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How do you politely get a guy to stop hitting on you?

17,745 1,470 November 6, 2010 at 06:03 PM in Help
The Boy isn't here yet. It has caused some interesting issues at social gatherings. I have no idea what to do when a guy starts talking to me.

Maybe he is just friendly? How long should I let them talk to me before I tell them I'm married? Wot if they AREN'T hitting on me and then I look like a presumptuous arse? I see the conversation going like this

Guy: So you are new to San Diego?
Me: Yeah, moved here a couple months ago
Guy: Its a great place....yadda yadda
Me: ..*continue conversation to be friendly"
Guy: Yeah, you should come out with us some time.
Me: Well I'm married
Guy: I wasn't asking you out.
Me: er.....uh.....*dies*

I haven't been on the dating scene for a while so I have no idea how to skillfully let a guy know I'm taken but remain friendly in case they just wanted to make a new friend too (although I'm not sure how often that actually happens laugh out loud )

Give me some sage advice Whee
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veritablequandary
11-06-2010 at 08:16 PM.
11-06-2010 at 08:16 PM.
Quote from SlickChik :
Oh wait...I got this.

Well I was just looking for a birthday gift for my HUSBAND. That's right. My HUSBAND. DID YA GET THAT?!
And are you still married?
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SlickChik
11-06-2010 at 08:16 PM.
11-06-2010 at 08:16 PM.
Quote from emelvee :
What if I want a guy to hit on me?


wait...I'm not gay. never mind.
Don't wear a bra Dontknow
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emelvee
11-06-2010 at 08:16 PM.
11-06-2010 at 08:16 PM.
Quote from SlickChik :
Don't wear a bra Dontknow
My moobs get sore when I do that.
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SlickChik
11-06-2010 at 08:16 PM.
11-06-2010 at 08:16 PM.
Quote from veritableqndry :
And are you still married?
Head Bang
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LordOfChaos
11-06-2010 at 08:21 PM.
11-06-2010 at 08:21 PM.
Guy: Yeah, you should come out with us some time.
You: Oh cool, that would be great! My husband and I are always looking for new places to go!
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veritablequandary
11-06-2010 at 08:24 PM.
11-06-2010 at 08:24 PM.
You could always go the other direction you know.

"Can you tell me where to find a good swingers' bar?"
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DC
11-06-2010 at 08:49 PM.
11-06-2010 at 08:49 PM.
Quote from veritableqndry :
You could always go the other direction you know.

"Can you tell me where to find a good swingers' bar?"
Or ask if he's bringing his Girlfriend and is she HAWTdrool
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LC2
11-07-2010 at 01:08 AM.
11-07-2010 at 01:08 AM.
It's the When Harry Met Sally thing again: Can men and women be just friends?

My mother always brings up the car scene where he says guys will bang ugly chicks too. I remind her that the film was written by a woman so it may not be an accurate male perspective. Certainly, there have got to be some seriously nasty butt ugly women that no man would touch. EEK!
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Jex
11-07-2010 at 01:40 AM.
11-07-2010 at 01:40 AM.
This thread got incredibly creepy.
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emelvee
11-07-2010 at 05:00 AM.
11-07-2010 at 05:00 AM.
Tell him you'll file a police report and request a restraining order if he doesn't stop hitting. Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)
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kdt
11-07-2010 at 05:06 AM.
11-07-2010 at 05:06 AM.
Quote from emelvee :
Tell him you'll file a police report and request a restraining order if he doesn't stop hitting. Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)
As soon as her husband gets off duty.
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TatorSalad
11-07-2010 at 06:02 AM.
11-07-2010 at 06:02 AM.
Quote from LinuxChick :
It's the When Harry Met Sally thing again: Can men and women be just friends?

My mother always brings up the car scene where he says guys will bang ugly chicks too. I remind her that the film was written by a woman so it may not be an accurate male perspective. Certainly, there have got to be some seriously nasty butt ugly women that no man would touch. EEK!
You must have missed the Melissa Williams story.....
https://slickdeals.net/forums/showthread.php?sduid=525901&t=2351151
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11-07-2010 at 06:55 AM.
11-07-2010 at 06:55 AM.
say "bobby, is that you?? Confused"
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handyguy
11-07-2010 at 09:38 AM.
11-07-2010 at 09:38 AM.
Quote from mgs937 :
just wear your wedding ring....have it visible to the eye when a guy is hitting on you.
That doesn't stop me.
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slutsky
11-07-2010 at 10:22 AM.
11-07-2010 at 10:22 AM.
Quote from handyguy :
That doesn't stop me.
Iagree
That's not a stop sign, it's just a speed bump.
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