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Paint the Motha Pink: An Open Letter to the SD Community

9,603 November 17, 2006 at 02:44 AM in Cool (7)
Dear You (this is you: https://slickdeals.net/forums/showpost.php?p=4532467&postcount=379)

Yes, YOU, you know who you are and what you did. Although I know that the result was unintended, I need you to know what your act did for me.

I was beginning to lose what little faith I had in the people who occupy this little corner of cyberspace. Sniping, in-fighting, rumor, gossip, and the constant barage of sexually explicit posts have been weighing on me to the point where I was beginning to wonder what this place held for me. I am not without fault in this so I am not pointing fingers. I will say that having such behavior reflected back at me has given me pause.

A deeper concern has been for and about the women of SD who, probably in a spirit of fun, maybe to gain notice, choose to objectify themselves. I can't help but wonder about the effect of online behavior on real life self image and esteem. I worry that bringing one's self down to that lowest common denominator here so frequently will have a negative effect real life. It is so easy for people to judge us by the limited input of what they see on these pages. Too many have forsaken their multi-faceted personalities of intelligent, caring, witty, fun people for jaw dropping titillation. It is up to each of us to choose our own behavior, but we can't chose how we are perceived and then treated by others. If that is what you are putting out there, then you are going to be treated accordingly, in that one dimension. I was truly one glossy-lipped, cherry-slurping avatar away from leaving SD for good.

Considering that the above represents where my mind has been, I can't tell you how much your show of support and solidarity to our dear friend meant to me. I know you did it for her and I know that it means so much to her, but I couldn't let what your act meant to me go unstated. Last night, as I watched avatar after avatar change, I was moved to tears. (see the pink avatars here: https://slickdeals.net/forums/showpost.php?p=4523013&postcount=174) Your unsolicited act of kindness renewed my faith in humankind. Most known for sarcastic and caustic comments, I want you to know that I am completely serious when I say this. You blew me away! I appreciate, beyond my capacity to communicate, what you have done. Your small act has had a huge impact.

Thank you, dear friend, for showing me the heart and soul of it.

CD

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obekaho
11-17-2006 at 09:44 AM.
11-17-2006 at 09:44 AM.
Grouphug Kiss for my favorite bus driver... your in my prayers!!! heart
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finzz2dlft
11-17-2006 at 09:45 AM.
11-17-2006 at 09:45 AM.
Quote from Ram|bunc|tious View quoted comment :
I fooled around a bit today in case someone is looking for a custom avatar...

Those are AWESOME!! Great job!!
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11-17-2006 at 09:46 AM.
11-17-2006 at 09:46 AM.
Quote from Ram|bunc|tious View quoted comment :
I fooled around a bit today in case someone is looking for a custom avatar...
Those are really good. Thumbsup
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Iamsorry
11-17-2006 at 09:47 AM.
11-17-2006 at 09:47 AM.
awesome avatars all!


TRIPLE A!

Big Grin
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BrownEyedGirl
11-17-2006 at 10:12 AM.
11-17-2006 at 10:12 AM.
I saw all the pink popping up before I went to bed last night. Now that I know why, I am more than happy to show my support.

hug
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11-17-2006 at 10:12 AM.
11-17-2006 at 10:12 AM.
Quote from AggieMomx2 View quoted comment :
I'm planning to stay pink until she's back to remind me to keep her in my thoughts and prayers as she recovers.
I looooove this avy.
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Iaaaiws
11-17-2006 at 10:33 AM.
11-17-2006 at 10:33 AM.
Quote from caveat depascor View quoted comment :
Dear You,

Yes, YOU, you know who you are and what you did. Although I know that the result was unintended, I need you to know what your act did for me.

I was beginning to lose what little faith I had in the people who occupy this little corner of cyberspace. Sniping, in-fighting, rumor, gossip, and the constant barage of sexually explicit posts have been weighing on me to the point where I was beginning to wonder what this place held for me. I am not without fault in this so I am not pointing fingers. I will say that having such behavior reflected back at me has given me pause.

A deeper concern has been for and about the women of SD who, probably in a spirit of fun, maybe to gain notice, choose to objectify themselves. I can't help but wonder about the effect of online behavior on real life self image and esteem. I worry that bringing one's self down to that lowest common denominator here so frequently will have a negative effect real life. It is so easy for people to judge us by the limited input of what they see on these pages. Too many have forsaken their multi-faceted personalities of intelligent, caring, witty, fun people for jaw dropping titillation. It is up to each of us to choose our own behavior, but we can't chose how we are perceived and then treated by others. If that is what you are putting out there, then you are going to be treated accordingly, in that one dimension. I was truly one glossy-lipped, cherry-slurping avatar away from leaving SD for good.

Considering that the above represents where my mind has been, I can't tell you how much your show of support and solidarity to our dear friend meant to me. I know you did it for her and I know that it means so much to her, but I couldn't let what your act meant to me go unstated. Last night, as I watched avatar after avatar change, I was moved to tears. Your unsolicited act of kindness renewed my faith in humankind. Most known for sarcastic and caustic comments, I want you to know that I am completely serious when I say this. You blew me away! I appreciate, beyond my capacity to communicate, what you have done. You small act has had a huge impact.

Thank you, dear friend, for showing me the heart and soul of it.

CD

CD you are awesomehug hug

I also knew I was worried about you for a reason. Thank you for staying--you are very important here. Your post says so many things that I also feel and fear. What is important is all the caring and love that was so readily shared when it was needed.

There really are a lot of great people here.
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caveat depascor
11-17-2006 at 10:42 AM.
11-17-2006 at 10:42 AM.
This outpouring of support for Schbusdrvr is amazing. Logging in to see more and more and more pink ribbons, well, it is beyond anything I ever thought would happen. Spontaneous acts of kindness from so many. worship
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Nikayla
11-17-2006 at 10:52 AM.
11-17-2006 at 10:52 AM.
................
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KTMay
11-17-2006 at 10:56 AM.
11-17-2006 at 10:56 AM.
Quote from maxxdragon View quoted comment :
K I added a pink ribbon to a new goat. It's not as nice as some by I did do it myself so that should count for something! All for the Schoob!!! hug Kiss

Awwww, Max! That's great! I love it, buddy!
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sassysour
11-17-2006 at 10:57 AM.
11-17-2006 at 10:57 AM.
beautiful letter CD *sniff*
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KTMay
11-17-2006 at 10:58 AM.
11-17-2006 at 10:58 AM.
Quote from Ram|bunc|tious View quoted comment :
I fooled around a bit today in case someone is looking for a custom avatar...
Would be cool to sticky this to a support thread for her!!!

That is great, Ram!

Any mods willing to stick this somewhere on the lounge page????

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Nikayla
11-17-2006 at 11:03 AM.
11-17-2006 at 11:03 AM.
..........
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Ram|bunc|tious
11-17-2006 at 11:15 AM.
11-17-2006 at 11:15 AM.
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I kept the image wistful, must like the poor girl in the image Comfort

Now how's about that sandwich? Wink
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WoodyWoodPecker
11-17-2006 at 11:17 AM.
11-17-2006 at 11:17 AM.
I had been trying to decide what to change my avi to so I could show support and this 1 fits perfectly! It is not my creation so I take no credit for it but it just fits too good.Thanks Rammy! In my prayers Schoob!hug hug hug hug hug
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