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Am I required to disclose this information before having sex?
March 29, 2007 at
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My girlfriend was informed by her gynocologist that she has the human papillomavirus, or HPV. It's impossible to tell who had it first, but I'm most likely a carrier now as well. For those of you who don't know, HPV is a virus that's said to be a prerequisite for cervical cancer in women. Men can carry the virus, but it's nearly harmless for them.
Some HPV facts from wikipedia:
Here's my question. Am I required to disclose this information before having relations with another woman? I have a feeling that everyone's kneejerk reaction will be "yes", but please consider the following. There's a huge chance that the woman already has the virus, and if she doesn't already she'll probably get it in the future*. With a condom, she probably won't get it from me anyway. With pap testing, there's a very very low risk of cancer. And quite frankly, I feel that she won't know all the facts and will think it's a bigger deal than it actually is.
Thoughts?
*Genital HPV infection is very common, with estimates suggesting that more than 50% of women will become infected with one or more of the sexually transmitted HPV types at some point during adulthood.[7]
The American Social Health Association projections in 2006 were yet more pessimistic, predicting that about 75% of the reproductive population will have been infected with genital HPV infection in their lifetime.
Some HPV facts from wikipedia:
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HPV is the most common sexual transmitted infection in the United States. In the United States approximately 20-million people are currently infected with HPV about 6.2 million Americans will get infected with genital HPV this year.24.5% prevalence of HPV among females 14 to 19 years old 44.8% prevalence of HPV among females 20 to 24 years old 27.4% prevalence of HPV among females 25 to 29 years old 27.5% prevalence of HPV among females 30 to 39 years old 25.2% prevalence of HPV among females 40 to 49 years old 19.6% prevalence of HPV among females 50 to 59 years old In the absence of Pap testing or treatment, about 1% of women with genital HPV infections will eventually go on to develop cervical cancer. Women who have Pap testing or other cervical cancer screenings on a regular basis dramatically decrease their chances of developing cervical cancer. A 2006 study of 82 college students suggests that condoms can be up to 70% effective for preventing genital HPV infection if used for every sexual encounter. |
Thoughts?
*Genital HPV infection is very common, with estimates suggesting that more than 50% of women will become infected with one or more of the sexually transmitted HPV types at some point during adulthood.[7]
The American Social Health Association projections in 2006 were yet more pessimistic, predicting that about 75% of the reproductive population will have been infected with genital HPV infection in their lifetime.
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It doesn't matter how many people have HPV and don't know it, the point is you have good reason to believe you have it and you know it, and it's your moral responsibility to do the right thing. I think by posting this thread you already knew that though. Good luck.
I think a full frontal would be in order here.
You crack me up stimpster
We will do our best to lead our daughters the right way, but knowing that there's an awfully scary world out there, it's not something I like to think about. That's one reason I know we will get the new vaccine. It at least offers a little more protection than I can own my own.
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Don't forget that there are many women out there who do not have access to proper healthcare, have no insurance, and may not have the funds to go to a clinic. It IS a big deal. Just because you came out OK does not mean that someone else will. It's ludicrious to assume that "she may already have it". That does not make it ok, nor does it make it no big deal. What if a person does not have it? What if she gets it right after her yearly check up? She goes back in a year and guess what? Too late, honey, you have HPV (or) cervial cancer. All because (to someone else) it was no big deal because it can be treated and she probably had it anyway. Wow.
STDs are ALWAYS a big deal, whether or not there is a treatment or a cure.
You said:
Of course, no sex before marriage is the best practice, but it is obvious that a lot of people do not do that.
I can't believe that anyone would see this as no big deal simply because things can be removed and frozen and one can get check ups. If anything, going through all that should show you that it IS a big deal. Think of all the time, the pain, the money, the resources that could have been saved. You're lucky you didn't get cancer and die. Cancer is no fun.
It is a big deal. It just IS.
PS
I am not yelling or attacking. I am just kind of dumbfounded.
I may be a little harsh in my views, but I just think that one less person that has to deal with this type of stuff, the better.
I'm not saying that people shouldn't tell or shouldn't get the vaccine.
I just think that it's kind of silly that there's all this uproar over HPV when it is not fatal or anything else, but there's nothing out there about protecting yourself against chlamydia or any other STD that may not be permanent (besides the obvious- abstaining or using a condom), but can cause lots of damage to the human body if contracted once and especially multiple times.
Of course he should tell.
Of course people should get the vaccine.
But I think that more people think, "Oh my gosh... I'm dying... I have HPV... etc. etc." when it really is more than likely a dormant strain. But that's why people SHOULD get checked out... you never know if it is or it isn't. And that's why partners SHOULD share that information.
I'm not being lenient about the major issue in this thread: telling a person.
I'm not even being lenient about the vaccine.
I'm just saying... yes, it has caused people pain (myself included) but if you just buckle down and do the right thing and get your checkups and everything else, you will find that it is not as life-altering as you think it may be. At least it hasn't been for me so far. Or my mother or my sister or anyone else I know personally who has gone through the same thing I have. My mother had cryosurgery and all of that and she is happy and thriving and has 3 children.
Now for someone like GirlRacer, I think it's terrible that it happened in the way that it did and that she may not be able to have children, but she still has a chance because she went and got checked out. But I honestly have not heard any other stories personally of someone who did do the right thing and get checked out on a regular basis developing a strain this bad that they may not be able to have children.
I guess if you look beyond the words "big deal" you'll see that I really am an advocate for telling a partner, getting the vaccine, and getting checked out on a regular basis. And I honestly don't think that's lenient at all. Just my 2 cents.
It doesn't matter how many people have HPV and don't know it, the point is you have good reason to believe you have it and you know it, and it's your moral responsibility to do the right thing. I think by posting this thread you already knew that though. Good luck.
All we can do, is tell them. And maybe scare the crap out of them so they WILL wait.
Hang in there, we're all in it together.
... don't people go to jail for having sex knowing they have HIV without telling their partners? Similar consequences to women ...
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