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Mom pushes Applebee's on breast-feeding

559 41 August 30, 2007 at 10:13 AM
Original article from Lexington Herald Leader [kentucky.com]
Mom pushes Applebee's on breast-feeding

WANTS CHANGE IN POLICY AFTER BEING TOLD TO COVER HERSELF

By Linda B. Blackford
[email protected]

Brooke Ryan nursed her 10-month-old son, Michael, at her home. She says her goal is to teach, not to be provocative. Photo by David Stephenson | Staff
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Brooke Ryan nursed her 10-month-old son, Michael, at her home. She says her goal is to teach, not to be provocative. Photo by David Stephenson | Staff

In June, Brooke Ryan walked into a Nicholasville Road Applebee's restaurant to celebrate an anniversary lunch with her children.

She walked out humiliated, in tears and without the lunch.

But the incident over breast-feeding her 7-month-old son at Applebee's has spurred the soft-spoken 34-year-old to start a public awareness campaign on the rights of breast-feeding women in Kentucky.

"On a small scale, I want Applebee's to change its policy," Ryan said. "On a large scale ... I want breast-feeding to be accepted."

The dispute with Applebee's began June 14. Ryan chose a booth in the back of the restaurant away from other customers. When her baby, Michael, got hungry, she began to nurse him discreetly, she said.

But a waitress came over and said that if she wanted to breast-feed, she had to cover the baby with a blanket. Ryan said it was so hot that she didn't have a blanket. The waitress then repeated her request. Ryan said she then asked to see the manager and handed him a copy of the 2006 Kentucky law that prohibits interference with a woman breast-feeding her baby in public.

The manager said he knew about the law but a customer had complained about indecent exposure, so she had to cover the baby with a blanket.

Ryan left as her food came, to nurse her baby in the car.

Her lawyer wrote a letter to Thomas & King, the company that operates Applebee's in Central Kentucky. They got no response. After a second letter, a Thomas & King lawyer said the restaurant chain would consider keeping blankets in the restaurant so that breast-feeding women could cover themselves.

"That's like telling Rosa Parks she still had to sit in the back of the bus, but we'll give her a blanket to make her more comfortable," Ryan said.

When contacted yesterday, Mike Scanlon, president of Thomas & King, said he didn't know about the incident. However, he called the Herald-Leader back to say that Applebee's had no policy against breast-feeding.

"It is perfectly legal to breast-feed in public and we support that," Scanlon said. "I'm not sure the manager said cover the baby's head, I think he said cover yourself modestly. This was by no means intended as interference, but a request to do it modestly, which I believe is an appropriate response."

Ryan says that as an experienced breast-feeder, she is extremely modest, and, in that instance, made sure that she was facing into the corner.

"Some women think it's fine to cover up with a blanket, but a woman shouldn't be forced to," said her husband, Michael Ryan.

Sen. Tom Buford, R-Nicholasville, who sponsored the breast-feeding protection bill, agrees.

"She was not treated right under the new law," he said. "There should have been no comment made to her at all; the restaurant overstepped its boundaries. There's no way they can explain their way out of this."

Thirty-nine states, including Kentucky, allow women to breast-feed in any public or private location.

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends exclusive breast-feeding for about the first six months and support for breast-feeding for the first year and beyond as long as mutually desired by mother and child. But according to the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, only 11 percent of mothers meet the six-month mark. Thirty percent breast-feed exclusively for the first three months. Kentucky's rates are 7.5 percent and 25 percent, respectively, according to a 2007 report.

Scanlon suggested that Ryan had an "agenda."

"I note with interest that she had a copy of the statute with her," he said. "I'm glad to let this become a matter that we can all learn from."

But if all Ryan wanted going into Applebee's was an anniversary lunch, she may indeed have an agenda now.

August is World Breast-feeding Awareness Month, and Ryan has organized two related public events:

• A "Nurse-In" at the children's play area at Fayette Mall from 1-3 p.m. Saturday. Ryan says the mall is not a target, but has a place for kids to play.

