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Paint the Motha Pink: An Open Letter to the SD Community
November 17, 2006 at
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Dear You (this is you: https://slickdeals.net/forums/showpost.php?p=
Yes, YOU, you know who you are and what you did. Although I know that the result was unintended, I need you to know what your act did for me.
I was beginning to lose what little faith I had in the people who occupy this little corner of cyberspace. Sniping, in-fighting, rumor, gossip, and the constant barage of sexually explicit posts have been weighing on me to the point where I was beginning to wonder what this place held for me. I am not without fault in this so I am not pointing fingers. I will say that having such behavior reflected back at me has given me pause.
A deeper concern has been for and about the women of SD who, probably in a spirit of fun, maybe to gain notice, choose to objectify themselves. I can't help but wonder about the effect of online behavior on real life self image and esteem. I worry that bringing one's self down to that lowest common denominator here so frequently will have a negative effect real life. It is so easy for people to judge us by the limited input of what they see on these pages. Too many have forsaken their multi-faceted personalities of intelligent, caring, witty, fun people for jaw dropping titillation. It is up to each of us to choose our own behavior, but we can't chose how we are perceived and then treated by others. If that is what you are putting out there, then you are going to be treated accordingly, in that one dimension. I was truly one glossy-lipped, cherry-slurping avatar away from leaving SD for good.
Considering that the above represents where my mind has been, I can't tell you how much your show of support and solidarity to our dear friend meant to me. I know you did it for her and I know that it means so much to her, but I couldn't let what your act meant to me go unstated. Last night, as I watched avatar after avatar change, I was moved to tears. (see the pink avatars here: https://slickdeals.net/forums/showpost.php?p=
Thank you, dear friend, for showing me the heart and soul of it.
CD
Yes, YOU, you know who you are and what you did. Although I know that the result was unintended, I need you to know what your act did for me.
I was beginning to lose what little faith I had in the people who occupy this little corner of cyberspace. Sniping, in-fighting, rumor, gossip, and the constant barage of sexually explicit posts have been weighing on me to the point where I was beginning to wonder what this place held for me. I am not without fault in this so I am not pointing fingers. I will say that having such behavior reflected back at me has given me pause.
A deeper concern has been for and about the women of SD who, probably in a spirit of fun, maybe to gain notice, choose to objectify themselves. I can't help but wonder about the effect of online behavior on real life self image and esteem. I worry that bringing one's self down to that lowest common denominator here so frequently will have a negative effect real life. It is so easy for people to judge us by the limited input of what they see on these pages. Too many have forsaken their multi-faceted personalities of intelligent, caring, witty, fun people for jaw dropping titillation. It is up to each of us to choose our own behavior, but we can't chose how we are perceived and then treated by others. If that is what you are putting out there, then you are going to be treated accordingly, in that one dimension. I was truly one glossy-lipped, cherry-slurping avatar away from leaving SD for good.
Considering that the above represents where my mind has been, I can't tell you how much your show of support and solidarity to our dear friend meant to me. I know you did it for her and I know that it means so much to her, but I couldn't let what your act meant to me go unstated. Last night, as I watched avatar after avatar change, I was moved to tears. (see the pink avatars here: https://slickdeals.net/forums/showpost.php?p=
Thank you, dear friend, for showing me the heart and soul of it.
CD
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he was just referring to the fact that so many people have changed their avatars to pink ribbons in support of Schbusdrvr (she is having her surgery today).
it started last night, I think, and it was just so profound and heart-warming to see the avatars changing so quickly.
I think he is just saying that sometimes the Lounge can seem like a place with nothing but sex/flirting, but it is heart-warming to see that it is much deeper than that ....
we are all just people who care about a fellow-lounger.
that is what the SD Lounge is all about.
I love you all
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Tada!
**but runs away anyway**
We refer to that as the "user interface"
he was just referring to the fact that so many people have changed their avatars to pink ribbons in support of Schbusdrvr (she is having her surgery today).
it started last night, I think, and it was just so profound and heart-warming to see the avatars changing so quickly.
I think he is just saying that sometimes the Lounge can seem like a place with nothing but sex/flirting, but it is heart-warming to see that it is much deeper than that ....
we are all just people who care about a fellow-lounger.
that is what the SD Lounge is all about.
I love you all
Ohhh, okay. I was having trouble connecting the flirting/gossiping part with the avatar thing, lol. My mind is off today. I do agree that it's wonderful to know that Schoob has the support of everyone here (I had heard she was having surgery, but didn't know what for until I saw all of the ribbons)... I hope all goes well, and I'll be praying for her also!
She's in good hands
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