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Real-life drama at the beach ... Rammy's in trouble again ... apparently the wife doesn't like me taking pictures of other women
July 22, 2009 at
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Amongst the ~200 photos I took last week at the beach, I snapped 3-4 pictures of some hotties that were walking up and down the beach. The wife took great offense to this and I thought it was playful at first but (as women are apt to do) an argument ensued which turned into her giving me the cold, silent treatment for the next 24 hours. She indicated I was "to take pictures of only her & the kids".
Disrespectful? Immature? In hindsight a little, but in her words "I'm married, I'm not dead". I wasn't peeping through a peephole at some ESPN hottie, I was taking a picture of someone strolling a few yards in front of me proudly displaying the goods that God gave her. Just how insecure can she be?
Is this a potential for a double standard? The wife had a massage at a day spa from a "young surfer dude" who was checking her out. Do I come out with the directive "no man can touch you except for me at any time". To take it to another level, shouldn't I be able to get lap dances (I don't btw) without feeling guilty. I agree that's extreme, but give me a break.
I thought things had cooled down the next day or two (makeup OTs) but then out of the blue the wife went through and deleted the pictures on my camera - which simply pissed me off. The following is all that's left. It was intended to be a humorous presentation to the lounge: (a) picture of hotties, (b) picture of wife holding up hand in front of camera, (c) picture of ocean as wife punched hubby in stomach.
Disrespectful? Immature? In hindsight a little, but in her words "I'm married, I'm not dead". I wasn't peeping through a peephole at some ESPN hottie, I was taking a picture of someone strolling a few yards in front of me proudly displaying the goods that God gave her. Just how insecure can she be?
Is this a potential for a double standard? The wife had a massage at a day spa from a "young surfer dude" who was checking her out. Do I come out with the directive "no man can touch you except for me at any time". To take it to another level, shouldn't I be able to get lap dances (I don't btw) without feeling guilty. I agree that's extreme, but give me a break.
I thought things had cooled down the next day or two (makeup OTs) but then out of the blue the wife went through and deleted the pictures on my camera - which simply pissed me off. The following is all that's left. It was intended to be a humorous presentation to the lounge: (a) picture of hotties, (b) picture of wife holding up hand in front of camera, (c) picture of ocean as wife punched hubby in stomach.
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She controls what pictures you take. She controls when you have sex (hardly ever).
Of course it's a double standard.. She knows she can walk all over you.
I know this is overly blunt, but you need to read a book on assertiveness so you don't constantly get walked over. She is probably going to throw some tantrums at first, but she needs to learn that you are not her puppet.
At this point, just let it drop and be assertive during the next conflict.
At this point, just let it drop and be assertive during the next conflict.
You did read where Rammy said he wants to stay married, right?
At this point, just let it drop and be assertive during the next conflict.
You did read where Rammy said he wants to stay married, right?
What he did was no different than taking pictures of the ocean or landscape. The wife was very petty to go through and delete his photos. They were his, not hers.
Let's turn it around. Should the man be allowed to forbid her to get messages? Should the man be allowed to go through her stuff and destroy what makes him insecure? I don't think so. If Rammy was a woman poster, and her husband was controlling, I'd give the same advice.
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What he did was no different than taking pictures of the ocean or landscape. The wife was very petty to go through and delete his photos. They were his, not hers.
Let's turn it around. Should the man be allowed to forbid her to get messages? Should the man be allowed to go through her stuff and destroy what makes him insecure? I don't think so. If Rammy was a woman poster, and her husband was controlling, I'd give the same advice.
The deleting of the pics does indicate 'control issues'. She could have asked you nicely to delete them instead of invading your personal space. That would have still been bad but more appropriate. Does she also go through your computer, wallet and pant pockets to. Just because people are married you dont give up the rights to have your own personal space and shit.
He didn't even talk to those women and will never see them again.
Sorry, but the world does not revolve around his wife's misguided insecurities.
How is this any different than Rammy looking at the slickdeals gallery? there's some attractive women in there.
<--- gets same reaction
Like I said before, even the men here thought it was odd and creepy that Rammy was taking these pics. I can only imagine wtf the wife was thinking.
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I believe the term I used was "tell".
Would you like a dictionary?