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if you had the chance to be with a post-op transsexual...

5,257 3,968 September 21, 2011 at 06:50 AM in Chat (2)
...would you?

i started thinking about this recently when i saw an old Real World episode with Katelynn (she used to be a he).

now with Chaz Bono on DWTS (he used to be a she) it has made me curious how others feel.

guys, would you be intimate with a woman who used to be a man?
ladies, would you be intimate with a man who used to be a woman?


i just popped some fresh Popcorn

who are you, and who would you do?
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AbbyGabby
09-21-2011 at 08:08 AM.
09-21-2011 at 08:08 AM.
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ALVSGIRLY
09-21-2011 at 08:09 AM.
09-21-2011 at 08:09 AM.
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OMG

j/k. don't have a foot fetish LMAO
tiny feet are overrated. it's hard to find shoes.
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Landers
09-21-2011 at 08:11 AM.
09-21-2011 at 08:11 AM.
Quote from beanqueen :
Darling, you have your terminology allllll wrong. If you wanna discuss that they're still a "woman" or "man" genetically then you want to use the words "female sex" and "male sex."

Also someone who has gone through the operation is not a "transgender," they are a "transexual." A transgender is someone who associates with the opposite gender as represented by the society they live in. Most people are slightly transgendered, e.g. a chick that works on cars is fullfilling a role that the majority of society sees as an activity for a guy.

Take an actual couse on human sexuality and you'll understand that there are huuuuge differences between "transvestite," "transgender," and "transexual."
Don't particularly have any interest in a course of human sexuality.

My apologies that I'm not aware of the unique differences between transsexual, transgender, transvestite, etc.. You and everyone else in this thread knew exactly what I meant without attacking the terminology that I used. Thanks for the lesson though. Thumbup
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trygve
09-21-2011 at 08:13 AM.
09-21-2011 at 08:13 AM.
Quote from jmegirl :
guys, would you be intimate with a woman who used to be a man?
Probably not. I've known a few transexuals, some post-op and others at various stages of the process, and none of them felt "right" for that kind of attraction (or, odd as it might sound, smelled "right"). But plenty of women don't feel or smell "right" in that way, either, so it's hard to figure out what all goes into attraction (or lack thereof), even for myself.

On the other hand, plenty of people find it a turn-on and a huge number of men seem to be really turned on by the combination of "female top/male bottom" which completely doesn't work for me attraction-wise.

So I'm kinda boring this way, but I really have no urge to extend my range of sexual partners beyond "living human females," so I'm okay with being boring.
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extreme2700
09-21-2011 at 08:13 AM.
09-21-2011 at 08:13 AM.
Quote from ALVSGIRLY :
tiny feet are overrated. it's hard to find shoes.
Try having big feet some time, I wear 14's usually. Not fun then either, so I feel your pain.
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ALVSGIRLY
09-21-2011 at 08:15 AM.
09-21-2011 at 08:15 AM.
Quote from extreme2700 :
Try having big feet some time, I wear 14's usually. Not fun then either, so I feel your pain.
I'd look funny with big feet laugh out loud.
I'm a size 4. It's a pita to find shoes.
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09-21-2011 at 08:15 AM.
09-21-2011 at 08:15 AM.
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extreme2700
09-21-2011 at 08:16 AM.
09-21-2011 at 08:16 AM.
Quote from trygve :
Probably not. I've known a few transexuals, some post-op and others at various stages of the process, and none of them felt "right" for that kind of attraction (or, odd as it might sound, smelled "right"). But plenty of women don't feel or smell "right" in that way, either, so it's hard to figure out what all goes into attraction (or lack thereof), even for myself.

On the other hand, plenty of people find it a turn-on and a huge number of men seem to be really turned on by the combination of "female top/male bottom" which completely doesn't work for me attraction-wise.

