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12-30-2010 at 12:57 PM.
12-30-2010 at 12:57 PM.
jteef -

I knew you were somehow special from reading your previous posts. But this time - this last post - has proved it beyond a doubt. You are a sensitive, caring, insightful, wise woman who was very lucky in love and even better than that, you know how lucky you were. And I'd bet you knew how lucky you were when your husband was alive.

Your post made so much sense, and I hope those who need it will take it to heart. If you have someone in your life who is not "getting it" they won't get it by your pouting and not communicating.

Most people do not intentionally try to hurt someone they love. In fact, most reasonable people don't try to hurt anyone intentionally at all. But it happens. And when it does, your words should help. Talk to that person. Avoid letting things simmer. Don't try to have a conversation in the heat of the moment, but wait for a calm time to approach it serenely. People don't have to be a mystery to each other. You have a God-given voice for a reason. Use it wisely, as you should all your gifts.

A New Year is coming. It too is a gift. Live it well. Happy New Year to everyone!
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12-30-2010 at 01:04 PM.
12-30-2010 at 01:04 PM.
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1. Yes, numerous times.
2. Evil Enough. ? ! laugh out loud

And LOL yup Bunnies is right MOT we are not dealing with normal and I'm pretty sure that'd fly in one ear and straight out the other Wink
Because you have seen the defendant in action.

1) You BOLDLY tell her that you want x amount of what she has.
2) She will refuse. You walk away.
3) You go to the register and wait for her.
4) When you see her coming, you get the manager.
5) In your best confused voice you tell the manager that you wanted 10 of such and such a product. There was none left on the shelf. You tell him that the customer over there (don't point, just kinda move your eyes and your head in her direction) has cleared the shelf. Tell him that you asked politely for some, and she refused. Ask if he can help.
6) If he is going to go over to her, stop him, tell him you would like xx of them and then tell him that you are going to walk over to the jewelry so that she can't see you because you are afraid. Then go and wait.

Because you have seen the defendant in action.

1) You BOLDLY tell her you want x amount of what she has.
2) She will refuse or give you 1. Tell her you need xx of them.
3) Tell her that you both shop and that you both should enjoy the products.
4) She will give you more and she will do so with attitude.
5) Thank her.
6) If she says no and tells you that she needs all of the items. Say to her, I was hoping you wouldn't say that. Then walk away. Go to the managers and do the above.

OR..get on the phone and call the store you are standing in. Ask for help. Tell them that there is a customer clearing the shelves of the items and she refuses to give you any.

Now I know you are not going to want to do the above, and as uncomfortable as it will make you, it will make her more uncomfortable. If you let her know in no uncertain terms that you are going to make her very well known and not on a good level, she might just back off. You won't stop her from clearing the shelves, but if you are there and she is there, she is going to share.

Also don't be afraid to get in there and take what you want. Even if you are not really going to buy all of what you take..take them anyway. Take them in front of her.

Don't be a bully in any way. Don't make her feel threatened. But let her know that the store is not her territory and you are laying claim.

You are more likely to get results if you claim victim to the manager versus mean woman.

Chances are the manager is going to tell the said defendant that there is a limit on such and such an item. The defendant will be insulted and mad and wonder if she is being singled out. She will wonder if she is on the stores radar.

I am ballsy. If she had 10 of the items and I needed 5 and she refused. I would tell her, well let's let the manager decide. More times then not, they don't want the attention, don't want a manager and will give you what you want.
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12-30-2010 at 01:33 PM.
12-30-2010 at 01:33 PM.
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Bunnies.....I haz a shelf-clearer here and I need a scheme to deal with it Evil
Well... I was just thinking about that... and wanted to share some wisdom from my father -straight up - or as someone once said about my dad (a farmer) - " He just says it like it is - and he doesn't usually sugar coat things..."

Anyway - my dad died this past August. But when we were taking care of him at home the week before he died - He told my sister how to help him move from the toilet to the chair easier.

I had started using wet wipes (free from Walmart with $2 Qs Smilie ) to clean him after he went to the bathroom. At least that is what *I* thought I was doing.....

