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Do I make a move on her

5,132 768 February 5, 2011 at 03:33 AM
Credit to Emelvee for translating my horrible English.

My friend Sarah left her significant other after he had relations with many other women. I have long been interested in having a dating Sarah, but she has always been in a relationship. She has not shown interest in me romantically, to the point of discussing with me her interest in other men.

Recently, we dined together, but simply as friends. We were alone, but it was not a date - it was planned as a group get-together, but the others did not attend the meal. At this time, she noted that she is not prepared for a serious relationship at this time. We had an enjoyable meal, and met some of her friends later. I made an effort to socialize with her friends and not monopolize Sarah's time. It appeared that all involved had a pleasant evening. Sarah took me home and gave me a goodnight hug. She suggested that I should stay an extra day and join her at a birthday celebration. I informed her of my intend to go home instead; we live in different states.

I received a text message from Sarah later in the morning; she explained that she enjoyed having dinner with me, was glad I was able to attend, and hoped that I enjoyed the time together as well. This text message encouraged me to extend my visit another day. I joined Sarah at a club to celebrate her friend's birthday. I did not focus my attention on Sarah during the party, though I did share a couple of dances with her. I did notice another gentleman flirting with Sarah. This did not disturb me, as I had lost any hope of being more than just a "friend" to Sarah based on her previous behavior towards me. I am hopeful that my plan of playing little attention to her was successful in her developing an interest in me romantically.

At the end of the party, she drove me and my friends to a friends home. I returned to my state the next day. On the morning of my departure, I received a text message from Sarah stating "thanks for coming out… I had a great time… glad you stayed an extra day". I did not return the message. She sent another message, containing an inside joke and inquiring as to whether or not I made it home.

Over the next couple of days, she appeared to be spending a lot of time on my Facebook page. She made some jokes on my Wall. I noted that I wasn't feeling well, and she states that she hoped I would feel better. She made another joke that perhaps my leaving her area was what made me sick. She posted a comment on a very old photograph of mine, making yet another joke. Finally, I listed on Facebook that I am single, then one of our mutual friends asked what is going on - a single heart icon displayed on the screen, making it appear that I am in a relationship. Apparently this caused some confusion, as Sarah made the comment "o its okay, I thought the same thing… but it says single". She made her comment just two minutes after I posted that I am single. To me, it looks like she is stalking me via Facebook. lolomgwtfbbq.

As you might expect, I am thinking of Sarah continuously at this point. She will be in my town on business next week, and will be staying at my home for a night or two.

Do you think she is now interested in me? Her behavior with me has completely changed of late. Should I flirt with her when she visits me, and try to move in on a woman who recently exited a difficult relationship? I would want any relationship with Sarah to be meaningful and not simply something she runs to after leaving her previous relationship.
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TatorSalad
02-05-2011 at 03:54 AM.
02-05-2011 at 03:54 AM.
You should have someone give her a note in study hall that says:

