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How long should you be in a relationship before popping the ?

4,199 164 October 22, 2010 at 07:16 AM
Other thread about how did you meet and how did they propose made me think of this since I saw a varying of lengths that people were together before the ? came...

What are peoples opinions?

Edit: Thanks brisar for updating the spelling
Well how long do you think?
0 - 6 months (3)
8%
6 months - 1 year (3)
8%
1 year - 1.5 years (1)
3%
1.5 years - 2 years (4)
10%
2 years - 3 years (1)
3%
3 years - 4 years (0)
0%
4+ years (2)
5%
Whenever it feels right (16)
41%
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free /nagin (6)
15%
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8%
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Roland Deschain
10-22-2010 at 07:20 AM.
10-22-2010 at 07:20 AM.
if you ask mybuddy this he'd say...."9 years, give or take"
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SnakePlisken
10-22-2010 at 07:21 AM.
10-22-2010 at 07:21 AM.
is the question something like Why by the cow when you get the milk for free?
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dalokgawd
10-22-2010 at 07:21 AM.
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Depends on the relationship and the people involved.
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redjen910
10-22-2010 at 07:21 AM.
10-22-2010 at 07:21 AM.
I have been considering this same question.

In college I dated a guy for almost 5 years. We never got married and he never bought a ring/proposed even though we discussed marriage at length. Then I dated another guy for a little longer than a year.

At some point just before I turned 30 I came to the conclusion that if I dated a guy for a year and he hadn't asked me to marry him; he wasn't going to.

I dated my ex-husband for 9 months before he proposed. He was aware of my one year assertion.

We have been split up for more than 6 years now and he proposed to his new fiance after dating her a little more than 2 years.

My current BF and I have dated on two seperate "instances" for lack of a better word. I'm unsure if I should consider one year in total time dating. Or if it should be one continuous year.
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oconnor
10-22-2010 at 07:22 AM.
10-22-2010 at 07:22 AM.
It's crazy because some people can be together 2 weeks and get married and live together their whole life. Some live their whole life together and after 2 weeks the marriage is over.

I said when the time is right.


My wife and I were dating just over 3 years before getting married.
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Roland Deschain
10-22-2010 at 07:25 AM.
10-22-2010 at 07:25 AM.
Quote from dalokgawd :
Depends on the relationship and the people involved.
I pretty much agree with this.
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Titansfan1234
10-22-2010 at 07:25 AM.
10-22-2010 at 07:25 AM.
Quote from redjen910 :
I have been considering this same question.

In college I dated a guy for almost 5 years. We never got married and he never bought a ring/proposed even though we discussed marriage at length. Then I dated another guy for a little longer than a year.

At some point just before I turned 30 I came to the conclusion that if I dated a guy for a year and he hadn't asked me to marry him; he wasn't going to.

I dated my ex-husband for 9 months before he proposed. He was aware of my one year assertion.

We have been split up for more than 6 years now and he proposed to his new fiance after dating her a little more than 2 years.

My current BF and I have dated on two seperate "instances" for lack of a better word. I'm unsure if I should consider one year in total time dating. Or if it should be one continuous year.
This is crazy talk. What is the rush? I would wait until I have lived with them for a couple of years and dated a few years prior to that. Will you seriously dump your bf if it turns out you have dated for 13 months?EEK!
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dalokgawd
10-22-2010 at 07:27 AM.
10-22-2010 at 07:27 AM.
Quote from redjen910 :
I have been considering this same question.

In college I dated a guy for almost 5 years. We never got married and he never bought a ring/proposed even though we discussed marriage at length. Then I dated another guy for a little longer than a year.

At some point just before I turned 30 I came to the conclusion that if I dated a guy for a year and he hadn't asked me to marry him; he wasn't going to.

I dated my ex-husband for 9 months before he proposed. He was aware of my one year assertion.

We have been split up for more than 6 years now and he proposed to his new fiance after dating her a little more than 2 years.

My current BF and I have dated on two seperate "instances" for lack of a better word. I'm unsure if I should consider one year in total time dating. Or if it should be one continuous year.
No offense, but don't you think it's a little restrictive to put a mandated time period on that sort of thing? Especially for only one year. That's a REALLY short period of time to know someone before deciding to commit to them for the rest of your life. Shouldn't every situation be decided based on the specific circumstances? What if you're with a guy who would propose given enough time to feel comfortable but you bail out of the relationship after a year because of your artificial time limit?
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slutsky
10-22-2010 at 07:30 AM.
10-22-2010 at 07:30 AM.
Go get a 1 gallon bottle:
1. every time you have sex with her, put a quarter in it.
2. everytime you have a fight with her, take out 3 dollars.
when the bottle is full, it is time...
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veritablequandary
10-22-2010 at 07:31 AM.
10-22-2010 at 07:31 AM.
I don't know but I badly want the spoof of this thread to be "How long should you be in a relationship before pooping?"
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slutsky
10-22-2010 at 07:32 AM.
10-22-2010 at 07:32 AM.
Quote from dalokgawd :
No offense, but don't you think it's a little restrictive to put a mandated time period on that sort of thing? Especially for only one year. That's a REALLY short period of time to know someone before deciding to commit to them for the rest of your life. Shouldn't every situation be decided based on the specific circumstances? What if you're with a guy who would propose given enough time to feel comfortable but you bail out of the relationship after a year because of your artificial time limit?
Iagree
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dalokgawd
10-22-2010 at 07:32 AM.
10-22-2010 at 07:32 AM.
Quote from slutsky :
Go get a 1 gallon bottle:
1. every time you have sex with her, put a quarter in it.
2. everytime you have a fight with her, take out 3 dollars.
when the bottle is full, it is time...
LMAO
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idkist
10-22-2010 at 07:36 AM.
10-22-2010 at 07:36 AM.
Quote from slutsky :
Go get a 1 gallon bottle:
1. every time you have sex with her, put a quarter in it.
2. everytime you have a fight with her, take out 3 dollars.
when the bottle is full, it is time...
amazing... LMAO


Quote from veritableqndry :
I don't know but I badly want the spoof of this thread to be "How long should you be in a relationship before pooping?"
Oddly enough my gf still hasn't pooped at my house laugh out loud
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Phrozt
10-22-2010 at 07:37 AM.
10-22-2010 at 07:37 AM.
I'm also interested in this.
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