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Real-life drama at the beach ... Rammy's in trouble again ... apparently the wife doesn't like me taking pictures of other women

24,862 1,948 July 22, 2009 at 10:01 AM in Cameras
Amongst the ~200 photos I took last week at the beach, I snapped 3-4 pictures of some hotties that were walking up and down the beach. The wife took great offense to this and I thought it was playful at first but (as women are apt to do) an argument ensued which turned into her giving me the cold, silent treatment for the next 24 hours. She indicated I was "to take pictures of only her & the kids".

Disrespectful? Immature? In hindsight a little, but in her words "I'm married, I'm not dead". I wasn't peeping through a peephole at some ESPN hottie, I was taking a picture of someone strolling a few yards in front of me proudly displaying the goods that God gave her. Just how insecure can she be?

Is this a potential for a double standard? The wife had a massage at a day spa from a "young surfer dude" who was checking her out. Do I come out with the directive "no man can touch you except for me at any time". To take it to another level, shouldn't I be able to get lap dances (I don't btw) without feeling guilty. I agree that's extreme, but give me a break.

I thought things had cooled down the next day or two (makeup OTs) but then out of the blue the wife went through and deleted the pictures on my camera - which simply pissed me off. The following is all that's left. It was intended to be a humorous presentation to the lounge: (a) picture of hotties, (b) picture of wife holding up hand in front of camera, (c) picture of ocean as wife punched hubby in stomach.

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Last Edited by daniel32 July 23, 2009 at 03:57 PM
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07-22-2009 at 10:56 AM.
07-22-2009 at 10:56 AM.
Quote from jj12321 :
If he took pictures of 3 random guys on the beach, would that be ok?
I tried that before and no, it is not OK apparently. Mad
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07-22-2009 at 10:57 AM.
07-22-2009 at 10:57 AM.
Quote from jj12321 :
One or two guys here said it was creepy. More on this thread are saying it was wrong.

He was sitting on the beach taking photos of people walking by.

God, some people are acting as if he was composing a homemade "girls gone wild" video.

If he took pictures of 3 random guys on the beach, would that be ok?
How about 3 senior citizens?
Does he need to ask permission for his wife to take a picture, so she's not threatened?
I find you pretty creepy as well
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07-22-2009 at 10:57 AM.
07-22-2009 at 10:57 AM.
Quote from Iaaaiws :
I don't know why people find these things so tough to figure out. If one person in a relationship finds a behavior disrespectful then it is off limits--period. Dontknow
Yep. If you want a lasting, happy marriage at least. It shouldn't have to be one person 'controlling' the other. It should be one spouse choosing not to hurt the other - it's an act of love.
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Ram|bunc|tious
07-22-2009 at 10:57 AM.
07-22-2009 at 10:57 AM.
Quote from XL_Jockey :
Hmm, I need to take notes from this thread. I think it's funny to take similar pics. The look on her face when she downloads them to the computer is just too funny, but she usually just rolls her eyes and calls me a moron or something. They're usually pics of her cleavage though, not other women. I will test out what happens when taking pics of other random women.
Not that it really matters, but look at the zoom level of that pic - its not overtly sexual, I'm not zooming in on the gentle beads of sweat that form on a heaving bosum.
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07-22-2009 at 10:57 AM.
07-22-2009 at 10:57 AM.
Quote from Ram|bunc|tious :
In the perfect world, she'd apologize about this and then I'd be able to swallow my pride and tell her I will be more mindful of taking pictures of other women. We'd then share glorious OTs and move on Big Grin
Read the quote below. laugh out loud

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Good luck with that






Quote from jj12321 :
One or two guys here said it was creepy. More on this thread are saying it was wrong.

He was sitting on the beach taking photos of people walking by.

God, some people are acting as if he was composing a homemade "girls gone wild" video.

If he took pictures of 3 random guys on the beach, would that be ok?
How about 3 senior citizens?
Does he need to ask permission for his wife to take a picture, so she's not threatened?

Wow, you missed my question again. laugh out loud Love selective reading.
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07-22-2009 at 10:58 AM.
07-22-2009 at 10:58 AM.
Quote from metoday :
Magazine pics - not real men = photoshopped.

Looking at men on the streets is notthe same as taking pictures.

Try again.
I would think that fantasising over an oversexualised image of a man with rippling pecs from a magazine in the privacy of your home would be alot worse than some random picture of a guy with a beer belly taken on a beach that you dont even know.
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07-22-2009 at 10:58 AM.
07-22-2009 at 10:58 AM.
Quote from BrgnHntr :
You predicted what I'd say? Do I even know you?
laugh out loud I've read enough of your posts to know you'd chime in and say what you'd say.
I laughed because it happened so quickly.. Coincidence that you read the thread when you did.

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I don't need to explain my POV. .
I know you don't. I was saying I respect your POV but disagree.
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07-22-2009 at 10:58 AM.
07-22-2009 at 10:58 AM.
Popcorn
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07-22-2009 at 10:59 AM.
07-22-2009 at 10:59 AM.
Quote from jj12321 :
Ok, explain why what he did was wrong.. What's wrong with taking 3-4 shots (out of 200) of random passerbys?

He didn't even talk to those women and will never see them again.

Sorry, but the world does not revolve around his wife's misguided insecurities.
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Quote from jj12321 :
How is this any different than Rammy looking at the slickdeals gallery? there's some attractive women in there.
I hadn't noticed Whistling
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07-22-2009 at 10:59 AM.
07-22-2009 at 10:59 AM.
Quote from rayzac :
I tried that before and no, it is not OK apparently. Mad
See? It's offensive in all types of relationships. laugh out loud

Quote from BrgnHntr :
Yep. If you want a lasting, happy marriage at least. It shouldn't have to be one person 'controlling' the other. It should be one spouse choosing not to hurt the other - it's an act of love.
Iagree

How one person can justify hurting another, I'll never understand.
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07-22-2009 at 11:00 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:00 AM.
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Thanks everyone. My day was going slow until this thread. Thumbsup
... and you guys have a special task force out to ban me? Just remember that on slow days when I'm not around Whistling
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07-22-2009 at 11:00 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:00 AM.
metoday, jj is obviosuly single, no one in a healthy relationship can think that way. It's not normal ,and I'm the king of healthy relationships
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07-22-2009 at 11:01 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:01 AM.
Quote from Scampsters :
I would think that fantasising over an oversexualised image of a man with rippling pecs from a magazine in the privacy of your home would be alot worse than some random picture of a guy with a beer belly taken on a beach that you dont even know.
Again, apples to oranges.

Are you really comparing a guy with a beer belly to the sexy legs in the OP?

Try again.
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07-22-2009 at 11:01 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:01 AM.
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... and you guys have a special task force out to ban me? Just remember that on slow days when I'm not around Whistling
We will always have Nagin.
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Quote from Ram|bunc|tious :
... and you guys have a special task force out to ban me? Just remember that on slow days when I'm not around Whistling
At least you weren't given your last rights Frown
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