But my dad had a different perspective on the situation. When my sister was having trouble getting him to stand long enough to pull up his pants and move him to his chair - I heard him tell her how *I* handled the situation.

He told her that I had a special way of doing it. He said "She gets me up and then right about when I start to slump - she hits me in the ass with a cold wet rag, and it straightens me right up."
laugh out loud

So maybe...just maybe...if you go up and hit the shelf-clearer in the ass with a cold wet rag - it will straighten her right up. Wink
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12-30-2010 at 01:51 PM.
12-30-2010 at 01:51 PM.
LOL....you guys are giving me some great ideas....Bunnies...I am pretty sure that even if I asked her for some of whatever she was swiping she would happily give me some. MOST of the time however I find out after the fact...have only actually spotted her in action a handful of times. And even at that she swipes so dang fast that by the time I make it to wherever she's at the shelf is wiped clean and she's on to the next thing OMG

The one time we were both going for the same thing at Wags (body wash FARR) and I arrived in the aisle right behind her she says, "I'm assuming you're wanting some of these?" Huh Well, WHAT'S it look like I'm here for?? And I took what I wanted no objections from her. The biggest problem is that if you aren't there before she gets there you're screwed out of the deal because she doesn't think about the people that might come in behind her....just leaves her path of destruction. That's why I've gone to being proactive and getting to a store when they open if I really want something. I talked to our Wags manager once too....their hands are tied as she pretty much calls corporate on them and corporate tells the store not to limit her Confused This manager has done a lot better job of stocking things though.

For her, I think it's only going to hit her if we 'swap shoes' so to speak. In other words, if the same thing is done to her. That takes careful planning though.....and stalking of message boards LMAO Evil I'm still kicking myself for not thinking faster and swiping those gift sets all into my cart Sunday morning.....and then just leaving them somewhere in the store after she was gone Teehee Somehow I think she would have just been back later for them Dontknow

Jteef - so is that a LITERAL cold rag to the behind or a figurative one laugh out loud
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12-30-2010 at 01:58 PM.
12-30-2010 at 01:58 PM.
Quote from jteef1 :
Well... I was just thinking about that... and wanted to share some wisdom from my father -straight up - or as someone once said about my dad (a farmer) - " He just says it like it is - and he doesn't usually sugar coat things..."

Anyway - my dad died this past August. But when we were taking care of him at home the week before he died - He told my sister how to help him move from the toilet to the chair easier.

I had started using wet wipes (free from Walmart with $2 Qs Smilie ) to clean him after he went to the bathroom. At least that is what *I* thought I was doing.....

But my dad had a different perspective on the situation. When my sister was having trouble getting him to stand long enough to pull up his pants and move him to his chair - I heard him tell her how *I* handled the situation.

He told her that I had a special way of doing it. He said "She gets me up and then right about when I start to slump - she hits me in the ass with a cold wet rag, and it straightens me right up."
laugh out loud

So maybe...just maybe...if you go up and hit the shelf-clearer in the ass with a cold wet rag - it will straighten them right up. Wink
That is undoubtedly the funniest thing I have read in a looooooooooog time. laugh out loud
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12-30-2010 at 02:02 PM.
12-30-2010 at 02:02 PM.
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I talked to our Wags manager once too....their hands are tied as she pretty much calls corporate on them and corporate tells the store not to limit her Confused This manager has done a lot better job of stocking things though.laugh out loud
This could be an opportunity for you -- since he doesn't limit and is aware of her habits; he would probably order how many you want and hold them for ya. Could work to your advantage.

I know you have CVS there too -- she probably does the same thing there, so it might work for you there too.
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12-30-2010 at 02:08 PM.
12-30-2010 at 02:08 PM.
okay coffee lovers.. I am about to order kcups online again.. any reviews of the cinnamon pastry coffee?
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12-30-2010 at 02:20 PM.
12-30-2010 at 02:20 PM.
Have not tried that one l2b....sounds yummy though....who makes it?? Ohhhhh nvm I see, Timothy's World.....gets good reviews on Amazon!! Now I want some yummy

Quote from gt6mk31 :
This could be an opportunity for you -- since he doesn't limit and is aware of her habits; he would probably order how many you want and hold them for ya. Could work to your advantage.

