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Grocery Store - Leaving a line and trying to get back in

3 10 October 20, 2018 at 06:00 PM in Chat
Several times over the years I have had people leave the line with the stuff they want to buy in front of me and then expect to get the spot they *HAD* back. Why are people so selfish and if this is you that does this, tell me WHY you think you can morally do this and get think that you just come right back where you were? If you do this, why inconvenience others to have to move the items you want to buy?

Why not do what I do if I forget to get an item? :

1. I stay in line and buy those items, then go back to get the forgotten item and then go to the self-check out or 10 items or less line to check it out.

2. I take my entire basket of items and get out of the line to go get the item.

3. I get it next time.

This is what I do. I expect others to respect me the way I respect their time.

The other day, I was at Target. This man just up and left the line, he had items he wanted to purchase on the conveyor belt. I moved the items he wanted to purchase and put mine in front of his. He didn't say a word. While that turned out ok since he didn't say anything to me, it inconvenienced my life to have to move them. I shouldn't have to do this since he should have moved it since he just left it there. He was gone a good minute a least or so, not just a few seconds either.

I had another situation where a man had a big box at Walmart in the garden center area in front of me in line and another man that was checking out in front of him, so I was third in line. The man in front of me with the big box said to the cashier he'd be right back to get a shopping cart, but asked or told me nothing. He was gone for around a minute to a minute and a half at least since he had to go all the way to the other entrance to get a shopping cart since we were in the garden center.

I moved up, because he left the line. He comes back eventually and says to me something like this "Ma'am I was there before you." I told him "You left the line, you leave a line you lose the spot you had." I couldn't believe that the jerk in front of me was on his side which by the time then was paying. I don't understand why they think BOXES that are the property of WALMART hold their spots since they don't actually have spots if you leave?

If you think about it, on Black Friday for example, if "THINGS" held your spot, No one would go through the huge trouble of camping out for days on end for the sales, would they? They'd just leave, for example, a back pack or suit case or even a shopping cart or what have you with their name on it and return the next morning instantly have the first spot in line. He'd come back that morning time the store opens(like if it's 4a.m., they'd come back at 3:55a.m. to reclaim their spot). But in real life as we all know, real life DOES NOT WORK THAT WAY!! I am right, they were wrong.

I couldn't fathom myself when I leave a line that I should be able to reclaim the spot I had. I mean for example, if I was at Burger King, let's say 1 person was in front of me, another customer was ordering at the time. Let's say I forgot my purse. I go to my car real fast get it, come back. Now there's another person in line that wasn't there. I couldn't FATHOM going up to that person and telling them "I was there, that was my spot." I would get in the back of the line, because once I left the line, I had no more spot. That's how it really works. I have NEVER did something like that before in my LIFETIME and COULD NEVER FATHOM DOING THAT!!

I really feel like the man that left the line should have been MUCH MORE *****RESPONSIBLE***** in that if he needed a shopping cart, he should have gone to get one ***BEFORE**** he decided to get into a line. Also, he didn't ask if it was OK with me either, he just told the cashier which makes no sense at all. It would not have been OK with me since that's not how lines work. WHY do people think that it's "THEIR SPOT" when they aren't in line anymore? WHY are people like this?

My time is important to me too and as I said, I just don't do this kind of behavior if I leave a line. I don't think that I can just swoop back in like I never left. Lines don't EVER work that way unless someone is HOLDING the spot for you.

Also, let's say no one was there in line behind him when he did this and then I would have gotten there while he was gone, you want to make a bet he wouldn't have told me anything??? You know why, because I was there when he left, that's why he thought he could say something. WHY is that? If you are an irresponsible shopper to get everything you need **BEFORE** you enter the line, that's not my problem. I have lots of times forgotten items, but I choose to NOT EVER EVER inconvenience anyone else's lives over it though, that's the difference I am not SELFISH like these people are to just ONLY thinking of themselves and their time! I don't act like they should hold the spot I had. They are strangers and I don't expect them to care about me in that manner since they are strangers, not my friends or family. I could see if the man had asked me to hold his spot, I would have said "No", I am not going to hold your spot" and I also would have suggested him buy the box and have the cashier just hold it right by her register. I have had cashiers before watch my basket while I went with a manager to prove a wrong price on a shelf before and the cashier didn't let anyone steal my stuff(since I did pay for it at that point it was my stuff, not the store's items). That's one thing he could have done as well, but he chose to leave a LONG TIME all the way to the other entrance. Why should I care about his time if he was this mean to confront me? I am GLAD the jerk had to wait. He deserved it. What hurt though was that the man in front of me actually agreed with him. The cashier though didn't get involved. You know why she didn't get in involved, because I was right, that's why. If I would have been wrong, she would have corrected me, for sure.

WHY, do you do this if you do this? WHY if you do this, why are you so SELFISH and inconvenience other people's lives over it if **YOU** forgot something or didn't get a shopping cart? I wouldn't EVER do that to you, so don't do it to me! WHY is the world so selfish? Can't people be thoughtful of other people's time to inconvenience THEMSELVES if they forget or don't get a cart first? Why inconvenience my life because **YOU** didn't get a shopping cart BEFORE you got in line? NOT MY PROBLEM! WHY inconvenience my life if you forgot to get an item? NOT MY PROBLEM! Don't delay my life for yours when I have NEVER and WILL NEVER do that to you! Treat others as you'd like to be treated if they were you.

So please tell me WHY you think you have a moral right to do this if you are one of those people that does this kind of stuff? I'd like to know your answer honestly and why you wouldn't do what I do instead of being so selfish? Why not be CONSIDERATE of other people's time and feelings by not delaying their lives for yours? Also, WHY O' WHY do you people that do this think "OBJECTS" hold the spot you had, especially ones you don't even own yet?

