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Mom pushes Applebee's on breast-feeding

559 41 August 30, 2007 at 10:13 AM
Original article from Lexington Herald Leader [kentucky.com]
Mom pushes Applebee's on breast-feeding

WANTS CHANGE IN POLICY AFTER BEING TOLD TO COVER HERSELF

By Linda B. Blackford
[email protected]

Brooke Ryan nursed her 10-month-old son, Michael, at her home. She says her goal is to teach, not to be provocative. Photo by David Stephenson | Staff
David Stephenson | Staff
Brooke Ryan nursed her 10-month-old son, Michael, at her home. She says her goal is to teach, not to be provocative. Photo by David Stephenson | Staff

In June, Brooke Ryan walked into a Nicholasville Road Applebee's restaurant to celebrate an anniversary lunch with her children.

She walked out humiliated, in tears and without the lunch.

But the incident over breast-feeding her 7-month-old son at Applebee's has spurred the soft-spoken 34-year-old to start a public awareness campaign on the rights of breast-feeding women in Kentucky.

"On a small scale, I want Applebee's to change its policy," Ryan said. "On a large scale ... I want breast-feeding to be accepted."

The dispute with Applebee's began June 14. Ryan chose a booth in the back of the restaurant away from other customers. When her baby, Michael, got hungry, she began to nurse him discreetly, she said.

But a waitress came over and said that if she wanted to breast-feed, she had to cover the baby with a blanket. Ryan said it was so hot that she didn't have a blanket. The waitress then repeated her request. Ryan said she then asked to see the manager and handed him a copy of the 2006 Kentucky law that prohibits interference with a woman breast-feeding her baby in public.

The manager said he knew about the law but a customer had complained about indecent exposure, so she had to cover the baby with a blanket.

Ryan left as her food came, to nurse her baby in the car.

Her lawyer wrote a letter to Thomas & King, the company that operates Applebee's in Central Kentucky. They got no response. After a second letter, a Thomas & King lawyer said the restaurant chain would consider keeping blankets in the restaurant so that breast-feeding women could cover themselves.

"That's like telling Rosa Parks she still had to sit in the back of the bus, but we'll give her a blanket to make her more comfortable," Ryan said.

When contacted yesterday, Mike Scanlon, president of Thomas & King, said he didn't know about the incident. However, he called the Herald-Leader back to say that Applebee's had no policy against breast-feeding.

"It is perfectly legal to breast-feed in public and we support that," Scanlon said. "I'm not sure the manager said cover the baby's head, I think he said cover yourself modestly. This was by no means intended as interference, but a request to do it modestly, which I believe is an appropriate response."

Ryan says that as an experienced breast-feeder, she is extremely modest, and, in that instance, made sure that she was facing into the corner.

"Some women think it's fine to cover up with a blanket, but a woman shouldn't be forced to," said her husband, Michael Ryan.

Sen. Tom Buford, R-Nicholasville, who sponsored the breast-feeding protection bill, agrees.

"She was not treated right under the new law," he said. "There should have been no comment made to her at all; the restaurant overstepped its boundaries. There's no way they can explain their way out of this."

Thirty-nine states, including Kentucky, allow women to breast-feed in any public or private location.

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends exclusive breast-feeding for about the first six months and support for breast-feeding for the first year and beyond as long as mutually desired by mother and child. But according to the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, only 11 percent of mothers meet the six-month mark. Thirty percent breast-feed exclusively for the first three months. Kentucky's rates are 7.5 percent and 25 percent, respectively, according to a 2007 report.

Scanlon suggested that Ryan had an "agenda."

"I note with interest that she had a copy of the statute with her," he said. "I'm glad to let this become a matter that we can all learn from."

But if all Ryan wanted going into Applebee's was an anniversary lunch, she may indeed have an agenda now.