I know you have CVS there too -- she probably does the same thing there, so it might work for you there too.
I *think* he probably would. I have just been casually shopping Wags lately though, so I don't usually have tons of q's to need to do that. And I really have not had a ton of stock issues despite her habits because a) I'm not usually going for the same stuff as her and b) we aren't always shopping at the same stores. I think it's more of an issue of what I (and other area couponers) *could have* gotten if she hadn't cleared the shelves. Though I am really quite content with where I'm at now.

I mean, who has a need for 108 or whatever gift wrap cutters?!?! Not me. Sometimes I am just happy that she's preoccupied with stuff like that Crazy
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12-30-2010 at 02:41 PM.
12-30-2010 at 02:41 PM.
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I am speaking from a widow's perspective here. My husband died 4 years ago this February. He was 55 years old. He had cancer.

I think, despite their best efforts, men often don't 'know better" even after 100 years. And they usually don't "get it" when we hint, pout, be indirect, and passive aggressive. During those times - they generally just stand aside and hope whatever is bothering us passes...having NO clue it was something THEY did....

My husband was so sweet to me. He walked out to the car with an umbrella when it was raining to walk me into the house. The fall before he died, he planted daisies (my favorite flower) all around - and after he died I walked outside one day and was surrounded by blooming daisies. He figured out a way to keep giving me flowers even after he was gone.

Several months before he died he gave me the a copy of the song "If tomorrow never comes..."

"If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face the world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes"

I asked him - "Are you trying to tell me something? Do you know you aren't going to make it?"

He told me "No - I just want to make sure that IF tomorrow never comes, I have given you enough love while I was here to last you for always."

I listened to that song over and over again - and cried and cried at the thought of losing him. But one day - the song sank in in a different way - and I told him - "The answer is YES. If tomorrow never comes - you HAVE loved me enough while you were here to last me for ALWAYS. I will never, ever doubt how much you loved me."

(Of course, after he died - I wanted to take that back - "I changed my mind!!!! You haven't loved me enough YET!! You get back here RIGHT NOW and love me some MORE!!!!"

Even when my husband was dying - The morning he died - He told me "I still have the will to live, but I don't think I have the strength anymore." And he asked me if it was okay for him to go. He wanted to know if I would be okay. I lied - and told him I would be okay.

Then he said "I am really happy though. I am happy that I got to marry you." Then he touched my nose. And touched my lips. And put his hand on his heart and then put his hand on my heart. It was a beautiful moment, though very "bittersweet."

My husband was sweet and romantic. And he loved me dearly. Knowing that my husband could tell me on the last day of his life, knowing it would be his last day "I am really happy..." meant so much to me.

But there were also so many times my husband didn't "get it," should have "known better," etc. etc. (He never gave me a porn film for Christmas though...)

But of all the things I have regretted in my life - some of the moments I "wasted" over those things have haunted me at times. Sometimes at Christmas - I hear Christmas music and remember the time - his last Christmas here - I was upset about something - had spent a whole two days pouting about it already - hoping that he would "get it." But instead of "getting it," he decided to try to cheer me up - and put on some Christmas music - which I dearly love. I asked him to turn it off. I didn't want to be cheered up. I wanted him to "get it."

I wasted two whole days of our last Christmas together. I wasted the beauty of the Christmas music. I wasted that because I was pouting because he didn't "wrap his love in a pretty enough package" in the incident that bothered me. It wasn't that I felt he didn't love me, or didn't care - but I wanted him to show it in a different way (or metaphorcially - wrap it in a "prettier package") than he did.

Those things don't seem to bother men as much as us. When I told my husband during one of the last couple of day "I am sorry. I am sorry for all the moments I wasted..." He said "Why? I am happy!"

There was alot of comfort in that - knowing that he was happy regardless of how many times that *I* also didn't "get it." And it doesn't bother me all the time. Most of my memories are beautiful ones.

But still - there are moments when those memories still come back and haunt me. And I think - "Why didn't I just TELL him what I wanted?" or "Why didn't I just TELL him how I felt?" Why did I waste so many moments that I shouldn't have wasted? Moments that I can never get back?

