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Mom pushes Applebee's on breast-feeding

559 41 August 30, 2007 at 10:13 AM
Original article from Lexington Herald Leader [kentucky.com]
Mom pushes Applebee's on breast-feeding

WANTS CHANGE IN POLICY AFTER BEING TOLD TO COVER HERSELF

By Linda B. Blackford
[email protected]

Brooke Ryan nursed her 10-month-old son, Michael, at her home. She says her goal is to teach, not to be provocative. Photo by David Stephenson | Staff
David Stephenson | Staff
Brooke Ryan nursed her 10-month-old son, Michael, at her home. She says her goal is to teach, not to be provocative. Photo by David Stephenson | Staff

In June, Brooke Ryan walked into a Nicholasville Road Applebee's restaurant to celebrate an anniversary lunch with her children.

She walked out humiliated, in tears and without the lunch.

But the incident over breast-feeding her 7-month-old son at Applebee's has spurred the soft-spoken 34-year-old to start a public awareness campaign on the rights of breast-feeding women in Kentucky.

"On a small scale, I want Applebee's to change its policy," Ryan said. "On a large scale ... I want breast-feeding to be accepted."

The dispute with Applebee's began June 14. Ryan chose a booth in the back of the restaurant away from other customers. When her baby, Michael, got hungry, she began to nurse him discreetly, she said.

But a waitress came over and said that if she wanted to breast-feed, she had to cover the baby with a blanket. Ryan said it was so hot that she didn't have a blanket. The waitress then repeated her request. Ryan said she then asked to see the manager and handed him a copy of the 2006 Kentucky law that prohibits interference with a woman breast-feeding her baby in public.

The manager said he knew about the law but a customer had complained about indecent exposure, so she had to cover the baby with a blanket.

Ryan left as her food came, to nurse her baby in the car.

Her lawyer wrote a letter to Thomas & King, the company that operates Applebee's in Central Kentucky. They got no response. After a second letter, a Thomas & King lawyer said the restaurant chain would consider keeping blankets in the restaurant so that breast-feeding women could cover themselves.

"That's like telling Rosa Parks she still had to sit in the back of the bus, but we'll give her a blanket to make her more comfortable," Ryan said.

When contacted yesterday, Mike Scanlon, president of Thomas & King, said he didn't know about the incident. However, he called the Herald-Leader back to say that Applebee's had no policy against breast-feeding.

"It is perfectly legal to breast-feed in public and we support that," Scanlon said. "I'm not sure the manager said cover the baby's head, I think he said cover yourself modestly. This was by no means intended as interference, but a request to do it modestly, which I believe is an appropriate response."

Ryan says that as an experienced breast-feeder, she is extremely modest, and, in that instance, made sure that she was facing into the corner.

"Some women think it's fine to cover up with a blanket, but a woman shouldn't be forced to," said her husband, Michael Ryan.

Sen. Tom Buford, R-Nicholasville, who sponsored the breast-feeding protection bill, agrees.

"She was not treated right under the new law," he said. "There should have been no comment made to her at all; the restaurant overstepped its boundaries. There's no way they can explain their way out of this."

Thirty-nine states, including Kentucky, allow women to breast-feed in any public or private location.

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends exclusive breast-feeding for about the first six months and support for breast-feeding for the first year and beyond as long as mutually desired by mother and child. But according to the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, only 11 percent of mothers meet the six-month mark. Thirty percent breast-feed exclusively for the first three months. Kentucky's rates are 7.5 percent and 25 percent, respectively, according to a 2007 report.

Scanlon suggested that Ryan had an "agenda."

"I note with interest that she had a copy of the statute with her," he said. "I'm glad to let this become a matter that we can all learn from."

But if all Ryan wanted going into Applebee's was an anniversary lunch, she may indeed have an agenda now.

August is World Breast-feeding Awareness Month, and Ryan has organized two related public events:

• A "Nurse-In" at the children's play area at Fayette Mall from 1-3 p.m. Saturday. Ryan says the mall is not a target, but has a place for kids to play.

• From noon to 2 p.m. Sept. 8, she is holding a "Nurse Out" with posters and breast-feeding in front of the Applebee's on Nicholasville Road.

She's also asking for a public apology from Applebee's and training for its employees about the rights of breast-feeding mothers. Some day, she says, she would like to see the international breast-feeding symbol of a mother and child in every restaurant that supports the practice.

"I'm not trying to be provocative," she said. "I want to teach."

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TigerStar
08-30-2007 at 11:20 AM.
08-30-2007 at 11:20 AM.
Quote from z2g :
I have to agree with the restaurant on this one. Since a restaurant has many patrons, it has to accommodate the wishes of all parties. Perhaps the patron that complained didn't want to have his young boy be present while a woman was bare-chested. I think that's perfectly normal. What if it was against the person's religion?

The bottom line is that the woman should have been more understanding instead of being so selfish. She could have EASILY covered herself with a jacket, sweater, towel, blanket, etc. while still breastfeeding. I'm a new father myself and you can't tell me that she didn't have a receiving blanket, towel, or something in her baby tote bag that she could have used. CERTAINLY, the restaurant did NOT prohibit her from breastfeeding. It ONLY asked her to show some decency for other patrons in the restaurant who may not like the idea of dining at a nudie bar.
Iagree

Again, it's not the breastfeeding, it's the covering up. Noone asked her not to breastfeed.
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08-30-2007 at 11:21 AM.
08-30-2007 at 11:21 AM.
These mothers shouldnt tit feed in public

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especially when people are farkin eating
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08-30-2007 at 11:22 AM.
08-30-2007 at 11:22 AM.
Quote from Peachyum :
Not all babies can handle formula, and they shouldn't have to in order to keep some guys fantasy's from running amok.
This has nothing to do with fantasies. I don't want my 6 year old asking me "Daddy, why is that baby sucking on that lady?"
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appleyum
08-30-2007 at 11:22 AM.
08-30-2007 at 11:22 AM.
Quote from z2g :
I have to agree with the restaurant on this one. Since a restaurant has many patrons, it has to accommodate the wishes of all parties. Perhaps the patron that complained didn't want to have his young boy be present while a woman was bare-chested. I think that's perfectly normal. What if it was against the person's religion?

