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For Women Only..What's the largest age difference to get married?

2,091 502 October 13, 2010 at 04:52 AM in Chat
I am a man.....I have a girl that is interested in marrying me....I feel uncomfortable with our age difference and feel she is too young, but need other opinions because I am no expert in marriage, having never done it before.

I just want to get different opinions on what the women on this board feel is a reasonable (to them) age difference...Please post your opinion, no matter what that is. I am asking women only because I feel they are more in tune with this and have a better perspective...

Thanks in advance.
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10-13-2010 at 06:11 AM.
10-13-2010 at 06:11 AM.
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we know how that turned out, don't we!
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10-13-2010 at 06:12 AM.
10-13-2010 at 06:12 AM.
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Aren't they living happily ever after? Reuinted in heaven?
i'll wait for Nagin to reply to that. Ah screw it: in heaven? HAH, even Hell wouldn't take them!
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10-13-2010 at 06:28 AM.
10-13-2010 at 06:28 AM.
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I will tell you this...She is 24 and wants to start a family....So based on that just give me your idea of how much older YOU think is reasonable in your mind...There is no right answer...Just looking for individual opinions.
I was 25 when I got married and my husband was 31. That's a good age difference for me. But that's just me. Other people marry people 20+ years older than themselves and are blissfully happy. It completely depends on the people involved.
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10-13-2010 at 06:33 AM.
10-13-2010 at 06:33 AM.
Can she cook?
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10-13-2010 at 06:59 AM.
10-13-2010 at 06:59 AM.
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I was 25 when I got married and my husband was 31. That's a good age difference for me. But that's just me. Other people marry people 20+ years older than themselves and are blissfully happy. It completely depends on the people involved.
another human married you?
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10-13-2010 at 07:00 AM.
10-13-2010 at 07:00 AM.
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vec
10-13-2010 at 07:03 AM.
10-13-2010 at 07:03 AM.
I will answer this for all of the Lounge women. It depends on the size of the guys wallet. The higher the income, the higher the age. Low income, low age. It's as simple as that.

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stomach
10-13-2010 at 07:15 AM.
10-13-2010 at 07:15 AM.
Quote from vec :
I will answer this for all of the Lounge women. It depends on the size of the guys wallet. The higher the income, the higher the age. Low income, low age. It's as simple as that.

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is that why you're having trouble finding a wife?

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StarNova
10-13-2010 at 07:18 AM.
10-13-2010 at 07:18 AM.
She wants a family. She might see you as good husband and father material. Not a lot of 24 year old men are ready for that commitment. She knows what she wants. Do you?

Age is something to consider. Do you think you would be happy with a younger wife?
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SlickChik
10-13-2010 at 07:26 AM.
10-13-2010 at 07:26 AM.
If she is 24, I'd say biggest difference should be around 30.
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Majide
10-13-2010 at 07:53 AM.
10-13-2010 at 07:53 AM.
Hmm... I'll say 10 years may be too much. Especially considering how you don't sound very confident with this anyway. Like the others are saying, if you have to ask, maybe it isn't the right person?

My parents are 6 years apart. Their marriage isn't great, but even if they were just 2 years apart it wouldn't make a difference, I don't think.
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10-13-2010 at 07:54 AM.
10-13-2010 at 07:54 AM.
Quote from jeba9999 :
I will tell you this...She is 24 and wants to start a family....So based on that just give me your idea of how much older YOU think is reasonable in your mind...There is no right answer...Just looking for individual opinions.
It depends.. If she really wants to start a family.. that means settling down. As long as she is sure she wants to do that, and realizes that starting a family is a whole new life.
It's a lot of work. Both of your "Free time" will evaporate. There will be less time for vacations, etc.. It is worthwhile to have kids, but you have to be careful that both people are ready for the commitment. Too many people have no idea what they are getting into, and then they are unhappy afterwards. This happens at any age.

If she truly wants to start a family and is willing to give up the carefree life, then I would not be worried about the age difference. There might be other stuff to worry about laugh out loud but the age difference won't be a problem.

I don't want to push any specific religion on you, but some religions have marriage prep classes which are very useful. They force you to talk about all the awkward topics, like how many kids, money, etc.. It's not a full proof system, but I think it may be a good idea for you guys to take a simliar seminar/course. It's nice to have a facillitator bring up these topics (I would recommend this to everyone).. It won't guarantee the marriage will last, but it is a good idea.
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happygirl86
10-13-2010 at 08:11 AM.
10-13-2010 at 08:11 AM.
Quote from jeba9999 :
I will tell you this...She is 24 and wants to start a family....So based on that just give me your idea of how much older YOU think is reasonable in your mind...There is no right answer...Just looking for individual opinions.
Okay I'm 24 too so here is my honest unbiased opinion.
35 is the oldest I'd be willing to marry.
And thats only if he looked young and was in good shape.
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10-13-2010 at 08:13 AM.
10-13-2010 at 08:13 AM.
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As many have said, very situational. If you don't want to give us details, don't expect us to feel like getting involved in making sweeping generalizations about age and dating.
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10-13-2010 at 08:17 AM.
10-13-2010 at 08:17 AM.
Who gives a fark what anyone else thinks?
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