So I'm kinda boring this way, but I really have no urge to extend my range of sexual partners beyond "living human females," so I'm okay with being boring.
Welcome to one of the negative points of the abundance of pr0n on the net. When you've seen everything the "normal" stuff simply doesn't cut it anymore. I believe that foot fetishes are also derived from this (I'm not sure however).
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09-21-2011 at 08:17 AM.
09-21-2011 at 08:17 AM.
Quote from extreme2700 :
I have to agree. I've always said you're born the way you were meant to be born. I'm not even a religious guy and I believe that. None of this "woman born in a man's body" business, I don't believe that to be true. If someone told me that I'd tell them that they're gay and that maybe they should just come to grips with that.
So suppose a guy dates women. Then he gets a sex change, and still dates women. Is this person gay?
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extreme2700
09-21-2011 at 08:18 AM.
09-21-2011 at 08:18 AM.
Quote from ALVSGIRLY :
I'd look funny with big feet laugh out loud.
I'm a size 4. It's a pita to find shoes.
Wow, you are tiny...and yes you'd look odd with some 14's. Wink
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beanqueen
09-21-2011 at 08:18 AM.
09-21-2011 at 08:18 AM.
Quote from extreme2700 :
I have to agree. I've always said you're born the way you were meant to be born. I'm not even a religious guy and I believe that. None of this "woman born in a man's body" business, I don't believe that to be true. If someone told me that I'd tell them that they're gay and that maybe they should just come to grips with that.
Not necessarily, many people experience the feeling that who they are doesn't fit with society's view of their sex when placed in a certain gender role. I just can't agree with you thinking someone is meant to be born a certain way, when genetics is such a complicated thing and so much can go wrong with the way genes split and align, etc. That's why there are things like "birth defects," if we saw everything as if it were meant to be that way, it wouldn't be referred to as a "defect."

I'm in no way saying that trans-anything is a brain/body defect. I'm just saying that unless you never see anything as a "defect" then your logic is wrong. Things happen and don't quite fit into a black and white ideal, and people will find a way to fit their feelings into a societal role, because we are group creatures and need to be able to work within the society.
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09-21-2011 at 08:23 AM.
09-21-2011 at 08:23 AM.
Quote from Frogstar :
So suppose a guy dates women. Then he gets a sex change, and still dates women. Is this person gay?
Good question. I guess I'm glad I don't really have to deal with it.

In my hypothetical statement to someone getting a sex change I'd make the one statement(if I was even in the mood to say anything) and be done with it. It's not as if I'm going to attempt to talk them out of anything, it's their life they can live it how they want.
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09-21-2011 at 08:24 AM.
09-21-2011 at 08:24 AM.
Quote from beanqueen :
Not necessarily, many people experience the feeling that who they are doesn't fit with society's view of their sex when placed in a certain gender role. I just can't agree with you thinking someone is meant to be born a certain way, when genetics is such a complicated thing and so much can go wrong with the way genes split and align, etc. That's why there are things like "birth defects," if we saw everything as if it were meant to be that way, it wouldn't be referred to as a "defect."

I'm in no way saying that trans-anything is a brain/body defect. I'm just saying that unless you never see anything as a "defect" then your logic is wrong. Things happen and don't quite fit into a black and white ideal, and people will find a way to fit their feelings into a societal role, because we are group creatures and need to be able to work within the society.
Lemme guess, you have some sort of psych degree or at the least a minor in it.
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beanqueen
09-21-2011 at 08:26 AM.
09-21-2011 at 08:26 AM.
Quote from Landers :
Don't particularly have any interest in a course of human sexuality.

My apologies that I'm not aware of the unique differences between transsexual, transgender, transvestite, etc.. You and everyone else in this thread knew exactly what I meant without attacking the terminology that I used. Thanks for the lesson though. Thumbup
I'm not trying to attack you, it's simply that so many people use the terminology wrong, and it makes it difficult for people to come to an understanding of what is actually going on. The only reason I knew what you meant is because you explained it. I simply gave you the correct word for your definition. This is a very confusing subject and it's easier if this topic at least has a terminology base for discussion.

Maybe this isn't an important topic to you, but I know lots of people and even some on this board that deal with these issues day in and day out and it never hurts to have a little bit of a better understanding of the society.
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09-21-2011 at 08:28 AM.
09-21-2011 at 08:28 AM.
Quote from Landers :
Same for any dude that has surgery to look like a woman.
You were just lucky that you did not need the surgery Wink
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