August is World Breast-feeding Awareness Month, and Ryan has organized two related public events:

• A "Nurse-In" at the children's play area at Fayette Mall from 1-3 p.m. Saturday. Ryan says the mall is not a target, but has a place for kids to play.

• From noon to 2 p.m. Sept. 8, she is holding a "Nurse Out" with posters and breast-feeding in front of the Applebee's on Nicholasville Road.

She's also asking for a public apology from Applebee's and training for its employees about the rights of breast-feeding mothers. Some day, she says, she would like to see the international breast-feeding symbol of a mother and child in every restaurant that supports the practice.

"I'm not trying to be provocative," she said. "I want to teach."

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Reach Linda Blackford at (859) 231-1359 or [email protected].



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09-01-2007 at 04:56 PM.
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Quote from AggieMomx2 View quoted comment :
If one kid here learns that you can't tell a woman to go to the bathroom to feed her child, I've done my part.
If I try, am I automatically nominated for asshat of the month? nod
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09-01-2007 at 04:58 PM.
09-01-2007 at 04:58 PM.
By the way, you SD ladies should all know us SD men by now! Of course, we don't mind having boobies in our faces while we eat our dinners! The more, the merrier! I'm just saying I can understand the restaurant's and grumpy old ladies' point of view if they don't want a nudie show while they're drinking their Ensure and eating meatloaf.Smilie
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09-01-2007 at 04:59 PM.
09-01-2007 at 04:59 PM.
When did applebee's start serving meatloaf....
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09-01-2007 at 05:01 PM.
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When did applebee's start serving meatloaf....
I'm just saying it as an example. I don't eat at Applebee's! NASTY!

By the way, with all this boobie talk, we forgot one key point from the original article. The restaurant didn't kick her out but merely asked her if she could cover-up because other patrons where complaining. However, Ms. Post-partum depression-I-want-to-make-this-a-national-case pulls out the brochure and then suddenly storms out of the restaurant in tears! ISSUES!
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09-01-2007 at 05:06 PM.
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So, I guess asking someone if they can cover up because other patrons are complaining is considered "interfering". I thought it was just asking to be "considerate"?!?!?
You can always ask. It never hurts to ask. Just be prepared for a verbal beating in case she turns out to be one of those women who aims to take a stand.

I would think that trying to insult the mother or the baby by pointing and exclaiming loudly that she should have some decency about her would be considered interfering since you are causing a commotion and making her feel uncomfortable enough to stop.

Since we're on the subject of indecency, I just want to bring up something that some women think is ok. When you are beyond 5 months pregnant, please cover your belly. I for one do not want to see your stomach bulging in the flesh. Pregnant or not, you will appear fat no matter what your husband/BF/Baby's Daddy tells you. It's all fine and dandy that pregnant moms are beautiful, but only when they are modestly covered in public. This is what helps with the facade of maternal angelicism. Demi Moore didn't look beautiful nude on the front cover of a mag, and Jennifer Aniston lent nothing to her faux pregnancy by exposing her stomach other than looking trashy. The only things that would make a pregnant woman look more cheap would be short shorts and platform boots.
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09-01-2007 at 05:09 PM.
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You can always ask. It never hurts to ask. Just be prepared for a verbal beating in case she turns out to be one of those women who aims to take a stand.

I would think that trying to insult the mother or the baby by pointing and exclaiming loudly that she should have some decency about her would be considered interfering since you are causing a commotion and making her feel uncomfortable enough to stop.

Since we're on the subject of indecency, I just want to bring up something that some women think is ok. When you are beyond 5 months pregnant, please cover your belly. I for one do not want to see your stomach bulging in the flesh. Pregnant or not, you will appear fat no matter what your husband/BF/Baby's Daddy tells you. It's all fine and dandy that pregnant moms are beautiful, but only when they are modestly covered in public. This is what helps with the facade of maternal angelicism. Demi Moore didn't look beautiful nude on the front cover of a mag, and Jennifer Aniston lent nothing to her faux pregnancy by exposing her stomach other than looking trashy. The only things that would make a pregnant woman look more cheap would be short shorts and platform boots.
Oh no...you're in for a war now! Because, didn't you know.......big prego women and breastfeeding are "beautiful" and so "natural"...like looking into a doe's eyes or seeing the morning dew on a blade of grass!
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09-01-2007 at 05:14 PM.
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Quote from z2g View quoted comment :
I'm just saying it as an example. I don't eat at Applebee's! NASTY!

