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Ok so I'll ask....is there anything wrong with me dating a married woman?

3,549 129 November 23, 2010 at 03:06 PM in Question
It's not me cheating so is there anything wrong with it? A couple of people have told me it's wrong and made it sound like I am evil but they can't really tell me why with anything other than emotional reactions. So what's up?

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11-23-2010 at 03:57 PM.
11-23-2010 at 03:57 PM.
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Is she hot?
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Hell yes!
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if shes hot then its perfectly fine to date her...

if not....totally wrong!
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SDBuddy
11-23-2010 at 03:57 PM.
11-23-2010 at 03:57 PM.
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Is she hot?
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Hell yes!
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OhNoItsDEVO
11-23-2010 at 04:00 PM.
11-23-2010 at 04:00 PM.
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Hell yes!
Then what can I say, I'd probably do the same thing if I was in your position!
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coulditbeSatan
11-23-2010 at 04:00 PM.
11-23-2010 at 04:00 PM.
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Convenient you just skipped over my post and didn't respond...
Didn't see it before.



Quote from Ancalagon :
She is wrong for having an affair with you, but you're equally wrong for allowing her to cheat on her husband with you. You can't control what she does if you were to tell her "no", but by saying "yes" to her, you share every bit of her wrong. Lets bring this example home. If, when her husband finds out and is filled with rage, if someone were to provide him with a handgun, would they be the one committing the resultant crime? No, but would they be morally culpable? Yes. In the same way, you're equally guilty by allowing her to cheat with you, and by enjoying yourself as you tear apart someone's marriage, especially when the husband is unaware (as someone said earlier, it's a somewhat different scenario if they're separated seeking divorce).

It's said that it's one kind of wrong to do something you know is wrong, and it's another entirely to do something you know is wrong and lead others along with you. You are not only dating a married woman, you're allowing and inviting her to have an affair with you by your tacit compliance.

No amount of grammatical gymnastics you attempt to perform can escape that singular fact.
Wow you're all over the place.

1) I am not 'allowing' her cheat. Don't know how you even got there. I'm not committing adultery or cheating on someone else.

2) If her husband ever finds out I think that will be less of a surprise for him than you think. I've known people in similar circumstances and it's very rare that the other spouse is surprised. So I don't see where he would react with your scenario.

3) I am not 'tearing apart' their marriage. Their problems are their problems. So I;ll ask you too....doesn't she deserve the right to some happiness and someone that cares about her?

4) No I am NOT leading her along. I am not 'allowing' her to cheat. That is her choice and we just happened to find each other. It's not like what you are trying to portray.

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PaintTheSkyGrey
11-23-2010 at 04:03 PM.
11-23-2010 at 04:03 PM.
It's perfectly legitimate. If there's not a ring on the fing...

Wait a minute...

Nono1
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11-23-2010 at 04:04 PM.
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That basically sums it up...
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11-23-2010 at 04:04 PM.
11-23-2010 at 04:04 PM.
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Yeah....I'm not an idiot.
look around anyone?
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11-23-2010 at 04:05 PM.
11-23-2010 at 04:05 PM.
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That basically sums it up...
that picture kicks ass!
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11-23-2010 at 04:07 PM.
11-23-2010 at 04:07 PM.
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So I am supposed to just date chicks that are single....
Rofl2

One of the many things wrong with America's youth, ladies and gentlemen!







I love how you say that like it's totally crazy or outlandish somehow. LMAO

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SlicKitty
11-23-2010 at 04:11 PM.
11-23-2010 at 04:11 PM.
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You can't compare a criminal act with this.
He just did. Teehee


Okay, but if you really want opinions, I say - Yes, it's wrong to date a married woman, for a few reasons:

1. There are tons of hot women who are not married, so there isn't a need to date women whose husbands do not know they are screwing around. It's selfish. He has the right to know with whom he is sleeping, by default.

2. Just because she tells you they are estranged does not make it so.

3. If she's sleeping with you, she could easily be sleeping with other people, including her husband. You could bring home something vicious. Gross.

4. If they're so estranged, why can't she just tell him she's sleeping with you?

5. You're asking for your wife (when/if you get one) to sleep around on you.

6. When she gets pregnant and you get hauled into court, will there be anything wrong with that?

7. If he sues you for alienation of affection, will there be anything wrong with that?

I wouldn't trust her. She's sleeping around on her husband. I wouldn't believe a word she says. I'd find one that's free and clear of all obligations and all potential for murder. nod

But, that's me. And though I'm not a horny guy, I can think like one. There's really nothing that would make me sleep with a married woman if I were a guy. Nope. Women are already too complicated. I wouldn't get into that mess.
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11-23-2010 at 04:12 PM.
11-23-2010 at 04:12 PM.
... nm
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incogito
11-23-2010 at 04:14 PM.
11-23-2010 at 04:14 PM.
You're obviously not as much at fault here as the cheating wife, but you're still a dick. Why not tell the husband?
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11-23-2010 at 04:14 PM.
11-23-2010 at 04:14 PM.
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That basically sums it up...
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Rofl2

One of the many things wrong with America's youth, ladies and gentlemen!







I love how you say that like it's totally crazy or outlandish somehow. LMAO
Still no one can tell me how and why I am wrong other than emotional reactions. I am giving her what she needs and wants. What is wrong with that? She isn't getting it from home so why should she have to live without good things in her life?

Oh and yes it is like totally 'outlandish' and 'crazy.' I'm not hurting anyone and I am making her happy.


Come on....why doesn't she have the right to have some happiness?
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BikerEric
11-23-2010 at 04:18 PM.
11-23-2010 at 04:18 PM.
unless she is married to YOU, it's wrong!
end of story
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z2g
11-23-2010 at 04:22 PM.
11-23-2010 at 04:22 PM.
OP,
I told you so. In most cases, ppl always frown upon the lover/mistress. So, that's all you're going to get here......ppl griping about how you're the jerk. Forget the fact that you're not the one who's married. But, that's the society we live in!
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