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Ok so I'll ask....is there anything wrong with me dating a married woman?
November 23, 2010 at
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It's not me cheating so is there anything wrong with it? A couple of people have told me it's wrong and made it sound like I am evil but they can't really tell me why with anything other than emotional reactions. So what's up?
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I can hear it now 'But you are an accessory to that person breaking the rules and that makes you an accessory!!!'
Do you hold marriage in high regard? Do you hold monogamy in high regard? I ask because our society tells us we're supposed to be monogamous and, as this thread shows, a great deal of people at least pretend to agree with that. I'm not suggesting anyone is lying, but what we say publicly and what we actually do or have done are not always one in the same. Of course, some really dig monogamy and more power to them if that makes them happy.
Basically, if you don't hold the belief that monogamy is really important I figure your own conscience can be fairly clear. I think it's rather unrealistic to expect that one can fulfill all the needs of their mate, and monogamy is clearly contrary to the way many of us would prefer to act, so I understand where cheaters are coming from.
I don't think anyone here is going to say what you're doing is perfectly fine, as the husband probably would care if he knew, but not everyone's ethics are the same.
I was searching for the word 'Kindle' and somehow ended up with this thread as one of the results. The topic looked interesting.
Man, I haven't poked my head into the Lounge in ages.
I was searching for the word 'Kindle' and somehow ended up with this thread as one of the results. The topic looked interesting.
Man, I haven't poked my head into the Lounge in ages.
Yes. For when I am married. Other marriages I don't control.
Do you hold monogamy in high regard?
Yes. I am monogamous and she is with me. Despite what some in this thread say or think.
I ask because our society tells us we're supposed to be monogamous and, as this thread shows, a great deal of people at least pretend to agree with that.
I have had my thoughts about how honest people are being here or how perfect they are too.
I'm not suggesting anyone is lying, but what we say publicly and what we actually do or have done are not always one in the same. Of course, some really dig monogamy and more power to them if that makes them happy.
Basically, if you don't hold the belief that monogamy is really important I figure your own conscience can be fairly clear. I think it's rather unrealistic to expect that one can fulfill all the needs of their mate, and monogamy is clearly contrary to the way many of us would prefer to act, so I understand where cheaters are coming from.
That is true too and agree with it wrt monogamy. It seems unnatural in many ways but like most people I was raised to be monogamous and believe in it.
I don't think anyone here is going to say what you're doing is perfectly fine, as the husband probably would care if he knew, but not everyone's ethics are the same.
True dat!
Like I told Malwhatever I think you would all be focusing on the battered and abused woman and overlook my having sex with her if that were the case. I am not being contrary to be that way. It may appear that way but I just don't see how I am doing anything wrong when I am not cheating or making anyone do anything.
You would be knowingly dealing with an abused and battered woman and then making the conscious choice to participate with her in an act that could possibly push her husband over the edge to the point where instead of just beating her he actually killed her the next time. For you to try and rationalize that it wouldn't be your fault is simply not possible for anyone with a rational mind.
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O wait, you didn't foresee it
I think this thread should be linked next to the definition for "self deluded" on dictionary.com.
I think this thread should be linked next to the definition for "self deluded" on dictionary.com.
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