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Mom pushes Applebee's on breast-feeding

559 41 August 30, 2007 at 10:13 AM
Original article from Lexington Herald Leader [kentucky.com]
Mom pushes Applebee's on breast-feeding

WANTS CHANGE IN POLICY AFTER BEING TOLD TO COVER HERSELF

By Linda B. Blackford
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Brooke Ryan nursed her 10-month-old son, Michael, at her home. She says her goal is to teach, not to be provocative. Photo by David Stephenson | Staff
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Brooke Ryan nursed her 10-month-old son, Michael, at her home. She says her goal is to teach, not to be provocative. Photo by David Stephenson | Staff

In June, Brooke Ryan walked into a Nicholasville Road Applebee's restaurant to celebrate an anniversary lunch with her children.

She walked out humiliated, in tears and without the lunch.

But the incident over breast-feeding her 7-month-old son at Applebee's has spurred the soft-spoken 34-year-old to start a public awareness campaign on the rights of breast-feeding women in Kentucky.

"On a small scale, I want Applebee's to change its policy," Ryan said. "On a large scale ... I want breast-feeding to be accepted."

The dispute with Applebee's began June 14. Ryan chose a booth in the back of the restaurant away from other customers. When her baby, Michael, got hungry, she began to nurse him discreetly, she said.

But a waitress came over and said that if she wanted to breast-feed, she had to cover the baby with a blanket. Ryan said it was so hot that she didn't have a blanket. The waitress then repeated her request. Ryan said she then asked to see the manager and handed him a copy of the 2006 Kentucky law that prohibits interference with a woman breast-feeding her baby in public.

The manager said he knew about the law but a customer had complained about indecent exposure, so she had to cover the baby with a blanket.

Ryan left as her food came, to nurse her baby in the car.

Her lawyer wrote a letter to Thomas & King, the company that operates Applebee's in Central Kentucky. They got no response. After a second letter, a Thomas & King lawyer said the restaurant chain would consider keeping blankets in the restaurant so that breast-feeding women could cover themselves.

"That's like telling Rosa Parks she still had to sit in the back of the bus, but we'll give her a blanket to make her more comfortable," Ryan said.

When contacted yesterday, Mike Scanlon, president of Thomas & King, said he didn't know about the incident. However, he called the Herald-Leader back to say that Applebee's had no policy against breast-feeding.

"It is perfectly legal to breast-feed in public and we support that," Scanlon said. "I'm not sure the manager said cover the baby's head, I think he said cover yourself modestly. This was by no means intended as interference, but a request to do it modestly, which I believe is an appropriate response."

Ryan says that as an experienced breast-feeder, she is extremely modest, and, in that instance, made sure that she was facing into the corner.

"Some women think it's fine to cover up with a blanket, but a woman shouldn't be forced to," said her husband, Michael Ryan.

Sen. Tom Buford, R-Nicholasville, who sponsored the breast-feeding protection bill, agrees.

"She was not treated right under the new law," he said. "There should have been no comment made to her at all; the restaurant overstepped its boundaries. There's no way they can explain their way out of this."

Thirty-nine states, including Kentucky, allow women to breast-feed in any public or private location.

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends exclusive breast-feeding for about the first six months and support for breast-feeding for the first year and beyond as long as mutually desired by mother and child. But according to the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, only 11 percent of mothers meet the six-month mark. Thirty percent breast-feed exclusively for the first three months. Kentucky's rates are 7.5 percent and 25 percent, respectively, according to a 2007 report.

Scanlon suggested that Ryan had an "agenda."

"I note with interest that she had a copy of the statute with her," he said. "I'm glad to let this become a matter that we can all learn from."

But if all Ryan wanted going into Applebee's was an anniversary lunch, she may indeed have an agenda now.

August is World Breast-feeding Awareness Month, and Ryan has organized two related public events:

• A "Nurse-In" at the children's play area at Fayette Mall from 1-3 p.m. Saturday. Ryan says the mall is not a target, but has a place for kids to play.

• From noon to 2 p.m. Sept. 8, she is holding a "Nurse Out" with posters and breast-feeding in front of the Applebee's on Nicholasville Road.

She's also asking for a public apology from Applebee's and training for its employees about the rights of breast-feeding mothers. Some day, she says, she would like to see the international breast-feeding symbol of a mother and child in every restaurant that supports the practice.

"I'm not trying to be provocative," she said. "I want to teach."

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Reach Linda Blackford at (859) 231-1359 or [email protected].



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08-31-2007 at 05:41 PM.
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08-31-2007 at 05:41 PM.
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OK - more pages are being added faster than I can read them.....so my thoughts thus far....a good pump that actually works fast and without hurting you costs more than $100 and to some that is just not possible....esp if you are always with the child it is an unnessesary expense.

