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Serious question for you older and maybe younger women out there...do you still want sexy, sexy time after 50? No OT please.

4,298 360 April 13, 2018 at 05:28 PM
I am getting a lot of excuses as my gal gets older, she says it's all ever think of, but I don't buy that. I think she should be happy, most guys my age are limp noodles,broken down, fat, and half dead..
I say if theres a problem lets fix it. I only want women's opinions in this thread please..
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04-13-2018 at 08:36 PM.
04-13-2018 at 08:36 PM.
It could be that she keeps pretty busy and finds little time to feel romantic? Have you spoken to her about this? Have you tried to spice up the relationship? When you get older it can take more effort to have a healthy sexual relationship. Health issues can also play a part in the decline. It is a conversation that you need to discuss with her and get to the root of it.

As for only wanting women's opinions....It is the internet, women do not exist on the internet.
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04-13-2018 at 08:46 PM.
04-13-2018 at 08:46 PM.
How is her overall health? Her self image? Is menopause on the horizon or maybe already happening? If she is at all embarrassed over any of those things, it might be very difficult for her to talk to you about it.

Try not to focus on yourself. If you are saying stuff like, "hey, you should be grateful to have me, I am full of energy!" that will only make her feel worse if she is feeling the opposite about herself.

I suggest being sympathetic to the possible physical and or mental issues she might be facing.
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04-13-2018 at 08:48 PM.
04-13-2018 at 08:48 PM.
Quote from Jex :
It could be that she keeps pretty busy and finds little time to feel romantic? Have you spoken to her about this? Have you tried to spice up the relationship? When you get older it can take more effort to have a healthy sexual relationship. Health issues can also play a part in the decline. It is a conversation that you need to discuss with her and get to the root of it.

As for only wanting women's opinions....It is the internet, women do not exist on the internet.

Well she has dealt with breast cancer and epilepsy but says older women just don't want sex. This is almost a deal breaker for me as she says she is content feeling this way. If it is true and women of a certain age can just shut the door I can understand why some men seek out younger women.
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04-13-2018 at 09:05 PM.
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Quote from fsyowad :
Well she has dealt with breast cancer and epilepsy but says older women just don't want sex. This is almost a deal breaker for me as she says she is content feeling this way. If it is true and women of a certain age can just shut the door I can understand why some men seek out younger women.
Bill Clinton agreed with the last sentence.
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04-13-2018 at 09:09 PM.
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wow....just....wow
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04-13-2018 at 09:13 PM.
04-13-2018 at 09:13 PM.
Quote from finzz2dlft :
How is her overall health? Her self image? Is menopause on the horizon or maybe already happening? If she is at all embarrassed over any of those things, it might be very difficult for her to talk to you about it.

Try not to focus on yourself. If you are saying stuff like, "hey, you should be grateful to have me, I am full of energy!" that will only make her feel worse if she is feeling the opposite about herself.

I suggest being sympathetic to the possible physical and or mental issues she might be facing.
I have spent years attending to her needs. With her illnesses it has almost been never ending..Women just assume men will take whatever is thrown at them. That is their lot in life. They can take it.
Most men can be totally loyal, but they have a few simple basic needs.It really does not take much to keep them happy. One partner being unreasonable though is a big reason why couples drift apart.
I will add her health has improved in the last few years.
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04-13-2018 at 09:18 PM.
04-13-2018 at 09:18 PM.
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I have spent years attending to her needs. With her illnesses it has almost been never ending..Women just assume men will take whatever is thrown at them. That is their lot in life. They can take it.
Most men can be totally loyal, but they have a few simple basic needs.It really does not take much to keep them happy. One partner being unreasonable though is a big reason why couples drift apart.
I will add her health has improved in the last few years.
That is a rather sweeping generalization.
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04-13-2018 at 09:36 PM.
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Quote from finzz2dlft :
That is a rather sweeping generalization.
Women do live longer than men.....
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04-13-2018 at 10:18 PM.
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Bonk
Quote from fsyowad :
I have spent years attending to her needs. With her illnesses it has almost been never ending..Women just assume men will take whatever is thrown at them. That is their lot in life. They can take it.
Most men can be totally loyal, but they have a few simple basic needs.It really does not take much to keep them happy. One partner being unreasonable though is a big reason why couples drift apart.
I will add her health has improved in the last few years.
If it is a health reason than is that being unreasonable in you mind?

and women spend tons of time attending to their hubbys needs and men just assume women will take what ever is thrown at them and they can take it even though their needs are not being met because of limp broken noodles and what not.

did you say you were married?
In marriage - mine has been going on some 40 years - if ones partner can no longer do some things then the other should be supportive, even though it has been some 40 years I remember the part about sickness and in health, and if you truly truly love some one can you really throw away a relationship because you can not make a sacrifice in the name of love?
and also there is more than one way to skin a cat so to speak. Bonk
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04-13-2018 at 10:40 PM.
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Were both divorced, and don't want to marry again, but have been together so long and been thru so much together...we may as well be married. We act like a married couple.
I just wonder if this problem would suddenly disappear if I bought her a new
Corolla?
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04-13-2018 at 11:17 PM.
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Were both divorced, and don't want to marry again, but have been together so long and been thru so much together...we may as well be married. We act like a married couple.
I just wonder if this problem would suddenly disappear if I bought her a new
Corolla?

Has she indicated to you that she is with you for money and material things? Or are you assuming that she is?

Maybe she is trying to let you know, in a nice way, that she's just not that into you and maybe it is time to move on?
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04-14-2018 at 12:18 AM.
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Quote from finzz2dlft :
Has she indicated to you that she is with you for money and material things? Or are you assuming that she is?

Maybe she is trying to let you know, in a nice way, that she's just not that into you and maybe it is time to move on?
Shes pretty dependent on me, I don't think she wants anyone else. She falls apart easily though.A couple times when we were apart she didn't do very well. As far as money...that does get her attention....like it does for alot of women. I do trust and love her, but who wants a sexless relationship? I'm not ready to get that old yet.
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04-14-2018 at 12:28 AM.
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Shes pretty dependent on me, I don't think she wants anyone else. She falls apart easily though.A couple times when we were apart she didn't do very well. As far as money...that does get her attention....like it does for alot of women. I do trust and love her, but who wants a sexless relationship? I'm not ready to get that old yet.
I wish you'd stop throwing in the bit about "all/a lot of women" being this way or that way. Because we're not.

That said, I am sorry that your experience with this particular woman has left you feeling the way that you do. hug
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04-14-2018 at 12:47 AM.
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maybe you should ask her for open relationship?
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