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10-21-2018 at 10:22 AM.
10-21-2018 at 10:22 AM.
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What does it matter why the reason is? If you are an irresponsible shopper to not get what you need ***BEFORE*** you go in line, WHY make that MY problem, huh? It's not. I don't do that to people if I would have done that. I would have just gotten in the back of the line automatically without telling the customer anything, because I know I had left the line, so I had no spot to go back to. That's what I don't understand why you think because someone is leaving the line that the reasoning on it matters, huh? It doesn't. You leave, you lose the spot you had, that's that. I don't do this to people, people shouldn't do it to me.



Shopping while in line should only be done if you don't have to get out of the line to do it such as buying a pack of gum or a candy bar in the isle while you are waiting.

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What I really hate is when I am in line and the customer and the cashier are just chatting after the transaction is over- just chatting and chatting...
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10-21-2018 at 12:16 PM.
10-21-2018 at 12:16 PM.
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What I really hate is when I am in line and the customer and the cashier are just chatting after the transaction is over- just chatting and chatting...
When this happens i do a little passive aggressive thing and look straight at the cashier and do a little one handed credit card flip trick over and over that I learned from someone who does card tricks.Not real creepy but it does get their attention, and it keeps them moving. I had this crazy middle aged woman cashier at Publix though that did passive aggressive thing back and slowed down even more. Gotta say though this woman was psycho.
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10-21-2018 at 01:53 PM.
10-21-2018 at 01:53 PM.
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I'd say it depends on if she ASKED for a refill or if they brought her one without ASKING. Even if it's just WATER. How dare some people.
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10-21-2018 at 03:55 PM.
10-21-2018 at 03:55 PM.
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I'd say it depends on if she ASKED for a refill or if they brought her one without ASKING. Even if it's just WATER. How dare some people.
Exactly, because the person paying for the service is the person that rules the service, NOT anyone else.
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10-21-2018 at 06:30 PM.
10-21-2018 at 06:30 PM.
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What I really hate is when I am in line and the customer and the cashier are just chatting after the transaction is over- just chatting and chatting...
I had that happen at Target a number of months ago when I was at the customer service line. The lady that did this I had told her "You do realize someone is in the back of you, right?" She acted like I was doing something wrong because I told her something. WHY is the world such a SELFISH and SELF-CENTERED WORLD? I couldn't FATHOM holding someone else's life up to chit chat with a cashier, seriously, that's just wrong on all levels. How would she feel if I did that to her when she was in a hurry or hungry? She wouldn't like it, but the people that do this never think about if the tables were turned around that it was THEM getting delayed how THEY'D FEEL then. It's a MEAN and SELFISH WORLD!
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10-21-2018 at 07:14 PM.
10-21-2018 at 07:14 PM.
Quote from Springs1 :
I had that happen at Target a number of months ago when I was at the customer service line. The lady that did this I had told her "You do realize someone is in the back of you, right?" She acted like I was doing something wrong because I told her something. WHY is the world such a SELFISH and SELF-CENTERED WORLD? I couldn't FATHOM holding someone else's life up to chit chat with a cashier, seriously, that's just wrong on all levels. How would she feel if I did that to her when she was in a hurry or hungry? She wouldn't like it, but the people that do this never think about if the tables were turned around that it was THEM getting delayed how THEY'D FEEL then. It's a MEAN and SELFISH WORLD!
but sometimes it is nice to talk to people that we interact with, some people are in such a hurry, and to do what - watch tv - go on the inter webs. I like interacting with people around me - and do you ever worry, seriously worry about how you are affecting those that are around you? Hope you never get in line behind me, because I seriously do talk with everyone !!!!! I say hi and how is your day going Wave - I love meeting new people,
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10-21-2018 at 07:26 PM.
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Quote from Springs1 :
I had that happen at Target a number of months ago when I was at the customer service line. The lady that did this I had told her "You do realize someone is in the back of you, right?" She acted like I was doing something wrong because I told her something. WHY is the world such a SELFISH and SELF-CENTERED WORLD? I couldn't FATHOM holding someone else's life up to chit chat with a cashier, seriously, that's just wrong on all levels. How would she feel if I did that to her when she was in a hurry or hungry? She wouldn't like it, but the people that do this never think about if the tables were turned around that it was THEM getting delayed how THEY'D FEEL then. It's a MEAN and SELFISH WORLD!
I have to ask...

Have you ever owned or claimed to own a Callaway Corvette? Scratchchin
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10-21-2018 at 07:27 PM.
10-21-2018 at 07:27 PM.
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I have to ask...

Have you ever owned or claimed to own a Callaway Corvette? Scratchchin
No. What do cars have to do with this?
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10-21-2018 at 07:41 PM.
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I better hurry - the stores will close soon so I am off to see how everyone's grand kids are !!!!

Hope you have a super fantastic night !!!!
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One of the benefits of open carry is I don't get issues like this. People assume I'll shoot them for something like that, I just let them assume it.
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10-21-2018 at 08:57 PM.
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one of the benefits of open carry is i don't get issues like this. People assume i'll shoot them for something like that, i just let them assume it.

wtf????
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One of the benefits of open carry is I don't get issues like this. People assume I'll shoot them for something like that, I just let them assume it.
so you are saying you have no problems going to get that cart for your big box and coming back into line,
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10-22-2018 at 04:46 AM.
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One of the benefits of open carry is I don't get issues like this. People assume I'll shoot them for something like that, I just let them assume it.
I wouldn't be bothered by that at all and no I wouldn't just let you back in front of me.
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Keep the political comments out of here.
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