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Real-life drama at the beach ... Rammy's in trouble again ... apparently the wife doesn't like me taking pictures of other women

24,862 1,948 July 22, 2009 at 10:01 AM in Cameras
Amongst the ~200 photos I took last week at the beach, I snapped 3-4 pictures of some hotties that were walking up and down the beach. The wife took great offense to this and I thought it was playful at first but (as women are apt to do) an argument ensued which turned into her giving me the cold, silent treatment for the next 24 hours. She indicated I was "to take pictures of only her & the kids".

Disrespectful? Immature? In hindsight a little, but in her words "I'm married, I'm not dead". I wasn't peeping through a peephole at some ESPN hottie, I was taking a picture of someone strolling a few yards in front of me proudly displaying the goods that God gave her. Just how insecure can she be?

Is this a potential for a double standard? The wife had a massage at a day spa from a "young surfer dude" who was checking her out. Do I come out with the directive "no man can touch you except for me at any time". To take it to another level, shouldn't I be able to get lap dances (I don't btw) without feeling guilty. I agree that's extreme, but give me a break.

I thought things had cooled down the next day or two (makeup OTs) but then out of the blue the wife went through and deleted the pictures on my camera - which simply pissed me off. The following is all that's left. It was intended to be a humorous presentation to the lounge: (a) picture of hotties, (b) picture of wife holding up hand in front of camera, (c) picture of ocean as wife punched hubby in stomach.

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Last Edited by daniel32 July 23, 2009 at 03:57 PM
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shhaggy
07-23-2009 at 11:14 AM.
07-23-2009 at 11:14 AM.
Quote from PassionateGray :
Actually, if you know where to look you could find a pic of me in my bikini. But I'm not tellin' where. Harhar

besides, it's not that attractive of a pic, anyway. laugh out loud
Dammit, now I really wanna see it. Come on, help a brother out.
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07-23-2009 at 11:17 AM.
07-23-2009 at 11:17 AM.
Quote from *JeanGrey* :
Whatever.... if you're a single dude doing that, it makes it less creepy... but if I were walking on the beach and knew I looked hot, and saw a guy with a family pointing a camera at me, I'd be farking creeped out.

Your wife probably overreacted, I dont' know, I wasn't there. But it doesn't mean it wasn't creepy AND disrespectful. You obviously don't respect her feelings enough to work it out at home rather than post it in the lounge. I agree with serra in that it seems you're trying to justify something. Keep in mind, the definition of creepy here has absolutely nothing to do with what you think of the situation. It has to do with how others feel about what you did.
You make it sound like he was on his knee in front of the women with the lens pointed at them as he moved around to get the perfect shot. I doubt that was the case, he probably just stood in one spot and took pictures as people walked by. I've done that, and like I said I have many pictures of women at the beach, and not once has anyone even looked my way abnormally as if I were invading their privacy. For all they know I was photographing the person next to them or behind them, the beach in general or even the landscape in the background.
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07-23-2009 at 11:18 AM.
07-23-2009 at 11:18 AM.
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Dammit, now I really wanna see it. Come on, help a brother out.
Make sure rammy doesn't see it, he'll put it on his camera.
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TigerStar
07-23-2009 at 11:22 AM.
07-23-2009 at 11:22 AM.
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Dammit, now I really wanna see it. Come on, help a brother out.
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Ram|bunc|tious
07-23-2009 at 11:32 AM.
07-23-2009 at 11:32 AM.
Quote from shhaggy :
You make it sound like he was on his knee in front of the women with the lens pointed at them as he moved around to get the perfect shot. I doubt that was the case, he probably just stood in one spot and took pictures as people walked by. I've done that, and like I said I have many pictures of women at the beach, and not once has anyone even looked my way abnormally as if I were invading their privacy. For all they know I was photographing the person next to them or behind them, the beach in general or even the landscape in the background.
Nono2 Sitting in a lounge chair, right next to my wife, kids 10-20 yards directly in front of me in the waves and people walking by on regular basis. I'm not scanning up & down the beach or hiding behind a bush.
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07-23-2009 at 11:53 AM.
07-23-2009 at 11:53 AM.
Quote from lovethesummer :
Wow, I can't believe any guy would think it is ok to take pics of a hottie when there wife is there. shake head How would you feel if she was taking pics of the hot guys while you were there?That's the thing you do when she's not around and won't know, even if it is not meant for anything other than what you said.
All woman know there is someone out there hotter than them,nod they just don't want it thrown in there face by there husbands.
i dont think it matters that she was there. I guess it is worse but i would be hurt if he took the pic while i wasnt with him too.