So, I guess my message to you, from my widow's perspective - is be mindful of how many moments you spend on this - and be mindful that you are spending the time you have with your husband in the way you want to.

I am not saying that you shouldn't be hurt, offended, or anything else. You have EVERY RIGHT to feel as you do.

You have many choices.

You might decide - My husband really loves me. He finds me attractive, and sexy, and desirable. He sure wrapped that in a strange and ugly package. But I will overlook the package - and appreciate the gift that was inside it..."

You might decide to just sit down and tell him directly - "I know you meant well, or I hope you did, but giving me that movie, especially as a Christmas present, really hurt me. I was offended, hurt, etc. etc."

You might decide to just vent - tell him off - "Of all the Tacky, Tasteless, Horrid Christmas presents I can think of - THIS ONE takes the cake!!!
(Ironically, I don't have any haunting regrets of the times I just outright told my husband off - just the times I wasted moments. Probably because once you tell them off - you can move on....I don't know...)

You might decide to get him something tacky for his birthday - and try to hurt him back.

You might decide to never tell him, but carry the hurt inside....

You might decide 100 other things....

You have every right to feel hurt. Now you just have to decide what to do with that feeling....
Crying

Crying

Crying


Crying

I know, I just didn't want to 'ruin' Xmas with it all and he has been back to work for a couple of days. Monday is his next day off, so I will most likely bring it up then. Plus, I am super abrasive, so I need to wait and think a while before I actually speak or it could result in divorce Teehee
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12-30-2010 at 02:54 PM.
12-30-2010 at 02:54 PM.
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Crying

Crying

Crying


Crying

I know, I just didn't want to 'ruin' Xmas with it all and he has been back to work for a couple of days. Monday is his next day off, so I will most likely bring it up then. Plus, I am super abrasive, so I need to wait and think a while before I actually speak or it could result in divorce Teehee
Oh... in that case - ask if he minds if you re-gift the movie to his mother... Wink
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12-30-2010 at 03:14 PM.
12-30-2010 at 03:14 PM.
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Oh... in that case - ask if he minds if you re-gift the movie to his mother... Wink
Yes, this.

And I'm just curious..have ya watched it yet Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)
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12-30-2010 at 03:14 PM.
12-30-2010 at 03:14 PM.
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Oh... in that case - ask if he minds if you re-gift the movie to his mother... Wink
LMAO
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12-30-2010 at 03:44 PM.
12-30-2010 at 03:44 PM.
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charmin = cvs during bonus buys month.

we use charmin ultra soft and refuse to use anything else. i got tons of it in jan this year. we're still using it. and there's more stocked up for a family member who's moving and needs the help. i think i've only ever gotten 2-3 packs of charmin at T when they had a sale on it or maybe it was on clearance.

keep an eye out on DS forum for cvs bonus buys thread. should be popping up soon. and read up on cvs faq before then if you don't cvs, so you understand how that store works. maybe even start doing some deals next few weeks to build up some extra care bucks so you can roll.
i used up the last of my bucks so i'm starting from scratch also and i will help out any of you with tips.

I ran out also, had been rolling them for over a year, I need to go buy somehting to see my year end spending vs savings it's HUGE !!! I feel the cvs love ,LOL

I need so low OOP deals to start back up. Head's up please if you have any ideas.
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Thank you but no can do. Closest CVS is 150 miles from here.
I have a terrible memory. Are you from Iowa too? CR area?
See, your husband was being thoughtful after all. He intended it as an exercise video.
Holy crap. I don't want one anyway but that cinches it. An hour to an hour and half just to wash one load?
Oh yeah, I take it too. Nothing else works for me either. I don't believe there is any end in sight for it to go generic either. Near as I can determine -- 2014 will be the soonest, if then. You might try contacting Aztra Zenica. Something sticks in my mind that they might be one that has some drug help program or maybe coupons.
There, therehug You didn't kill it.

Man oh man, everything is wet and sloppy here. We are having a weird thaw. Mind you, I'm not complaining. Christmas crap is still in the little garage (one car attached where I park my van). I have two fans and an electric heater out there going now to get the last of the snow off and dried up. Then I get to start dragging the stuff to the big garage (not attached & at the end of the yard), finding the appropriate box or tub and stuffing it in them. We have a pick up out there that we rarely drive. Stuff is going into the back of it for now, then one day hubby and I will put it back up overhead in the garage. Still have to try to get the two big things out of the yard. I will be soaked to the skin. Brrrr.

