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Ok so I'll ask....is there anything wrong with me dating a married woman?

3,549 129 November 23, 2010 at 03:06 PM in Question
It's not me cheating so is there anything wrong with it? A couple of people have told me it's wrong and made it sound like I am evil but they can't really tell me why with anything other than emotional reactions. So what's up?

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jenni.
11-24-2010 at 01:11 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:11 PM.
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I can't wait for the day when OwenKealy will come home at the end of the day and post the cute stories about how his day went teaching the little children Girly
laugh out loud Makes you have the warm fuzzies, doesn't it?

Quote from coulditbeSatan :
Now I am scum and she is a whore??? How am I bound by her (or anyone else) marriage vows? You said 'Marriage vows are to be taken seriously by the married person as well as those they come across.' I didn't take any vows to anyone.
In this instance, yes.
And you don't have to take the vows, SHE did, and you should respect them, if nothing else, out of human decency.

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what if you play tug of war with your spouse and another person?
That's a whole other thread.
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Titansfan1234
11-24-2010 at 01:12 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:12 PM.
So if you get married and a guy has sex with your wife, he has done nothing wrong?


Good to know!
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ashcampbell
11-24-2010 at 01:17 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:17 PM.
Ok, so you banged a married chick. Grats you the mang now dog. woot woot.

She cant be trusted. You are a nice shade of grey. If you're just in it for the sex then expect her to stay only until she finds someone with a better quality. If you want to have a real relationship with her...put the breaks on this relationship until her marriage is ended. Also be careful of what state you are in. If the hubby finds out he could sue YOU.

"Only a few states in the United States still allow alienation of affection lawsuits. These states, as of 12/2009, are: Hawaii, Illinois, Mississippi, New Mexico, North Carolina, South Dakota, and Utah."

People that stay in bad relationships usually have issues of their own.
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coulditbeSatan
11-24-2010 at 01:17 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:17 PM.
Quote from IVIax :
You can mod-alert him, though I'm not sure his post crosses any SDs rules... especially since you started a trolling thread Dontknow
I really don't think mod alerting does much. Unless I am the one being mod alerted....then I can tell you it works like a charm! laugh out loud

Hey...you said I am trolling.....I should mod alert that!

Quote from Titansfan1234 :
How do you not see how you are a douche?


You are having sex with another man's wife. Do you have any morals? Any religion? Upbringing? Family values?

This woman is committed to that man and you are helping her break that commitment. Accessory. You are forcing her to cheat, but you are an accessory.
Got it. You think I am a douche.

Yes I have morals. Just that you don't approve of this decision I made does not mean I am void of morals. Religion? No I don't believe in god. Yes I had an upbringing. (Confused) Yes I have family values.

I'm not helping her break her commitment as she has already done that by making her choice. And in no way am I forcing her to do anything.

Quote from SlicKitty :
Cheating requires two people, like tug of war. One can't cheat alone. You are cheating.
Huh This isn't a tug of war. This is a complete difference in events because she took or made vows and I didn't. There is no one I owe faithfulness or loyalty to by me having this relationship. No one.



Ok you can all go back to your math problems. I have tried to explain myself and that isn't getting through. A couple of people think I am not doing anything wrong. Thumbsup One of you...that said it straight up....wants me to be murdered. That guy needs some R&R it sounds like. And Max wants to say a lot but will get warned. So I guess this thread is done for me....but don't let that put a damper on the statistics!!! Yahoo!
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stimpy
11-24-2010 at 01:19 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:19 PM.
Quote from coulditbeSatan :
Quote from stimpy :
OP - questions for you.
Let's just say you're at a bar, obviously together, another dude comes on to her. Ignores you and the fact that he can see you're together. Is that dude wrong?
This is totally different than me at a bar with a chick and some guy starts hitting on my chick even though he knows she is with me.
How is it different? Seriously, how? The only difference is that now you reversed roles. In both cases, the second guy knows about the guy that she's "with".

I meant the question as you and her, literally ... so let me dumb it down a little more for you:
What if you find out she's bangin some other dude that knows you're bangin her?
No hard feelings towards him right? He's still a stand up guy right?
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Titansfan1234
11-24-2010 at 01:20 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:20 PM.
If you don't want to listen to us then this thread is done.