• From noon to 2 p.m. Sept. 8, she is holding a "Nurse Out" with posters and breast-feeding in front of the Applebee's on Nicholasville Road.

She's also asking for a public apology from Applebee's and training for its employees about the rights of breast-feeding mothers. Some day, she says, she would like to see the international breast-feeding symbol of a mother and child in every restaurant that supports the practice.

"I'm not trying to be provocative," she said. "I want to teach."

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Reach Linda Blackford at (859) 231-1359 or [email protected].



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08-31-2007 at 12:58 PM.
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I'm sorry to say but how does what you say pertain to the argument that ppl should cover-up if they are breastfeeding in a restaurant? First off, the rate of babies in the U.S. that are born in a hospital is probably 80-90%. But, that's not even an issue because my point in bringing that up was for the sake of the free hand breastpumps that the hospitals give out. As stated, if you didn't deliver in a hospital, you can still go to the local baby store and purchase a hand breast pump for a mere $20! About some babies having nipple confusion and will not take a bottle, if that was the case, then breastfeeding would be required. However, it does not change the fact that ppl should cover-up for etiquette sake.

About your friend and her experience at a restaurant, that's nice and dandy. However, what if you were a restaurant owner (had no qualms about breastfeeding in public), but had patrons who were complaining to you about another patron doing it at the table next to them? What would you do?
Not a restaurant owner, but a business owner... I would ask them to "cover up" and if they refused politely but firmly remove their "authorization" to be there. That being said, I have two kids who where breastfeed by me, yet NOT once did I ever have to "whip" it out in public.
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Not a restaurant owner, but a business owner... I would ask them to "cover up" and if they refused politely but firmly remove their "authorization" to be there. That being said, I have two kids who where breastfeed by me, yet NOT once did I ever have to "whip" it out in public.
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I'm mom and have a 11month old baby and i know how difficult it is to feed a baby in public full covered and it's a shame that we need a law for breastfeeding in public.
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I'm mom and have a 11month old baby and i know how difficult it is to feed a baby in public full covered and it's a shame that we need a law for breastfeeding in public.
I don't find it appalling. There are MANY instances in America where there are written laws for the most mundane and obvious things in order to specify in writing the legality of such acts. For example, do we really need a written law that states that murder is wrong? But, there must be a written law. If not, the lawyers can argue that there are no laws that prohibit such acts.

Likewise, there must be a written law that specifies that it's okay for women to breastfeed in public. If not, there would be ambiguity in the law. Another example would be urinating in public. It's common sense that you can't do it in public in the middle of, let's say, a restaurant. There are specific laws that forbid that act.

What I find to be a shame is that many ppl can't engage in a rational argument and debate in this "advanced" country! What I find appalling is how in this thread, ppl are still confusing ppl's want for covering up while breastfeeding as ppl's want to prohibit breastfeeding!

Another analogy.....it's my right to procreate and have sex; But, I can't just have sex anywhere I please in public! It's my right to eat; But, I can't eat in the middle of an operating table when surgery is going on! It's my right to drink alcohol; But, I can't do it on the streets with an open bottle (except in Vegas!). It's my right to exercise freedom of speech; But, I can't enter a restaurant and start yelling hate propaganda!
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I'm mom and have a 11month old baby and i know how difficult it is to feed a baby in public full covered and it's a shame that we need a law for breastfeeding in public.
That's a cop out..and an excuse!
I breast fed 3 children in public and my 29yo daughter has feed her twins many times in public and it really is NOT difficult if you think ahead a bit and wear the correct clothing that allows discreat feeding. (and I don't mean Old lady clothing) just a fashonable button down shirt where you can un-do a button to two or a lose top (baby doll tops are the fashon now)...where you can hold you baby underneath. Even a small soft oversized bib or a cloth napkin would do for a discreat cover.
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