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What's your opinion of sexual/non-physical infidelity ?
November 1, 2010 at
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What is your definition of "infidelity"?
If I ask you to rate from 1-10 on three scenarios:
a. Your SO have an "non-physical infidelity" with someone else. eg. texting, or calling with sexual language, or expressing love feelings.
b. Your SO kissed someone else and he/she was not forced to do so.
c. Your SO has a sexual relationship with someone else.
Rating scale:
1. Whatever,I don't care
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.
.
5. unacceptable, we need to have a serious talk.
.
.
.
.
10. It is over, I am going to kill you.
Oh, please post your gender.
PS.
My answer:
Male
a. 5
b. 6
c. 8
If I ask you to rate from 1-10 on three scenarios:
a. Your SO have an "non-physical infidelity" with someone else. eg. texting, or calling with sexual language, or expressing love feelings.
b. Your SO kissed someone else and he/she was not forced to do so.
c. Your SO has a sexual relationship with someone else.
Rating scale:
1. Whatever,I don't care
.
.
.
5. unacceptable, we need to have a serious talk.
.
.
.
.
10. It is over, I am going to kill you.
Oh, please post your gender.
PS.
My answer:
Male
a. 5
b. 6
c. 8
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I always tell him when I catch chicks checking him out though. He gets all cute in a "who me?" kinda way
I always tell him when I catch chicks checking him out though. He gets all cute in a "who me?" kinda way
The sad part is, even though she cheated on me, she still must have been jealous, because when I found a chick 3 months after she cheated and left me, she started really using my son to try to hurt me. The dood she's with still tries to be a douchebag to me. He'll walk in front of my desk, even though that means he has to turn around in the hall and go alllll the way back to the other side of the building to get back to his... and one time he went in a room by my desk just to make a call (something you REALLY don't need a conference room for) and literally started at me through the window while he turned the blinds shut. I'm like..... really??
Don't get me wrong, I still hope the both get hit by a cement truck, but that has nothing to do w/the cheating stuff. I really didn't want to be w/her anyway. She's cute...... with clothes on... but if you consider that statement, then you'll understand why sex w/her was quite a let down
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The sad part is, even though she cheated on me, she still must have been jealous, because when I found a chick 3 months after she cheated and left me, she started really using my son to try to hurt me. The dood she's with still tries to be a douchebag to me. He'll walk in front of my desk, even though that means he has to turn around in the hall and go alllll the way back to the other side of the building to get back to his... and one time he went in a room by my desk just to make a call (something you REALLY don't need a conference room for) and literally started at me through the window while he turned the blinds shut. I'm like..... really??
Don't get me wrong, I still hope the both get hit by a cement truck, but that has nothing to do w/the cheating stuff. I really didn't want to be w/her anyway. She's cute...... with clothes on... but if you consider that statement, then you'll understand why sex w/her was quite a let down
Now that I think about it, he has a thing for whores with no chin...
If I ask you to rate from 1-10 on three scenarios:
a. Your SO have an "non-physical infidelity" with someone else. eg. texting, or calling with sexual language, or expressing love feelings.
b. Your SO kissed someone else and he/she was not forced to do so.
c. Your SO has a sexual relationship with someone else.
Rating scale:
1. Whatever,I don't care
.
.
.
5. unacceptable, we need to have a serious talk.
.
.
.
.
10. It is over, I am going to kill you.
Oh, please post your gender.
a - 9.5
b - 8
b - 8
Maybe this is where I am weird. There are SO many things that factor into this too - so it's not cut and dry. (ie - time together, children involved, other parties blame...)
I feel like no matter what, a physical infidelity is better to me than an emotional one. I have had many friends and even dated a lot over the years. I can say that there were guys I slept with to fulfill a physical need and had no emotion invested whatsoever, and there were guys I never slept with that I had much emotion invested. Yes, sex is a very intimate thing, but I think it would be easier for me to accept that my partner had slipped up, possibly under the influence of alcohol, and faltered under the pressure of a woman offering sex. I find it even easier to understand something like this when the woman, as time goes on slowly quits doing the things that she did in the beginning to make the man feel wanted and sexy.
As relationships go on, people get comfortable. Women DO tend to begin to slack off in the sex department and quit making a man feel like he is highly desirable and attractive. When this begins to happen, I see men go and fall under the spell of a sexy woman and end up being seduced and making a mistake. A mistake of lust based on a primal need to reproduce. This is still not ok by any means, but to me, it is far more forgivable than an emotional affair.
When a man commits himself to me as a whole, the emotional bond and caring that occurs is the most intimate thing possible. I think you can be head over heels in love with someone and you can still appreciate the attraction of another human being. But what keeps you with your partner is love, caring, and an emotional connection. If a man fell victim to another womans thigh highs and stilettos, I can kind of understand that. If you take that caring, loving, trusting intimacy on an emotional level to someone else, I don't think I would ever be able to forgive someone for that. To know that you have violated me on that level I feel would be impossible to ever trust again. Maybe I am different, but if my man ever was going to cheat one me, I pray it is with a bar whore for a one night stand and not some woman he has been friends with and knows on a intimate level with emotions attached.
The sad part is, even though she cheated on me, she still must have been jealous, because when I found a chick 3 months after she cheated and left me, she started really using my son to try to hurt me. The dood she's with still tries to be a douchebag to me. He'll walk in front of my desk, even though that means he has to turn around in the hall and go alllll the way back to the other side of the building to get back to his... and one time he went in a room by my desk just to make a call (something you REALLY don't need a conference room for) and literally started at me through the window while he turned the blinds shut. I'm like..... really??
Don't get me wrong, I still hope the both get hit by a cement truck, but that has nothing to do w/the cheating stuff. I really didn't want to be w/her anyway. She's cute...... with clothes on... but if you consider that statement, then you'll understand why sex w/her was quite a let down
a - 9.5
b - 8
b - 8
Women are evil. Two rules in a relationship. There are two things you NEVER use as a weapon. Kids, and sex.
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Women are evil. Two rules in a relationship. There are two things you NEVER use as a weapon. Kids, and sex.