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Is Pornography Cheating?

4,596 545 June 20, 2007 at 02:34 PM in Chat
So I'm listening to my local radio station and an interesting point has been brought up by the hosts when a listener has called in. The point is that his girlfriend has really grilled him thoroughly about finding pornography on his computer.

One host says that pornography is cheating while the other feels that it is not cheating. The caller views this as not cheating. My personal opinion is that it is not cheating as long as there is no physical contact.

This same question can be posed in the form of whether an "online" relationship is considered "real" or not. However, that is for a much different topic and a much different thread.

So the question I pose to you: Is Pornography Cheating?
Is Pornography Cheating?
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junbug178
06-21-2007 at 05:26 AM.
06-21-2007 at 05:26 AM.
Quote from StarNova :
Not all porn is harmless, not all people you see are consenting.

Yeah and it's so fun to get AIDS and be at risk for STDs

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/progra...135473.stm

700 arrested for global child porn ring

http://www.cbc.ca/canada/edmonton...-ring.html

Violent killers and their relationship to porn

http://www.guardian.co.uk/crime/a...50,00.html

http://media.www.thebatt.com/medi...3083.shtml
No one here is talking about child porn...only your regular run of the mill adult porn...which for the most part are all consenting adults...

If they get AIDS or HIV really it's there own fault...they are consenting to have to unprotected sex...

For that matter, how come only the women are victims in your reasoning shouldn't men be victims too...
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06-21-2007 at 05:26 AM.
06-21-2007 at 05:26 AM.
If you're relying on anything but your partner for sexual fulfillment, then yes, absolutely, you're cheating on your partner.
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junbug178
06-21-2007 at 05:27 AM.
06-21-2007 at 05:27 AM.
Quote from junbug178 :
What if I don't look at porn but I rub one out by myself, is that considered cheating? Confused
Please respond to this question Starnova, just want to get your opinion on this one.
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Homefrrie
06-21-2007 at 05:32 AM.
06-21-2007 at 05:32 AM.
Quote from TheyCallMeGeorg :
If you're relying on anything but your partner for sexual fulfillment, then yes, absolutely, you're cheating on your partner.
Disagree


You're not cheating on your partner if there is no communication, no physical contact, and no emotional contact. You're watching a video, or tv, or whatever...

What if your partner gets deployed to Iraq for 2 years and after year 1, you finally break down and wank it to Pamela after you just saw Baywatch on TV... you just cheated on your partner?
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Mavtech
06-21-2007 at 05:36 AM.
06-21-2007 at 05:36 AM.
Quote from TheyCallMeGeorg :
If you're relying on anything but your partner for sexual fulfillment, then yes, absolutely, you're cheating on your partner.
I'm shocked that there are people who really believe this.

Masturbating is cheating too?
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LadyFirelyght
06-21-2007 at 05:40 AM.
06-21-2007 at 05:40 AM.
My guy and I occasionally watch porn together, but we don't have much interest in it since he and I became intimate. But hey, if he wants to watch it... all the power to him. As long as he continues to keep up with me, it's all good.

Honestly is the most important part of any relationship. Porn is no different than anything else, really.
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Gray.
06-21-2007 at 07:33 AM.
06-21-2007 at 07:33 AM.
Quote from Mavtech :
I'm shocked that there are people who really believe this.

Masturbating is cheating too?
I don't think I'd necessarily call it cheating because in this day and age, cheating is defined as having a sexual relationship with another person and not your spouse.

I think it is selfish... and it doesn't create any type of bonding in a relationship. Every time a person has sex with their spouse, there is an intimacy that is created. That is the reason for sex (besides the whole baby-making thing). When someone is willing to take care of things themselves without bothering their spouse or when someone would rather have their spouse go away and do it by themselves without assisting them in any way by having sex with them, they are shortchanging their spouse and are throwing away an opportunity for intimacy.

That is why I believe it's wrong. We kind of talked about that in the other thread, though...
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Mavtech
06-21-2007 at 07:40 AM.
06-21-2007 at 07:40 AM.
Quote from PassionateGray :
I don't think I'd necessarily call it cheating because in this day and age, cheating is defined as having a sexual relationship with another person and not your spouse.

I think it is selfish... and it doesn't create any type of bonding in a relationship. Every time a person has sex with their spouse, there is an intimacy that is created. That is the reason for sex (besides the whole baby-making thing). When someone is willing to take care of things themselves without bothering their spouse or when someone would rather have their spouse go away and do it by themselves without assisting them in any way by having sex with them, they are shortchanging their spouse and are throwing away an opportunity for intimacy.

That is why I believe it's wrong. We kind of talked about that in the other thread, though...
Well, I think it would be pretty sad if someone said they would rather do it alone. However, it's totally possible (and also normal) that men want it a whole lot more than their woman. So, taking care of it themselves is not a problem in that sense. Do you agree?
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JackHandey
06-21-2007 at 08:04 AM.
06-21-2007 at 08:04 AM.
I agree it is not cheating, with the caveat that it is not interrupting a normal sexual relationship between the couple. Sometimes it is appropriate. Would the women that view it as cheating prefer to be woken up at 2am when their partner wakes up "ready to go", or just be allowed to sleep and let their partner "take care of it themselves".

Also, in answer to someone elses question earlier.... It is possible for a man to have an orgasm w/o ejaculation. It requires use of a pressure point, and is not very comfortable, but can be done.
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Mavtech
06-21-2007 at 08:05 AM.
06-21-2007 at 08:05 AM.
Quote from KimbersTimber :
Also, in answer to someone elses question earlier.... It is possible for a man to have an orgasm w/o ejaculation. It requires use of a pressure point, and is not very comfortable, but can be done.
Yeah! They did that in a movie. Wasn't it Road Trip?
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JackHandey
06-21-2007 at 08:08 AM.
06-21-2007 at 08:08 AM.
Quote from Mavtech :
Yeah! They did that in a movie. Wasn't it Road Trip?
Not sure... I read about it and tried it once years ago... It wasn't very comfortable for me, to apply the pressure point on myself, so I never did it again.
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06-21-2007 at 08:35 AM.
06-21-2007 at 08:35 AM.
Quote from Mavtech :
I'm shocked that there are people who really believe this.

Masturbating is cheating too?
Absolutely.

Why do you think it's called cheating in the first place? Because you're getting the rewards without all of the work of building an emotional relationship and making a commitment to somebody.
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Dizzy Devil
06-21-2007 at 08:49 AM.
06-21-2007 at 08:49 AM.
Quote from Dark_Saber :
I don't think that it is cheating, especially when you watch it with your SO
Thumbup I saw this porn involving a doctor and a patient...

Oh, wait...that was just my dream about you Evil
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banananut
06-21-2007 at 08:58 AM.
06-21-2007 at 08:58 AM.
Yes absolutely. Your spouse is the only one that you should have those thoughts for. I do believe its called coveting, in the Bible. When you lust after something that doesn't belong to you. Yup. Its cheating and disrespectful.
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QueensFinest
06-21-2007 at 09:02 AM.
06-21-2007 at 09:02 AM.
Quote from banananut :
Yes absolutely. Your spouse is the only one that you should have those thoughts for. I do believe its called coveting, in the Bible. When you lust after something that doesn't belong to you. Yup. Its cheating and disrespectful.
The Bible wasn't even a good piece of fiction.
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