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Missing 16 year old...please read! Update Post 133 - Found

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Hello, everyone. My daughter's friend is missing. From all reports, she ran away with her boyfriend on Monday, April 11. The last message that she left said that she was going to shut her phone off and throw it out the car window. That call was placed in Fond du Lac, WI.

I know this is a HUGE site and gets a lot of traffic, so I'm asking if everyone could keep an eye out for her car. It is a light green 2006 Ford Focus, Wisconsin plate 842 KDV.

Casey is 5'6, medium to thin build with shoulder length dark hair. Kris (her boyfriend) is 17 years old, a bit taller with shoulder length blonde shaggy hair. He is running away from legal trouble (I don't know what kind of trouble) but it should be noted that he stole a car 2 years ago and was found in New Mexico after 2 days. Because of that fact, they could be anywhere.

If you see them or their car, please call the police.

Here [facebook.com] is a link to a facebook page her mother created. It contains photos and more information.

Thank you for reading! I know her mother is frantic, and we are trying to get the message out so hopefully she can be brought home safely.

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HeyLookItsMe
04-17-2011 at 07:55 AM.
04-17-2011 at 07:55 AM.
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To an extent, I agree with you. She's not a 5 year old who wandered off into the great unknown. However, as the mother of a 16 year old, I can't imagine the hell I'd be going through if it were my daughter. Casey also has a little brother who is worried sick about his big sister. I think it sucks that she decided to do something that has hurt her family so badly. Frown

so you, of course, have talked to your child and asked if they ever thought about running away etc and made sure they know what options exist in the event they are having problems they dont feel comfortable talking to you about them etc etc….


shes a kid and shes being selfish, everyone is allowed to be selfish at times but there has to be a reason why she decided to leave… maybe her parents are all they are cracked up to be, maybe she got preggers, maybe she thinks shes in love, maybe she just wants to get away from it all…. there is more to the story though
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04-17-2011 at 08:04 AM.
04-17-2011 at 08:04 AM.
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so you, of course, have talked to your child and asked if they ever thought about running away etc and made sure they know what options exist in the event they are having problems they dont feel comfortable talking to you about them etc etc….


shes a kid and shes being selfish, everyone is allowed to be selfish at times but there has to be a reason why she decided to leave… maybe her parents are all they are cracked up to be, maybe she got preggers, maybe she thinks shes in love, maybe she just wants to get away from it all…. there is more to the story though
Actually, I have talked to my daughter about all of those things. She knows that there is nothing she can't talk to me about, and nothing that she could say would make me so upset that I wouldn't love her or be willing to help through. If anything ever happened that she couldn't talk to me about, she has a HUGE support network of adults that she can go to without judgement.

I do believe Casey thinks she is in love with the boy she ran off with. I don't think she thought ahead to the consequences of her actions.
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04-17-2011 at 09:43 AM.
04-17-2011 at 09:43 AM.
I hope she is found or comes home soon Pray
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04-17-2011 at 11:14 AM.
04-17-2011 at 11:14 AM.
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I hope she is found or comes home soon Pray
Ditto!

Please do post updates OP! Praying for her safe return, for her family and for you as you have to handle all of the emotions with this situation so close to home.
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04-17-2011 at 07:26 PM.
04-17-2011 at 07:26 PM.
Having worked with troubled teens...

I don't think it's fair to judge the girl like some of the remarks made here. No one really knows what's going on - in her family, in her head, whether the boyfriend is manipulating her, forcing her, etc... The boyfriend may have gotten off with a slap on the wrist because of jail overcrowding but the consequences have changed drastically. As that dawns on him he will only become more desperate to avoid going to jail.

Each desperate choice will likely garner him more time behind bars and he's too young to really think all that through. Teens are very here and now living in the moment with all their emotions and decisions. God forbid she tries to leave him at some point. I pray for her safe return but mostly for a better future for them both.
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04-17-2011 at 07:32 PM.
04-17-2011 at 07:32 PM.
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Having worked with troubled teens...

I don't think it's fair to judge the girl like some of the remarks made here. No one really knows what's going on - in her family, in her head, whether the boyfriend is manipulating her, forcing her, etc... The boyfriend may have gotten off with a slap on the wrist because of jail overcrowding but the consequences have changed drastically. As that dawns on him he will only become more desperate to avoid going to jail.

Each desperate choice will likely garner him more time behind bars and he's too young to really think all that through. Teens are very here and now living in the moment with all their emotions and decisions. God forbid she tries to leave him at some point. I pray for her safe return but mostly for a better future for them both.
I agree with you, but you're using sensibility and logic...here...





...are you sure you want to do that?



OP, I hope your friend's daughter is found safe and I hope the people who are acting like fools on FB come to realize how hurtful they're being.
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04-17-2011 at 07:38 PM.
04-17-2011 at 07:38 PM.
Quote from SlicKitty :
I agree with you, but you're using sensibility and logic...here...





