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So my wife is dating this guy...

8,512 793 July 5, 2007 at 07:19 AM in Finance (13)
..I think it's time to dump her. Should we get divorced?

She went out last Saturday night with some guy, stayed out until 1 am. Then on Tuesday, she's out again until 1 am, says they went to eat and then a movie!!?! Last night, 1:30. It's getting later, I guess it's time to dump her! Sadwalk

What would you do?
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GeminiiGirl
07-05-2007 at 08:26 AM.
07-05-2007 at 08:26 AM.
talk it out like normal people. if it cannot be resolved, file for divorce.
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Stoneyce
07-05-2007 at 08:27 AM.
07-05-2007 at 08:27 AM.
When it comes to affairs of the heart, cheating will do in the best of people. No matter what some people here might say, no person who loves you would chose to be out with someone else. It is now time to look out for # 1. Some things you can do and they helped me out significantly.
1) Get an attorney
2) Cancel joint accounts
3) Do NOT move out. Not until you talk with the attorney
4) Withdraw half the money from joint accounts. Save some money
5) Safeguard personal property.

There is no need for further discussion. Once someone cheats then loving them again destroys a part of you and you end up hating them. Cheating is not just physical and you will never trust again. Every time she decides to go anywhere you will always have it in your mind and it is no way to live. Walk away, it is better to walk alone than to live in Hell.
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stealth
07-05-2007 at 08:28 AM.
07-05-2007 at 08:28 AM.
Quote from Peachyum :
Have you talked to the children to see how they feel? Their lives are in the balance on what happens here too. Sadwalk

Well, just because she's married doesn't mean she needed to give up having friends anymore than you did. I understand that coming home at 1AM is harsh, but, that doesn't mean she unequivocally has become the guys mattress. You need to be positive on what her intentions are with this guy before you disband and usurp the lives of 7 (counts household population from memory) people. Wink
Okay, I looked up "usurp". laugh out loud You make a good point.

But I just hate all the drama that my life has become. Why can't I just come home and be happy? It's not a good relationship. I have to weigh that, too.
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Caydensmom
07-05-2007 at 08:31 AM.
07-05-2007 at 08:31 AM.
Quote from stealth :
Okay, I looked up "usurp". laugh out loud You make a good point.

But I just hate all the drama that my life has become. Why can't I just come home and be happy? It's not a good relationship. I have to weigh that, too.
Relationships have peeks and valley's. Things aren't always perfect and happy. That is just to be expected. You both promised to love and cherish each other through good AND bad times. You two really need to talk.
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AggieMom
07-05-2007 at 08:31 AM.
07-05-2007 at 08:31 AM.
Comfort So sorry you're going through this. I have nothing to add... just Comfort.
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~Precious~
07-05-2007 at 08:33 AM.
07-05-2007 at 08:33 AM.
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you might be wrong here. It is not like...you become married..and your whole world shrinks down to one person..husband, friend, everything.

With my bf, I pretty much made him everything..for me.friend..bf, co- diet-buster ..everything..but i ended up losing most of my friends because i was always always hanging out with him. not that i regret it..but i'd like to have my friends too ..ya know

my best friend is a guy..whom i hang out with often. i go out to a bar or club with him..on fridays..or weekends..and ther have been times i came home at 5:00 in the morning..now..i don expect my bf to dump me!!

be sure before you take a decision
just wanted to add..i don have any kids..so..doesnt make a difference if i dont clean the home for a day laugh out loud
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~Kimber~
07-05-2007 at 08:34 AM.
07-05-2007 at 08:34 AM.
I'm sorry, I haven't read every post, but have you straight out asked her what her what the nature of her relationship is with this guy?
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Shucksgirl
07-05-2007 at 08:36 AM.
07-05-2007 at 08:36 AM.
I'm just not buying that some posters in this thread would be okay if their so's were doing what Stealth's so seems to be doing. Nono2

I think I'm a pretty understanding and lenient gf but if my sweetie were out until 1am with a gal pal.....ummmmm nope ain't gonna happen...not twice anyway.
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Dizzy Devil
07-05-2007 at 08:37 AM.
07-05-2007 at 08:37 AM.
Quote from stealth :
Yes, but 1am? Whether something is going on or not is not the point. She shouldn't be married if that's what she wants to do.

DD, I value your opinion, and don't know your whole situation. But unless you're a swinger, I'd bet it hurts your husband at least a little when you go out. hug
laugh out loud nope, not a swinger. I've just had mostly male friends my whole life, my husband included. My husband now works with mostly women, so he has lots of new lady friends. That doesn't bother me, at all. He goes out with them to movies and stuff, while I stay home.

I'm not pretending to fully understand your situation either, just offering my experience and opinion...and opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one.

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I don't like raspberries anymore and it's all Kimber's fault Frown

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Iagree I threw out anything raspberry at home...lotions, candles, soap. LMAO
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cav
07-05-2007 at 08:37 AM.
07-05-2007 at 08:37 AM.
Quote from Caydensmom :
Relationships have peeks and valley's. Things aren't always perfect and happy. That is just to be expected. You both promised to love and cherish each other through good AND bad times. You two really need to talk.
but she also chose this other guy over her husband.. so as far as her big old loose valley goes... she can take that with her along with the rest of her shit and GTFO nod
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TigerStar
07-05-2007 at 08:39 AM.
07-05-2007 at 08:39 AM.
Quote from Dizzy Devil :
laugh out loud nope, not a swinger. I've just had mostly male friends my whole life, my husband included. My husband now works with mostly women, so he has lots of new lady friends. That doesn't bother me, at all. He goes out with them to movies and stuff, while I stay home.

I'm not pretending to fully understand your situation either, just offering my experience and opinion...and opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one.
Some are nicer than others. Sly
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Shucksgirl
07-05-2007 at 08:39 AM.
07-05-2007 at 08:39 AM.
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Iagree I threw out anything raspberry at home...lotions, candles, soap. LMAO

LMAO
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cav
07-05-2007 at 08:39 AM.
07-05-2007 at 08:39 AM.
Quote from TigerStar :
Some are tighter than others. Sly
fixed for accuracy
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~Precious~
07-05-2007 at 08:40 AM.
07-05-2007 at 08:40 AM.
Quote from Shucksgirl :
I'm just not buying that some posters in this thread would be okay if their so's were doing what Stealth's so seems to be doing. Nono2

I think I'm a pretty understanding and lenient gf but if my sweetie were out until 1am with a gal pal.....ummmmm nope ain't gonna happen...not twice anyway.
I would be pretty jealous if my guy did that..but I trust him more than that. Smilie

If you are referring to me as in being ok, my guy is ok with me..but again..we have been friends for over 7 years now.( i mean my friend and me..and that was before i met my bf)
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Caydensmom
07-05-2007 at 08:40 AM.
07-05-2007 at 08:40 AM.
Quote from cav :
but she also chose this other guy over her husband.. so as far as her big old loose valley goes... she can take that with her along with the rest of her shit and GTFO nod
I don't think we have all the details. I know you just recently went through a divorce but it isn't always the answer to problems in a relationship. I see alot of folks jumping on the divorce bandwagon and just wanted to make sure he's considered everything before he takes the leap.
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