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October 9, 2011 at
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anyone else, what do you think? id appreciated any advice, but please, no throwing punches, or being nasty about anything. dont want no drama.
i've had thoughts about W (new guy im interested in, and who actually wants a relationship if its with the right woman he says) moving slowly. well, last night he came over at 10 (after he put his girls down for bed). we watched some how i met your mother box set and cuddled. i really was wondering if he was going to kiss me (last time he was over, he didnt and i was so confused and getting mixed messages from him). time moved on and he made no moves. i just straight out asked if he wanted to. he said he had thoughts about it, but if it happened, didnt know where that left us.
im like
well, we're laying there and he turns and says "youre right. i think too much" grabs my head and we start kissing. i was right! is was gooood
immediately when i thought that, i felt like, uh oh. did i force him into this? i started to feel a little guilty
I'm a big fan of being honest about how you feel and about what you want (and it's not wrong to ask for reassurance when that's what you need). Maybe you both need a little reassurance from each other--and you both are going to sit around worrying because you sense that the other is worrying about something.
So you could make a point of telling him that you enjoyed it and were happy about it. Odds are pretty darned good that one thing that has *not* crossed his mind is "she's a skank, we kissed."
I'm a big fan of being honest about how you feel and about what you want (and it's not wrong to ask for reassurance when that's what you need). Maybe you both need a little reassurance from each other--and you both are going to sit around worrying because you sense that the other is worrying about something.
So you could make a point of telling him that you enjoyed it and were happy about it. Odds are pretty darned good that one thing that has *not* crossed his mind is "she's a skank, we kissed."
we havent talked about our sexual history or anything, so i havent had the chance to tell him that im not a casual sex type of person. i hinted at that before, but i did tell him i dont play games, and i want a relationship. he says hes the same way.
i mentioned this in another thread, and i think this can clue us into what type of guy he is...
he drops hints in texts, like yesterday he said he'll have his homework for class done by sunday night, and his girls should be back with their mom. i reply saying, are you trying to hint that you may have sunday night free to see me? he says yes. then again, later in the evening yesterday he texts asking when im going to bed. i ask why, thinking, he wants to see me. he says no work or school tomorrow so he can stay up late or go out when the girls are asleep. i text him, are you hinting at me again? he says yes.
i guess i see it like this, if a guy wants to kiss me and wants to fool around he likes me. this is what is wrong with my brain. realistically, thats not true, i know. douchey guys are like that, which is what i've "dated" in the past. W isnt like any guy i've met and isnt like this, so im just all crazy confused!
Is he always that way about what he wants, though? What about when dealing with people in stores or in business/work situations?
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Is he always that way about what he wants, though? What about when dealing with people in stores or in business/work situations?
It's tough to say. Maybe he's bad at coming out and saying things _because_ he likes you. People are weird that way--it's so much easier to say and do the 'right' things when you don't care too much. Sometimes it's when you do care that you screw everything up (or at least worry a lot that you will).
if he's afraid of being rejected by me, he doesnt have to be
i sent him a text asking if i could ask him a question (the question being something about this stuff. and how i just need reassurance, etc. just want to clear my head about it all), and i dont want to cut into his family time (with his girls) or anything. no response. yea... im sitting here thinking he's ignoring me, when he probably isnt. hes probably just busy, or not near his phone.
going to add this to the mix... before he left last night, i moved in to kiss him good night (we were outside by his jeep) but his body language was weird like it is, like hes pulling away, so i gave him a peck on the cheek, smiled, and we said good night to each other, then he drove home.
he replied, he wants to be friends and maybe just hang out at the dog park - im reading this as, we kissed, and now he doesnt like me anymore. then, the easy let down as lets just be friends, then we can hang out, but not at your place where you can try to smother me with cuddles, hugs n kisses.
i ask him is it because we kissed, then i said im sorry.
he replied not because we kissed. he reminded himself of why he didnt want to be in a relationship for so long and stayed away from them.
i ask why. he says something about the roller coaster of emotions, uncertainties of what the other person wants and is thinking.
i half lie and say i understand. i dont quite do, but i know relationships take time, energy and emotions. if he cant give in and get emotional, then hes not ready for a relationship. im all about emotions, so
I don't know that there's a way to avoid that part, other than by simply not caring.
But I guess that's still better than if it had been another case of a guy who was just looking for a quick bit of fun and really didn't care about anything beyond that.
I don't know that there's a way to avoid that part, other than by simply not caring.
But I guess that's still better than if it had been another case of a guy who was just looking for a quick bit of fun and really didn't care about anything beyond that.
i had a long talk with my mom, then my sister about all my issues. my sis, who's a single mom, tells me never to date a guy with kids because the kids are his #1 priority, and i would never be. she says she has to be #1, and needs attention all the time so she's not dating men with kids. im not THAT needy, but i like to know that a guy is thinking of me, and stuff... so im a tad needy when he's not around. i like "i miss you" texts n mushy stuff like that
im still broken up about it because i see this as rejection, when it really isnt. he did say he wants to be friends. i asked him if he was okay with coming over still, hanging out and watching box sets of shows n such. he said that was ok and gave a
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