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Can't seem to get him to take his junk out and go somewhere else...
March 1, 2011 at
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Hey peoples 
Miss you guys
Okayyy, so I have a situation I have somehow gotten myself into. Go figure
A girl friend of mine was letting her friend live with her, kind of a roommate sort-of deal. Over the time she had him living with her and hanging out with her, he became kind of a mutual friend and I felt bad for the way she'd treat him, because well, I dunno how to put it besides the fact that he's rather umm "socially awkward." He's the kind of guy that doesn't make friends easily and he's not quite as mature as he may should be at his age (which is same age as my friend and I,) but he is a good guy at heart and I felt she was taking major advantage of him anyway, because he was pretty much her slave. He was head over heels for her; she just used him for money, to clean her house, etc... I felt bad for him but figured it wasn't really my business.
Anyway, cut to about 2.5 weeks ago. I'm out of town while a different girl friend of mine is house-sitting for me and staying over at my place. I get a call around 4am one morning, and the guy friend that was living with my other friend is crying his eyes out saying he has no where to go, that my friend kicked him out, it's freezing cold and in his car and doesn't know what to do. Sigh. I'm half asleep and I felt bad since he was crying, so I reluctantly say, "okay dude, I guess you can crash at my place a couple days since I'm gone anyway and hopefully you can get something figured out soon. My friend is there, she'll let you in, just get out of the cold and try to figure something out."
Cue to now. He's still here :-/ I've hinted to him several times that he needs to go, and even told him in the beginning that he couldn't stay too long because I could actually get in trouble for lease violation or something since we aren't supposed to have people move in unless we notify the apt manager, etc. He says he's looking, but the thing is, he has no money really to even get a place. He's wasted what money he did have. As I said, he's not as mature as he should be in some ways and is a little different... he's wasted his money on $25 mystery boxes, hdmi cables, books and videos on how to play a violin (umm, he doesn't even have a violin with him, he just plans to one day get his old one back from his parents, wthhh.) And so now he's down to almost zilch in his account.
Those of you that know me probably know that I'm sometimes too nice for my own good... I have a problem saying "no" to people, and I often get doormat treatment I guess. I feel so horrible because he has nowhere to go, and I don't know how to just kick him out knowing he'd be having to live in his car.
But really, I've *got* to get him outta here pretty soon... he's kind of driving me crazy anyway, lol. The wasting money, the having an extra person to pick up after (like 3 kids isn't enough ), he doesn't exactly shower... and I just got a new-to-me couch and I don't want him stinking it up permanently :-/ lol. But seriously. He's gonna have to go.
How do I get him to do that? I honestly feel it's not in my heart to put anyone on the street if I can help it, it makes me feel horrible. But he can't crash here on my couch too much longer; my sanity nor my lease agreement will allow it.
Suggestions on what to do? For someone that doesn't do to well with confrontation or putting others in bad situations?
TL;DR : Friend got kicked out, I said okay, can crash at my place few days til figure something out... still here almost 3 weeks later. Will have nowhere to go when I kick out. What to do?
Miss you guys Okayyy, so I have a situation I have somehow gotten myself into. Go figure
A girl friend of mine was letting her friend live with her, kind of a roommate sort-of deal. Over the time she had him living with her and hanging out with her, he became kind of a mutual friend and I felt bad for the way she'd treat him, because well, I dunno how to put it besides the fact that he's rather umm "socially awkward." He's the kind of guy that doesn't make friends easily and he's not quite as mature as he may should be at his age (which is same age as my friend and I,) but he is a good guy at heart and I felt she was taking major advantage of him anyway, because he was pretty much her slave. He was head over heels for her; she just used him for money, to clean her house, etc... I felt bad for him but figured it wasn't really my business.
Anyway, cut to about 2.5 weeks ago. I'm out of town while a different girl friend of mine is house-sitting for me and staying over at my place. I get a call around 4am one morning, and the guy friend that was living with my other friend is crying his eyes out saying he has no where to go, that my friend kicked him out, it's freezing cold and in his car and doesn't know what to do. Sigh. I'm half asleep and I felt bad since he was crying, so I reluctantly say, "okay dude, I guess you can crash at my place a couple days since I'm gone anyway and hopefully you can get something figured out soon. My friend is there, she'll let you in, just get out of the cold and try to figure something out."
