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Today, a black lady asked me if I was racist. Very long... Okay, go crazy.

3,834 187 July 24, 2009 at 03:56 PM
tl;dr? gtfo then

So I have this training thing this week with a morning class and an afternoon class. Two other people are in the morning class that are also in the afternoon class (plus me) After the first class ended I waited for the (black) girl to come out and I asked her what she was going to do for the break which was three hours long. She said she didn't know but she did not have a car. I said that's okay, I do.

So we went to my car and ended up at Panera. On the way there she asked me where I lived and I told her, and I mentioned how I hated the city and she said yeah you'd probably do better in a less diverse place. (Side note: I don't like the city because there is no grass, its loud, smelly, and there are too many people) I also mentioned that I liked Indian food because there was a place in the plaza. She said she was surprised that I liked 'cultural food'. At that point I knew she thought I was racist.

Once in Panera we started studying for our exam thing and this happened.
Her: Can I asked you a question?
Me: Sure
Her: Are you racist?
Me: ....No?
Her: Of course if you were, you wouldn't say yes.
So I stare at her.. And say nothing.
Her: When you all talk about asians do you group them together or put them into separate categories?
Me: Well what do you mean 'you all'?
Her: You know, White people.
Me: Uhmmm.. Well that question would be like me asking you if all black people like peanut butter and jelly. You can't answer that because you haven't met all black people.
Her: I know, but white people (blablalba, I forget, something stupid.)
Me: Okay.. Well I'll answer the question for myself, because that's the only person I can answer it for.
I answered it.

We stopped talking about race finally and talked about other less awkward stuff.
Then she asked me to drive her home. I said sure because I didn't want her to think I WAS racist..

So then after class

On the ride home, she starts talking about Jews (I mentioned I was raised Jewish) and then she asked me why Jewish parents are so overbearing. I was so farking angry at this point so I counted to three and answered. I explained that you cannot say that all Jewish families have overbearing parents, and that mine are not, but they do want what is best for me. This went on for a bit and I was soooo angry. Eventually the conversation slowed down and then we were at her house.

As I pulled up she asked me if I could pick her up and drop her off Mon and Tues.

I said yes

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07-24-2009 at 03:59 PM.
07-24-2009 at 03:59 PM.
Wow. You were the better person here. Some folks just have a chip on their shoulder and there's not much you can do about it. Are you going to say anything about it tomorrow? She was acting pretty racist to you - does it not count because you're white? Huh

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07-24-2009 at 04:01 PM.
07-24-2009 at 04:01 PM.
Quote from AggieMom :
Wow. You were the better person here. Some folks just have a chip on their shoulder and there's not much you can do about it. Are you going to say anything about it tomorrow? She was acting pretty racist to you - does it not count because you're white? Huh



And Crylol Love it.
I would like to cancel for picking her up next week. Point I can bring up: I'm already a half hour away from the place and she is out of the way and I'd have to wake up at least a half hour early.

But I feel bad because her taxi costs 15 dollars each way.
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07-24-2009 at 04:03 PM.
07-24-2009 at 04:03 PM.
Quote from AggieMom :
She was acting pretty racist to you - does it not count because you're white?
No. Only white people are capable of acting racist or saying racially insensitive things. Didn't you know that?
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07-24-2009 at 04:04 PM.
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...she's a racist....
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07-24-2009 at 04:05 PM.
07-24-2009 at 04:05 PM.
I agree with AggieMom...you held back a lot more than I would have. And even though she was rude to you you are still willing to help her further. Very nice of you.
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07-24-2009 at 04:05 PM.
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Geeze..sounds like she's racist and she's guilting you into picking her up/dropping her off. I mean seriously...wtf? Was she purposely trying to push your buttons?
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...she's a racist....
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07-24-2009 at 04:06 PM.
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No. Only white people are capable of acting racist or saying racially insensitive things. Didn't you know that?
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07-24-2009 at 04:07 PM.
07-24-2009 at 04:07 PM.
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I would like to cancel for picking her up next week. Point I can bring up: I'm already a half hour away from the place and she is out of the way and I'd have to wake up at least a half hour early.

But I feel bad because her taxi costs 15 dollars each way.
I'm sorry I wouldnt pick her ass up.Nono2

Hell I wouldnt have even drove her home. You were being nice to her and she acted like that. Fark that.shake head
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07-24-2009 at 04:07 PM.
07-24-2009 at 04:07 PM.
Can't believe we're at post #11 and no one's whipped this out yet.




For the record, I don't think UTR is a racist.
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07-24-2009 at 04:08 PM.
07-24-2009 at 04:08 PM.
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I agree with AggieMom...you held back a lot more than I would have. And even though she was rude to you you are still willing to help her further. Very nice of you.
I hear ya. I would have told her off.
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07-24-2009 at 04:08 PM.
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Yeah...if you had refused to pick her up (its not like it's on your way) she would have said you were racist even if she didn't honestly think you are.
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07-24-2009 at 04:09 PM.
07-24-2009 at 04:09 PM.
isnt a buss ticket like $2 and you could always ask her to chip in for gas if she's out of your way
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07-24-2009 at 04:09 PM.
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I hear ya. I would have told her off.
Yep...granted I would have tried a few times to point out somewhat tactfully Stick Out Tongue how wrong/judgmental and racists she was being...but if she went any farther in her rudeness I would have let her walk home..
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