I really should take this tree down. Ehh, hubby will be home tomorrow. We can do it them... then he will bring the pruners in and chop it up in pieces to haul it out.
And then
Holy crap. I ordered a photo mug from Snapfish last night. Don't remember exact time -- but after 4 for sure. I have an email that it has been shipped.
NJ, Pa area , I just really emphatize on this one . and I'm nosey

Try not to overdo it and pay due homage to the , the warm and tasty beveage maker.
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I haven't had time to read & catch up ----- but I had to come on here to say MEESH ROCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

THANK YOU MEESH!!! Today I opened a box from Meesh with a lovey Christmas present --- totally unexpected and generous and kind!!!!!!! I just wanted everyone here to know that Meesh is just an amazing friend!!!!

THANKS THANKS THANKS THANKS THANKS THANKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes Meesh ,is an amazing person , and you got it just in time for worship service !
Quote from jteef1 :
I am speaking from a widow's perspective here. My husband died 4 years ago this February. He was 55 years old. He had cancer.

I think, despite their best efforts, men often don't 'know better" even after 100 years. And they usually don't "get it" when we hint, pout, be indirect, and passive aggressive. During those times - they generally just stand aside and hope whatever is bothering us passes...having NO clue it was something THEY did....

My husband was so sweet to me. He walked out to the car with an umbrella when it was raining to walk me into the house. The fall before he died, he planted daisies (my favorite flower) all around - and after he died I walked outside one day and was surrounded by blooming daisies. He figured out a way to keep giving me flowers even after he was gone.

Several months before he died he gave me the a copy of the song "If tomorrow never comes..."

"If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face the world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes"

I asked him - "Are you trying to tell me something? Do you know you aren't going to make it?"

He told me "No - I just want to make sure that IF tomorrow never comes, I have given you enough love while I was here to last you for always."

I listened to that song over and over again - and cried and cried at the thought of losing him. But one day - the song sank in in a different way - and I told him - "The answer is YES. If tomorrow never comes - you HAVE loved me enough while you were here to last me for ALWAYS. I will never, ever doubt how much you loved me."

(Of course, after he died - I wanted to take that back - "I changed my mind!!!! You haven't loved me enough YET!! You get back here RIGHT NOW and love me some MORE!!!!"

Even when my husband was dying - The morning he died - He told me "I still have the will to live, but I don't think I have the strength anymore." And he asked me if it was okay for him to go. He wanted to know if I would be okay. I lied - and told him I would be okay.

Then he said "I am really happy though. I am happy that I got to marry you." Then he touched my nose. And touched my lips. And put his hand on his heart and then put his hand on my heart. It was a beautiful moment, though very "bittersweet."

My husband was sweet and romantic. And he loved me dearly. Knowing that my husband could tell me on the last day of his life, knowing it would be his last day "I am really happy..." meant so much to me.

But there were also so many times my husband didn't "get it," should have "known better," etc. etc. (He never gave me a porn film for Christmas though...)

But of all the things I have regretted in my life - some of the moments I "wasted" over those things have haunted me at times. Sometimes at Christmas - I hear Christmas music and remember the time - his last Christmas here - I was upset about something - had spent a whole two days pouting about it already - hoping that he would "get it." But instead of "getting it," he decided to try to cheer me up - and put on some Christmas music - which I dearly love. I asked him to turn it off. I didn't want to be cheered up. I wanted him to "get it."

I wasted two whole days of our last Christmas together. I wasted the beauty of the Christmas music. I wasted that because I was pouting because he didn't "wrap his love in a pretty enough package" in the incident that bothered me. It wasn't that I felt he didn't love me, or didn't care - but I wanted him to show it in a different way (or metaphorcially - wrap it in a "prettier package") than he did.

Those things don't seem to bother men as much as us. When I told my husband during one of the last couple of day "I am sorry. I am sorry for all the moments I wasted..." He said "Why? I am happy!"

