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My girlfriend from high school - NO JUDGING!

27,804 541 April 15, 2010 at 10:21 AM in Sad
I feel really guilty about this and this burden of guilt is eating at me night and day. So, I thought I'll share this with my fellow loungers and get their views on this.

Around 10-11 years back when I was I was in high school (yes, those years when I was young, carefree and reckless), I was going steady with this girl. I was supposedly her first boy friend and we had a great relationship. It felt then as if she was my soulmate...the one I would spend the rest of my life with.

We had a great sexual relationship too. She was great in bed and satisfied my every need (back then it was a LOT of need....not that it's any less now). For some reason though, she had this think for men's underwear. She always wanted me to wear black undies. I never found out why but I did not care much either...as long as I was getting some action, I would have agreed to wear neon flashing boxers.

This continued all through high school when one day I found that the whole relationship was based on a lie. I was not her first one and in fact, she had cheated on me many times during those years.

Needless to say, we had a bad break-up. Many things were said by me to her, that should never have been said or heard. Some may call it verbal abuse, but for me it was just sharing what I really felt.

However, this supposedly scarred her for life. Supposedly, she never had another relationship for the next 10 years.

Fast forward to last week. I heard from a friend of a friend who is a close friend of hers that she is getting married soon.What sucks is the part that she seems to be playing the same game with her soon to be husband. Supposedly, she has told him that he is her first man (the same thing she had told me!!). Also, she is supposedly asking her to wear black undies on their first night! The poor guy is clueless and confused about this strange request so he asks this friend's friend and that's how I get to know of all this.

Now, what do I do???? Do I confront her?? But I already feel guilty of scarring her for life. However, it feels wrong for me to keep quiet knowing that she is about destroy this other guys life (who is supposedly claiming that she is his first...I assume he is saying the truth).

Please try not to judge me or go off-topic. But then, I understand, this is the lounge and anything is possible...

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SnakePlisken
04-15-2010 at 01:25 PM.
04-15-2010 at 01:25 PM.
Quote from Pig :
It's not that easy. If you really believed in that, then you would have minded your business and not posted here, right?
So post # 1 wasn't an invitation for him to comment?
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BostonGirl
04-15-2010 at 01:26 PM.
04-15-2010 at 01:26 PM.
Quote from Pig :
It's not that easy. If you really believed in that, then you would have minded your business and not posted here, right?
Nono1 Now you're judging others..Mad

Quote from Ray Nagin :
So post # 1 wasn't an invitation for him to comment?
You mean people actually read post #1...Bigeye
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noungning
04-15-2010 at 01:27 PM.
04-15-2010 at 01:27 PM.
Quote from tommymommy :
The black underwear thing is no big deal Women buy them for their guys to avoid seeing the dreaded "skid marks" which undoubtedly kills the mood. Aside from that I wouldn't worry about her and her new man. It's nice of u to be looking out for him though.
Roll

OP kept the undies, i wonder if it was ever washed since those romancing nights.

and he's gonna sell in his next garage sale, make sure u bag it in vacuum seal so no dust can touch that EEK!
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Pig
04-15-2010 at 01:27 PM.
04-15-2010 at 01:27 PM.
Quote from Ray Nagin :
So post # 1 wasn't an invitation for him to comment?
I'm trying my best to not put you on ignore but you are not helping me. Why do you hate me so much????
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Claudia365
04-15-2010 at 01:27 PM.
04-15-2010 at 01:27 PM.
Quote from Pig :
You make such blanket statements about me and then say you are not judging me Frown
I'm not but you want our opinion then you should be open minded.. I know she hurt you but you deserve to close that door and move on. She's not worth it and you're going to feel so much better once you find closure. We've all had someone lie to us but by confronting this guy and telling him what she's doing, it's not going to make you feel any better. I don't think he's gonna believe you anyways.
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Pig
04-15-2010 at 01:28 PM.
04-15-2010 at 01:28 PM.
Quote from noungning :
Roll

OP kept the undies, i wonder if it was ever washed since those romancing nights.

and he's gonna sell in his next garage sale, make sure u bag it in vacuum seal so no dust can touch that EEK!
At least you seem to have read all my posts in thread....
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Claudia365
04-15-2010 at 01:28 PM.
04-15-2010 at 01:28 PM.
Quote from Pig :
I'm trying my best to not put you on ignore but you are not helping me. Why do you hate me so much????
shake head He's like that with everyone...
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BostonGirl
04-15-2010 at 01:30 PM.
04-15-2010 at 01:30 PM.
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noungning
04-15-2010 at 01:30 PM.
04-15-2010 at 01:30 PM.
Quote from Pig :
At least you seem to have read all my posts in thread....
gotta give it to ya, it was interesting nod

though the fetish part wasn't up to par ...
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kumpooterjooser
04-15-2010 at 01:42 PM.
04-15-2010 at 01:42 PM.
B-

coz the image of Pig in black undies gave me nightmare
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BostonGirl
04-15-2010 at 01:43 PM.
04-15-2010 at 01:43 PM.
Quote from kumpooterjooser :
B-

coz the image of Pig in black undies gave me nightmare
Be glad he didn't PM you the pic..Sick
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Kabn
04-15-2010 at 02:11 PM.
04-15-2010 at 02:11 PM.
big fan of this thread.
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Pig
04-15-2010 at 02:27 PM.
04-15-2010 at 02:27 PM.
Ok, I have to go home now. But please try not to judge me while I'm gone for a little while...
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MaryClare
04-15-2010 at 02:39 PM.
04-15-2010 at 02:39 PM.
Quote from Pig :
Ok, I have to go home now. But please try not to judge me while I'm gone for a little while...
Why are you seeking vengence against this girl that is no longer part of your life?

How old was she 10 years ago, 14-15?

A 14-15 year old isn't what I would consider a mature decision maker.

So what if this teenager goofed & cheated on the almighty YOU 10 years ago?

Get over it, no doubt she has and doesn't know or even care if you are alive today.

*No judging was performed in typing this reponse.
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myselfdotcom
04-15-2010 at 02:47 PM.
04-15-2010 at 02:47 PM.
wait..how old are then? You are happily married now...how long you have been married?
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