...are you sure you want to do that?


OP, I hope your friend's daughter is found safe and I hope the people who are acting like fools on FB come to realize how hurtful they're being.

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04-17-2011 at 07:53 PM.
04-17-2011 at 07:53 PM.
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OP, I hope your friend's daughter is found safe and I hope the people who are acting like fools on FB come to realize how hurtful they're being.
Thank you for the kind words. Still no update as of this post. Unfortunately, it does look like people from 4chan got ahold of the page and are posting away. It's horrible, just horrible. Frown
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04-17-2011 at 08:20 PM.
04-17-2011 at 08:20 PM.
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Thank you for the kind words. Still no update as of this post. Unfortunately, it does look like people from 4chan got ahold of the page and are posting away. It's horrible, just horrible. Frown
Well, here's my question - Aren't they the people who were down on the bullying of the family with the very sick daughter? I thought they were against this sort of thing.

What do I know?

You never know, it might spark something and make her want to come home. All publicity is good publicity, at this point. It'll get her face out there. Maybe your friend could even get it on the national news!
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04-17-2011 at 08:58 PM.
04-17-2011 at 08:58 PM.
Quote from LinuxChick :
Having worked with troubled teens...

I don't think it's fair to judge the girl like some of the remarks made here. No one really knows what's going on - in her family, in her head, whether the boyfriend is manipulating her, forcing her, etc... The boyfriend may have gotten off with a slap on the wrist because of jail overcrowding but the consequences have changed drastically. As that dawns on him he will only become more desperate to avoid going to jail.

Each desperate choice will likely garner him more time behind bars and he's too young to really think all that through. Teens are very here and now living in the moment with all their emotions and decisions. God forbid she tries to leave him at some point. I pray for her safe return but mostly for a better future for them both.
talk about assuming the worst…
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04-17-2011 at 09:41 PM.
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talk about assuming the worst…
It's always that time of the month for you. Annoyed
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04-17-2011 at 09:46 PM.
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It's always that time of the month for you. Annoyed
laugh out loud
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04-17-2011 at 10:00 PM.
04-17-2011 at 10:00 PM.
Quote from LinuxChick :
Having worked with troubled teens...

I don't think it's fair to judge the girl like some of the remarks made here. No one really knows what's going on - in her family, in her head, whether the boyfriend is manipulating her, forcing her, etc... The boyfriend may have gotten off with a slap on the wrist because of jail overcrowding but the consequences have changed drastically. As that dawns on him he will only become more desperate to avoid going to jail.

Each desperate choice will likely garner him more time behind bars and he's too young to really think all that through. Teens are very here and now living in the moment with all their emotions and decisions. God forbid she tries to leave him at some point. I pray for her safe return but mostly for a better future for them both.
I have spent many years working with troubled teens and while many do come home after finding out what the world is really like, so many do find it harder to go back, especially after the time frame lengthens. They, many times, are not thinking about anything behind them, only what's ahead. One mistake too many and they can't believe that anyone will forgive them. Tell her parents to send a Facebook letter out and make sure all of her friends get copies, that assures her that they want her back NO MATTER WHAT! Mostly kids runs away because they feel misunderstood, mistreated or because of peer pressure. She needs to know that she can call from anywhere and somehow, someway she will be home as fast as humanly possible. If she can't do that, then they need to please ask that she lets them know that she is okay, even if it's anonymously (letter mailed by a friend, untraceable pay as you go phone, etc.) She can also call the Covenant House Hot-line and they will get a message to her parents and WILL NOT divulge her location without her consent. Their number is 800-999-9999. I so hope she realizes that the road is a hard place to grow up and that always running from the law is not a life.
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04-18-2011 at 04:38 AM.
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OP, I hope she's found safely.
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04-18-2011 at 09:32 AM.
04-18-2011 at 09:32 AM.
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I have spent many years working with troubled teens and while many do come home after finding out what the world is really like, so many do find it harder to go back, especially after the time frame lengthens. They, many times, are not thinking about anything behind them, only what's ahead. One mistake too many and they can't believe that anyone will forgive them. Tell her parents to send a Facebook letter out and make sure all of her friends get copies, that assures her that they want her back NO MATTER WHAT! Mostly kids runs away because they feel misunderstood, mistreated or because of peer pressure. She needs to know that she can call from anywhere and somehow, someway she will be home as fast as humanly possible. If she can't do that, then they need to please ask that she lets them know that she is okay, even if it's anonymously (letter mailed by a friend, untraceable pay as you go phone, etc.) She can also call the Covenant House Hot-line and they will get a message to her parents and WILL NOT divulge her location without her consent. Their number is 800-999-9999. I so hope she realizes that the road is a hard place to grow up and that always running from the law is not a life.
Good info!

I hope she's safe, and that she checks in soon. hug
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