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I have stage 4 kidney disease. It was a surprise...but not really. I have been stage 3 for a long time, and ignored all of the warning signs like a dummy just thinking it would go away or get better. Nope laugh out loud

I was hospitalized for 4 days recently and I guess damn near died at some point. A lot of it is a blur. I don't even really remember much about how I got there, just waking up and being really confused. It was awful.

I'm home now and feel.....fine? I guess "lived with stage three for years and never really thought about it" level of fine anyway. That is to say: itchy, twitchty, foggy headed and all of the other goofy stuff that comes with KD that you sort of get used to.

So. Stage three to stage 4/5 borderline, 4 days in hospital, pushed back to stage 4, which is where I am now. I am supposed to get my blood checked monthly and visit a specialist monthly.

But. I don't want to do it. I don't want a transplant or Dialysis if it comes to those things. I'm almost 50. Give a healthy kidney to a young person that needs it.

This post is rambeling as all and probably makes no sense. I am just trying to sort my thoughts.

Anyway. Sorry for the no OT thing. I am hoping to get feedback from any other loungers who have kidney disease of any stage, and if you have later stage, how you have been coping with it.

thanks for reading :hug

Edit: a beautiful SD friend Pm'd this to me, and I am adding it in on 10/26

One day at a time?
Mantras?
"I listen to my body and give it what it needs."
"Every cell in my body is alive and beautiful."

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06-29-2023 at 03:48 PM.
06-29-2023 at 03:48 PM.
Quote from finzz2dlft :
None of these sound appealing. I may just continue my original plan which is to do nothing at all. 2 years ago they told me I would be dead in 6 months and I am still here, so I really am leery of everything they tell me!
Your skepticism is a good thing. It's your body, your life, your decisions. Doctors can (and sometimes do) offer wisdom, but many do not. Speak with more than one, and make your own decision. Do NOT ever let them push you around or treat you badly.
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06-30-2023 at 12:10 AM.
06-30-2023 at 12:10 AM.
Quote from VorlonFrog :
Your skepticism is a good thing. It's your body, your life, your decisions. Doctors can (and sometimes do) offer wisdom, but many do not. Speak with more than one, and make your own decision. Do NOT ever let them push you around or treat you badly.

Thank you!! This is exactly how I feel. I am not trying to hurt my loved ones by avoiding all of this treatment. It's just that I would rather have quality of life over quantity. I don't want to be always hooked to needles and machines. I am so tired of being poked and prodded!

I guess I just want to see where the road goes.
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06-30-2023 at 04:08 AM.
06-30-2023 at 04:08 AM.
Quote from finzz2dlft :
Thank you!! This is exactly how I feel. I am not trying to hurt my loved ones by avoiding all of this treatment. It's just that I would rather have quality of life over quantity. I don't want to be always hooked to needles and machines. I am so tired of being poked and prodded!

I guess I just want to see where the road goes.
Do what is best for you, Finzz. But also know that you have a family here that wants you to be around for a very, very long time so you can continue to give us *bleep* about how the Lounge continues to go downhill. laugh out loud hug
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06-30-2023 at 06:45 AM.
06-30-2023 at 06:45 AM.
Quote from finzz2dlft :
the latest. Met with daiysis RN on Monday.

It was discouraging. There are a few scenarios and they all involve more waiting. I need to gain 40 pounds (I weight 65-70) to be eligible for transplant and/or dialysis. The transplant can be done if I m cancer free (again, more waiting on the 2nd mri) and if I meet the weight and if I can get a donor. A living donor takes three months; a cadaver is 3 years!



The other scenario is sevral different kinds of dislysis all of which require weight gain, lots of needles and just all kinds of yuckiness. I am to meet with a vascular surgeon on the 6th to see about "exapners" in my veins and arteries.



None of these sound appealing. I may just continue my original plan which is to do nothing at all. 2 years ago they told me I would be dead in 6 months and I am still here, so I really am leery of everything they tell me!
hug Thank you for the update hug You've gotta do what you know is right for you Finnz heart


Quote from VorlonFrog :
Your skepticism is a good thing. It's your body, your life, your decisions. Doctors can (and sometimes do) offer wisdom, but many do not. Speak with more than one, and make your own decision. Do NOT ever let them push you around or treat you badly.
Iagree

You are your own best advocate and you know what's best for you.