By the way, with all this boobie talk, we forgot one key point from the original article. The restaurant didn't kick her out but merely asked her if she could cover-up because other patrons where complaining. However, Ms. Post-partum depression-I-want-to-make-this-a-national-case pulls out the brochure and then suddenly storms out of the restaurant in tears! ISSUES!
I mean this in the nicest possible way. Please do not belittle PPD sufferers. Thank you.
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Oh no...you're in for a war now! Because, didn't you know.......big prego women and breastfeeding are "beautiful" and so "natural"...like looking into a doe's eyes or seeing the morning dew on a blade of grass!

Nono There's a difference between the two, Z2G. No woman needs to expose her belly to the world unless she's so darned large and poor they don't make clothing that large and she can't afford it.
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I mean this in the nicest possible way. Please do not belittle PPD sufferers. Thank you.
LOL!!! Meow! Didn't you see the sarcasm?
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LOL!!! Meow! Didn't you see the sarcasm?
Sarcasm or not, I've been there and it sucks. Bad.
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Nono There's a difference between the two, Z2G. No woman needs to expose her belly to the world unless she's so darned large and poor they don't make clothing that large and she can't afford it.
But, it's the "glow" that radiates from a pregnant woman. It is due to the circle of life and the magic therein. A pregnant woman or a nursing mother can do no wrong. She is one with nature. She is woman, mother nature, the earth....all into one. So, if she feels the need to show off her beauty, it is her right. If you digress, you should be "considerate" and merely look away.
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09-01-2007 at 05:22 PM.
09-01-2007 at 05:22 PM.
YES, I have been in restaurants where women looked like the one dressed in red.
I have been in restaurants where women were wearing transparent blouses with a near transparent bra.

I really don't care.
nor do I care if a woman breastfeeds her child and I can see her nippy for a second
nor do I care if a pregnant woman lets her bump show proudly.

what surprises me most here, is that anyone presumes that their right NOT to see a woman breastfeed her child overrides the woman's right to breastfeed.

...as though their being uncomfortable is more important than someone else's feelings or needs.

THAT is self-centered and impolite, in and of itself, to think you are more important than others....
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I remember when I was out shopping with one of my friends while I was pregnant. She tried to talk me into some belly baring shirt. I said Nono laugh out loud

Not that I think it's necessarily wrong...I just wasn't comfortable doing it.
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YES, I have been in restaurants where women looked like the one dressed in red.
I have been in restaurants where women were wearing transparent blouses with a near transparent bra.

I really don't care.
nor do I care if a woman breastfeeds her child and I can see her nippy for a second
nor do I care if a pregnant woman lets her bump show proudly.

what surprises me most here, is that anyone presumes that their right NOT to see a woman breastfeed her child overrides the woman's right to breastfeed.

...as though their being uncomfortable is more important than someone else's feelings or needs.
that is self-centered and impolite, in and of itself, to think you are more important.
Dang....where do you dine? I want to go too!Smilie

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I remember when I was out shopping with one of my friends while I was pregnant. She tried to talk me into some belly baring shirt. I said Nono laugh out loud

Not that I think it's necessarily wrong...I just wasn't comfortable doing it.
What are you talking about? I would love the see the beauty of Autumn in a belly-baring shirt while singing one of her ballads! Hold me back!
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09-01-2007 at 05:25 PM.
This thread inspired me. I'm going to go frolic around the yard naked Whee
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