The bottom line is that the woman should have been more understanding instead of being so selfish. She could have EASILY covered herself with a jacket, sweater, towel, blanket, etc. while still breastfeeding. I'm a new father myself and you can't tell me that she didn't have a receiving blanket, towel, or something in her baby tote bag that she could have used. CERTAINLY, the restaurant did NOT prohibit her from breastfeeding. It ONLY asked her to show some decency for other patrons in the restaurant who may not like the idea of dining at a nudie bar.

As far as quoting state laws that prohibit interfering with a woman breastfeeding, let's see how fast the state authorities react if she was at a function with the President nearby and she just whipped out her breast to feed her baby. I'm CERTAIN they would ask her to show some restraint and etiquette and cover up or go into a private room.
Iagree

She expect others to understand her need but when in return people ask her to cover up she refused.
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08-30-2007 at 11:23 AM.
08-30-2007 at 11:23 AM.
Quote from TigerStar :
This has nothing to do with fantasies. I don't want my 6 year old asking me "Daddy, why is that baby sucking on that lady?"
"Because that's how babies eat."

Why is that hard? Dontknow
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08-30-2007 at 11:23 AM.
08-30-2007 at 11:23 AM.
In before the Podium [youtube.com]! Woot
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08-30-2007 at 11:24 AM.
08-30-2007 at 11:24 AM.
Quote from AggieMomx2 :
I find it very interesting that the Victoria's Secret fashion show is fine, but a mother providing nourishment to her child is gross. You're seeing far less skin on the nursing mom.
I don't take my kids to a Victoria's Secret fashion show.

Women who breast feed in public = trailer trash. It's very simple. You know when your baby is going to need to eat, so schedule your life around that.
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08-30-2007 at 11:24 AM.
08-30-2007 at 11:24 AM.
Quote from TigerStar :
This has nothing to do with fantasies. I don't want my 6 year old asking me "Daddy, why is that baby sucking on that lady?"

Why not? Seriously? I nursed my son. My niece, who was 4 at the time, saw me do it. She asked what I was doing, and I simply said, "I am feeding my baby. I use my breasts to nurse him." And she was like "Oh, OK." It was not a big deal. If I had flipped out, or shooed her away, or screamed "Don't look!" I'm sure it would have had a much bigger and far worse impact.
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08-30-2007 at 11:24 AM.
08-30-2007 at 11:24 AM.
Quote from AggieMomx2 :
"Because that's how babies eat."

Why is that hard? Dontknow
Because my son will then ask one of 2 things...

1 "Can I eat from mommy?"
2 "Why were you eating from mommy last night?" Becomes awkward.
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08-30-2007 at 11:25 AM.
08-30-2007 at 11:25 AM.
Quote from rally.sport :
I don't take my kids to a Victoria's Secret fashion show.

Women who breast feed in public = trailer trash. It's very simple. You know when your baby is going to need to eat, so schedule your life around that.
Nono Nono1 Nono2
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08-30-2007 at 11:25 AM.
08-30-2007 at 11:25 AM.
Quote from TigerStar :
Because my son will then ask one of 2 things...

1 "Can I eat from mommy?"
2 "Why were you eating from mommy last night?" Becomes awkward.
Why would he have seen you eat from mommy last night? Popcorn
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08-30-2007 at 11:25 AM.
08-30-2007 at 11:25 AM.
Quote from z2g :
I have to agree with the restaurant on this one. Since a restaurant has many patrons, it has to accommodate the wishes of all parties. Perhaps the patron that complained didn't want to have his young boy be present while a woman was bare-chested. I think that's perfectly normal. What if it was against the person's religion?

The bottom line is that the woman should have been more understanding instead of being so selfish. She could have EASILY covered herself with a jacket, sweater, towel, blanket, etc. while still breastfeeding. I'm a new father myself and you can't tell me that she didn't have a receiving blanket, towel, or something in her baby tote bag that she could have used. CERTAINLY, the restaurant did NOT prohibit her from breastfeeding. It ONLY asked her to show some decency for other patrons in the restaurant who may not like the idea of dining at a nudie bar.

As far as quoting state laws that prohibit interfering with a woman breastfeeding, let's see how fast the state authorities react if she was at a function with the President nearby and she just whipped out her breast to feed her baby. I'm CERTAIN they would ask her to show some restraint and etiquette and cover up or go into a private room.
I think the problem is we don't have a clear picture of what actually happened.

if she was sitting there with her breast hanging wide open and the baby sucking on it, that would be one thing to ask her to cover up, but as someone else said if she was sitting there discretely (mostly covered) AND facing the inside of the booth (away from most people), then it's a little bit out of line.
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08-30-2007 at 11:26 AM.
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In before the Podium [youtube.com]! Woot
Ohhhhhh I think I'm gonna like the podium Woot
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08-30-2007 at 11:26 AM.
08-30-2007 at 11:26 AM.
Quote from TigerStar :
This has nothing to do with fantasies. I don't want my 6 year old asking me "Daddy, why is that baby sucking on that lady?"
If you're afraid of that question, take it from me, you are in for one hell of an eye opening when he asks in the next year or so WHERE babies come from, let alone how they eat.
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08-30-2007 at 11:26 AM.
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Why would he have seen you eat from mommy last night? Popcorn
Why would he see the baby at Applebee's eat?
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