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01-08-2013 at 08:42 AM.

You're already playing with fire.

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01-08-2013 at 08:47 AM.

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You're already playing with fire.

Elaborate, please?

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01-08-2013 at 08:51 AM.

I'm of no use to you on this one, VQ.

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01-08-2013 at 08:52 AM.

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I'm of no use to you on this one, VQ.

I'm deducting this from your paycheck, Frog.

I would accept opinions as well as experience BTW.

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01-08-2013 at 08:58 AM.

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Elaborate, please?

Bitches be crazy.
You're entertaining 3 of them.
You're assuming their standard is the same as your standard (monogamy at nakedness).
This is will not end well.

Ask yourself this: Can you ask them what their standard is for monogamy and be comfortable with where the conversation will go when the inevitable reply is "Why do you ask"?

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01-08-2013 at 09:05 AM.

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I'm deducting this from your paycheck, Frog.

I would accept opinions as well as experience BTW.

Do you have them on FB?
I don't think you're a scumbag, especially if nobody's touched anyone's genitals or anything. But if you've gotten to a make-out session, it may be time. Bear in mind that I haven't had a lot of experience with traditional relationship

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01-08-2013 at 09:13 AM.

Ok . . . . my eyes were bigger than my stomach today.

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01-08-2013 at 09:15 AM.

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Bitches be crazy.
You're entertaining 3 of them.
You're assuming their standard is the same as your standard (monogamy at nakedness).
This is will not end well.

Ask yourself this: Can you ask them what their standard is for monogamy and be comfortable with where the conversation will go when the inevitable reply is "Why do you ask"?

Interesting and good points you raise. To be honest I'm feeling my way along (pun intended) here since - as I've mentioned before - I don't really have any experience in this arena.

I'm not sure I'd broach the topic of monogamy unless or until I was ready to have a discussion about dating one or the other of these girls exclusively though. Is not bringing it up the same as lying about it? I don't think so, but I'd be willing to look at why I could be wrong...

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Do you have them on FB?
I don't think you're a scumbag, especially if nobody's touched anyone's genitals or anything. But if you've gotten to a make-out session, it may be time. Bear in mind that I haven't had a lot of experience with traditional relationship

Don't have them on FB, no. Actually it hasn't come up with one and the other demurred when I suggested a friend request (I can't find her but she does have a pretty common name) saying "it's not time for you to learn about my life back in 2007 yet."

what that means exactly but I'm okay with it.

Good point about the makeout sesh too...

This bears further thought.

I wish there was a manual!

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01-08-2013 at 09:33 AM.

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I gotta go with Jessica Rabbit.

there's a real life one in the uk, she's had the surgeries anyway

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01-08-2013 at 09:34 AM.

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Interesting and good points you raise. To be honest I'm feeling my way along (pun intended) here since - as I've mentioned before - I don't really have any experience in this arena.

I'm not sure I'd broach the topic of monogamy unless or until I was ready to have a discussion about dating one or the other of these girls exclusively though. Is not bringing it up the same as lying about it? I don't think so, but I'd be willing to look at why I could be wrong...

Don't have them on FB, no. Actually it hasn't come up with one and the other demurred when I suggested a friend request (I can't find her but she does have a pretty common name) saying "it's not time for you to learn about my life back in 2007 yet."

what that means exactly but I'm okay with it.

Good point about the makeout sesh too...

This bears further thought.

I wish there was a manual!

Have you talked with them about your online experiences? If not bring it up, and ask them if them how many guys they have met, if they are still seeing them, etc.

If your not sleeping with them then there is no reason to worry about being exclusive.

Do you like one more then the rest?

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01-08-2013 at 09:34 AM.

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Interesting and good points you raise. To be honest I'm feeling my way along (pun intended) here since - as I've mentioned before - I don't really have any experience in this arena.

I'm not sure I'd broach the topic of monogamy unless or until I was ready to have a discussion about dating one or the other of these girls exclusively though. Is not bringing it up the same as lying about it? I don't think so, but I'd be willing to look at why I could be wrong...

Ok, but then you have to ask yourself whether or not you would be fine with being deceived as long as you weren't lied to. If you were monogamous with one of them and they cheated on you, would it be okay as long as they didn't lie about it and never said anything? Sure you'd be none the wiser, but is it right?

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01-08-2013 at 09:35 AM.

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01-08-2013 at 09:38 AM.

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Have you talked with them about your online experiences? If not bring it up, and ask them if them how many guys they have met, if they are still seeing them, etc.

If your not sleeping with them then there is no reason to worry about being exclusive.

Do you like one more then the rest?

We haven't had that talk yet either. It may be coming. I just started to bring up my ex (and hers) with tennis girl.

I think I like tennis girl better but I've been out with her more, too. Lawyer chick is more elusive and aloof... which is enticing in its own way.

Maybe I am trying to avoid having to choose...

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Ok, but then you have to ask yourself whether or not you would be fine with being deceived as long as you weren't lied to. If you were monogamous with one of them and they cheated on you, would it be okay as long as they didn't lie about it and never said anything? Sure you'd be none the wiser, but is it right?

Well there's a difference, in my opinion, between assuming exclusivity and stating it outright. If we'd had the conversation, agreed to be monogamous, and then she went out with someone else? Hell yes I'd be pissed no matter what. But before we've brought it up at all? I don't see anything wrong with dating other people. The question is, at what point do I bring it up?

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01-08-2013 at 09:40 AM.

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Ok, but then you have to ask yourself whether or not you would be fine with being deceived as long as you weren't lied to. If you were monogamous with one of them and they cheated on you, would it be okay as long as they didn't lie about it and never said anything? Sure you'd be none the wiser, but is it right?

I don't see how he's deceiving them.

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01-08-2013 at 09:45 AM.

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Well there's a difference, in my opinion, between assuming exclusivity and stating it outright. If we'd had the conversation, agreed to be monogamous, and then she went out with someone else? Hell yes I'd be pissed no matter what. But before we've brought it up at all? I don't see anything wrong with dating other people. The question is, at what point do I bring it up?

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I don't see how he's deceiving them.

I agree completely. I don't think there is any deception at this point, but what expectation are they operating on? I'm just trying to think about their feelings. They may be thinking this is exclusive or may have even sworn off others in order to be exclusive in hopes that it will happen with the monkey. I just think the talk needs to happen sooner rather than later to avoid having to burn bridges further down the road.

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