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Real-life drama at the beach ... Rammy's in trouble again ... apparently the wife doesn't like me taking pictures of other women
July 22, 2009 at
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Amongst the ~200 photos I took last week at the beach, I snapped 3-4 pictures of some hotties that were walking up and down the beach. The wife took great offense to this and I thought it was playful at first but (as women are apt to do) an argument ensued which turned into her giving me the cold, silent treatment for the next 24 hours. She indicated I was "to take pictures of only her & the kids".
Disrespectful? Immature? In hindsight a little, but in her words "I'm married, I'm not dead". I wasn't peeping through a peephole at some ESPN hottie, I was taking a picture of someone strolling a few yards in front of me proudly displaying the goods that God gave her. Just how insecure can she be?
Is this a potential for a double standard? The wife had a massage at a day spa from a "young surfer dude" who was checking her out. Do I come out with the directive "no man can touch you except for me at any time". To take it to another level, shouldn't I be able to get lap dances (I don't btw) without feeling guilty. I agree that's extreme, but give me a break.
I thought things had cooled down the next day or two (makeup OTs) but then out of the blue the wife went through and deleted the pictures on my camera - which simply pissed me off. The following is all that's left. It was intended to be a humorous presentation to the lounge: (a) picture of hotties, (b) picture of wife holding up hand in front of camera, (c) picture of ocean as wife punched hubby in stomach.
Disrespectful? Immature? In hindsight a little, but in her words "I'm married, I'm not dead". I wasn't peeping through a peephole at some ESPN hottie, I was taking a picture of someone strolling a few yards in front of me proudly displaying the goods that God gave her. Just how insecure can she be?
Is this a potential for a double standard? The wife had a massage at a day spa from a "young surfer dude" who was checking her out. Do I come out with the directive "no man can touch you except for me at any time". To take it to another level, shouldn't I be able to get lap dances (I don't btw) without feeling guilty. I agree that's extreme, but give me a break.
I thought things had cooled down the next day or two (makeup OTs) but then out of the blue the wife went through and deleted the pictures on my camera - which simply pissed me off. The following is all that's left. It was intended to be a humorous presentation to the lounge: (a) picture of hotties, (b) picture of wife holding up hand in front of camera, (c) picture of ocean as wife punched hubby in stomach.
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I don't think deleting a picture that (hopefully) wasn't important to him, that he took in passing, is quite the same thing as a prized dish that she spent hours on. I don't see how it's the same in that the picture clearly hurt and bothered her - did her cooking for him hurt or bother him? They're two completely different situations.
In the exact same comparison - she takes a picture of some hot guy as she's sitting next to him on the beach - and he deletes it... I don't see the big deal. If he felt that posessive of that picture, I do see a huge problem with that. Why was the picture of that random woman in a bikini so important to him?
It's not about the picture, which is why I was trying to give a different scenario. It's about control and boundaries.
I still think he's an idiot for taking the picture, but he should have deleted it. His wife had no right to delete it. She had a right of being mad, she had a right of not talking to him, she had a right to ask him to delete it, she had a right to go out and take picture of hot men, but she had no right to delete his picture.
And yeah, my husband does throw away my/our stuff all the time without asking me - and doing it purposefully behind my back. But that's more of a save things vs. minimalist mindset back and forth thing we deal with. I find it annoying, but not like it's crossing boundaries unless it happens to be something that had sentimental value for me.
It's not about the picture, which is why I was trying to give a different scenario. It's about control and boundaries.
I still think he's an idiot for taking the picture, but he should have deleted it. His wife had no right to delete it. She had a right of being mad, she had a right of not talking to him, she had a right to ask him to delete it, she had a right to go out and take picture of hot men, but she had no right to delete his picture.
I feel that I've been very clear in saying different marriages have to set their own sets of boundaries. I can only speak to the situation as I would see it - from my perspective in life.
How are naked pictures different than clothed pictures of his wife?
I feel that I've been very clear in saying different marriages have to set their own sets of boundaries. I can only speak to the situation as I would see it - from my perspective in life.
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If he liked the picture, and again she didn't ask him and just went and deleted it, then yes.
And it is a little different... the picture being of her, she does own it.
Not sure what you mean by he'd have to sleep with two different women, Max.
... omg ... what if she finds pr0n on my computer at home? ... can she delete that as well? ...
/door slams
And it is a little different... the picture being of her, she does own it.
It's not about the picture, which is why I was trying to give a different scenario. It's about control and boundaries.
I still think he's an idiot for taking the picture, but he should have deleted it. His wife had no right to delete it. She had a right of being mad, she had a right of not talking to him, she had a right to ask him to delete it, she had a right to go out and take picture of hot men, but she had no right to delete his picture.
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