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Do what is best for you, Finzz. But also know that you have a family here that wants you to be around for a very, very long time so you can continue to give us *bleep* about how the Lounge continues to go downhill. laugh out loud hug
Iagree but that's because I want her around to give us *bleep* in the Lounge and out laugh out loud
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06-30-2023 at 05:59 PM.
06-30-2023 at 05:59 PM.
Just saw this.

hug for Finzz

I thought I only had to give you 30 lbs...now it's 40...that's ALMOST how much I should lose. Why can't they do a fat transplant? I'd line up to volunteer
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Do what is best for you, Finzz. But also know that you have a family here that wants you to be around for a very, very long time so you can continue to give us *bleep* about how the Lounge continues to go downhill. laugh out loud hug

I love the down hill ski race to the bottom which is the Lounge! laugh out loud

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hug Thank you for the update hug You've gotta do what you know is right for you Finnz heart




Iagree

You are your own best advocate and you know what's best for you.



Iagree but that's because I want her around to give us *bleep* in the Lounge and out laugh out loud
SD just not would be the same place with out this little corner of the world, would it? laugh out loud

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Just saw this.

hug for Finzz

I thought I only had to give you 30 lbs...now it's 40...that's ALMOST how much I should lose. Why can't they do a fat transplant? I'd line up to volunteer
My husband said the same thing laugh out loud I want to ask them if they could consider me if I am showing steady weight gain or if it has to be a hard number. I guess I will ask them on Thursday.
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07-02-2023 at 10:15 AM.
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I love the down hill ski race to the bottom which is the Lounge!



SD just not would be the same place with out this little corner of the world, would it?



My husband said the same thing I want to ask them if they could consider me if I am showing steady weight gain or if it has to be a hard number. I guess I will ask them on Thursday.
Please ask "is 20 lbs like 30 lbs if a gal has kidney disease?"
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07-03-2023 at 12:24 PM.
07-03-2023 at 12:24 PM.
Quote from emelvee :
Please ask "is 20 lbs like 30 lbs if a gal has kidney disease?"

OMG, HAHAH!! I totally should, just to see the utter lack of comprehension! LMAO
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07-03-2023 at 02:42 PM.
07-03-2023 at 02:42 PM.
Quote from emelvee :
Please ask "is 20 lbs like 30 lbs if a gal has kidney disease?"
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OMG, HAHAH!! I totally should, just to see the utter lack of comprehension! LMAO
Facepalm Facepalm
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Facepalm Facepalm

I am totally gonna do it!! Might as well have a bit of fun, right? Whee
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07-03-2023 at 03:46 PM.
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"a bit of fun"?!? Since when does The Lounge want to have "a bit of fun"?
We want TONS of fun. Whee Whee Whee
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"a bit of fun"?!? Since when does The Lounge want to have "a bit of fun"?
We want TONS of fun. Whee Whee Whee
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07-05-2023 at 08:17 AM.
07-05-2023 at 08:17 AM.
Quote from finzz2dlft :
the latest. Met with daiysis RN on Monday.

It was discouraging. There are a few scenarios and they all involve more waiting. I need to gain 40 pounds (I weight 65-70) to be eligible for transplant and/or dialysis. The transplant can be done if I m cancer free (again, more waiting on the 2nd mri) and if I meet the weight and if I can get a donor. A living donor takes three months; a cadaver is 3 years!



The other scenario is sevral different kinds of dislysis all of which require weight gain, lots of needles and just all kinds of yuckiness. I am to meet with a vascular surgeon on the 6th to see about "exapners" in my veins and arteries.



None of these sound appealing. I may just continue my original plan which is to do nothing at all. 2 years ago they told me I would be dead in 6 months and I am still here, so I really am leery of everything they tell me!
Prayers for you finzz! I'm glad you are hanging out here a bit more again Smilie heart

You have this whole big gaggle of goofballs for support. Peacehug
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07-05-2023 at 08:50 AM.
07-05-2023 at 08:50 AM.
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Prayers for you finzz! I'm glad you are hanging out here a bit more again Smilie heart

You have this whole big gaggle of goofballs for support. Peacehug

Thank you Schoobs! I know you understand and can relate to this hug I really value your words and support!

Dr apt is tomorrow at 1.
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07-05-2023 at 11:45 AM.
07-05-2023 at 11:45 AM.
Hi finzz2dlft! I know I have seen you around for years but I don't think we have ever chatted. I am an old-time SD member just like yourself Smilie

Anyhow - I just recently stumbled across this information about you and your health issues. I just wanted to say that I wish you the best and I (like everyone in the thread) hope things turn out great for you. Stay strong and positive. Sending lots of good vibes your way Smilie

Take care!
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