There was alot of comfort in that - knowing that he was happy regardless of how many times that *I* also didn't "get it." And it doesn't bother me all the time. Most of my memories are beautiful ones.

But still - there are moments when those memories still come back and haunt me. And I think - "Why didn't I just TELL him what I wanted?" or "Why didn't I just TELL him how I felt?" Why did I waste so many moments that I shouldn't have wasted? Moments that I can never get back?

So, I guess my message to you, from my widow's perspective - is be mindful of how many moments you spend on this - and be mindful that you are spending the time you have with your husband in the way you want to.

I am not saying that you shouldn't be hurt, offended, or anything else. You have EVERY RIGHT to feel as you do.

You have many choices.

You might decide - My husband really loves me. He finds me attractive, and sexy, and desirable. He sure wrapped that in a strange and ugly package. But I will overlook the package - and appreciate the gift that was inside it..."

You might decide to just sit down and tell him directly - "I know you meant well, or I hope you did, but giving me that movie, especially as a Christmas present, really hurt me. I was offended, hurt, etc. etc."

You might decide to just vent - tell him off - "Of all the Tacky, Tasteless, Horrid Christmas presents I can think of - THIS ONE takes the cake!!!
(Ironically, I don't have any haunting regrets of the times I just outright told my husband off - just the times I wasted moments. Probably because once you tell them off - you can move on....I don't know...)

You might decide to get him something tacky for his birthday - and try to hurt him back.

You might decide to never tell him, but carry the hurt inside....

You might decide 100 other things....

You have every right to feel hurt. Now you just have to decide what to do with that feeling....
You were a very lucky woman and sounds like you were married to an A M A Z I N G ,
and loving man. You must miss him terribly hug



Oh, so true and I was taught this at a fairly young age.

But it is just so much fun to fantasize about the awful things we want to do sometimes isn't it ?Mad laugh out loud

Then when we're all done having our fantasy fun....Crylol

Sometimes then we can get calm enough to deal on a better level



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I think everyone is just worshipping their coffee right now:

Yes, french Vanilla and it is indeed praiseworthy !Worthy
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123 lbs of food donated at the food bank today, all name brand items, still in date.

I've got another delivery for HBA tomorrow (deodorant, body wash, neutrogena soap, toothpaste, etc).

You can't tell anything is missing from my house though Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)

I've decided to buy 2 of the bookcases in this weeks ad, and take the shelving out of one to put in the other (double shelves), just for coupons. Tired of them being stacked on the floor.

Wow ! that is impressive.

I need to do something shortly, my little stockpile is overtaking the shelves, and my inserts , are slip sliding everywhere.

I just havn't saved enough with the q's yet ,to justify spending money on the stuff organizing stiuff. I need to kick in high gear ...soon . I',m kinda at that mid-range. L2B - Sorry about the barf bug ... it has started its way thru here as well .... my Miss M spent time barfing in my bed niiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiice! Hope your bug passes quickly!!!

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Next time you see her, go up to her and tell her to leave some for other customers....It's nice she is donating and all but other people might need to buy cheap stuff too....
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1. Yes, numerous times.
Enough. ? !
And LOL yup Bunnies is right MOT we are not dealing with normal and I'm pretty sure that'd fly in one ear and straight out the otherWink

I don't think she'd take it to heart either.
I don't think this is "normal " either ,and I'm not just talking quantities but her demeanor. a
She obviously delights in the numbers and I "m not sure she even cares what's she's buying.

I think she doesn't have an enough button. Even mentions , I have a feleing with grief,
that she left five box cutters ,cause she didn't have any more Q's .QUOTE=bunnies46;35891981]Because you have seen the defendant in action.

1) You BOLDLY tell her that you want x amount of what she has.
2) She will refuse. You walk away.
3) You go to the register and wait for her.
4) When you see her coming, you get the manager.
5) In your best confused voice you tell the manager that you wanted 10 of such and such a product. There was none left on the shelf. You tell him that the customer over there (don't point, just kinda move your eyes and your head in her direction) has cleared the shelf. Tell him that you asked politely for some, and she refused. Ask if he can help.
6) If he is going to go over to her, stop him, tell him you would like xx of them and then tell him that you are going to walk over to the jewelry so that she can't see you because you are afraid. Then go and wait.