"Do you like Mahdego?
____yes
____no".
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Iaaaiws
02-05-2011 at 05:38 AM.
02-05-2011 at 05:38 AM.
Quote from mahdego :
So a friend of mine (her name is sarah) recently became single (her man was a typical dog that cheated multiple times). I have always wanted to try dating this girl, but she always been unavailable, even talks about guys she is interested in/trying to date in front of me. Anyway, finally went out to eat with her alone as friends (not a date… it was supposed to be a group thing, but ended up being just us). She talks about how she not ready to seriously date anyone yet. But besides that we had a good time, and later met up with her friends. I do a good job of fitting in well and socializing with most of them and not clinging on to Sarah at all. It was a good night and she eventually takes me home, hugs goodnight… whatever. She also asked if I was going to stay an extra day, saying I should go to this birthday celebration. I tell her I probably am going home (we currently live in different states). Sarah text me later that morning saying she had a good time at dinner, and was glad I made it and hoping I had a good time. I was going to go home but I stayed because a friend of mine wanted to go out and of course the text I got from Sarah was nice. So I stayed one more day and I end up joining her and her friend's birthday celebration at a club. We all having a good time. I semi ignore Sarah and dance with other women but got in a couple dances with her. Some guy flirts with her, it's all good (I have wanted to try going out with Sarah for a while… but she has continuously put me in the friend zone to the point where I honestly just don't pay much mind anymore and don't get my hopes up). I think I played it just right… anyway again she drives me and my friends home and then I head back to my state the next day. The morning I leave I get a text from her saying "thanks for coming out… I had a great time… glad you stayed an extra day" (I don't say anything back). Anyway she text again some inside joke between us and also ask if I made it home. I get home and over the next couple of days, she is really invested in my facebook. Makes a joke on my wall. I post I'm not feeling well, she says hope you feel better and kind of makes another joke saying it was not being where I was that got me sick but leaving that area (where she is). Comments on an old old photo of mine making a joke. And to take the cake… I list on FB that I am single and one of our mutual friends asks what is going on (because the single heart showed up in the news and it looks like I am in a relationship). So Sarah then comments "o its okay, I thought the same thing… but it says single". This is literally like 2 minutes after I post I am single. Like dude, stalking my facebook lol. Anyway, of course I cant stop thinking of Sarah now and she actually has business in my town next week and will stay a night or two at my place.

So my question is, do you really think she is finally interested in me? (keep in mind her change in character is like a complete 180) Should I actively try flirting when she visits and try to move in on a girl who just got out of a bad relationship? I would want it to be meaningful and not be some rebound guy, ya know?
Who is it that usually takes these indecipherable jumbles of words and translates them into understandable paragraphs?

We really need that person now.
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kdt
02-05-2011 at 05:40 AM.
02-05-2011 at 05:40 AM.
Quote from TatorSalad :
You should have someone give her a note in study hall that says:

"Do you like Mahdego?
____yes
____no".
There's a study hall in Jr. High now?
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VorlonFrog
02-05-2011 at 05:42 AM.
02-05-2011 at 05:42 AM.
First, it's not another Slutsky / Lloyd dating question. Now, go 180 degrees from those guys and think, "Hey, this one's real, and serious." Now, consider not shake head going OT immediately. I'm certain the OP would appreciate it. nod
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Zemblanity
02-05-2011 at 05:53 AM.
02-05-2011 at 05:53 AM.
Seems like the right time
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RumbleTheBison
02-05-2011 at 05:56 AM.
02-05-2011 at 05:56 AM.
Whoa whoa whoa.....who's going to read all of that crap???

I read the first two sentences and the last one.

If she's single....go for it. Doesn't matter if your brother already had her before!

The only time you do not pursue a woman is:

1) If she's married (you let her pursue you)
2) If she's a recent victim of a sexual crime
3) If she's a co-worker at a job you care about
4) If she lives within half a mile of you.

Now, with #1, someone will say "oh, that's wrong to mess with a married woman!"

If she comes onto you then you ain't breaking up a marriage...it was already broken! (And it's not your job to fix it - it's the husband's)

With #4, it's the old saying "you don't crap where you eat!". Too many dumb men mess around and try to hook up with someone who lives around the block or down the street or whatnot.

It's hard to have your space because she's around the corner!!!! If you don't feel like being bothered, she might still come over. If you are tired of her, she might do a few drive bys to see who's in ya yard! And if you're "trying the buffet" (because you're still single. If you're not married, you're single) it's much easier for her to interrupt.


Regardless, unless she falls into one of those areas....make your move
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emelvee
02-05-2011 at 06:18 AM.
02-05-2011 at 06:18 AM.
Quote from Iaaaiws :
Who is it that usually takes these indecipherable jumbles of words and translates them into understandable paragraphs?

We really need that person now.
I'll try! Whee

Quote :
My friend Sarah left her significant other after he had relations with many other women. I have long been interested in having a dating Sarah, but she has always been in a relationship. She has not shown interest in me romantically, to the point of discussing with me her interest in other men.

