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Real-life drama at the beach ... Rammy's in trouble again ... apparently the wife doesn't like me taking pictures of other women

24,862 1,948 July 22, 2009 at 10:01 AM in Cameras
Amongst the ~200 photos I took last week at the beach, I snapped 3-4 pictures of some hotties that were walking up and down the beach. The wife took great offense to this and I thought it was playful at first but (as women are apt to do) an argument ensued which turned into her giving me the cold, silent treatment for the next 24 hours. She indicated I was "to take pictures of only her & the kids".

Disrespectful? Immature? In hindsight a little, but in her words "I'm married, I'm not dead". I wasn't peeping through a peephole at some ESPN hottie, I was taking a picture of someone strolling a few yards in front of me proudly displaying the goods that God gave her. Just how insecure can she be?

Is this a potential for a double standard? The wife had a massage at a day spa from a "young surfer dude" who was checking her out. Do I come out with the directive "no man can touch you except for me at any time". To take it to another level, shouldn't I be able to get lap dances (I don't btw) without feeling guilty. I agree that's extreme, but give me a break.

I thought things had cooled down the next day or two (makeup OTs) but then out of the blue the wife went through and deleted the pictures on my camera - which simply pissed me off. The following is all that's left. It was intended to be a humorous presentation to the lounge: (a) picture of hotties, (b) picture of wife holding up hand in front of camera, (c) picture of ocean as wife punched hubby in stomach.

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Last Edited by daniel32 July 23, 2009 at 03:57 PM
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Ram|bunc|tious
07-22-2009 at 11:15 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:15 AM.
Quote from IVIax :
If I were your wife, I'd be pissed too that you're taking pictures of underaged girls. How sick!
That's my daughter laugh out loud
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Iaaaiws
07-22-2009 at 11:15 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:15 AM.
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Just trying to understand this.
I have a feeling that is a wasted effort.
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BrgnHntr
07-22-2009 at 11:15 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:15 AM.
Quote from Ram|bunc|tious :
So then why is it so difficult for many married men to get OTs or other treats ... Dontknow
Honestly, I don't understand women who won't do that. That's a part of a healthy marriage too. I enjoy my husband, he's a hottie.
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Ram|bunc|tious
07-22-2009 at 11:15 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:15 AM.
Quote from rayzac :
Mental pictures FTW. You can dress/undress them anyway you want.
Hmm... maybe that's why you cleared out my PM box Wink
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07-22-2009 at 11:16 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:16 AM.
Quote from BrgnHntr :
Honestly, I don't understand women who won't do that. That's a part of a healthy marriage too. I enjoy my husband, he's a hottie.
Well, what's an ugly guy supposed to do then? I'm screwed!
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07-22-2009 at 11:16 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:16 AM.
Quote from BrgnHntr :
Honestly, I don't understand women who won't do that. That's a part of a healthy marriage too. I enjoy my husband, he's a hottie.
Pics or it's not true.
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BrgnHntr
07-22-2009 at 11:17 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:17 AM.
Quote from jj12321 :
Interesting.. So the reason that taking pictures of the women is wrong is because he MIGHT have been mildly aroused? The wife has a suspicion that he might have had an unclean thought? Just trying to understand this.
I don't expect you to understand. We clearly come from very different backgrounds.

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I have a feeling that is a wasted effort.
laugh out loud As would my effort be wasted in trying to explain.
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07-22-2009 at 11:17 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:17 AM.
Quote from IVIax :
I don't think he has a choice.


He divorced her? Roll jj, You could spoon feed that BS to the lounge all day, but I'm sure everyone can see right through it.
Whatever man.. I am not going to say anything bad about my ex-wife, or try to explain things, but I honestly don't care what you think. If I was so inclined, I could set up a peephole camera and ask my ex-wfe if she'd take me back for proof of this laugh out loud But again, I don't care what you think. If you want to talk about the subject of the thread fine. If you want to just accuse me of lying about my personal life because you can't defend your position, I'm not going to respond anymore.
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07-22-2009 at 11:17 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:17 AM.
Quote from Randomclarity :
Iagree

If I were your wife I'd get mad too. Taking pictures of strange women you find attractive while on a family vacation is disrespectful. You should give your wife more respect than that. Looking is one thing but snapping a picture would not be the wisest thing to do.
So looking is OK?
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07-22-2009 at 11:17 AM.
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Quote from XL_Jockey :
Well, what's an ugly guy supposed to do then? I'm screwed!
You wish.
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BrgnHntr
07-22-2009 at 11:19 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:19 AM.
Quote from XL_Jockey :
Well, what's an ugly guy supposed to do then? I'm screwed!
Your wife must think you're pretty good looking or you wouldn't have 2 kids.

Quote from rayzac :
Pics or it's not true.
You're on my fb - go take a look.

Quote from Ram|bunc|tious :
So looking is OK?
The only thing that matters is if your wife thinks it's okay.
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07-22-2009 at 11:19 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:19 AM.
Quote from Scampsters :
If Rammy saw pics of male total strangers taken by his wife I don't think he would throw a hissy fit about it. She married him knowing what he was like.Its not like he has suddenly become this sex starved pervert that wants to jump anything with boobies. She crossed a big line of personal space and privacy by deleting the pics. If the poor guy is having fun doing something that really is pretty innocious let the poor man be. There maybe things she does that he doesnt particularly like but he lets it go without saying anything.
Iagree

She likes steamy novels such as Danielle Steele ... do you think she's fantasizing about me as she reads those magazines? Nono2 I just enjoy an occasional ride if the mood hits her following the magazine. There's nothing ill-intended in her enjoyment here and many times I reap the benefits.
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07-22-2009 at 11:20 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:20 AM.
I bet the responses would be total opposite if it was some woman posting the thread. Theyd all say the hubby /SO was being a control freak and they dont see any problem with what she did.Wink
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07-22-2009 at 11:20 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:20 AM.
Quote from rayzac :
Rammy, just fix the issue by telling her:

"I just like looking at hot women in bikinis, I would never want to be with one though. That's why I married you. "

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laugh out loud Remind me never to ask you for advice.
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batgirllnj
07-22-2009 at 11:20 AM.
07-22-2009 at 11:20 AM.
I think you should have taken some pics of her as well..(if you didn't) to show you weren't just scoping out other hot girls but that you were interested in taking some hot pics of her too. If you did take pics of her as well...then..I don't know..the whole scenario wouldn't have bugged me, but I'm not normal as it is.
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