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So my wife is dating this guy...

8,512 793 July 5, 2007 at 07:19 AM in Finance (13)
..I think it's time to dump her. Should we get divorced?

She went out last Saturday night with some guy, stayed out until 1 am. Then on Tuesday, she's out again until 1 am, says they went to eat and then a movie!!?! Last night, 1:30. It's getting later, I guess it's time to dump her! Sadwalk

What would you do?
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07-06-2007 at 10:12 AM.
07-06-2007 at 10:12 AM.
Quote from veritableqndry :
From a female. Sadwalk
LMAO LMAO

:props: to VQ for having a sense of Humor. Now if only Autumn had said it..then you'd be on Cloud9


stealth, I'm glad to hear you are before the 5 year window on this.

Yeah make your plans and split when the dust settles...don't look back and start fresh.nod
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Gray.
07-06-2007 at 10:14 AM.
07-06-2007 at 10:14 AM.
Quote from veritableqndry :
From a female. Sadwalk
Comfort
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07-06-2007 at 10:54 AM.
07-06-2007 at 10:54 AM.
Quote from stealth :
I talked to an attorney yesterday, and Kansas is a no fault state, meaning either party can file without requiring a reason. Having proof of infidelity won't help that. But, it may come into play when dividing assets or computing alimony. Since we don't have kids or much property, it should be a simple divorce. Oh, and alimony is typically paid for marriages of 5 years or longer, and we've been married only 3 years.



np laugh out loud I like the laugh.

I guess I can take it because it's happened to me before. Sadwalk This is almost exactly how my first marriage ended.
Ohhhhhhh, Stealth, my heart is breaking for you. I have my own convoluted thread going on about a relationship...Ask her to leave (acll the police if she won't, but be sure to have a witness there for you while you ask her to go), change the locks and file for divorce. hug hug hug
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stealth
07-07-2007 at 03:49 PM.
07-07-2007 at 03:49 PM.
Well, I got her to admit that she farked him. nod

I asked her if they had, and she of course denied it. I could tell that she was lying, though.

Then I told her that when she left, I called him and we spoke. ( Secret Not really) I said that he said they DID, and why does she feel she needs to lie about it? At first she didn't believe me, but I said that he also wanted her to leave me and go be with him. She said, OK, but it was only once. EEK! Which really means, 3-4 times I know.

Anyway, I went on my Patriot Guard ride today (gone for a few hours to welcome home a soldier from Iraq), and when I come back she's not home. Of course she's at his house, and her kids are wrestling with him. Oh, and she looked at apartments today.

I've contacted my attorney to begin the divorce process. Cool
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07-07-2007 at 03:51 PM.
07-07-2007 at 03:51 PM.
Hug2 You did the right thing, at least you know now.

Hang in there. Smilie
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R.G.
07-07-2007 at 03:51 PM.
07-07-2007 at 03:51 PM.
Comfort Her loss...
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07-07-2007 at 03:52 PM.
07-07-2007 at 03:52 PM.
Quote from stealth :
Well, I got her to admit that she farked him. nod

I asked her if they had, and she of course denied it. I could tell that she was lying, though.

Then I told her that when she left, I called him and we spoke. ( Secret Not really) I said that he said they DID, and why does she feel she needs to lie about it? At first she didn't believe me, but I said that he also wanted her to leave me and go be with him. She said, OK, but it was only once. EEK! Which really means, 3-4 times I know.

Anyway, I went on my Patriot Guard ride today (gone for a few hours to welcome home a soldier from Iraq), and when I come back she's not home. Of course she's at his house, and her kids are wrestling with him. Oh, and she looked at apartments today.

I've contacted my attorney to begin the divorce process. Cool
I'm sure that still must have hurt when she admitted it though. When I separated from my wife, she (3-4 weeks later) farked my best friend, and lied about it (I found her car at his place at 1am), then they both denied it for months. When she finally told me, it hurt.....even though I already knew.

Sorry to hear about all this man. Good luck to you.
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07-07-2007 at 03:54 PM.
07-07-2007 at 03:54 PM.
That seriously sucks, but I'm glad she finally admitted it.

I'll be praying for you!
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07-07-2007 at 03:55 PM.
07-07-2007 at 03:55 PM.
I'm so sorry Stealth. You sound like you are handling it with a clear head though. That just sucks. Comfort hug
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07-07-2007 at 03:59 PM.
07-07-2007 at 03:59 PM.
I am really sorry this happened to you. I didn't read the thread until the dust settled.
I'm really sorry.
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jenni.
07-07-2007 at 04:05 PM.
07-07-2007 at 04:05 PM.
hug hug hug
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07-07-2007 at 04:07 PM.
07-07-2007 at 04:07 PM.
Tough times; seek out friends, exercise, and rest.
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cdog90260
07-07-2007 at 04:13 PM.
07-07-2007 at 04:13 PM.
this sucks, but at least you were well prepared. Good for you to break this thing apart. If I were you, I'd be a bit more cold and calculated. I would have contacted the lawyer, created a plan and executed swiftly (sorry, didnt read the whole thread). I would not let her know anything, and let it come as a complete surprise. I dont have much compassion for cheaters, and a similar situation happened to me with my ex-fiance.

I'm so glad I did the things the way I did it. Left her devastated and rightfully so.
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07-07-2007 at 04:20 PM.
07-07-2007 at 04:20 PM.
Quote from stealth :
..I think it's time to dump her. Should we get divorced?

She went out last Saturday night with some guy, stayed out until 1 am. Then on Tuesday, she's out again until 1 am, says they went to eat and then a movie!!?! Last night, 1:30. It's getting later, I guess it's time to dump her! Sadwalk

What would you do?
don't worry, i only go after married women so there are no complications--i am not interested in pursuing anything. you can have her back in a couple more night since her routine is getting old, busted. Big Grin
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07-07-2007 at 04:23 PM.
07-07-2007 at 04:23 PM.
Quote from stealth :
Well, I got her to admit that she farked him. nod

I asked her if they had, and she of course denied it. I could tell that she was lying, though.

Then I told her that when she left, I called him and we spoke. ( Secret Not really) I said that he said they DID, and why does she feel she needs to lie about it? At first she didn't believe me, but I said that he also wanted her to leave me and go be with him. She said, OK, but it was only once. EEK! Which really means, 3-4 times I know.

Anyway, I went on my Patriot Guard ride today (gone for a few hours to welcome home a soldier from Iraq), and when I come back she's not home. Of course she's at his house, and her kids are wrestling with him. Oh, and she looked at apartments today.

I've contacted my attorney to begin the divorce process. Cool

lame!!!!!!!!! Mad

fark her, dude. come to seattle and we party it up, pick up bitches, and you can get back at her 10x. Big Grin

granted, you're not like....50. hug
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