Recently, we dined together, but simply as friends. We were alone, but it was not a date - it was planned as a group get-together, but the others did not attend the meal. At this time, she noted that she is not prepared for a serious relationship at this time. We had an enjoyable meal, and met some of her friends later. I made an effort to socialize with her friends and not monopolize Sarah's time. It appeared that all involved had a pleasant evening. Sarah took me home and gave me a goodnight hug. She suggested that I should stay an extra day and join her at a birthday celebration. I informed her of my intend to go home instead; we live in different states.

I received a text message from Sarah later in the morning; she explained that she enjoyed having dinner with me, was glad I was able to attend, and hoped that I enjoyed the time together as well. This text message encouraged me to extend my visit another day. I joined Sarah at a club to celebrate her friend's birthday. I did not focus my attention on Sarah during the party, though I did share a couple of dances with her. I did notice another gentleman flirting with Sarah. This did not disturb me, as I had lost any hope of being more than just a "friend" to Sarah based on her previous behavior towards me. I am hopeful that my plan of playing little attention to her was successful in her developing an interest in me romantically.

At the end of the party, she drove me and my friends to a friends home. I returned to my state the next day. On the morning of my departure, I received a text message from Sarah stating "thanks for coming out… I had a great time… glad you stayed an extra day". I did not return the message. She sent another message, containing an inside joke and inquiring as to whether or not I made it home.

Over the next couple of days, she appeared to be spending a lot of time on my Facebook page. She made some jokes on my Wall. I noted that I wasn't feeling well, and she states that she hoped I would feel better. She made another joke that perhaps my leaving her area was what made me sick. She posted a comment on a very old photograph of mine, making yet another joke. Finally, I listed on Facebook that I am single, then one of our mutual friends asked what is going on - a single heart icon displayed on the screen, making it appear that I am in a relationship. Apparently this caused some confusion, as Sarah made the comment "o its okay, I thought the same thing… but it says single". She made her comment just two minutes after I posted that I am single. To me, it looks like she is stalking me via Facebook. lolomgwtfbbq.

As you might expect, I am thinking of Sarah continuously at this point. She will be in my town on business next week, and will be staying at my home for a night or two.

Do you think she is now interested in me? Her behavior with me has completely changed of late. Should I flirt with her when she visits me, and try to move in on a woman who recently exited a difficult relationship? I would want any relationship with Sarah to be meaningful and not simply something she runs to after leaving her previous relationship.
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mahdego
02-05-2011 at 06:19 AM.
02-05-2011 at 06:19 AM.
Quote from Iaaaiws :
Who is it that usually takes these indecipherable jumbles of words and translates them into understandable paragraphs?

We really need that person now.
my bad. I like a friend who is now single. She always treated me like a friend, but now she is showing interest in me as more than a friend. She quickly jumps from relationship to relationship, not because she is that type of girl, but because she is beautiful and is a really good catch. Should I try making a move?
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J3ff
02-05-2011 at 06:21 AM.
02-05-2011 at 06:21 AM.
if you dont get laid this week by Sarah I will be very surprised. If that's exactly what happened it's a sure thing buddy!
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J3ff
02-05-2011 at 06:21 AM.
02-05-2011 at 06:21 AM.
ps post a pic
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dalokgawd
02-05-2011 at 06:37 AM.
02-05-2011 at 06:37 AM.
Long distance relationships =

/thread
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stomach
02-05-2011 at 06:38 AM.
02-05-2011 at 06:38 AM.
i cant even read this...not for the fact that it all runs together...i simply cannot read.
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hAvAAck
02-05-2011 at 06:44 AM.
02-05-2011 at 06:44 AM.
no, you don't make a move.
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slutsky
02-05-2011 at 06:53 AM.
02-05-2011 at 06:53 AM.
Quote from VorlonFrog :
First, it's not another Slutsky / Lloyd dating question. Now, go 180 degrees from those guys and think, "Hey, this one's real, and serious." Now, consider not shake head going OT immediately. I'm certain the OP would appreciate it. nod
Who the fark will get up at 5am and nagging about me? FYI, I am surprised that I am up already, geez, 10am!!
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