so rammy, how are you feeling today? the wife still upset?
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07-23-2009 at 12:03 PM.
07-23-2009 at 12:03 PM.
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i dont think it matters that she was there. I guess it is worse but i would be hurt if he took the pic while i wasnt with him too.

so rammy, how are you feeling today? the wife still upset?
meh non-issue with me or the wife. She hasn't brought it up since I chastised her about deleting the photos and I haven't taken any more pics of women at the beach Smilie We're at Va Beach this weekend (and as I mentioned) I have no plans on seeing this pisses her off.
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07-23-2009 at 12:09 PM.
07-23-2009 at 12:09 PM.
Quote from shhaggy :
Dammit, now I really wanna see it. Come on, help a brother out.
Actually, the only comment on it is from an SDer. laugh out loud

it's really not an attractive pic. I'm at a creek with my pup and it's on one of the first hot days of the year last year so I'm all pasty white. laugh out loud
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07-23-2009 at 12:12 PM.
07-23-2009 at 12:12 PM.
Quote from Ram|bunc|tious :
meh non-issue with me or the wife. She hasn't brought it up since I chastised her about deleting the photos and I haven't taken any more pics of women at the beach Smilie We're at Va Beach this weekend (and as I mentioned) I have no plans on seeing this pisses her off.
i gotta say rammy. u got balls, did u really get mad because she erased the pics???
*didnt read the whole thread..too long...too lazy.

Dont look at chics silly!
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07-23-2009 at 12:18 PM.
07-23-2009 at 12:18 PM.
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Actually, the only comment on it is from an SDer. laugh out loud

it's really not an attractive pic. I'm at a creek with my pup and it's on one of the first hot days of the year last year so I'm all pasty white. laugh out loud
why don't you let us decide Big Grin
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07-23-2009 at 01:29 PM.
07-23-2009 at 01:29 PM.
Quote from couponpadawan :
i gotta say rammy. u got balls, did u really get mad because she erased the pics???
*didnt read the whole thread..too long...too lazy.

Dont look at chics silly!
Nono2 You're missed out on a good thread if you just scanned through.

Look I will acknowledge I could have used better judgment in snapping a few photos but she had no right to delete those photos. Yes, I gave her a piece of my mind.
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07-23-2009 at 01:31 PM.
07-23-2009 at 01:31 PM.
Quote from Ram|bunc|tious :
Nono2 You're missed out on a good thread if you just scanned through.

Look I will acknowledge I could have used better judgment in snapping a few photos but she had no right to delete those photos. Yes, I gave her a piece of my mind.
You keep it up and your mind is the only piece of you she will be getting for a long time.
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07-23-2009 at 01:43 PM.
07-23-2009 at 01:43 PM.
Quote from TigerStar :
You keep it up and your mind is the only piece of you she will be getting for a long time.
She was fine after the lecture ... she knew she was wrong. The cold shoulder incident came a couple of days earlier when I took the photos. That's the point, even if I used poor judgment, she compounded the situation by taking matters into her own hands (which at times is ok, but this was not!)
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07-23-2009 at 01:57 PM.
07-23-2009 at 01:57 PM.
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Awww... Max is a good guy. He's just brutally honest and assumes if you can dish it, you can take it.


/being nice to Max


Shit.. he agreed with jj98437698437 over me once and God knows I should find that offensive. laugh out loud
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07-23-2009 at 01:58 PM.
07-23-2009 at 01:58 PM.
Quote from metoday :
Awww... Max is a good guy. He's just brutally honest and assumes if you can dish it, you can take it.


/being nice to Max
I agree. I actually miss Max's posts since I can only read them when quoted.
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