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Would you advise your cousin's girlfriend not to get engaged? *UPDATED!!*

8,453 December 8, 2015 at 12:09 PM
Ok, this is about my wife's 23 yr old cousin. He and his girlfriend have been together off and on for about 4 years now.

Doesn't go to school and has no idea what he wants to do. He has no ambition for anything bigger. And if he does, it would be to become a nfl football player. LMAO Lives at home. Up until recently mom would finance everything for him. With mom's money he bought his gf a Tiffany's ring (birthday gift). Just recently got a part time at a fast food place.

She is 22 yrs old and has a full time job and goes to school full time. We absolutely love her and have gotten to know her very well because she babysat for us. She'll come spend the weekend with us, etc etc. We've been there for her when they are broken up.

She has been living "on her own" since she was 16. It basically means that she has been bouncing around from aunt to aunt and then ended up living at my wife's aunt's house. A room became available once the aunt's son went off to college. Aunt didn't want to have an empty house, so she gladly moved in free of charge.

The girl is in love with my wife's family. It's a huge family and everyone loves her. She's always wanted to be a part of a big family.

Aunt's house has been under renovation for the last few months. So now she has been "living" at her bf's house on the couch. It's a two bedroom house. The mom and dad have one room and the other room is for his sister who is 20 and pregnant. He sleeps on couch and she sleeps on the other couch.

The girl is in love with "getting married". I think the act of it mostly. She's always had a timeline of when things need to be done.

We're a huge fan of hers, him not so much. We've encouraged her to venture out to date other guys. The last time he dumped her was while she was in the hospital. She understands that he is a total loser, but she loves him anyways.

He called us last Friday as we were walking out the door. He never calls us. He said that he had something to tell us in person. He told my wife's brother, which in turn told us. Something big is supposed to go down on Dec 19th. I'm sure he is calling to invite us, but we really don't don't necessarily "support" the engagement. I'm sure she will say "yes" because she was so excited a few weeks ago when my brother-in-law got engaged. Like I said, I think she in love with the "act" of doing all these things.

Damnit, why can't she just find someone better! Mad
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12-08-2015 at 12:13 PM.
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love is blind.
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iRabbitt
12-08-2015 at 12:19 PM.
12-08-2015 at 12:19 PM.
divorce has no financial barrier.

Just as many well off people get divorced as do uneducated.
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12-08-2015 at 12:21 PM.
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and deaf and dumb
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12-08-2015 at 12:27 PM.
12-08-2015 at 12:27 PM.
Hell yes, I would.
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12-08-2015 at 12:34 PM.
12-08-2015 at 12:34 PM.
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12-08-2015 at 01:10 PM.
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Quote from Frogstar :
Hell yes, I would.
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12-08-2015 at 02:14 PM.
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sethr1272
12-08-2015 at 02:27 PM.
12-08-2015 at 02:27 PM.
As for the question, if you feel it is right, do it! Then again, it is their relationship, and it is between those two. And saving her from the very awkward situation of telling him "no" when he asks might be a perk. I think you should tell her what he is planning, and let her take some time to decide if she wants to commit to him, since it seems like something she is not expecting.
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cr8ter
12-08-2015 at 03:40 PM.
12-08-2015 at 03:40 PM.
Hey OP, what's up with the wall of words?

Cliff notes please and QPLR



Quote from lowpro :
Ok, this is about my wife's 23 yr old cousin. Him and his girlfriend have been together off and on for about 4 years now.

Doesn't go to school and has no idea what he wants to do. He has no ambition for anything bigger. And if he does, it's would to become a nfl football player. LMAO Lives at home. Up until recently mom would finance everything for him. With mom's money he bought his gf a Tiffany's ring (birthday gift). Just recently got a part time at a fast food place.

She is 22 yrs old and has a full time job and goes to school full time. We absolutely love her and have gotten to know her very well because she babysat for us. She'll come spend the weekend with us, etc etc. We've been there for her when they are broken up.

She has been living "on her own" since she was 16. It basically means that she has been bouncing around from aunt to aunt and then ended up living at my wife's aunt's house. A room became available once the aunt's son went off to college. Aunt didn't want to have an empty house, so she gladly moved in free of charge.

The girl is in love with my wife's family. It's a huge family and everyone loves her. She's always wanted to be a part of a big family.

Aunt's has been under renovation for the last few months. So now she has been "living" at her bf's house on the couch. It's a two bedroom house. The mom and dad have one room and the other room is for his sister who is 20 and pregnant. He sleeps on couch and she sleeps on the other couch.

The girl is in love with "getting married". I think the act of it mostly. She's always had a timeline of when things need to be done.

We're a huge fan of hers, him not so much. We've encouraged her to venture out to date other guys. The last time he dumped her was while she was in the hospital. She understands that he is a total loser, but she loves him anyways.

He called us last Friday as we were walking out the door. He never calls us. He said that he had something to tell us in person. He told my wife's brother, which in turn told us. Something big is supposed to go down on Dec 19th. I'm sure he is calling to invite us, but we really don't don't necessarily "support" the engagement. I'm sure she will say "yes" because she was so excited a few weeks ago when my brother-in-law got engaged. Like I said, I think she in love with the "act" of doing all these things.

Damnit, why can't she just find someone better! Mad
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nope89
12-08-2015 at 05:19 PM.
12-08-2015 at 05:19 PM.
If it won't change anything, why even bother?

I think it's pretty clear this is a mistake she needs to make herself. Everyone has issues, this is one of hers. I doubt very much she'll ever truly understand the depths of the mistake she's making until she's actually done it. If you saying something really won't do anything, perhaps just sit back, wait how ever long it takes for things to implode, and then be of help afterwards?
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12-08-2015 at 06:08 PM.
12-08-2015 at 06:08 PM.
Don't some churches still do pre-marital counseling? That can be a real eye opener. The Catholic church used to do it to prevent divorce. Worksheets. Questions about everything from how to raise the kids to have you agreed who will take out the trash.
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fsyowad
12-08-2015 at 07:39 PM.
12-08-2015 at 07:39 PM.
Think of all the new BABIES just waiting to be born!!
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finzz2dlft
12-09-2015 at 12:09 AM.
12-09-2015 at 12:09 AM.
"You can't put an old head on young shoulders." Basically, no matter what you say or do, they are going to need to figure it out for themselves and chalk it up to life lessons.
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SlickChik
12-09-2015 at 12:27 AM.
12-09-2015 at 12:27 AM.
I'm with finzz on this one. It is my experience that people are going to do what they want to do, regardless of family interventions. Just cringe and accept it. Cringe and accept. That's my motto. laugh out loud
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