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Real-life drama at the beach ... Rammy's in trouble again ... apparently the wife doesn't like me taking pictures of other women
July 22, 2009 at
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Amongst the ~200 photos I took last week at the beach, I snapped 3-4 pictures of some hotties that were walking up and down the beach. The wife took great offense to this and I thought it was playful at first but (as women are apt to do) an argument ensued which turned into her giving me the cold, silent treatment for the next 24 hours. She indicated I was "to take pictures of only her & the kids".
Disrespectful? Immature? In hindsight a little, but in her words "I'm married, I'm not dead". I wasn't peeping through a peephole at some ESPN hottie, I was taking a picture of someone strolling a few yards in front of me proudly displaying the goods that God gave her. Just how insecure can she be?
Is this a potential for a double standard? The wife had a massage at a day spa from a "young surfer dude" who was checking her out. Do I come out with the directive "no man can touch you except for me at any time". To take it to another level, shouldn't I be able to get lap dances (I don't btw) without feeling guilty. I agree that's extreme, but give me a break.
I thought things had cooled down the next day or two (makeup OTs) but then out of the blue the wife went through and deleted the pictures on my camera - which simply pissed me off. The following is all that's left. It was intended to be a humorous presentation to the lounge: (a) picture of hotties, (b) picture of wife holding up hand in front of camera, (c) picture of ocean as wife punched hubby in stomach.
Disrespectful? Immature? In hindsight a little, but in her words "I'm married, I'm not dead". I wasn't peeping through a peephole at some ESPN hottie, I was taking a picture of someone strolling a few yards in front of me proudly displaying the goods that God gave her. Just how insecure can she be?
Is this a potential for a double standard? The wife had a massage at a day spa from a "young surfer dude" who was checking her out. Do I come out with the directive "no man can touch you except for me at any time". To take it to another level, shouldn't I be able to get lap dances (I don't btw) without feeling guilty. I agree that's extreme, but give me a break.
I thought things had cooled down the next day or two (makeup OTs) but then out of the blue the wife went through and deleted the pictures on my camera - which simply pissed me off. The following is all that's left. It was intended to be a humorous presentation to the lounge: (a) picture of hotties, (b) picture of wife holding up hand in front of camera, (c) picture of ocean as wife punched hubby in stomach.
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She's welcome to do so ... I'll trade her child-birthing ass in for someone younger and looks better in a bikini!
Imagine your hubby threw away one of your favorite comfy bras without telling you because he thought it was really unsexy - isnt that in a way a violation of your own personal space
If you drop your husbands favorite TV remote, and he goes in the kitchen and drops a plate. Neither of you should be mad because it would by hypocritical?
If we both did it on purpose, yeah it would be hypocritical. I fail to see the purpose of carrying that anger on days afterwards when we both did something stupid. There comes a point to choose to be angry or not and some things just aren't worth me being angry over.
Not saying there shouldn't be a discussion on how to avoid the situation happening again, agreeing on boundaries, etc. And not implying I'm perfect by any means... but Rammy has a choice here to continue to be mad or not. He loves her, he sounds like he's sorry for hurting her even if he doesn't quite understand why it hurt her. I don't see a purpose in continuing to be mad rather than just saying 'I didn't mean to hurt you, I won't take photos like that anymore, but you don't delete my photos anymore either - deal?'
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That wasn't me.
If we both did it on purpose, yeah it would be hypocritical. I fail to see the purpose of carrying that anger on days afterwards when we both did something stupid. There comes a point to choose to be angry or not and some things just aren't worth me being angry over.
Not saying there shouldn't be a discussion on how to avoid the situation happening again, agreeing on boundaries, etc. And not implying I'm perfect by any means... but Rammy has a choice here to continue to be mad or not. He loves her, he sounds like he's sorry for hurting her even if he doesn't quite understand why it hurt her. I don't see a purpose in continuing to be mad rather than just saying 'I didn't mean to hurt you, I won't take photos like that anymore, but you don't delete my photos anymore either - deal?'
If we both did it on purpose, yeah it would be hypocritical. I fail to see the purpose of carrying that anger on days afterwards when we both did something stupid. There comes a point to choose to be angry or not and some things just aren't worth me being angry over.
Not saying there shouldn't be a discussion on how to avoid the situation happening again, agreeing on boundaries, etc. And not implying I'm perfect by any means... but Rammy has a choice here to continue to be mad or not. He loves her, he sounds like he's sorry for hurting her even if he doesn't quite understand why it hurt her. I don't see a purpose in continuing to be mad rather than just saying 'I didn't mean to hurt you, I won't take photos like that anymore, but you don't delete my photos anymore either - deal?'
Is Rammy really still mad? i didn't get that impression from his posts.
Is Rammy really still mad? i didn't get that impression from his posts.
I don't think she deleted it to "get back" at him. If it were me, that's not why I would have deleted it. You're putting thoughts into her head.
Would it be right for your husband to throw out your favorite sweater (without asking/telling you) because he thought it made you look like a slut and other men are lusting after you while on a family vacation while sitting right next to the kiddos?
Pissed that she deleted those pics obviously - but c'mon, how long can you hang onto something as petty as that?
But I'm a strange wife. As the point has been beaten to death already, I won't dwell on it too long. Marriages all have different standards of what is cool and what isn't. I don't give a good shit if my husband looks at other women, looks at porn, goes to titty bars, gets a lap dance, whatever. Those things are all "cool" in our marriage. I might find it weird if he took their picture, but not in a disrespectful way, just in a weird "why take a picture?" way. Also, he's cool with me hanging out with my guy friends, going to dinner or to the bar, going to concerts, and checking out hot guys. If it's good for the goose, it's good for the gander. It avoids the "double standard" issue.
when rammy took those pics it was like a slap in the face to the wife. WHY?
because she gave HIM her youth. Her hot young youthful body was given to HIM. She gave him all these years....had his kid/s,,,,,sctretch and changed her youthful body.....which can never be recovered for HIM. and for him to take a pic of some chic is like wanting to preserve that chics youthful beauty. DID THE ASSHOLE TAKE A PIC OF THE WIFE IN A BIKINI?!!!!! (sorry rammy....i got issues.) but do u have pics of the wife in a bikini????? i bet u dont.
So to get back to your original point, yeah I think there is a double standard in your marriage. She's content with being able to check out hot guys and comment on them, but you get poked in the side? Was the big difference that you took the picture rather than just looking? Again, the picture thing is weird to me, but not offensive or disrespectful to your wife. In my opinion.
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