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Can't seem to get him to take his junk out and go somewhere else...
March 1, 2011 at
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Hey peoples 
Miss you guys
Okayyy, so I have a situation I have somehow gotten myself into. Go figure
A girl friend of mine was letting her friend live with her, kind of a roommate sort-of deal. Over the time she had him living with her and hanging out with her, he became kind of a mutual friend and I felt bad for the way she'd treat him, because well, I dunno how to put it besides the fact that he's rather umm "socially awkward." He's the kind of guy that doesn't make friends easily and he's not quite as mature as he may should be at his age (which is same age as my friend and I,) but he is a good guy at heart and I felt she was taking major advantage of him anyway, because he was pretty much her slave. He was head over heels for her; she just used him for money, to clean her house, etc... I felt bad for him but figured it wasn't really my business.
Anyway, cut to about 2.5 weeks ago. I'm out of town while a different girl friend of mine is house-sitting for me and staying over at my place. I get a call around 4am one morning, and the guy friend that was living with my other friend is crying his eyes out saying he has no where to go, that my friend kicked him out, it's freezing cold and in his car and doesn't know what to do. Sigh. I'm half asleep and I felt bad since he was crying, so I reluctantly say, "okay dude, I guess you can crash at my place a couple days since I'm gone anyway and hopefully you can get something figured out soon. My friend is there, she'll let you in, just get out of the cold and try to figure something out."
Cue to now. He's still here :-/ I've hinted to him several times that he needs to go, and even told him in the beginning that he couldn't stay too long because I could actually get in trouble for lease violation or something since we aren't supposed to have people move in unless we notify the apt manager, etc. He says he's looking, but the thing is, he has no money really to even get a place. He's wasted what money he did have. As I said, he's not as mature as he should be in some ways and is a little different... he's wasted his money on $25 mystery boxes, hdmi cables, books and videos on how to play a violin (umm, he doesn't even have a violin with him, he just plans to one day get his old one back from his parents, wthhh.) And so now he's down to almost zilch in his account.
Those of you that know me probably know that I'm sometimes too nice for my own good... I have a problem saying "no" to people, and I often get doormat treatment I guess. I feel so horrible because he has nowhere to go, and I don't know how to just kick him out knowing he'd be having to live in his car.
But really, I've *got* to get him outta here pretty soon... he's kind of driving me crazy anyway, lol. The wasting money, the having an extra person to pick up after (like 3 kids isn't enough ), he doesn't exactly shower... and I just got a new-to-me couch and I don't want him stinking it up permanently :-/ lol. But seriously. He's gonna have to go.
How do I get him to do that? I honestly feel it's not in my heart to put anyone on the street if I can help it, it makes me feel horrible. But he can't crash here on my couch too much longer; my sanity nor my lease agreement will allow it.
Suggestions on what to do? For someone that doesn't do to well with confrontation or putting others in bad situations?
TL;DR : Friend got kicked out, I said okay, can crash at my place few days til figure something out... still here almost 3 weeks later. Will have nowhere to go when I kick out. What to do?
Miss you guys Okayyy, so I have a situation I have somehow gotten myself into. Go figure
A girl friend of mine was letting her friend live with her, kind of a roommate sort-of deal. Over the time she had him living with her and hanging out with her, he became kind of a mutual friend and I felt bad for the way she'd treat him, because well, I dunno how to put it besides the fact that he's rather umm "socially awkward." He's the kind of guy that doesn't make friends easily and he's not quite as mature as he may should be at his age (which is same age as my friend and I,) but he is a good guy at heart and I felt she was taking major advantage of him anyway, because he was pretty much her slave. He was head over heels for her; she just used him for money, to clean her house, etc... I felt bad for him but figured it wasn't really my business.
Anyway, cut to about 2.5 weeks ago. I'm out of town while a different girl friend of mine is house-sitting for me and staying over at my place. I get a call around 4am one morning, and the guy friend that was living with my other friend is crying his eyes out saying he has no where to go, that my friend kicked him out, it's freezing cold and in his car and doesn't know what to do. Sigh. I'm half asleep and I felt bad since he was crying, so I reluctantly say, "okay dude, I guess you can crash at my place a couple days since I'm gone anyway and hopefully you can get something figured out soon. My friend is there, she'll let you in, just get out of the cold and try to figure something out."
Cue to now. He's still here :-/ I've hinted to him several times that he needs to go, and even told him in the beginning that he couldn't stay too long because I could actually get in trouble for lease violation or something since we aren't supposed to have people move in unless we notify the apt manager, etc. He says he's looking, but the thing is, he has no money really to even get a place. He's wasted what money he did have. As I said, he's not as mature as he should be in some ways and is a little different... he's wasted his money on $25 mystery boxes, hdmi cables, books and videos on how to play a violin (umm, he doesn't even have a violin with him, he just plans to one day get his old one back from his parents, wthhh.) And so now he's down to almost zilch in his account.
Those of you that know me probably know that I'm sometimes too nice for my own good... I have a problem saying "no" to people, and I often get doormat treatment I guess. I feel so horrible because he has nowhere to go, and I don't know how to just kick him out knowing he'd be having to live in his car.
But really, I've *got* to get him outta here pretty soon... he's kind of driving me crazy anyway, lol. The wasting money, the having an extra person to pick up after (like 3 kids isn't enough
), he doesn't exactly shower... and I just got a new-to-me couch and I don't want him stinking it up permanently :-/ lol. But seriously. He's gonna have to go.How do I get him to do that? I honestly feel it's not in my heart to put anyone on the street if I can help it, it makes me feel horrible. But he can't crash here on my couch too much longer; my sanity nor my lease agreement will allow it.
Suggestions on what to do? For someone that doesn't do to well with confrontation or putting others in bad situations?
TL;DR : Friend got kicked out, I said okay, can crash at my place few days til figure something out... still here almost 3 weeks later. Will have nowhere to go when I kick out. What to do?
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I had just made up some story about my apt manager flagging me down as I left my building one day and saying she was giving me a complimentary verbal warning that she had noticed someone else had started staying there and if they weren't gone by Friday, she'd have to do a write-up or some bs. Guess it worked
I think his parents told him he was allowed to stay with them for a couple weeks til he can find a place. I don't see him finding a place that quickly; but he better not plan on coming back to my place :-/
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Brynn ... how is he with the kids ... what are they saying?
As for how he is with the kids; he's always been really good with them since he lived with my friend and her children for so long, so that part was one of the better ends of it, I suppose
So to have this guy come in and stay and shower, ohhhh, once, in the almost 3 weeks he was there... part of me would die inside everytime I thought about it or was around him or saw him sitting or laying on my couch
So to have this guy come in and stay and shower, ohhhh, once, in the almost 3 weeks he was there... part of me would die inside everytime I thought about it or was around him or saw him sitting or laying on my couch
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Bahaha. I swear I did use a whole bottle of it and 2 cans of air freshener the 3 weeks he was there because I was paranoid :-/
Think about it.
Luckily, I have not noticed my little red light being lit lately
But grats on getting rid of your future baby daddy!
Time to douse the furniture with gas and have a bonfire.
Think about it.
But grats on getting rid of your future baby daddy!
Time to douse the furniture with gas and have a bonfire.
And future baby daddy?
And future baby daddy?
HI BRYNN AGAIN!
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HI BRYNN AGAIN!