Actually this thread is just done anyways. We all agree except for 2 or 3 posters out of many of us that it is incredibly wrong and what you are doing is helping to break up a marriage, whether it is "headed to towards an end" anyways. If you truly want to be with this women and are really there to "protect her" then tell her husband what you have been doing and help her out of the marriage. Then immediately marry her and post a thread when she cheats on you because of your "emotional abuse".
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veritablequandary
11-24-2010 at 01:20 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:20 PM.
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Jex
11-24-2010 at 01:20 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:20 PM.
Quote from coulditbeSatan :
I really don't think mod alerting does much. Unless I am the one being mod alerted....then I can tell you it works like a charm! laugh out loud

Hey...you said I am trolling.....I should mod alert that!

Got it. You think I am a douche.

Yes I have morals. Just that you don't approve of this decision I made does not mean I am void of morals. Religion? No I don't believe in god. Yes I had an upbringing. (Confused) Yes I have family values.

I'm not helping her break her commitment as she has already done that by making her choice. And in no way am I forcing her to do anything.

Huh This isn't a tug of war. This is a complete difference in events because she took or made vows and I didn't. There is no one I owe faithfulness or loyalty to by me having this relationship. No one.



Ok you can all go back to your math problems. I have tried to explain myself and that isn't getting through. A couple of people think I am not doing anything wrong. Thumbsup One of you...that said it straight up....wants me to be murdered. That guy needs some R&R it sounds like. And Max wants to say a lot but will get warned. So I guess this thread is done for me....but don't let that put a damper on the statistics!!! Yahoo!
So you expected to convince us all that you were doing nothing wrong? I agree good job trolling. High Five Gave us all something to do for the past few days.
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11-24-2010 at 01:21 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:21 PM.
Quote from coulditbeSatan :
I really don't think mod alerting does much. Unless I am the one being mod alerted....then I can tell you it works like a charm! laugh out loud

Hey...you said I am trolling.....I should mod alert that!
if you MA Max for even complimenting you, he will get banned
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Fallacy
11-24-2010 at 01:22 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:22 PM.
Quote from coulditbeSatan :
Hey...you said I am trolling.....I should mod alert that!
You are. And go for it, I didn't call you a troll Wink
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coulditbeSatan
11-24-2010 at 01:25 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:25 PM.
Quote from stimpy :
How is it different? Seriously, how? The only difference is that now you reversed roles. In both cases, the second guy knows about the guy that she's "with".

I meant the question as you and her, literally ... so let me dumb it down a little more for you:
What if you find out she's bangin some other dude that knows you're bangin her?
No hard feelings towards him right? He's still a stand up guy right?
Bu...bu...but I always clean the Slurpee machine with my pants down!!! Means I must be doin' something right!

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if you MA Max for even complimenting you, he will get banned
Rofl2 I recently found out that I can get warned for being 'nasty' as in being mean I guess.
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Fallacy
11-24-2010 at 01:26 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:26 PM.
Quote from coulditbeSatan :
Rofl2 I recently found out that I can get warned for being 'nasty' as in being mean I guess.
But yet all the whores on SDs don't get warned...
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coulditbeSatan
11-24-2010 at 01:26 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:26 PM.
Quote from IVIax :
You are. And go for it, I didn't call you a troll Wink
I haven't ever mod alerted anyone. Waste of time.

I can hear it now 'But you are an accessory to that person breaking the rules and that makes you an accessory!!!' laugh out loud
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trancepire
11-24-2010 at 01:27 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:27 PM.
OP, I think it depends on what your own ethics are.

Do you hold marriage in high regard? Do you hold monogamy in high regard? I ask because our society tells us we're supposed to be monogamous and, as this thread shows, a great deal of people at least pretend to agree with that. I'm not suggesting anyone is lying, but what we say publicly and what we actually do or have done are not always one in the same. Of course, some really dig monogamy and more power to them if that makes them happy.

Basically, if you don't hold the belief that monogamy is really important I figure your own conscience can be fairly clear. I think it's rather unrealistic to expect that one can fulfill all the needs of their mate, and monogamy is clearly contrary to the way many of us would prefer to act, so I understand where cheaters are coming from.

I don't think anyone here is going to say what you're doing is perfectly fine, as the husband probably would care if he knew, but not everyone's ethics are the same.
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Titansfan1234
11-24-2010 at 01:28 PM.
11-24-2010 at 01:28 PM.
See, excellent trolling.

Carry on old chap!
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