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My 4yr old was left at his dad's home w/ a 10 and 8 yr old...what do I do?

1,230 2,939 February 18, 2013 at 08:39 PM in Babies & Kids (2)
sorry people. I never venture into the Lounge, but I figured this was worth the question. My son is four and his dad and I have been split up/divorced for 3 yrs+. we have split custody and trade off every other week. we live in TX.

My son told me that he was left at home with the other two boys that live in his home that are 10 and 8 (ex lives with his GF and her 2 kids)

I am thinking of getting a lawyer and taking him to court for child endangerment.

I can understand maybe a 13+ yr old watching some other kid but not 10 and 8. They have no knowledge of CPR, first aid, calling 911 in a panic, fire danger, not answering the front door.

Any thoughts, suggestions? I am kind of scared of turning his dad in, as to what can happen on the weeks I dont have him, but I feel helpless putting my son in that situation.

I called my ex and he admitted they left them but "only for a few mins, and it wasnt my concern on the weeks that arent mine"

(please excuse the typing as my s and w key are busted, so I have to cut and paste. )
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Deusxmachina
02-19-2013 at 04:01 PM.
02-19-2013 at 04:01 PM.
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Scratchchin Isn't that what they were doing (at least talked about doing) for the Jon & Kate Plus Eight family? I think I remember hearing about how they were going to let the kids live there, and the parents come there depending on their schedule.

I wonder how that turned out... I don't think it worked out for them Annoyed
Sounds like a good idea though!
It worked out well enough to the tune of about a million bucks a year from their TV show.
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Were those "a few minutes" actually a few minutes or what?
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dalokgawd
02-19-2013 at 04:25 PM.
02-19-2013 at 04:25 PM.
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Were those "a few minutes" actually a few minutes or what?
The fact that she evaded answering the question probably means that the answer would only have led to more "not hearing what she wanted to hear" so I guess we can anticipate that it really was just a few minutes. Stick Out Tongue

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I think it happens to the Lounge regulars too when they ask something stupid. I feel free to mock people who ask whether or not something on Craigslist / Ebay / Etc is a scam when it's pretty obvious to anyone with 2 brain cells that it is. I don't care if they're regulars or not. The fact that most of the regulars know better than to ask such a stupid question notwithstanding of course...
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02-19-2013 at 05:16 PM.
02-19-2013 at 05:16 PM.
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No, it happens to anyone that isn't a beloved lounge regular. laugh out loud
It doesn't have to be that way. We can start taking money for our services and turn away cases that aren't interesting enough.
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02-19-2013 at 06:15 PM.
02-19-2013 at 06:15 PM.
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I'm happy to say that I don't know and don't care to know anything about Jon & Kate Plus Eight.
but jon is hot
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calistyle
02-19-2013 at 11:32 PM.
02-19-2013 at 11:32 PM.
Quote from aemcgee :
sorry people. I never venture into the Lounge, but I figured this was worth the question. My son is four and his dad and I have been split up/divorced for 3 yrs+. we have split custody and trade off every other week. we live in TX.

My son told me that he was left at home with the other two boys that live in his home that are 10 and 8 (ex lives with his GF and her 2 kids)

I am thinking of getting a lawyer and taking him to court for child endangerment.

I can understand maybe a 13+ yr old watching some other kid but not 10 and 8. They have no knowledge of CPR, first aid, calling 911 in a panic, fire danger, not answering the front door.

Any thoughts, suggestions? I am kind of scared of turning his dad in, as to what can happen on the weeks I dont have him, but I feel helpless putting my son in that situation.

I called my ex and he admitted they left them but "only for a few mins, and it wasnt my concern on the weeks that arent mine"

(please excuse the typing as my s and w key are busted, so I have to cut and paste. )
I wondered what you meant with the bolded part...what you thought would happen...
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02-20-2013 at 12:11 AM.
02-20-2013 at 12:11 AM.
Quote from dalokgawd :
I think it happens to the Lounge regulars too when they ask something stupid. I feel free to mock people who ask whether or not something on Craigslist / Ebay / Etc is a scam when it's pretty obvious to anyone with 2 brain cells that it is. I don't care if they're regulars or not. The fact that most of the regulars know better than to ask such a stupid question notwithstanding of course...
Well, that's you, not everyone else. Wink5

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It doesn't have to be that way. We can start taking money for our services and turn away cases that aren't interesting enough.
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but jon is hot
EEK!

Seriously? I always thought he was way ugly.

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I wondered what you meant with the bolded part...what you thought would happen...
I wondered that too. Maybe worried he might turn violent? Dontknow

People do crazy things when they're backed into a corner and have nothing to lose.
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johnlawwhiskey
02-20-2013 at 06:49 AM.
02-20-2013 at 06:49 AM.
Quote from aemcgee :
sorry people. I never venture into the Lounge, but I figured this was worth the question. My son is four and his dad and I have been split up/divorced for 3 yrs+. we have split custody and trade off every other week. we live in TX.

My son told me that he was left at home with the other two boys that live in his home that are 10 and 8 (ex lives with his GF and her 2 kids)

I am thinking of getting a lawyer and taking him to court for child endangerment.

I can understand maybe a 13+ yr old watching some other kid but not 10 and 8. They have no knowledge of CPR, first aid, calling 911 in a panic, fire danger, not answering the front door.

Any thoughts, suggestions? I am kind of scared of turning his dad in, as to what can happen on the weeks I dont have him, but I feel helpless putting my son in that situation.

I called my ex and he admitted they left them but "only for a few mins, and it wasnt my concern on the weeks that arent mine"

(please excuse the typing as my s and w key are busted, so I have to cut and paste. )
It depends on what state you live in. In many states, it's legal to leave the 10 year old in charge, does that mean that I would leave a 10 year old in charge of other children? No, but that doesn't mean that it's illegal. Maryland and South Carolina are age 8 and that is the lowest age requirement of any state. Illinois is age 14, and that is the highest requirement of any state. The laws apply to short outings (less than 4 hours) that do not occur overnight, if they occur overnight, different laws apply. If your ex is actually in the wrong, based on the laws, the first thing you should do is talk to him, explain to him that you don't want your child left with the other children and that he make other accommodations for your child, such as a babysitter if he plans to leave while your child is in his home. If it happens again, you should call the police while the children are home alone.
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02-20-2013 at 06:56 AM.
02-20-2013 at 06:56 AM.
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Well, that's you, not everyone else. Wink5



LMAO




EEK!

Seriously? I always thought he was way ugly.



I wondered that too. Maybe worried he might turn violent? Dontknow

People do crazy things when they're backed into a corner and have nothing to lose.

ok he use to be really cute but his ex wife destroyed him









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02-20-2013 at 07:36 AM.
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ok he use to be really cute but his ex wife destroyed him
He looks the same in all of them - hideous. Tomato
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02-20-2013 at 07:46 AM.
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He looks the same in all of them - hideous. Tomato
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02-20-2013 at 08:16 AM.
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He looks the same in all of them - hideous. Tomato
Iagree

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02-20-2013 at 08:19 AM.
02-20-2013 at 08:19 AM.
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Iagree



Is it waisis to Crylol at that?

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02-20-2013 at 08:26 AM.
02-20-2013 at 08:26 AM.
Wonder how many of you "experts" giving advice actually have kids of your own.
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02-20-2013 at 10:17 AM.
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it happens to me and i'd like to think im a semi regular Sadwalk
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