'm a good cook and she isn't a very good cook. She can only make a few things....spaghetti, lasagna, and chicken pho.

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sex? I said performance. I do sock puppet shows. With three socks. I find women like puppet shows, they often call their friends right in the middle of them...i assume to tell them how great it is.
lol!!!!!:p
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