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My girlfriend from high school - NO JUDGING!

27,804 541 April 15, 2010 at 10:21 AM in Sad
I feel really guilty about this and this burden of guilt is eating at me night and day. So, I thought I'll share this with my fellow loungers and get their views on this.

Around 10-11 years back when I was I was in high school (yes, those years when I was young, carefree and reckless), I was going steady with this girl. I was supposedly her first boy friend and we had a great relationship. It felt then as if she was my soulmate...the one I would spend the rest of my life with.

We had a great sexual relationship too. She was great in bed and satisfied my every need (back then it was a LOT of need....not that it's any less now). For some reason though, she had this think for men's underwear. She always wanted me to wear black undies. I never found out why but I did not care much either...as long as I was getting some action, I would have agreed to wear neon flashing boxers.

This continued all through high school when one day I found that the whole relationship was based on a lie. I was not her first one and in fact, she had cheated on me many times during those years.

Needless to say, we had a bad break-up. Many things were said by me to her, that should never have been said or heard. Some may call it verbal abuse, but for me it was just sharing what I really felt.

However, this supposedly scarred her for life. Supposedly, she never had another relationship for the next 10 years.

Fast forward to last week. I heard from a friend of a friend who is a close friend of hers that she is getting married soon.What sucks is the part that she seems to be playing the same game with her soon to be husband. Supposedly, she has told him that he is her first man (the same thing she had told me!!). Also, she is supposedly asking her to wear black undies on their first night! The poor guy is clueless and confused about this strange request so he asks this friend's friend and that's how I get to know of all this.

Now, what do I do???? Do I confront her?? But I already feel guilty of scarring her for life. However, it feels wrong for me to keep quiet knowing that she is about destroy this other guys life (who is supposedly claiming that she is his first...I assume he is saying the truth).

Please try not to judge me or go off-topic. But then, I understand, this is the lounge and anything is possible...

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pictureframes
04-15-2010 at 10:33 AM.
04-15-2010 at 10:33 AM.
ewwww hes gonna kick ur ass. this is his future wife we're talking about. tsk tsk
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Schooby
04-15-2010 at 10:35 AM.
04-15-2010 at 10:35 AM.
laugh out loud

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idkist
04-15-2010 at 10:35 AM.
04-15-2010 at 10:35 AM.
Quote from nickelsNdimes :
ewwww hes gonna kick ur ass. this is his future wife we're talking about. tsk tsk
I think you mean his future ex-wife... once he finds out anyway lol
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Pig
04-15-2010 at 10:36 AM.
04-15-2010 at 10:36 AM.
Quote from idkist :
I think you mean his future ex-wife... once he finds out anyway lol
Exactly my dilemma...do I screw up her life or do I let her screw up his life....
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stomach
04-15-2010 at 10:36 AM.
04-15-2010 at 10:36 AM.
i'll be straight with you...its really none of your business unfortunately. i would stay out of it and let the future husband find out on his own. if you tell future husband and he leaves her she's simply going to do it to someone else. are you going to try to come to their rescue as well? she has issues that she needs to deal with. just back off and let her be.
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Fallacy
04-15-2010 at 10:36 AM.
04-15-2010 at 10:36 AM.
B+...
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idkist
04-15-2010 at 10:37 AM.
04-15-2010 at 10:37 AM.
Quote from Pig :
Exactly my dilemma...do I screw up her life or do I let her screw up his life....
Either way make sure you have a video camera ready to go to capture the "kodak moment"

At least my last relationship I was cheated on, but then she got knocked up which gave me a few chuckles... it's all about the karma Smilie
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04-15-2010 at 10:38 AM.
04-15-2010 at 10:38 AM.
Quote from CycloneBD :
Doesn't your friend know your story too? It doesn't seem like your place to stop the oncoming train wreck, but I appreciate your sensitivity to the new guy.
The thing that is biting me the most is the request for the black boxers. I felt that it was very personal to us. To this date, I have a couple of them in my drawers. I had forgiven her but never forgotten.....this getting re-hashed up again is getting to be too much!!!

Could'nt she have left the black undies out of the picture???? Sadwalk

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B+...
I said no judging! Mad
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04-15-2010 at 10:39 AM.
04-15-2010 at 10:39 AM.
Quote from Fallacy :
B+...
Oh come on, I would say A since so many are falling for it.
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stomach
04-15-2010 at 10:40 AM.
04-15-2010 at 10:40 AM.
Quote from Pig :
The thing that is biting me the most is the request for the black boxers. I felt that it was very personal to us. To this date, I have a couple of them in my drawers. I had forgiven her but never forgotten.....this getting re-hashed up again is getting to be too much!!!

Could'nt she have left the black undies out of the picture???? Sadwalk


I said no judging! Mad
dude its been like 10 years since you dated? time to get over it. some people have crazy fetishes. hers is "normal" compared to most. have you even dated since you 2 broke up? sounds like you still want to be with her for some odd reason.
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04-15-2010 at 10:40 AM.
04-15-2010 at 10:40 AM.
Roll

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Oh come on, I would say A since so many are falling for it.
Iagree
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tresanus
04-15-2010 at 10:41 AM.
04-15-2010 at 10:41 AM.
I say post it in his thread!
and if he don't like it tell him to gitttouttt (to the podium)
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04-15-2010 at 10:42 AM.
04-15-2010 at 10:42 AM.
Quote from yobuttin :
dude its been like 10 years since you dated? time to get over it. some people have crazy fetishes. hers is "normal" compared to most. have you even dated since you 2 broke up? sounds like you still want to be with her for some odd reason.
I'm happily married but that has nothing to do with this. My wife has asked me about those undies that I never wear but it's probably not relevant to this discussion.

She was the one who has not dated for 10 years (or at least claims so)
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Fallacy
04-15-2010 at 10:42 AM.
04-15-2010 at 10:42 AM.
Quote from rayzac :
Oh come on, I would say A since so many are falling for it.
Yeah, but it's a little unbelievable that someone would lay pig.
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rayzac | Staff
04-15-2010 at 10:43 AM.
04-15-2010 at 10:43 AM.
Quote from Fallacy :
Yeah, but it's a little unbelievable that someone would lay pig.
Which makes it even better that people believe. SHoF
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