Cue to now. He's still here :-/ I've hinted to him several times that he needs to go, and even told him in the beginning that he couldn't stay too long because I could actually get in trouble for lease violation or something since we aren't supposed to have people move in unless we notify the apt manager, etc. He says he's looking, but the thing is, he has no money really to even get a place. He's wasted what money he did have. As I said, he's not as mature as he should be in some ways and is a little different... he's wasted his money on $25 mystery boxes, hdmi cables, books and videos on how to play a violin (umm, he doesn't even have a violin with him, he just plans to one day get his old one back from his parents, wthhh.) And so now he's down to almost zilch in his account.
Those of you that know me probably know that I'm sometimes too nice for my own good... I have a problem saying "no" to people, and I often get doormat treatment I guess. I feel so horrible because he has nowhere to go, and I don't know how to just kick him out knowing he'd be having to live in his car.
But really, I've *got* to get him outta here pretty soon... he's kind of driving me crazy anyway, lol. The wasting money, the having an extra person to pick up after (like 3 kids isn't enough
), he doesn't exactly shower... and I just got a new-to-me couch and I don't want him stinking it up permanently :-/ lol. But seriously. He's gonna have to go.How do I get him to do that? I honestly feel it's not in my heart to put anyone on the street if I can help it, it makes me feel horrible. But he can't crash here on my couch too much longer; my sanity nor my lease agreement will allow it.
Suggestions on what to do? For someone that doesn't do to well with confrontation or putting others in bad situations?
TL;DR : Friend got kicked out, I said okay, can crash at my place few days til figure something out... still here almost 3 weeks later. Will have nowhere to go when I kick out. What to do?
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And trust me, you don't want that vision burned into your monitor via webcam
btw, our schedules are teh fail.
I'm pretty sure they will come get him.
How can you expect to ignore us for so long and then come asking for advice?
We expect you to be here at least one day a week.
Then...
and when his lip starts trembling (because it will) while he says, "but i have nowhere to go".
Tell him to:
and remind him that you have no choice because you risk getting evicted yourself due to the occupancy rules stated in the rental agreement.
You can't have this little weak willed freeloader in your house any longer. Unless he's hung like a horse and you don't mind him paying his way by servicing you.
Otherwise....the longer he stays...the harder it will be for him to leave. He's already getting way too farking comfortable if you ask me.
Yeah, he's definitely way too comfortable. My couch is pretty much occupied by him sleeping there all the time if he isn't gone to work
It's kind of putting a kink in my life.
I'd still hit it(you) though.
I'd still hit it(you) though.
i'm gonna go live with emelvee
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i'm gonna go live with emelvee
Freeloader: But... but... I dont have anywhere to go, or money or bowstaff skills.
Brynn: Yeah, I am sorry to hear that. Maybe you can ask another friend, or your parents. But you need to be out of here by 4PM on Sunday.
Freeloader: I cant believe this is happening to me.
Brynn: Yes that is unfortunate, hopefully things will get better, but for now I need you to be out of here by 4PM on Sunday. I really dont want this to get ugly so please be sure to have all of your stuff out of here by 4PM on Sunday, and make sure to leave my key.
Freeloader:
Brynn: With all due respect, Freeloader, I had no idea you'd gotten experimental surgery to have your balls removed.
Freeloader: What did you just say to me?
Brynn: What? I said it with all due respect!
Freeloader: Just because you say that doesn't mean you get to say whatever you want to say to me!
Brynn: It sure as hell does!
Freeloader: No, it doesn't--
Brynn: It's in the Geneva Conventions, look it up!
Brynn: No but seriously, you need to be gone by 4PM on Sunday. I have some people coming over at 5PM, so seriously dont plan on being here.
I will be out next day.
I'd still hit it(you) though.
And trust me, you don't want that vision burned into your monitor via webcam
Let me know when the bedroom, shower, potty cam are setup. We'll see what kinda sub base we can build.
The nice thing about going directly to his parents is that then you don't have to deal with his stupid whiny BS. You simply tell him that his parents will be here on such and such a day to pick him up so he should have his stuff packed and ready to go.
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