Sit in the bathroom? REALLY? Let's ignore the nastiness and all that vomit and just go straight to the fact that MOST restaurant bathrooms don't have lids on the toilets...just split seats...so what are you propsing that she stand the whole time and see/listen/smell the "scenery" while her food gets cold? Honestly?

I nursed....I had a good pump with my son because I worked....and with my daughter because she was in the hospital for a loooong time.....but I DID nurse in public when needed and I never ever showed my breast! For latch on I used a blanket or spit rag - but then my shirt was perfectly sufficient and I never had anyone say anything or even my OWN 3 year old had NO CLUE what I was doing! (and I don't think a pic exists - or yes I would post it to prove the point)

Just my thoughts thus far.

Oh - and you CAN'T schedule an outing around a newborn....a 7 month old yes - a new born now. And a new mom has enough pain, hormone issues, physical appearance issues, good mom issues....(you get the point) to ALSO tell her to STAY HOME if she can't go out without feeding!! Not only is that highly insensitve and rude....but what about single mom's and military mom's (also known as on/off single mom AND dad) who HAVE to leave to get groceries, take other kids to school etc etc.

Ok - and now I am scared. We had a rotisseri (sp?) chicken last night and plan to use the left overs for dinner tonight....on....you guessed it....Nachos!
Nachos FTW! woot

I don't think that anyone is saying mom's should go sit in the bathroom..at least not that I've seen. I *think* I've read most of the posts in this thread but there have been so many I can't be sure laugh out loud

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Cause there are SO many unbiased poll choices to choose from laugh out loud
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Quote from Dr. kNOw :
What shitty farking poll options. Every one is loaded.
laugh out loud just a tad.

might get more honest results if it was worded more evenly and also anonymous.
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Quote from Dr. kNOw :
What shitty farking poll options. Every one is loaded.
I think OP made this poll trying to "make a point"...and then fled laugh out loud

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laugh out loud just a tad.

might get more honest results if it was worded more evenly and also anonymous.
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08-31-2007 at 06:18 PM.
08-31-2007 at 06:18 PM.
Dammit I cannot read this entire thread.

But I just think it's funny how in Europe there are public ads of topless women yet people get disgusted at someone breast feeding which is human farking nature.

It's fascinating to me how this country has evolved into a place where natural things, just because there is something about it that may evoke a sexual reaction by some are scorned upon.

People are retarded. Everyone needs to lighten up and realize that not everything is about sex.

Honestly I'm not sure how I feel about this issue but everyone needs to stop worrying and remember they're just our bodies and we were created this way for a reason.
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08-31-2007 at 06:19 PM.
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*GASP* Next time tell them you are offended and make them cover their mouth with a blanket laugh out loud

PS. I've been MIA since becoming sick so I missed the birth of your baby. Did you have a boy or girl? Name? And a belated congrats!
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Quote from *JeanGrey* :
Dammit I cannot read this entire thread.

But I just think it's funny how in Europe there are public ads of topless women yet people get disgusted at someone breast feeding which is human farking nature.

It's fascinating to me how this country has evolved into a place where natural things, just because there is something about it that may evoke a sexual reaction by some are scorned upon.

People are retarded. Everyone needs to lighten up and realize that not everything is about sex.

Honestly I'm not sure how I feel about this issue but everyone needs to stop worrying and remember they're just our bodies and we were created this way for a reason.
Sorry, but I think even in Europe, there's a time and place for it. For example, they are cool with frontal nudity when sunbathing. However, I think even the Europeans will be disturbed at the sight of breastfeeding in a nice restaurant.

But, that's not even the case, we are talking about American standards, customs, etiquette here in our own country. If you want to talk about other countries, then why don't we go to Muslim countries where women can't even show their face! Every culture, country has its own customs and society rules. The mention of Europeans is pretty irrelevant.
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Quote from z2g :
Sorry, but I think even in Europe, there's a time and place for it. For example, they are cool with frontal nudity when sunbathing. However, I think even the Europeans will be disturbed at the sight of breastfeeding in a nice restaurant.

But, that's not even the case, we are talking about American standards, customs, etiquette here in our own country. If you want to talk about other countries, then why don't we go to Muslim countries where women can't even show their face! Every culture, country has its own customs and society rules. The mention of Europeans is pretty irrelevant.
I'm just commenting on the differences and saying that I find it interesting. That's it.

\My brother has a pic of himself next to a very large ad with a topless woman on it, in the middle of Paris I think. Where anyone and everyone will see it. It certainly has a much higher sexual connotation that a woman breast feeding. Again, I'm just pointing it out.
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BS that she had no agenda. Go to the damn bathroom to breastfeed.
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I just have to wonder.... For those that have newborns and all.... How many of you keep a recent copy of the state's law handy to throw around?
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