Because you have seen the defendant in action.

1) You BOLDLY tell her you want x amount of what she has.
2) She will refuse or give you 1. Tell her you need xx of them.
3) Tell her that you both shop and that you both should enjoy the products.
4) She will give you more and she will do so with attitude.
5) Thank her.
6) If she says no and tells you that she needs all of the items. Say to her, I was hoping you wouldn't say that. Then walk away. Go to the managers and do the above.

OR..get on the phone and call the store you are standing in. Ask for help. Tell them that there is a customer clearing the shelves of the items and she refuses to give you any.

Now I know you are not going to want to do the above, and as uncomfortable as it will make you, it will make her more uncomfortable. If you let her know in no uncertain terms that you are going to make her very well known and not on a good level, she might just back off. You won't stop her from clearing the shelves, but if you are there and she is there, she is going to share.

Also don't be afraid to get in there and take what you want. Even if you are not really going to buy all of what you take..take them anyway. Take them in front of her.

Don't be a bully in any way. Don't make her feel threatened. But let her know that the store is not her territory and you are laying claim.

You are more likely to get results if you claim victim to the manager versus mean woman.

Chances are the manager is going to tell the said defendant that there is a limit on such and such an item. The defendant will be insulted and mad and wonder if she is being singled out. She will wonder if she is on the stores radar.

I am ballsy. If she had 10 of the items and I needed 5 and she refused. I would tell her, well let's let the manager decide. More times then not, they don't want the attention, don't want a manager and will give you what you want.[/QUOTE]

I knew you"d have something scathingling l brilliant !

Now that I've had some coffee and some sleep...

My first thought was just shop out of her cart...after all, there not her's yet, she hasn't paid for them . Oh I'm so sorry I thought that was a stocking cart there are just soooo many and none on the shelves !!!!!!!! LOL I doubt if she compained to management they would do anything since they know her and her habits . and my guess is would bounce secretly of course. GT6 was my second and politer option., and might work out quite well, just not as scheming and mean ...,or fun ! LOL

Quote from gt6mk31 :
This could be an opportunity for you -- since he doesn't limit and is aware of her habits; he would probably order how many you want and hold them for ya. Could work to your advantage.

I know you have CVS there too -- she probably does the same thing there, so it might work for you there too.
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Have not tried that one l2b....sounds yummy though....who makes it?? Ohhhhh nvm I see, Timothy's World.....gets good reviews on Amazon!! Now I want some :



I *think* he probably would. I have just been casually shopping Wags lately though, so I don't usually have tons of q's to need to do that. And I really have not had a ton of stock issues despite her habits because a) I'm not usually going for the same stuff as her and b) we aren't always shopping at the same stores. I think it's more of an issue of what I (and other area couponers) *could have* gotten if she hadn't cleared the shelves. Though I am really quite content with where I'm at now.

I mean, who has a need for 108 or whatever gift wrap cutters?!?! Not me. Sometimes I am just happy that she's preoccupied with stuff like that

That was my thought to...who could possibly need that many..,also part of the reason I think it's the high, or trying to fill an emptiness.

I wondering if JUST once a manager would be willing to leave it all or most of in the stockroom till she left...might just send a message.


That list of stores she shops came right from one of her post... I'm nosy .

I haven't encountered anyone here like that , but the demeanor you described justs bugged me , so I emphatize

I just watched the new Willy Wonka movie the other night, she should have been one of those characters.... Wink





DANG !!! Bunnies I scrwed up your "quote"s ...sorry ...
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Yes, this.

And I'm just curious..have ya watched it yet Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)
Ohhhhh - I have an idea!!!bulb

Maybe she can upload it ...and we can all watch it TOGETHER. Popcorn Tvhappy

and worship our coffee Worthy

and stuff...EEK!Blush3Whistling
just sayin....Seehearspeak
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12-30-2010 at 03:55 PM.
Well, I'm speechless..well not really. I'm thinking..I'll ask DH if he wants to watch with me. He'll jump on that one..then he'll say he wants to meet all of you cause he'll think you are all super cool.
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